| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/20/2007 9:25:50 PM | | First off, if you got IM'ed on LL, you should have known there was a problem. Women don't pay there, they wait for you to message.lol | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/20/2007 9:29:17 PM | | Yea TDH I would have expected more out of you!!! Judging you by your post, and your assertive attitude, you really showed some cowardness under pressure. I don't know man......nowadays with all the bullshit profiles, and wasted time, I would have not let this one slide. I would have had to say something just so I could have slept better at night. And to spend 45 minutes!!!! WTF? Shit at the very least I would have been like damn I think my car alarm is going off, and bolted | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/20/2007 9:51:28 PM | Did he/she/it/whatever/ dress like Cinderella?
did he/she/it/run off to see the wizard, the wonderful wizard of Oz?
Gee there is a lot of what we call droppings of a Adult Male Bovine Mammal aka A BULL and you know what they drop at the end of their a$$?
and one more thing if it was me in that situation( mind you I wouldn't be in that situation because IM SO SMART,) it would of been RUN FOREST RUN. | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/20/2007 10:24:40 PM |
Did he/she/it/whatever/ dress like Cinderella?
did he/she/it/run off to see the wizard, the wonderful wizard of Oz?
Gee there is a lot of what we call droppings of a Adult Male Bovine Mammal aka A BULL and you know what they drop at the end of their a$$?
and one more thing if it was me in that situation( mind you I wouldn't be in that situation because IM SO SMART,) it would of been RUN FOREST RUN.
WTF are u talking about? lay off the before posting | |
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tdh46
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Joined: 1/7/2007
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/20/2007 10:33:37 PM | actually Trudawg this happened in 2004 when i first started with online dating. I don't see that shit ever happening to me ever again. as for just up and leaving G, i could have done that or i could have called him on it, but what would have been the point, He was already messed up enough.
Obviously if it happened today i might handle it differently i think. Actually i have never left a date early, Once i decide to meet someone, i pretty much will stick it out.. Maybe that's why i don't computer date anymore, way too much Bs going on online.
Besides if i had started in on him i would have just been another angry black man, nobody would have really cared if i had a damn good reason.
But i did make some major adjustments since then, I have gotten alot better on calling people on bs online. But as this story proves it was not always like that lol.
Babydoll272
If i wanted to practice my creative writing, do you really thing any straight guy in his right mind would make this one up....You people must be nuts. | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/20/2007 10:42:47 PM | It could have been worse........
YOU could have gotten excited, stuck your hand up his skirt,and held on to a TREE TRUNK for 45 minutes.....lol. | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/20/2007 11:38:20 PM | OP, I disagree with most of the posters here. I've gotten to know quite a few transgendered and transvestites as I manage a building where there are 75% of them there. I have spent a lot of time getting to know them. They are quite entertaining and I've learned a lot about what makes them tick. Out of respect our staff refers to them in the gender they prefer "at that moment", yes, some switch back and forth. I've even had to give one the "talk" because he was parading around in women's brassier in the common areas. I told him he couldn't have it both ways and had to act in a socially acceptable manner. If he chose to be a woman, then wear a house coat unless he is performing at "La cage aux folles in Miami". He went back to being a man with full beard.
Here's what I've learned. When they lie and manipulate and you give them the impression that the "con" has worked by not being honest yourself, you are instigating further lies and manipulations. His actions are no different than a married man pretending to be single or an unemployed drug addict pretending to be a successful born again christian.
A lie, is a lie and feeling sorry for him for being "messed up" I guess works the same with feeling sorry for the drug addict.
This guy was lucky you are a nice guy. But if he thinks this con will work again, (because nobody told him it wasn't working at all and no one was honest with him) the next time he pulls this act on someone else, he could get himself beaten up or killed.
It's funny, it's sad, it's pathetic because he had the opportunity to meet men who like this sort of thing but chose to con a straight man instead.
Go with honesty. You can be honest without being cruel.
Oh, and it always helps to throw in some humor to make them laugh...I often joke about myself to lighten the mood just before one of my "talks". | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/21/2007 4:56:24 AM | | Well i think a lot of you out there have been pretty awful. This is a nasty experience for any one to have been subjected to i think it shows that tdh is a true gent as i said in an earlier post many men would have jumped up and sparked the shim and lets face it i bet it isnt the first time it has happened and at least he has been brave enough to share his tale with us as it reiterates how the need to stay safe when dating online is paramount. Would a rapist or any of the found peado's share in their profile what they are. Of course not and you still wouldnt know after talking to them on the phone and who is to say that the pic you display is a pic of your self and i am guilty of that when a guy wanted a full frontal ye right sure im gonna stick my phone between my legs just to satisfy his personal needs | |
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tdh46
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Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 34 | |
| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/21/2007 6:44:21 AM | | I don't like hurting peoples feeling when i meet them. So u will not find me ragging on anyone about lying about anything on their profile during a first meeting. I would just chalk it up to experience and move on. | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/21/2007 6:59:54 AM | I've had some strange dates, but that is AWESOME! (But then, I'm a David Bowie fan, so I have no problems whatsoever with guys in drag....) | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/21/2007 8:04:18 AM | "Ok, this story sounds like Bullshit, youre telling me a guy of your intelligence is going to let that happen to you? speaking to someone on msn without seeing a pic, I think i saw that on Jerry Springer last week dude."
