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Posted: 5/12/2009 6:55:19 AM | | Ultimately we are all attracted to what attracts us. Should we criticize those that are attracted to blondes or brunettes but not redheads? Of age, height and weight, the only one we can control is weight. If people are not attracting the people they would like to attract and weight is the issue, then change that about yourself....And I agree with Anjelic, weight is "somewhat" a lifestyle choice. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 7:05:47 AM | Very few women prefer short guys. I see many tall guys with short women. I see very many tall women looking at the short ladies with the tall guys like the are wondering why is he with her instead of me. Then I see tall women getting silly lines at the bars and clubs but short men such as myself. I see short couples, tall couples, average couples, couples where one is taller than the other. So to answer the OP's issue, there someone out there for you. It is just a matter of where and how you search, timing, where are in your life and so on and so forth. Every woman I have dated has been my height or taller, and neither seemed to mind me being short. They did appreciate the fact that I opened the door/car door for them and did not chew my food with my mouth open....funny how little things can overcome how tall a person is. I have a step ladder and several foot stools so it does not matter to me how tall she is. Plus I know how to climb. Go after someone with real expectations instead of what you can not have.. cheers | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 9:07:27 AM |
Ultimately we are all attracted to what attracts us. Should we criticize those that are attracted to blondes or brunettes but not redheads? Of age, height and weight, the only one we can control is weight. If people are not attracting the people they would like to attract and weight is the issue, then change that about yourself....And I agree with Anjelic, weight is "somewhat" a lifestyle choice.
Weight is more often than not a life style choice. Sedentary, spoon in mouth syndrome, etc., all combine to affect one's weight. And for those who allege that their thyroid is all buggered: in the general population the incidence of hypo-thyroidism is near 2-4/1000 for women and 1'ish/1000 for men. It does increase with age, but we are still talking an incidence of less than 1/100.
MissMewsic wrote:
I used to worry about my weight, but I've put it all behind me now. : )
I too have / had a weight problem, all my life, but I have unfortunately put my problem out in front for all the world to see. 
Anyway, son and I were out at Wendy's a week or so ago and I can honestly say that son was the slimmest and I was not that far behind. Then taking advantage of that free Oprah KFC coupon the other day I commented to my companion that I need to eat at places like that more often: next to my companion, I was the next thinnest person in there.
It is (almost) always about life style!
And as for height, unless we want to go the "Gattica" route the altitude God gave us tends to be the altitude we shall always be.
TK
{thinking about a nice large slice of Strawberry-Rhubarb pie. Pass the ala-mode while your at it, eh} | |
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| Height/Size Contridiction?
Posted: 5/12/2009 1:09:53 PM | short guys come with certain advantageous characteristics. if they piss me off, they're easier to toss out in the middle of shifting gears.
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Posted: 5/12/2009 7:20:33 PM |
Not if they have oddles of cash!!
Money doesn't make a big difference. Watch the documentary "S&M: Short and Male" | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 8:59:12 PM | I am only 4'11" and I prefer taller men. Something about tall men that is so sexy.   | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 4:39:05 AM | | Being polite(not to the point where you are a push over) having a positive attitude, and smiling versus frowning all the time, will cause tall ladies to smile back at you. Hey if you conduct your self as a big short guy, then people will not treat you like a short short guy..Every girl that I have dated has been taller than me, because I am willing to ask them out of course. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 6:58:19 AM | i responded to woman's profile near me who was a quite a bit younger than me. her profile pleaded
Im looking for a guy who can look past the outside and take a chance on the inside. i wrote to her that i was willing to do this if she overlooked our age difference in return. she deleted my email.
was she asking for something that she herself was not willing to give? hmmm | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 12:43:04 PM |
Money doesn't make a big difference. Watch the documentary "S&M: Short and Male"
Really, my experience is that for every additional number I added to my bank account balance I also added another inch to my short statue lol! | |
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| Height/Size Contridiction?
Posted: 5/13/2009 12:48:36 PM | Height does not matter to me. It is largely genetic and only partially influenced by diet and lifestyle. I am 5'2".
Weight does matter to me. I value good health and find it a complete turn-off when the guy doesn't. I was weighed a few weeks ago and can only assume that I am still roughly around 114 pounds.
NOTE: I completely acknowledge that sometimes the way one looks (ie. a bit of excess fat, or no muscle mass, etc.) DOES NOT correlate to how healthy one is. Some of the fittest people I know don't have that rockin' 6-pack. Thus, I don't take one's body to be the "health status indicator". No. What matters to me is the person's lifestyle. As long as you are conscious of what you eat (not a calorie-counter, but somebody who is able to consistently eat well and, of course, eat crap every once in awhile) and you get out and exercise every once in awhile, then I'm happy. Binge drinking, smoking, recreational drugs...these are all turn-offs as well. No thanks. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 1:27:03 PM | Height discrimination is the most common of all biases. You can find evidence of it everywhere and most certainly in dating site profiles. I would guess at least 30% of women's profiles on here have some kind of height preference if not requirement.
