| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/25/2007 7:01:08 PM |
I agree to some extent, but at at my age (almost 50), I am getting a bit tired of waiting for these male fishes to spot us older fishes.
...Don't wait, buy some new lures and cast your line. Your bound to catch one sooner or later. Just watch out for those bottom feeders haha.
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/25/2007 7:07:51 PM | Where is that prince anyhow? Is he green and bumpy?
I know that I need to kiss a lot of frongs, Headlady,
but some days I think I'm gonna get warts!
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LB0456
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Joined: 5/22/2007
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/25/2007 7:37:15 PM | I am so glad I found this forum. Thank you ladies! Talk about feeling rejected? I have not had one guy message me. I know I'm not a blonde bombshell but geez. I did contact one guy myself, (which I hated to do since I do hate rejection. lol). We messaged back and forth a few times and then he wanted to meet. We picked a day to meet but never a where and I never heard from him again. That was my first look at online dating. Fun stuff. But I did read your posts and realized that I too am picky,not to mention gunshy, if you know what I mean. Also, I live in a very rural area, at least 75 miles from anywhere so chances are if they are looking for someone close to home, they won't even see me. Am I just making excuses to try to make myself feel better?
I also realized, a long time ago, that I don't need a man in my life (that was a hard lesson to learn). I would just like someone to do things with, you know, go to dinner, movies, little trips, vacations, etc. that's what I miss. Does that even make sense?
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/25/2007 8:02:06 PM | I don't think it's worth it to get too upset over online rejections, and it wouldn't matter what age I am. It shouldn't be taken personal as in 'there's something wrong with me', it just means that it didn't click. I've had it happen lots of times here already. (You know...the 'POOF' syndrome, lol) I look at it this way, it's easier to take the rejection in the beginning, before any true feelings or intimacy develops. If they rejected, then obviously that wasn't the person meant for me. If the person was truly interested they wouldn't poof off into cyberland and would try and keep a connection. I do know that I've made a lot of friends here, I doubt that it would ever lead to anything more, but hey, ya just never know. Life is full of surprises, and that's what keeps it fun! Instead of worrying about which chapter my book of life is in, I just keep turning the pages waiting to see how the story unfolds, and hope for that very happy ending. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/25/2007 8:17:29 PM |
I look at it this way, it's easier to take the rejection in the beginning, before any true feelings or intimacy develops.
...yeah, like after 15 years of marriage haha
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/25/2007 9:13:24 PM | We live a world of superficial,if it looks pretty,if it looks good,if their friends agree,well what can I say YOUR in!,if not the *troll* that sits under the bridge just waiting for a mirical,and You happen upon that boat that trolls,You take the line,he becomes hook line and so into you...
We have forty somethings wanting to relive 18,We have those that think as you,I am here,I troll,I have No catch!of the day.
If History has taught Us anything,the *human species* is shallow!If however You want out of those waters of doubt,Know to someone YOU are that pretty picture,You are that Catch of the day! and it's OK to throw back what YOU don't want!
I *THINK* WE all have in one way or another :) so smile and find YOU Fish,that One and Only and *F* the ones that throw You back (it's their loss! NOT YOURS!!)
Rejection is hard at anyage by the way ... | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/26/2007 2:31:23 PM | Marcia, he`s out there but yep, it`s all those warts you have
to consider, lol. But hey, we know what we want now that
we`ve grown up and we won`t just settle, neither should
those frogs.
Rejection at our age, gals and guys, don`t let it get you all " croaked " up.
Sorry had to say that! | |
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nblue
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Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 87 | |
| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/26/2007 2:45:34 PM | I have recently moved from Los Angeles to Tampa, FL. Are all the women in Florida, over 4o, extremely overweight? Are they all dishonest about it and hide it in their pictures? What a shame. I don't know what they expect when you meet one another. Whatever happened to self pride and taking care of yourselves, let alone the health issues. Sure, LA has it's share of overweight people, but not anywhere like the women in the Tampa Bay area. Sorry, I won't settle for a fat woman. I'll return to California first. Rejection? It's never easy, but in the case here, well deserved.
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/26/2007 3:04:07 PM | | Yes, I've experienced it too. Despite a daily, conscious effort to keep healthy and in shape, 45+ sunscreen since I was in my 30's, it still ain't like it used to be. But I try to embrace the philosophy of packaging what I've got as well as I can and making the most of who I am. When a man I'm attracted to isn't as enthusiastic about me, it hurts me more than it used to. It makes me feel that I've lost my touch. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/26/2007 4:30:53 PM | ..for me, it has gotten easier......maybe "there's a lid for every pot", as my grandmother used to say, and maybe not. When I get knocked off the horse, I just dust myself off and get back on again.....
And as one of our very wise lady posters said in a previous post on this thread, "sometimes rejection is a blessing in disguise." | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/26/2007 5:30:26 PM | Some time ago,we were young and beautiful,now we are only beautiful....heh
Rejection is always rejection,but now for me it's only reason to smile.This place it's one small window we open to meet somebody...so you have to keep distance,don't be desperate,men are more desperate,than we are...if you write the words....thanks,but you're not the one for me.... | |
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Tramp
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Joined: 2/8/2007
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/26/2007 7:07:04 PM | If you keep the distance no one is going to show up, get closer, open up.
What's another rejection?
And you know, I am not sure about the beautiful part as we become older. | |
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Tramp
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Joined: 2/8/2007
Msg: 93 | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/26/2007 8:28:41 PM | I don't think rejection is harder the older you get. As far as online rejection, to me that really doesn't count for much. I don't expect everyone to like me, nor do I connect with everyone. I think we get rejected if we put too much hope in an e-mail or IM. This is a big world, and out there somewhere there is a connection.. I think. lol ..  | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/26/2007 8:59:06 PM | Hard to accept rejection in an email or IM? It is no different than the spam we deleat every day. Unimportant because nothing is yet involved.
Rather than being worried about rejection at my age, I am more worried because I am not meeting anyone that I would not reject. That isn't saying to there are many quality people around. I think it is more of a problem of the difficult in "meeting" online, than about the lack of good people available. Too easy to misunderstand one another while using the keyboard. Keyboards don't come with the chemistry factor (yet). | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/26/2007 9:31:41 PM |
Very true mae...only in my case it was 20. Sometimes getting put into the reject bin is a good thing in the long run.
...This is going to sound like such a cliche' but after all the healing...I found out that I am a whole person, not just someone's wife
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/27/2007 3:56:05 AM | | So ya say rejection gets easier? I find that some often little "slights" are misinterpreted by ME and I feel rejected. I'm finding it difficult to pull myself up and dust myself off as several others have. I am by no stretch of the imagination shy, but I want to crawl in a hole and hide after some of these slights or rejections. Must be due to the fact that I was in a marriage for 31 years and have only begun exploring the possibilities in the dating world the past 8 or 9 months. And I was tentative about it the first 6 months, never agreeing to even meet anyone. I think I forgot what it's like to pursue or be pursued. But I'm learning. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/27/2007 6:54:55 AM |
Why so pessimist?
The world is a big place, there is one for each of us.
I agree that we need to remain positive in order to deal with any and all rejections here. If we expect rejection, become pessimistic, then we'll get rejection.
The power of positive thinking is amazing. And that positive thinking often can help us to deal more easily with rejection at our age.
Now, where did I put that frog?
Marcia | |
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ankkka
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Joined: 5/5/2007
Msg: 100 | |
| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 6/27/2007 4:18:59 PM | | Speaking about..pessimist-optimist..do you know...that"Pessimist is a man who thinks all women are bad.An optimist is one who hopes they are". | |
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