Diva64
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Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 101 | |
| Height/Size Contridiction?
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:55:12 AM | Well yes it's certainly silly to state "preferences" and then be offended when someone is not interested in you because of their "preferences".
VERY IGNORANT INDEED!!!
However, NEVER is it acceptable to lie! NEVER!
You can not possibly defend the indefensible!!!
Even if and that's a big IF, your percent theory is correct.......WHO CARES.....all you need is ONE!!!
So put that pole in a stop b1tchin and start fishin....... | |
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| Height/Size Contridiction?
Posted: 6/5/2007 6:38:02 AM | Ya' know.. I use to have the height hang-up. For a long time I wouldn't date anyone that wasn't at least 5'11. It stemmed from thinking that he would be bad in bed. For some reason I had it in my mind that short men probably aren't working with much (and that was back when I thought bigger down there was better, but that opinion has changed as well..lol) and I just figured it would be awkward.. like they couldn't "man-handle" me in bed if I needed/wanted. And for me.. I have to be sexually attracted to someone in order to date them.
THEN.. this short guy (5'6) - I'm 5'8 by the way - kept trying to get at me and I wouldn't give him the time of day. But one day, he came by and I REALLY had conversation with him.. his personality was SOOO great. And even though he was short, he was a cutie.. as he sat there, I found myself wondering what the sex would be like with him. We kissed that day and it was real nice. Well, to make the long story short, we eventually had sex.. and OH MY GOD.. he blew my mind!!! We saw each other regularly until he moved out of state. In regards to him, after the initial sex, I never noticed his height again.
And since then.. I've dated 2 other men that are shorter than me. And was very pleased with both (in every way)... so I'm definitely over the whole height issue.
Basically, I think some people have these hang-ups, because of what they imagine things to be like with that person (whether it be sex or whatever), but if they're open enough to try it.. they'd find that there's really no difference. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 7:05:59 PM | Cool you make a fantastic point
I am between 5 8 an 5 9 depending on the amount of hair i have:)
Ok so somebody else is 5 8 is apparently looking for a white knight. Everything is going fine, we meet fine after a month i'm too short- now that is a personal experience.
But the point is most people over 30 on this site have had enough experience to know that in the real world a whole host of things contribute to a physical and emotional relationship.
What would happen if you met someone who was size 10 and then grew to size 14 would you dump them because of that? it would be pathetic
I think because there are automatic specifications e.g slim? athletic(what does that mean) a few extra pounds (who's view is that) most people tend to idolise an impossible model or is Victoria Beckham actually here?
Good point and im sorry if i rambled but it genuinely staggers me | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 7:09:18 PM | roger i think you are such a liar- i guess you have met one real person who was in your state and overweight- yep id be surprised by how many responses you get on here- by brother is called rog and he is an arrogant twat too | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 7:13:47 PM | Yup, must suck to be short
but I guess if this is an issue
then mayhap it really is not them
that has the issue
in the first place
so um ya, "try again", or stop tryin, whatever.
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Posted: 6/6/2007 7:28:28 PM | I will admit to preferring a taller man. At 5'10 it's not always so easy to find though, especially since I am not exactly a "willowy" 5'10, and guys do prefer a much more slender figure than what I've got. I try very hard not to judge because I hate being judged myself, but it's hard not to. I don't think I have anything about "his preferred height" on my profile, but I'm more comfortable with guys who are my height or taller.
A preference is not always a requirement for some people. I've dated shorter guys, and taller guys... And honestly, to me, it's all just a matter of how well you get along. I've quit seeing my size as an issue, and more of a way to eliminate the ones that wouldn't be worth it. If he can't take the time to like me for me, and that means all of me, I doubt I'd be happy with him in the first place.
Tall or not. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 8:43:57 PM |
A preference is not always a requirement for some people.
I have to wonder how static the height preference is, though. There's a gentleman on this site whose profile states that he is 5' 8", who has seen a lot of rejection for that. His profile is somewhat vague where his profession is concerned, but I'm betting that if he made it known that he's a doctor, at least half of those women who have rejected him would find that their "preference" is negotiable. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 11:23:02 PM | Ummm yeah... tryagain... just keep tryin' bro'. Multiple reads are required just to decipher what the hell you're trying to say!
Smoke another joint and get a life pal... | |
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Posted: 6/7/2007 3:17:03 PM | i dont take it personal if someone says, you are a little to big or fat for meh.
what ever, to each his/her own.
just like, i wont date a guy under 5'10.... damnit i'm 6'1 without heels and i love them... i wont date skinny guys and i wont date obesse guys...
i cant take it personall if someone doesnt like my body... there are girls on here with 'perfect' bodies and not all guys like that. | |
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sldk
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Joined: 2/20/2007
Msg: 113 | |
| Height/Size Contridiction?
Posted: 6/7/2007 3:23:57 PM | | I've dated guys that are shorter than me and didn't have a problem with that. That being said, if I had my druthers, I'd go for someone taller than me with a big build only because I'm not a tiny woman and I like to feel safe and protected when cuddling with my man. It has nothing to do with the esthetics, just how I like to feel personally. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2007 3:31:42 PM | The problem is that people use the outside as the initiator and thusly use that to decide if they actually want to find out what the creamy goodness is on the inside. So if you don't pass the first hurdle, you aint getting to the next one. Its not fair, its a double standard, but its how we humans operate.
