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Most likely the guy who made this thread isnt telling the whole story. People dont just get insecure over nothing, usually the other person is doing something to make them feel that way. I doubt he's innocent like he makes himself out to be. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 9:57:01 AM |
Most likely the guy who made this thread isnt telling the whole story. People dont just get insecure over nothing, usually the other person is doing something to make them feel that way. I doubt he's innocent like he makes himself out to be.
LOL...... You must lead a sheltered life Blueguy19! YES there are people that just get insecure over nothing.
Sorry but yes there are people with every type of quirk or complex you could possibly imagine on this big ol planet we all share.
It does not have to be spurred on by the actions of another either.
I'm not saying this is the case in point here, I an no Counseler and I know nothing about the OP other than the same post we have all read.
I was with somebody with serious control issues for a long time. Yes later in her life she was diagnosed with manic depression and schizophrenia (A.K.A. she was nuts!) but during the time I dated her she made my life a living hell with her insane fears that I was unfaithful or seeking others at any given moment.
Yes I had to give up any female friend I'd ever known, I had to account for every moment I was not in her personal space and under her control.
I pulled into a fast food drive through with her once because she wanted a coffee.
The girl who opened the window knew me and exclaimed......Donnie! OMG how have you been? I mumbled I was good and introduced them.
We got the coffee......she told me it was good to see me and to take care!
As we pulled away she dumped her hot coffee on me! Then asked me how I knew her?.....was she an old GF?
I told her no.......she is the wife of a very close friend from school days.
To the OP,
I can not tell you this will be your future as well. But I would suggest that you talk your GF into seeking some professional help to be sure she does not have any serious mental issues. Most of which can be controled with proper medications or counseling. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 10:50:06 AM | Yeah, she sounds crazy. However you know what they say
Crazy in the head means crazy in bed. | |
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Posted: 11/19/2007 3:52:13 PM | | that is a flaming red flag my friend. Good looking, so so looking, any person male or female who blatantly tells you I don't trust you, prove your fidelity to me by standing on your head and giving me your passwords, rather than something like, hey, we seem to have a lot in common, I'm digging you, are you getting the same vibe? I'd rather hear someone has feelings and is interested over I'm neurotic and needy. | |
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Posted: 11/19/2007 5:42:11 PM | | My friend what you have here is a Class 5 Tire Slashing Bunnie Boiler. For the love of all that is still attached to your body, I hope that she doesn't know your real name, or where you really live. Drop her, soon, so that she can move on to the next poor SOB who's life she will make hell whenever they aren't having that awesome "crazy sex". Good luck, change your locks, invest in a home security system. *shudder* This brings back some grins, and some terrifying memories! | |
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Posted: 11/19/2007 5:58:31 PM | Jealousy is a horrible thing, but it does happen to the best of us.  I have 2 ex-husbands that screwed around, and I can say that I am more jealous than what I use to be, but I would never expect anyone to give up everyone for me. Especially if it's a new relationship. But I can understand her insecurity. But I can also understand that she may just smother you to death. I think everyone should be able to have friends, but the relationship should always come first. Not ridiculously, to the point that no one else can be in your life.  | |
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Posted: 11/19/2007 7:31:21 PM | Gott love your sense of humour Ranger. Not sure if you are still on here or not, but I had to say THUMBS UP for your quick wit ;)
Gail | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 2:09:19 AM | Jealousy is a self worth, self esteem issue that requires inner searching and self love . No relationship will fill a deep void which was probably fostered by emotionally unavailable parents , absentee parents, or some sort of chidhood trauma.
This beautiful young woman has to find and love herself through therapy and realize that she really is truly beautiful: inside and out. Not untill then , will she love herself enough to love and trust another.
Every jealous person I;ve ever known has blamed their behaviour on a past person and /or event.
I work with addicts . Most of whom come from abusive homes and unloving parents. Insecurities, self loathing, possessive personalities , and jealousies rule their lives. Not even the Rich and Fmous are exempt from this form of childhood neglect.
Talk to her about seeking some help and be supportive as a friend while she works through some issues. Good luck . | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 5:03:57 AM | | Dude!! You're probably not gonna want to hear this, but it already has gone to far. You've actually given up friends just so you can avoid conflict? You don't do that man. If my SO can't deal with the fact I have female "only friends" then we have a problem because I won't give them up. My friends have been there for me and I for them for alot longer than my SO. They're an important part of my life. I've actually met some of them, some are just friends I may never meet in person. Don't give up your friends, for anyone but yourself. And that jealousy dawg don't hunt either. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 8:46:01 AM | lol- she clearly doesnt trust you- either you need to ask yourself if you have done anything to deserve this lack of trust, or is she is like this from something that has happenend in the past.
If you're not careful she will be weeing up your leg to mark her territory!!!!
