| Re: How many is too many
Posted: 7/8/2005 3:49:31 PM | | i agree with mo2. who cares. you see someone that turns your head and your going to go down a checklist before you say yes. that doesn't make any sense. how could it be disgusting if he had more than 20 partners? it would be if he never took a shower or something like that. if he has no diseases and keeps himself clean, what is the problem. if a man has had more than 20 women, you'll never know any way. i don't know of a man alive that would share that information. so i wouldn't even try to ask questions like that. | |
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| Re: How many is too many
Posted: 7/8/2005 3:49:57 PM | | I just want a guy who respects himself and his body. I feel that a guy who has had alot of sexual partners doesn't respect his body. | |
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| Re: How many is too many
Posted: 7/8/2005 3:52:12 PM | well lollipop that's not always true. some guys love their bodies and just like to share it with everyone they can.  | |
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| Re: How many is too many
Posted: 7/8/2005 3:56:11 PM | | if someone were to ask me i'd answer truthfully..and i don't think its the fact that he/she's had 20 but the fact that he/she was willing to have 20...or maybe the fact that none of them may have been really intimate relations and you're next. some people just aren't looking for that | |
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| Re: How many is too many
Posted: 7/8/2005 4:11:53 PM | Well...interesting question and I think it's been answered sufficiently...
Just wanted to point out a couple of things....
1) Sexual activity actually has the ability and pleasant side effect of TIGHTENING the vaginal muscles, NOT loosening them!!!
So you guys better hope she has/had LOTS of sex!!!
2)It only takes ONE partner to transmit a sexually transmitted disease so the questions should change accordingly....and are NOT based on the number of partners, so much as whether your "potential love" is smart enough to use adequate protection!!!
3) There really IS an "average size" to most men's penises...The "noteable ones" are those on either end of the...ahem, erm, ...SCALE!!! So chances are...It's another penis that looks pretty much like all (or the few) others that she's seen!!! With the exception of circumcised vs. un-....So GET OVER IT GUYS!!! Unless you're REALLY small, or REALLY big...It's unlikely that she'll even notice!!!
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| Re: How many is too many
Posted: 7/8/2005 4:20:51 PM | It probably depends on how long one's been in the game as to the number of past lovers being "too much".
For me, the only questions I ask are:
have you had sex w/ another guy
have you been practicing safe sex
have you ever been tested
Am willing to answer the last 2 myself. Momentary pleasure is not worth not having those cards on the table.
Otherwise, I'm of the opinion that the past is just that. | |
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| Re: How many is too many
Posted: 7/8/2005 4:38:58 PM | all i know is I would prefer a man who hasnt been around the block alot so we can share and experiement things together and me not feel intimidated cuz hes had 30 more partners then me and make me wonder if i am good enough compaired to all those other women... thats just my view on it lol and i think other women feel the same at times as well.
Angel,
I want to start by saying that I agree with you. But why is it that when a man says anything like what you said (and a few other women agreed with) then he's accused of being insecure? Doesn't *that* strike you as a double-standard as well?
dont they say women who have had alot of partners is a slut and men with alot are studs? thats the double standard i was talking about. I dont know if its like that now adays or what ....
Yeah, some do. It's a double-standard, and it's not fair. But I asked in my earlier post, if women started holding men's feet to the fire more over their behavior then it wouldn't be a double-standard, it'd be a standard. Put simply, I think that it happens because a lot of women allow it to happen, no? I mean, if there were actual negative consequences to their actions (sleeping around) like being scorned as undesirable and not good for anything more than a cheap lay, then I'd be willing to bet that eventually men would get the message. As for the ones who wouldn't change their behavior? Well, you probably wouldn't want anything more than casual sex from them anyway!
Do men not think that way or is it just that they are getting sex they dont care? lol
It's hard to generalize; some do, some don't. Generally speaking, the younger ones just want sex and will do and say anything in order to get it.
Do men not wonder if they can compair to her previous partners? if they measure up so to speak lol
Yeah, I think that this is part of it. I don't know if it's genetic or environmental, but 'men' as a gender place a lot of importance on being competent at whatever we do, whether it's fixing cars, navigating (lol couldn't resist), or whatever. For better or worse, that carries over into the bedroom. I was first exposed to this idea when I read Men are from Mars/Women are from Venus (which is a good book with a hokey title, btw). And once I knew to look for that I realized just how prevelant it is, both in myself and in just about every guy I saw around me. It's my understanding that many women think that men are "orgasm-obsessed"; that is, obsessing over whether she has one. I think that the basis for this lies in his self-identity and wanting to be "competent". Does that answer your question or am I just rambling here?
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| Re: How many is too many
Posted: 7/8/2005 5:23:43 PM | WEll, bein all humble and all, I'd have to say I just don't really understand the attraction I give off to women. So I've lost count of the conquests, but so many were repeat performances. What can I say? When you're HOT, You're HOT! | |
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