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Posted: 1/27/2008 9:18:12 PM |
Really fat woman and really short men should stick together and mate.
I would run her around the block every day to get rid of some of the pounds.
At least a fat women can change her weight...I know this has been said a number of times. A short guy cannot change his height. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 8:35:30 AM |
So when anyone expresses a preference for an individual 'type' its purely down to them following their instincts. Aint nothing shallow about it
But it is shallow. Humans and animals are both victims of the instincts which drove their evolutionary path. However, humans have the gift of reason. Humans have the ability to make rational decisions. Therefore, by choosing a mate that you're more physically attracted to over the person who would make a better long-term partner, you are being shallow. Animals don't have this dilemma, but we do as humans.
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Posted: 1/29/2008 8:37:16 AM |
^^^NO, no they have not...They like small petite women. Funny too more so the tall men....
Not true. Do a thread search. There are only 3 or 4 men (1%?) on this board who refuse to date taller women. However, the vast majority of women on this board (95%?) refuse to date shorter men. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 9:42:03 AM | ImitationofLife:
Really fat woman and really short men should stick together and mate.
^^^Most women become fat because they are lazy. It's not always easy to change that.
I normally stay away from these threads and for obvious reasons , such as this ^^^ magnificent display of human kindness and understanding right there, but because my soon to be 14 granddaughter is a young woman who is struggling with her weight, I couldn't.
I want it on the record that I personally take great offence at having people like you calling my granddaughter a fat lazy woman and dehumanizing her by suggesting that she doesn't belong with the "rest of us" ......! How dare you?? How can anyone be so empty and void of any human kindness and empathy for his fellow man that he's able to utter such vile comments? How is that possible?
You have NO idea what that kid has been through and why and how she became overweight in the first place, and I would suggest that until you do, you keep your mouth tightly shut and keep your ignorant comments to yourself.
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I just deleted the rest of my post..............................................................it's just not worth it.
"The older we grow the greater becomes our wonder at how much ignorance one can contain without bursting one's clothes."
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Posted: 1/29/2008 9:54:19 AM |
..........or it may just be shallowness.
Shallowness shmallowness, we all have our personal preferences.
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Posted: 1/29/2008 11:24:46 AM | Not true. Do a thread search. There are only 3 or 4 men (1%?) on this board who refuse to date taller women. However, the vast majority of women on this board (95%?) refuse to date shorter men.
^^^^^^^^^^^^Yeah!......maybe on the board...so what!
But not on the entire globe.
It would be good when these kind of threads could stop been posted, it is getting beyond a joke.
And it's the same crusaders on here all the time.... ready to pounce on someone when they make a post in regards to their preference..
Just get on with life and excep-t that women ( short and tall) will have preferences and nothing is going to change their minds. | |
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| Height/Size Contridiction?
Posted: 1/29/2008 11:53:57 AM | we all have our personal preferences.
This is true, but some people will use the word "preference" to hide the real reason why they wouldn't date a certain group of people. The real reason is sometimes based on false generalizations and stereotypes. | |
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| Height/Size Contridiction?
Posted: 1/29/2008 12:03:30 PM |
some people will use the word "preference" to hide the real reason why they wouldn't date a certain group of people. The real reason is sometimes based on false generalizations and stereotypes.
I agree. There is a difference between not being attracted to a certain group and making fun of a certain group. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 4:25:51 PM |
^^^^^^^^^^^^Yeah!......maybe on the board...so what!
But not on the entire globe.
It would be good when these kind of threads could stop been posted, it is getting beyond a joke.
Yah. Great logic. As long as there’s 1 women outa 100 or whatever the number is, that don’t have that RESTRICTION, then don’t bother talking about this issue. Heck, why bother with any issues in the world? Just avoid them. DENIAL works! Heck if women didn’t gripe about getting the right to vote, then it would just be us guys going to elections. It’s just voting, there’s a small percent of other elections they can vote in. No problem should ever be talked about… especially if it doesn’t directly affect you. Right…
These threads about “non-height” pop up all the time, so there must be a problem. If we want them to go away, hearing about the issue and solving the problem works a lot better than trying to put down anyone who brings it up. Come to think of it, I wouldn’t even know about this if I didn’t read the forum here.
The only ones laughing are those that think that laughing at others makes them special.
And it's the same crusaders on here all the time.... ready to pounce on someone when they make a post in regards to their preference..
It’s the same people that just try to shout down or shame anyone who talks about this. “Preference”? Nah. After reading a couple of posts, even a passerby like I have figured out that it’s really a RESTRICTION for these guys. Same “crusaders”? Maybe, but what’s wrong with that? Some people have things they know a lot about.
