| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 8/14/2007 3:16:19 PM | | OP - rejection is hard on us if we ALLOW it to be. Granted, you won't find me in my front yard doing back flips because I get rejected, but on the other hand, there's far worse things in life to put frown lines on my forehead. Don't take rejections personal (know that's hard to do), but do you really want someone in your life, who doesn't want you 100%? Older people have just as much success in finding love than the younger ones do, don't let the # of candles on your birthday cake fool you otherwise. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/14/2007 11:25:23 AM | | You feel you are rejected because of your age, or looks. More than likely you are rejected because of what you seek. If you want a serious long term thing guys who want a casual thing will reject you. If you want "a stable man" (code for 'financially stable; ie 'rich') not so rich guys will reject you rather than have you reject them. If you want a life in the country, city guys will reject you. The more flexible your wants are, the less you will be rejected. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/14/2007 11:36:40 AM | | Just perused this thread yet again and have come to the conclusion that rejection sucks. But I find the earlier in a meet/dating experience, etc. I am rejected the easier it is. I usually know pretty early on if I am compatible with someone so it makes it easier to decline meetings and dates, so no harm no foul. But after a couple of months, even with a recent experience I've had, it hurt somewhat to be rejected. Even though I KNOW it wasn't a good "match". The initial sting was felt, but I'm better for it, and it only lasted a day! | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/14/2007 3:01:41 PM | Rejection sucks at any age. But we all have been rejected at one time or another. I think it would be harder on a woman because traditionally, the man would always approach the woman, so he would be the one on the receiving end. But now we're in the 21st century...
BTW, I feel hurt even when I'M the one DOING the rejecting. No one likes thier feelings hurt. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/14/2007 4:32:53 PM | | I'd rather know than be lead on. That's cruel. Just say we're not going to work out. I will move on. I've had some I said no to and they won't leave me alone. At my age I am comfortable living with myself. At present, I seek companionship, a good friend... | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/14/2007 4:39:12 PM | | Rejection sucks at any age, and never gets any easier! It's hard to put yourself out there, and harder still to take rejection in stride. I start to feel like there's something wrong with me-that no one will ever value me. Divorce is the worst form of rejection. At least with a death you get the insurance! | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/14/2007 7:41:29 PM | Rejection is part of life:Other relationships, jobs, opportunities, and dating. But dating is about the least of these. What are you actually losing by the person not contacting you? Nothing, probably just saved you alot of grief. Look at the big picture. A guy is just one aspect of your life. It`s not everything. And there are so many men out there.
It`s a numbers game. Guys have to deal with it all of the time. Now that we have choices, we have to deal with it too. When you put yourself out there, you are going to be rejected part of the time. Don`t let it effect your self esteem. I`m sure he wasn`t worth it anyways. Remember the old saying about kissing all the frogs until you find
the prince? I`ve been frog kissing for 15 years, and it is leaving a bad taste in my mouth! I`m taking a break!  | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/14/2007 9:14:29 PM | We can't please them all and I wouldn't want to. To the ones that reject me, oh well, it wasn't meant to be. Works out better for both of us. I'll be able to see the ones that stick around clearer. In the meantime , I'm getting a lot of me time. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/14/2007 9:21:11 PM | | Why don't you save yourself the torment and go ahead and post your picture. Post a recent flattering but realistic picture, then you can bypass these unworthy feelings you have. You have to pay rent to be in my head before I start worrying about what other people think of me, you, or anyone else. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/17/2007 12:45:04 AM | I'm fast approching 50 come next month (ouch!) that hurts to even think about it.
I didn't feel rejected after I married my ex-husband over twenty years ago. Actually, I didn't even think about rejection then. I thought we would be young and stay married forever. (Gesh, I should have had a V-8 then ... duh!) 
Now, that I am at this age the rejection happens all the time. Oh, I get hit on by the kids in their 20's and early 30's (Not for me, I have a daughter that age) and men in their 60's and 70's. (Again not for me, I don't want to have a relationship with someone old enough to be my Dad for Heavens sake)
The rejection is coming from men in my age group or mid forties. I see more men that are dating much younger women in their 30's like my ex-husband. 