Physical stats aren't the thing that keeps a relationship, but its damn well the thing that starts it. Window dressing has no substance. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2007 3:35:30 PM | I guess i can answer this since im not fishing
First hubby 5ft 11 I am 5ft 4
he weighed around 140 i weigh-ed 115 (well 115 to 135 back to 120) i was pregnant twice)
he called me his heffer (thought it was a pet name later in marriage it was a insult all the way)115 -120 and im a heffer ..hmmm
2nd Hubby 6ft 3 170-180
im still 5ft 4 ( i weighed 125-130) liked me just the way i was
Present honey 5ft 7 180
Im still 5ft 4 135 and dieting to lose 20-30 pds for me (not him)
So not all ladies are interested in a mans height or weight or are men that stuck on it either | |
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Posted: 6/7/2007 4:03:07 PM | | Well, Michelle; You expressed exactly (read between the lines) what most women want, namely a taller man because they think some other body part goes with the size of his height. I have lived long enough to listen to my female lovers, learning from them that tall men can just be the opposite of large endoughment. I am only 5'10, but my lovers keep telling me that SIZE DOES MATTER, after all. Keep that in mind, darling; even shorter men can make you "happy". | |
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Posted: 6/7/2007 4:12:48 PM | | I just read your profile. Wow, you have multiple opinions to be voiced. Since you would not stoop to date from this particular forum what does it matter what a woman wants as far as height? Your profile shows a contempt for women in here that I just couldn't imagine women wanting to respond to anyway. Maybe it's the attitude "little guys" carry around that makes women avoid them!!! | |
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Posted: 6/7/2007 4:17:16 PM | | I never take it as shallow when I don't appeal to every man. There are men out there who thing is a bbw, to each his own and we don't all like the same thing. But I am not hung up on appearance so would never set any restrictions. My only guideline is the smoking thing. I do think its fair to turn away others because of their faults and demand that others accept all your flaws. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2007 4:28:58 PM | I agree with MaryRachelle,
There has to be something to be attracted to.
Some people can have a personality that makes them cuter though. Some, the opposite, but in appearance, there has to be something there.
I think it is useless for people to complain about what others mught not like about them. Why complain , if one if overwieght or short or tall or thin? We cannot make people like our looks , if they like something else.
No use complaning. Time better spent is finding one who does like what the other has to offer.
And,the OP has a point too. Some mad over being rejected over one thing and the other gender having rejection problems over something else- sort of same type issues that no one can fix.
Just have to find people who do like the tall, short, whatever weight, that elusive chemistry that will work.
Wishing all happy times!
Peace,
Gren | |
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Posted: 6/7/2007 4:32:21 PM | | i am also a women who prefers a taller guy but then im 5'7 so im tall myself. and since there is as many men out there who dont like to date a thin lady as there is men who dont like the more beautalicious women i dont get offended if men dont fancy me. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2007 5:06:14 PM | I never knew that men's height was a problem in the dating world...until!, I started flaunting in the world of dating sites, where I find its a issue with women.
Oh well, sometimes its better not knowing before than knowing now; I was happier dating without the knowledge. But then again, explains why women broke up with me to go out with taller men.
To each their own, I'll admit that I've broken up with women to go out with skinnier/in shape women.
We're all shallow in some sort of way.
What was that about inner beauty?? | |
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Posted: 6/7/2007 7:26:44 PM | It hit me several years ago that if I were a woman, I would prefer to date a taller guy too (hmmm... talk about shooting yourself in the foot! ).
Fact is... I can see where a woman would want a taller guy to give her a feeling of being protected and feeling sheltered. Really no different then a guy wanting to see curves in all the right places on a woman because subconsciously it signals to his brain that she's a fertile creature (I read this in Playboy when I was 16 so it has to be true!).
This is all great in a perfect world but here's the reality... we all have our imperfections and we can't all be models. Who cares! I don't want to date a girl who's 5'11" any more than she'd want to date me at 5'3" (although I admit slow dancing would be way more entertaining for us  ). | |
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Posted: 6/9/2007 10:53:18 PM | All righty, I have dated a couple of guys in the 4'11"- 5'2" range and they were, just as sweet as the taller guys. I am 5'7" and I never say a guy has to be taller...the profile asks for preferences...I'd prefer to be rich and live in Hawaii but that hasn't happened either....LOL Men are men are men...no size or shape truly is preferable, it is all in how they treat you, how you care about each other, how you feel about him when you are apart, those are what a relationship are made of and besides...come on y'all when you're horizontal, who is taller??? | |
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Posted: 6/10/2007 5:05:32 AM | | People have preferences, the inside is the core value for many, that doesn't mean it's mutually exclusive to preferences which encapsulate that core, such as physical attraction. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2007 11:07:28 AM | | I'm 5'8", but I have these shoes that make me 5'10"... If I'm dating a shorter girl, I'll just wear normal heels. | |
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