Come to think of it, if you don’t wanna read this stuff, it’s as simple as JUST NOT READING these threads. If someone is coming here all the time and just putting people down for asking, then that’s just trying to stop other people from talking. Either that or they think that slagging other guys and calling them whiners while always kissing up to the ladies actually works. Me? I’m tired of seeing Jerry Seinfeld reruns… so I just watch something else. I don’t go around telling everybody to stop watching it. If most of the TV programs were Seinfeld… maybe, but otherwise there’s plenty of other shows to watch.
You can go and check out what I like to talk about, and see that it’s pretty much the same “crusaders” there too. It’s also the same kind to shout-you-down gang that keeps name-calling, insulting and repeating the usual junk there too to try and stop others from talking. Doesn’t work there… probably won’t work here.
If it’s because you think people have it all wrong, then tell these “crusaders” WHY. It looks like theyd be willing to debate the topic. This is the same thing I put out to those guys that do nothing but poke fun and name-call on the topics I’m on. Just poking fun or slagging tells us someone really has nothing to say.
Just get on with life and excep-t that women ( short and tall) will have preferences and nothing is going to change their minds.
Yeah. Get on with life and accept the fact that some people want to talk about things THEY want to talk about. No one is forcing you to read this stuff. Nothing except clear reasoning is going to work. Putting people down for talking is not going to change their minds.
If you wanna debate the topic, go for it. I’m sure plenty of people are interested… just look at the number of views. If you are just here to troll or flame others, then that’s all you’re doing. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2009 12:23:18 PM | Im 5'7" and every woman I have ever dated was different....I like that, what a sad world it would be if we were all the same. They have been taller,shorter,thick,skinny, who wants to marry Barbi anyways....that bich has everything.
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Posted: 3/24/2009 1:03:48 PM | | Why? Because I am BARELY 5 feet.... and if a guy is shorter then me, ummmm I'd feel like I was dating a child or a midget. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2009 5:38:56 PM | | You hit it right on the nose. Many females demand the right to have height preferences AND demand that men not have weight/body type preferences. Look at the messages out there. We see a movie about a man named Hal who is shallow because he does not like overweight females. At the same time, he would not be considered a prime target of most females because he is not tall enough. Overweight females are BBW, and that does not stand for big, burly woman. How many times do overweight female characters in movies or television shows express outrage if men do not find them attractive. I have seen profiles where females who are five feet tall are only interested in men who are six feet or taller. By being honest, at least intelligent men know to avoid these losers. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2009 8:26:47 PM | | Im 6'5" and I don't care if a gu is 4'11(my ex was) it's whats on the inside that counts | |
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Posted: 3/24/2009 9:23:04 PM | short guys are easier to steal kisses from 
and when you get the urge to ride he's easier to get out from under and flip over (licks chops) | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 1:41:02 AM | "However, the vast majority of women on this board (95%?) refuse to date shorter men."
I haven't actually gone through the thread and counted how many woman said yay or nay, but I'm sure this number is much too high. I agree it's disturbing that a majority of women don't seem willing to date short guy, but I don't know if the situation is quite as dire as this thread makes it out to be. Besides, it's not exactly a mystery what kind of woman will refuse to date a short guy.
I'm just gonna say I fully support these threads. Height discrimination in America is something that deserves much more attention. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 1:57:17 AM | Like it or not everyone Does have their preference ... it doesn't matter 'why' ..
I do tend to think that we need to accept even those things about each other that we don't like. Accept them as in stop trying to change them. and Accept them as in 'not necessarily' at close proximity! llol
Some people express 'preferences' that are more about personality, others express about things that are more 'looks' oriented. IF I think one is shallow - then I have the right not to choose shallow partners..
Can you imagine if No one had Any preferences??
I can see the headline now: Anyone/Anything will do 
.. wait .. maybe that'd work! ;) | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 2:18:19 AM | We see a movie about a man named Hal who is shallow because he does not like overweight females. At the same time, he would not be considered a prime target of most females because he is not tall enough.
No he would not be a prime target if he was not a movie star with money and it would not be only because he is short but also because he is fat. That is the thing I never liked about that movie, there is this fat guy who refuses to date someone who is also fat. Hypocrite? Yes absolutely. Is it his right to be a hypocrite? Again absolutely.Hey at least he can do something to make himself a prime target though. The same can't be said of other groups.
How many times do overweight female characters in movies or television shows express outrage if men do not find them attractive.