So, yeah.......rejection at my age is extremely hard on me.  | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/17/2007 5:45:21 PM | | For me the severity of the rejection is directly related to how much time, effort and emotion I had invested before the rejection. I'm not sure that age really has anything to do with it. If I get rejected by someone who has only viewed my profile, no big deal, move on. If it's someone I have chatted with, emailed, perhaps met and felt a connection with, yeah, I'm gonna take it a little harder. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/17/2007 8:03:33 PM | I have been back on the dating scene for a few months and I have met and dated about a dozen men from dating sites. Some I have dated more than once, some one date was one too many! A few have become some of the best friends I have ever had. I haven't found "the one" yet, but then again, I'm in no hurry.
Had a few rejections myself, but I don't take them to heart. I do get p.o.'d when a guy asks me out, then never follows up on the date. But, girls, just remember--it is their loss! And also keep in mind the name of this site---Plenty of Fish. And it's a big pond!
Also, guys in our age group can be nervous about dating, too. We aren't the only ones who have changed with age. They go through some changes, too, and those changes can be as rough on them as ours are on us.
Just be patiant and don't rush things. If it is meant to be, it will be. And if you feel like someone has rejected you, then they are not the one meant for you. Just have fun looking and keep the faith that you will find "him" when the time is right. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/30/2007 1:34:29 PM | First, you need to really look at yourself, and see that beauty that you have to offer.
I know it sounds corny, but it is true, you have to know and believe that you are special. Look in the mirror say 5 things that are great about yourself, every day.
I think your self esteem is low and you need to build yourself up, and not weigh in
on what perect strangers think, who are they anyway. Be glad they showed there true colors early and move on, there loss after all you are special and you deserve the best.
Plus, many men on this site are not being honest, about themselves, and are looking for
beauty queens, instead of women with substance. How needs these kinds of men ?!!
certainly not you or me. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/30/2007 1:53:26 PM | | Rejection is probably the most popular thing on this site..lol..send out a bunch of e-mails...and get next to none back..but as long as one is secure with themselves..its simply a matter of continued perserverence..but personally, Id rather know that one isnt interested than dead silence...thats more insulting to me than rejection...but in the non internet dating scene..I've been rejected, as well as accepted..to me..its simply life..thats the way it goes..I dont think its so much a question of age..but again..how one handles rejection.. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 9/30/2007 2:27:38 PM | | Well, I don't bounce back as quickly as I used to from rejection, so I pick my battles that are worth my possibly getting rejected. I am definitely an optimist. And I do that positive affirmation stuff in my head all day and night. I don't let negative thoughts linger. However, I just still don't bounce back as quickly. I didn't go to the POF party last night, because I just wasn't up to being rejected by people I would probably not be interested in anyway. I don't want a guy looking for intimate encounters or hang outs to have a chance at rejecting me. That's not the battle I choose. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 10/6/2007 7:49:03 AM |
Many men on this site are not being honest, about themselves, and are looking for beauty queens, instead of women with substance.
Some of these men are going to wait a very long time for the beauty queens cause believe me, these men are not all that either! | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 10/6/2007 8:14:29 AM | | Sure rejection is tough, but I look at it this way. If a man is going to reject me because I don't have the body of a 20 year-old, then they aren't worth it anyway. I know what I have to offer and it is a lot. I have spent the last 6 years figuring out what I really want in a relationship and it doesn't have anything to do with looks. I want a man who will look beneath the wrapping and see the warm compassionate person that I have become. I am proud of who I am and the person I have become and I'll be darned if a man who doesn't know me is going to make me feel bad about myself. | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 10/6/2007 8:25:28 AM | | I know, I laugh at my friends my age (42) chasing the 22 yr olds, seems like they don't realize that they are the age they are or can't accept it. For me I enjoy women my age or older, women are like wine they improve with age | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 5/5/2008 8:43:53 AM | Rejection is a word, and if we take it personally as if there is something wrong than I think it will stop you in your tracks.
I know I just have not found that special someone who will be right for me.
And at the end of the day, you only need one that matters, I put it down to it being like a lottery, sometimes you have to buy alot of lottery tickets and sometimes you only need one.
So keep trying your luck
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 10/11/2008 6:41:15 AM | Being rejected was hard to take, at first! But, since rejection is rampant on this site....I've now learned to embrace it and move on :) I would rather have someone just reject me than lead me on! I will return the favor :)
Pictures & words (profiles) do not show you WHO is actually on the other side of the computer!
So, reject me if you're not interested....Please :) | |
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| Ladies...is rejection harder at our age?
Posted: 11/25/2008 7:39:14 AM | Yes it is harder simply because when you are young you don't know the consequences/outcomes that life has to offer you. We know that now and have been rejected so much its familiar to us now. Should it stop us HECK NO! It doesn't get easier but it does get manageable!!!
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