The point I like to make is that we're born with certain genetics, and height is what it is and being short shouldn't be viewed as a character flaw. Meanwhile, women will get super sensitive about weight when being fat often IS a sign of character flaw - as in gluttony. I don't want to hear the thyroid crap, I've never met a girl who eats right, exercises and is active who was fat. If you've had babies that's one thing but some 25 year old girl who can't touch her toes is another...lol.
I'm relatively short at 5'8", and have dated taller girls and it didn't really bother either of us. For women, it's about how manly they view you as being. If height and size are how they measure that up, take that into consideration. There are some women out there that aren't shallow like that, and look more at a guy's other qualities. | |
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| Height/Size Contridiction?
Posted: 5/13/2009 1:35:22 PM | Good post, buddha.
I'm also tired of hearing people constantly making excuses for poor health. You've gotta change your lifestyle around. No quick fixes are going to work. Nobody said it would be easy, but it is always possible. So do what you say you're going to do, set realistic goals, and be healthy! :) | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 4:49:00 PM |
Meanwhile, women will get super sensitive about weight when being fat often IS a sign of character flaw - as in gluttony. I don't want to hear the thyroid crap, I've never met a girl who eats right, exercises and is active who was fat. If you've had babies that's one thing but some 25 year old girl who can't touch her toes is another...lol.
I'm not super sensitive about my weight - I do the best I can do pretty well with what I've got and I haven't been sick (not even a cold and I work with kids) or needed to go to the doc for over 4 years. I have a sister who has always been very thin and she constantly has health problems and is always sick, throwing up, etc. The size of woman's ass is not an indicator of her health. I've seen women who are well under 100 pounds and ready to die because they have bought into that crap. The whole health thing, unless someone is so obese they can't even walk or function anymore, is a thinly veiled disguise for disgust. Just admit it. you are not concerned about a plus size woman's health at all, you are just more attracted to what you are used to seeing in magazines and on television. Just be a man and admit "I don't like women above a certain size" and not pretend to care so much about her health or well being. More men treated me like crap when I was younger and thin. I was bulemic, addicted to laxatives and sick constantly. We need to change what our image of healthy is because it is based on propaganda pushed by the diet industry and assumptions. There are countries where a plump woman is a symbol of prosperity, wealth, and fertility. I don't smoke, I don't really drink, I'm not promiscuous, I don't take drugs, so I enjoy something sweet once in a while - BIG DEAL. I'm still healthier than the stick people.  | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 9:31:31 PM |
how can you expect a man, to over come weight issues, when women can barely overcome a man being half a inch shorter then her? I understand that it is my failing, truly I do. There is a man in my life who has shown an interest in me; he is short. Taller than I am, but a short man. Maybe 5 six or seven. I've never dated or been attracted to a man shorter than 5 eight. I think I could be attracted to this man, if there were other things in place: but I truly don't think we are compatible. However, in general, I am not attracted to short men. I don't expect a man to overlook something about me physcially, like finding me not slim enough, so I don't think I'm being hypocritical. I think it's silly to care that much about something like height and weight, if it is not a significant height or, especially weight, issue. But, I find it is hard to overcome what I seem to be naturally attracted to. I can understand completely someone not being attracted to someone who is significantly overweight. I am not attracted to that either. We all have our preferences. However, I notice that both heavy men and women seem to date, have partners, marry, etc. And also short men seem to date, have partners, and marry. A lot of it has to do with character and personality, as well as finding someone who is not bothered by, or is even attracted to, their physical characteristics. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2009 7:03:04 AM | i don't get upset over women's preference for tall guys even though i am 5'4". maybe i'm lucky but i've done well with women who have wanted dating. now that i'm older and want long term it's more difficult.
i have somewhat unrealistic preferences myself so i understand this need for height even if a woman is extremely short.. i still believe i can achieve my goal. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 7:54:03 AM | I may be posting this on wrong Height subject. I find that some woman really do my head in. A nice woman came up to me and said i was hot etc. Then she said i would date you if you where few inches taller. I am thinking what is going on you like me but because i am short than you like. You still say those things that is just wrong
playing on people feelings. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 8:36:56 AM | | Yeah I've known girls who were like that, and then they sit home and complain about not having a guy. As I've said, men do the same thing. They set some arbitrary number on age, weight, height, haircolor, eye color, nose, hair length, hairstyle, anything, no matter how many other qualities match what they are and want to find. Even if they write first and say "I want someone who's active" or whatever, I say "then don't put arbitrary limitations on who can contact you. They're totally unrelated." Hence, the pool here on pof. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 10:48:28 AM | | Some men do suffer from short man syndrome...i.e. sometimes they can have a bit of a chip on their shoulder about their height, or the lack of it, or maybe I was just unlucky in going out with a guy like this once. It's down to what you find attractive, but I think women like someone tall becuase they like to feel protected. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 6:52:04 PM | I am, nowadays, a big and tall woman. Even when I was slim (which I was for most of my life) I preferred to be with men at least my height, and ideally, several inches taller. There's no insecurity involved - I just like to be able to look up at a guy, and to wear heels without towering over him, and to put my head on his shoulder while dancing with him - not vice versa. I've dated plenty of men who were shorter than I and have even had a wonderful LTR with one of them. However, my preference is, and always will be, for a taller man. So what?
