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Posted: 4/4/2009 6:46:01 PM | | i have no problem with a guy being short. i do have a problem with a short guy requiring numerous very specific physical features on a woman, including her being short. no doubt there are probably some on here, besides the ones i know irl, doing that and then complaining that women like tall men. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2009 7:24:55 PM | hi ethical. good post and great profile. quoting pepe le pew always gets my attention. no wonder your on so many favorites list. straight up honesty is soooo sexy.
personal preference is just that. part of it is chemical part societal but all yours. i had a girl ask me why i didn't date her friend. her friend was nice enough but 4"10 in heels and small. i was 6"2 220 and very athletic. never even concidered dating her. on the other hand i saw a buddy at a babyboomers dance where the median height was 5"1 to 5"2 for the women and told him(5"7) that he should have no problems dating in this environment. he told men "i shouldn't but they all want six footers" | |
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Posted: 4/4/2009 8:11:24 PM | exciting1......I am with you on this. I am 5'4" and all my life have been attracted to and dated taller women. I find that taller women who choose to be with a shorter man are......intelligent, self confident, classy and fun to be with.
The few experiences I have had with shorter women....most of them have been insecure and self concious to some degree, prehaps explaining most short womens desire to be with guys a foot taller....just my observations....not a generalization.
To be fair...I will add, that not all short women have come across this way, there are many who can hold their own...but as for me...I love a long legged lady...for many reasons. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2009 8:17:32 PM | | hi miss mewsic. nice post. i think you're hot, love the hair. diane krall the harp and big band music not on my list of favorites but a trip to turtle island would be fun. chubby chaser is kind of an insult, how about men that love curves. a lot more men love curves than will say so, just as more women are willing to go out with shorter men than will admit it "srcew you guys i think he/she is hot" takes more spine than shutting the door because your friends will trash you. one of my roomies would tell me "look there's a mark-sized girl over there" when we'd be at the clubs. i've dated 4"11 to 6"3, 90 lbs to over 300 and found that 5"6 to 6"0 150 to 300 works best for me. i've found that size 2 blue-eyed blonds are generally b8tches while the rounder ones are much nicer. always, of course not, but generally according to a 95% confidance interval. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2009 8:47:48 PM | well, in my experience, i also see tall men requiring short women. pot calling the kettle black. i saw one guy's profile saying to keep in mind that he preferred "dainty" women??? i'm 5'9" and i can never achieve "dainty" if i was a stick | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 1:07:35 AM | Im 6'2" tall. I like tall men, but its ok if they are not. If I wear my 6" heels they are all short next to me.
I had a blind date with a guy that was only 5'3"--he was quite suprised at my tall height. :) | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 1:42:14 AM | well, I'm standing up for short guys. According to the census reports I am pretty much average for a woman in Aus. Average height, average weight, average hair and eye colour.
When I stand next to a man, do I want to be nestled in his armpit? No
Would I rather be nose to nose, than nose to breastbone? Yes
Would I rather talk eye to eye, rather than eye to boobs? Yes (tall guys seem to focus straight down, shorter ones can't do it as easily ;) )
Intimacy is MUCH more intimate when the height differential is small.
I have no problems with men who are shorter than me. None at all.
Now ask me about overweight men who will only date teeny tiny women.
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Posted: 5/3/2009 7:04:18 AM |
i have no problem with a guy being short. i do have a problem with a short guy requiring numerous very specific physical features on a woman
So short men should take whatever kind of female they encounter? Should fat females take whatever kind of man they encounter? | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 7:07:36 AM |
well, in my experience, i also see tall men requiring short women. pot calling the kettle black.
So what?
I see tall females requiring tall men.
I see short females requiring tall men.
Men are not allowed to have preferences? | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 7:28:18 AM | | I'm 5'8" tall and height doesn't matter for me - if the guy is shorter - i still wear my heels and we play i'm the super model and he's my agent game. It's all good. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 6:32:56 PM | | I don't feel like reading all 40 pages of replies... I'll just add my $.02 - I'm looking for someone that's breathing. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 9:50:42 PM | I prefer to date someone my height in heels or taller for his ego's sake. In my experience, men closer to my height who were shorter than me when we went out had some type of self esteem/confidence issue. To prevent that I prefer dating someone who is at least at my eye level. My preference isn't based on wanting a man to tower over me. I'm 5'8". 5'11" or taller is a great height.
I've never been one to confront a person I don't know/have a rapport with about why their opinion is different than what I want them to think about me. I don't care. I'm a tall, volumptous woman-- the original "thick", not the "thick" that big women abuse and stretch to describe themselves. If a guy doesn't want a curvy woman I'm not going to get what I want either-- And what? Next! | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 10:37:59 PM | | I'm a little tall and always seem to attract the attention of girls 5'2 or shorter. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2009 11:39:07 PM | | I am small. (4'10, 95lbs) I've dated those from 5'4 to 6'5. It doesn't matter to me, but it seems many big men love little women. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 5:02:27 AM | I have found that more often than not, what is on the inside shows up on the outside over time. The outter appearance of a person today is more often the culmination of what has been brewing on the inside for some time before. Could be from the past minutes, days, weeks, months and years. A combination of how that person has perceived and treated their self spiritually, mentally and physically over time.