Not many that I have seen. That aside you see in tv show after tv show and movie after movie of fat older guys with slim and slender wives and girlfriends! I mean what is up with that? You can tell it is men who write these scripts. And why do these stupid conversations always turn around to bashing fat women? Some people who are constantly screaming about others shallowness are being incredibly cruel. I see no need for that. If something about a person turns you off, don't date them. See how simple that is? Why some people feel the need to basically vilify others physical appearance I don't know.
You want a good comparison to height? It is age. For a man age is nothing much but for women we are rejected left right and center as we age. How many times do you see profile after profile of guys who wont even consider dating someone unless they are at least 15 years younger then they are. God forbid they should date someone of the same age. Oh the horror! Older ladies get trampled underfoot as a pack of 50 something men run over them to get to the 22 year olds. Then the 50 something men sit on the floor whining,screaming and kicking their feet when the "shallow" 22 year olds reject them.
You really can't change some peoples minds though. They will go on until the end of time screaming "no fair" and blaming their failures in love on other people. Someones stubborn self perception is a near impossible thing to change.I take full responsibility for my own failures. It's a pity more people can't do that.
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Posted: 3/25/2009 2:51:14 AM | My male friend now is only 2 inches taller than I am and only weights 10 pounds more than I do. Nevertheless, I find him very attractive and male.
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| Height/Size Contridiction?
Posted: 3/25/2009 3:22:45 AM | Alot of these hard feelings would not be prevalent online, if folks actually read profiles and actually respected what was being 'asked for'.
If a woman is 5"11, and she states she prefers taller men, and you are 5"9...why bother to write to her?
Conversly, if a man states he prefers women who are in shape, then chubby women would be better off not to write to him.
People put up an Ad online looking for something. If you are NOT it, why bother? In real life I believe people are more lenient in thier preferences, as they have the eye contact with that person, see thier body language and an attraction can develop. The same cannot be said about Online....stick to the profiles where you realistically fit 'the bill'...and stop whining about the ones where you dont. Life is way too short! Realize that online is what it is and make the best of it.
I dont email the men who openly state they are a sucker for big blue eyes and large boobs. Why would I? Why would that bother me? People can search for whatever type they like, get over it. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 6:16:41 AM |
If a woman is 5"11, and she states she prefers taller men, and you are 5"9...why bother to write to her?
What does the woman's height matter in your scenario? By that logic, the 5'9" man should also not bother to write a 5'1" woman who prefers 6'0" men. The fact is that a person doesn't know whether or not they have a shot until they contact the other person.
I don't think this is the foundation of the "hard feelings" (as you put it)...I think it's the false stereotypes and assumptions that are often behind the height requirements which offends most short guys (and some taller guys too).
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Posted: 3/25/2009 6:38:35 AM | | I have a female friend who is damn near 6 ft and she tells me her preference for a guy taller then her is because a guy bigger/taller can toss her around in bed where a smaller guy really cant as easily. That was honest and I got that, wasnt about safety,security, inseciure in public or reminds her of her dad etc etc etc. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 6:52:57 AM | | I wanted to add my two cents worth to this posting.. Back in the day women were raised to believe that the man was to be the protector. And somewhere in the back of our minds in some kind of capacity we want a man just like dear old dad.... Maybe someday that woman will realize that she is missing out and become more open to dating men of all sizes..Because it truely is what is inside that persons mind and heart that matters. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 7:12:49 AM |
If a woman is 5"11, and she states she prefers taller men, and you are 5"9...why bother to write to her?
Because she has merely stated her preference and not her requirement, and while I am intelligent, I'm not a mind reader.
I prefer intelligent, funny women around my age. However, if she's not that bright, and doesn't make me laugh, but is kind and generous in spirit, I would certainly be happy to hear from her.
A woman that refuses to consider a man that doesn't meet her particular standard, yet doesn't clearly state what that minimum standard is, should be unsurprised at the response.
That is why. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 7:55:21 AM |
If a woman is 5"11, and she states she prefers taller men, and you are 5"9...why bother to write to her?
There is always a chance ( even if it's a slim chance ) a woman could overlook 1-2 inches if a man matches most of her other preferences. Some women have been interested in me even though I was 1-2 years outside their stated age range because I matched most of their other preferences. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 2:26:41 PM | Well umm , i didnt read the whole thread but
im 5'6 my bf is 6' or around there and weighs 130 -135 pounds
and i weigh alot more than him...
it works.
And to anyone who made horrable comments about people who are overweight , I think you should maybe step into our /there shoes and try to live a day in the life , you probablly wouldnt even make it . | |
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