<div class='quote'>What I have also found is that BBW tend to have expectations that men should find them attractive simply because they exist, which is ridiculous!
As if there is something wrong with you if you don't find them attractive.
Personally, I think it ties in to ego and their need to project insecurites on others.
Being resentful because men don't find you attractive isn't going to change anything.
Wow, either you meet the wrong women or you project your own prejudices onto them. I certainly don't expect every man to think I'm hot "just because" I exist as a "BBW", and neither do the women I know who are larger than the "ideal". There are men who will like my looks, and men who won't...shrugs...I don't like the looks of every man I see, either. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 8:45:16 PM | This is a bit of a tough one. I'm tall (6 feet) and have been married to: a 6 footer, a5'8" and a 5'9" man. After my 5'9" husband died, I dated several guys over 6 feet (tallest 6'8") and found it takes a bit of getting used to. My 5'9" husband always seemed to be the same height as me! I think I've spent so much of my life looking down into peoples' eyes that my senses perceive that as about the same heightas me. So, even though I would LIKE to meet someone taller than I, I don't require it. It truly is about the connection.
As for the weight issue: I've weighed everything from 114 to 218 over the course of my life (at my full height). The thinnest was probably due to youth and a touch of anorexia; the heaviest was most definitely due to medication I was on (one pill added one pound - you do the math!). I ate the same diet, still worked out at the gym (though not as strenuously as I was dealing with a pain issue). Even today, my weight goes up some, then down some . Since most of my life was spent as a slender to average person I used to think being heavy was due to a person's inability to push back from the table or get up off the couch and move! I'm much more sympathetic from having had to deal with it myself.
The whole thing is: YOU have to find the person desirable to YOU. Just don't write 'em off based on looks alone. There are some wonderful diamonds masquerading in the rough! If you hit it off on the personality and other traits you're looking for you may just be the impetus for that person to change their habits and get slimmed down or healthy! | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:55:42 AM | .... thing I find completely puzzling, is the amount of profiles ....who go on about its the inside that count's, but they are looking for someone who is taller than them. A lot people then go on to say, that they are plus sized women (weight) and why can't men handle that. The puzzling thing is, how can you expect a man, to over come weight issues, when women can barely overcome a man being half a inch shorter then her? I heard, and understand the reasons for a taller woman, or even a short woman being attracted to a taller man, and I respect that. Women tend to get offended when a man isn't attracted to them because they are a bit over weight, because they expect its what on the inside that counts, and its true it is on the inside that counts. I just find it funny they tend to disregard that when it comes to height, even though they are almost practically the same physical attributes. Maybe its a case of pick your poison? I'd love to hear opinions on this, because I am mind boggled on the subject. I don't expect a man to be attracted to me if I don't fit into his vision of what is attractive. I find men about 5'10" to be about right for me, most attractive and they feel about the right size for me. Very thin men and very overweight men are not attractive to me. Yes, it is primarily the inside that counts, but to some extent, you have to be attracted to a person, and we all have our preferences. I realize height is not something a man can change, but I can't change my height either, and plenty of men are not interested in short women. I've been involved with men from about 5'8" to 6'2". I am most comfortable, as I said with men about five ten, but I'm flexible. I don't find men nearer my own height attractive, but I see women with short men all the time, so obviously there are plenty of women who are attracted to short men. I think the main thing is not to have an attitude about it. Despite the fact that many men do not like 'full figured' women, I have known very full figured women who get a lot of attention from men due to their personalities...they like themselves and their sexuality, a characteristic that shines through and makes them attractive. Try it. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2009 2:56:11 PM | i never dated a girl that was taller than me, though i almost always go for tall and slim women. i dated this one model that was 5'10, so she was taller in heels but that's it. she had some that were 5 inches and i told her to dump them. 6'3 is gettin kinda freaky...felt like i was going to a dinner date at neverland ranch.
i never dated an "overweight" woman.
if i was a tall chick i don't think i'd date short guys. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 10:10:44 AM | Why do big girls cry and complain and beg guys to "look past" their fatness? I don't want anybody to "look past" who I am.
I'm a big girl yet I've never had a problem finding a guy. You can still be sexy and gorgous and confident whether you are size small or XXXL.
As far as the chubby girls wanting a tall guy, I have to say I'm guilty. Of course I wouldn't blow off a guy I was attracted to if I felt we would have chemistry. Tallness is just the icing on the cake. When a guy is thick and even a few inches taller than me it makes me feel sexy and safe in his arms.
There is also a such thing as too tall. . .neck cramps when kissing goodnight. . .ouch. . .
People should embrace themselves for who they are and embrace what they are attracted to. Don't get all butthurt if somebody you are attracted to is into a different type.
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