Whether it be height or weight issues or insecurities, it will show up on the outside sooner or later. Knowing this, I will give a person the benefit of the doubt if they tell me they are changing or have changed the inside. Their subsequent observable actions, habits, attitudes and behaviors will prove or disprove this over some period of time.
A person who is easily offended on either issue is more likely to be easily offended on other issues as well. There are people that have learned to live their lives looking for others and situations that offend them. It simply shows a lack of tolerance for the vast diversity that comprises the animal kingdom and the planet. Those are the ones I find are quick to label others "shallow" when in fact it shows just how little depth, understanding and tolerance they have of the world around them. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 9:34:38 AM | | I completely agree with you. It really upsets me to see women on here carry on that they want a man a certain height, certain build and yadda yadda and then complain that they are not capable of finding a good man. I am in a wheelchair as you can see and I am 5 foot tall. I have been put down and insulted by women because of this. They refuse to take the time to look to see what is inside my heart and soul. They choose to judge me by outward appearances. I do not care if a woman is 6 foot tall or 2 foot tall. I do not care about hair color or any of that. As long as a woman has a heart that's all that's important to me. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2009 9:25:35 PM | There is a double standard that the majority of women live by. If a woman says that she wants a man who is tall, dark and handsome it is called preference or physical attraction. But, if a man says that he wants a woman who is skinny, blond and large breasted he is a superficial pig.
I also love the term BBW. It is funny how fat women have done such a great job to market themselves into this term so that we forget that they are fat. Fat women have done such a good job of marketing themselves to men that they even have the term "small BBW". Nothing makes me laugh more than they one. At the end of the day you're still fat and lead an unhealthy lifestyle.
Maybe shorter than average men need to come up with some stupid term. | |
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| Height/Size Contridiction?
Posted: 5/7/2009 7:47:21 PM | | my point was that alot of guys will not even consider dating women who have some of the same physical characteristics as themselves. if it's not attractive on her, it's probably not attractive on himself. [short is short; fat is fat; skinny is skinny; blonde hair is blonde hair] but yet the guy will still think that he's "all that" and if those women don't think he's "all that", then they complain about it. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 5:46:03 AM |
my point was that alot of guys will not even consider dating women who have some of the same physical characteristics as themselves. if it's not attractive on her, it's probably not attractive on himself. ...but yet the guy will still think that he's "all that" and if those women don't think he's "all that", then they complain about it.
True. But it holds for women as well. A lot of women? I don't know. Certainly many women and I've met a few of them. I tend to think that the men don't complain about it as much as the women do though. But then I'm a guy so I realize my view may be slightly askew in that direction. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 5:59:09 AM | "If some of those same women met you in a real life social situation your height would not be a factor to them unless there was an extreme differential"
Exactly! Here, it is a made to order situation but it really doesn't move past the written word. I have dated men who was a few inches taller than me and it was not a problem.
My weight exceeds far beyond what the medical world and society says I should be but men seem to not have an issue with me in "real" life. On this site I was rarely e-mailed when I checked BBW but once I took it off and said prefer not to say I was e-mailed all the time.
So, yes, people do judge on the written word. It is all they have to go by and offers nothing but preconceived notions on who we are. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 6:17:38 AM | There is a double standard that the majority of women live by. If a woman says that she wants a man who is tall, dark and handsome it is called preference or physical attraction. But, if a man says that he wants a woman who is skinny, blond and large breasted he is a superficial pig.
I wouldn't say it is the majority of women. Many of us couldn't care less about mens' preferences. If I don't have what they want they are quite welcome to move on down the line. Why would I want to be with someone who's not happy with me the way I am?
I do prefer to date tall men - they DON'T have to be dark and handsome! - because I am tall (6' + in my heels) and I like to be able to talk to people without stooping all the time. My family are all tall except my Mother, but often when I'm out and about it's like living in the land of the little people.
I have dated men slightly shorter than me or the same height as me, but it's always a relief to be with someone I'm not constantly looking down at. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 6:36:07 AM | | I'm not trying to undermine the argument, clearly society in general values tall more often than short but this probably is a genetic predisposition based upon the instinct that large = better defender/provider. There's not a lot anyone can do about it and much like many other burdens we're born with everyone has to play the hand they're dealt. On the other hand, I've had women not want to date me because I'm too tall, I don't have enough tats, I don't look like a "bad boy", I'm not blonde, I'm not etc. etc. The point being there's not much anyone can do to change many of these things, I guess I could get tattoo's but then that would exclude me from a different sector, and at the end of the day this thread or a dozen more like it won;t change that some people have predetermined "expectations" for a prospective mate. You can't really change this and they have to accept that this means they have less options too. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 6:38:25 AM | Height is purely a preference if given a choice, ( by most) in my opinion. Not a deal breaker at all. A few pounds over weight isn't a deal breaker, but a very large or obese person is different. If messaged by an obese person who is interested in more than a conversation, I try and be tactful. "Our lifestyle choices just don't match" type thing. | |
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