Making you give her your passwords its an invasion of privacy! Trust is the foundation in a relationship- and me thinks this 'ship' is headed for a good sinking if something doesnt give! | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 9:04:36 AM |
In my case - I met a nice woman, beautiful, the works - BUT - She's insane about this online chat stuff? She wants my passwords, read my email, remove profiles, the works. Even a hot looking woman on TV will get me the eyeballs - wow.
Here's the part where you say "Goodbye, Dear".
Are you a man or a mouse? | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 9:17:09 AM | The OP's situation does indeed sound insane, and I've had one or two dates ask such intrusive questions as "who are you going out with?", "did you meet anyone while you were out?", etc...
I can't deal with that insecure crap, a person that constantly questions me to reaffirm their relationship status soon finds themselves tossed back on the singles pile by yours truly 
As for e-mail passwords, PINs, etc., NO woman is ever getting those off of me. My private affairs/files are just that - PRIVATE. I have no desire to see hers, nor would I ever ask, that's what TRUST is supposed to be there for. 
Man, reading these kind of horror stories makes singles life seem that much sweeter as time goes on...  | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 9:39:52 AM | Tigerwoods0924
Man, reading these kind of horror stories makes singles life seem that much sweeter as time goes on...
No kidding! | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 3:04:42 PM | She is a dangerous control freak. The worst part is that the moment that you give in, she is going to then spit you out and dump you. Yeap dude. So my advice. You draw the line at the beginning. You don't give her your passwords, you don't delete sh!t. I can understand taking down your Match profile and stuff like that, but for instance here, we have forums with plenty of people in relationships.
Now, here's the issue. Since you probably think she is hot and now you have your trophy girlfriend you're allowing this to happen. Stop that right now. Be willing to draw a line in which you tell her that you will not go out with her anymore if she persist. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 3:23:44 PM | | Hi, Im sorry to hear that your going through a difficult time with your new girlfriend...Ive just split up with my boyfriend, we werent going out for long and it was because of the same sort of issues that your experiencing...Ive had enough of men trying to control my life, just couldnt deal with it...anyways, maybe your new girlfriend is just insecure about herself when shes with you, maybe shes had crapy, dishonest men in her life tooo, you should explore these feeling with her if you care about her....then again if you feel she's too much hassle then you know what to do....that sounds like i hate all men, i really dont...lol...anyways, your the one whose dating her, and im sure you've its not your first girlfriend...so maybe you should compare to a girl who you were with and who you liked being with to your recent girlfriend...hope I helped you...goodluck | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 3:38:09 PM | MaleMontrealer! If you continue to let her tell you what and who you could be friends I do not care how hot she is you either kick her to the curve or let her know what's up! Cause if that is the case eventually she is going to want you're balls
and my friend when did Men loose the bigger end of the stick? You are here for
opinions and take it from me do not let her do that cause it will only get worse seen this happend to a few af my boy's and a few of my cousins and it's not a pretty site!
Put you're foot down and tell her you are just dating . | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 3:53:58 PM | | She is nuts. I'd dump her if I were you. She's insanley jealous and guess what? It's going to get a lot WORSE before it gets better. Run now...and run fast. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 4:19:48 PM | | //do you remember that show"twilight zone"? passwords? deleting friends from msn? a hot looking woman on tv?this is a new relationship? i've seen profiles from montreal..beautiful ladies..i think it's time to delete her!! good luck ! | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 4:38:18 PM | | it could be that the new girlfriend is not online savvy and wonders what the big interest is in posting on pof, or chatting on msn, etc. I can understand after 6 months, maybe having a convo about it, but this sounds very early on in the relationship to give up friends etc for someone who may or may not be listening to what you are telling them, or just looking for reasons to argue with you, ie controlling. good luck. | |
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| | Joined: 12/4/2007
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Posted: 1/23/2008 4:46:05 PM | | I would not be surprised if you came home to find a rabbit boiling on your stove!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 4:50:11 PM | | well i think it will only get worse. she is trying to control you and everythng you do. i would get rid of her before she really freaks out and snaps | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 5:10:16 PM | look you know she shouldn't have you passwords, if you give her your passwords, +you might as well give her your credit cards, and bank account numbers. sorry man but it seems like she is trying to hide something, ask her, if she has a secret that she is keeping from you, I discovered that when they get that extreme, that they cheated on ya and that they feel guilty; the only way for them to justify what they did; is to uncover your dishonesty. so don't hesitate to ask her. if you don't want to ask her, just make sure you watch her actions, she probably has spies trying to set you up already
good luck to you man | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 5:12:48 PM | | i am sorry it didn t work out but u r bette roff there will be somone normal out there for you | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 5:15:25 PM | WOW and this is new. Dude RUN don't way from this one. This situation could actually turn dangerous.
Good luck,
M | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 5:18:06 PM | | when signing into the site, i see the title..my girlfriends nuts.. the first thing that came into my mind was, if she has nuts....wouldn't that make her your boyfriend? | |
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