Was this even necessary?
That is why when I orginally posted I said some redneck would have punched out the he/she. I state my case on how some people are.
Does it matter if you think this is true or not, didn't to most of the other posters, leave it alone, not necessary for this type of behaviour on such a good thread.
I still think you showed class and obviously not everyone on here does.
Some people are just drunk. | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/21/2007 10:51:16 AM | yeah Trudawg, talking about a epitome of ignorance and arrogance, to assume I must be drunk before I posted? you're amazing kid , can you predict the future too?
TDH46, if this happened in 2004, why post it now in 2007? you already indicated what you would do nowadays? or did I miss something? | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/21/2007 10:57:21 AM |
Dude had a Barry White thing going on with his voice
OK...between this & the shoes thing, I now have a very distasteful mental image that I certainly could have done w/out.
However...the idea of 45 extremely uncomfortable minutes in someplace as bland as the corner Starbucks w/ a very poorly dressed Queenie is flat-out AWESOME!  | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/21/2007 11:13:40 AM | HA HA HA HA HA HA .....I have not heard anything that funny in a long long time..
I think you handled it very well. And no offense, but from reading some other posts of yours I am surprised. Guess I may have misjudged you. Anyway, it sounds like you were a real gentleman about it.
Oh, and you didn't answer the question... did you get lucky?/ ha ha ha | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/21/2007 11:20:26 AM | I call bs on this.
I don't believe it happened.
and if it did...why the need to post it 3 years later...other than to have
a laugh at the expense of someone else.
If this person was as bad as you say...then obviously they had no hope of
deceiving you. Maybe they were just a lost soul looking for some kindness...and you gave
it to them...and that is to your credit.
What isn't to your credit is to bring it here so it can become a source of ridicule.
But to each their own. | |
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tdh46
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Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 43 | |
| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/21/2007 11:27:33 AM | In answer to the question why bring it up now? I keep reading these thread people keep posting about really bad dates, and they amuse me because i really don't see them as all that bad.
finally after reading yet another one yesterday about a bad date, i told my story with the hopes of having people see that they really don't have it so bad. If you go back and read some of my threads you will see that it's a story i told before, maybe just the readers digest version, but i have told it here on pof. If not this time but when i was here last years sometime.
I would never post anything as a source of redicule.....There is always a meaning to all my threads...You just have to look deep enough to see them. Always a lesson to be learned. With the exceptions of my earlier post here on pof.
Browneyedboo before you call bs on anything i write go look here.
Thread titles "bad first meetings" look for the post by aj7676. Now i wonder just how stupid you people now feel after calling me a lier.
Edit "because you told the story more than once it must be true?" my apology browneyesboo, i keep forgetting the mentality of the person i am trying to reason with.
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/21/2007 11:32:05 AM |
But he was wearing a nice pair of pumps, although i never knew they made womens shoes that large.
Yea, you'd be surprised what you can find on ebay LOL | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/21/2007 11:41:03 AM | That is hilarious. You handled it well, even though you could have left quite a bit earlier as far as I'm concerned. I don't have a pic on my profile but that is because I live and work in a very small town and do not need students and parents asking me about my dating "stuff". But-----I do have pics to send when somebody asks ---after I have talked to them once or twice and they seem OK. I always tell upfront that I will send pics when I am ready.
A year or two ago, I answered a guy and talked with him several times. I sent my pic but he always seemed to have an excuse as to why he didn't have a pic - or the computer was not accepting it or whatever. Anyways, I finally decided to meet him ---WOW--- was I ever shocked. He was an extremely bad-ass parent of 2 of my students. I just said that it was inappropriate for me to meet a married parent and got the hell out of there.
I never meet somebody without having seen their pic first now. I warn them before we meet that if there is any type of a lie with their pic and what I will see in person, then they shouldn't be surprised if I turn tail and leave.
A while back, I was seeing a guy for about 7 months. He was a real man's man. Jeans, jean shirts, construction boots ---the works - mustache included. We were seeing each other for 7 months and I was starting to feel uncomfortable with him. It took about this amount of time for me to get that he was an alcoholic. Then, one night, he told me to stay in the livingroom, that he had a surprise for me. I had been thinking that this was going to be the night where I was going to break it off. He was in his room for about 20 min or so. While he was in there, I was trying to figure out what exactly I was going to say to him about not seeing him anymore. All of a sudden, he opened the door a bit and said that I shouldn't laugh. I said OK and then waited. He came sauntering out in a little red mini-dress (that I had given him to give to his sister with some other clothes), high heels, panty-hose, and make-up (and his mustache). He then wobbled over to where was sitting on the couch and asked me what I thought. He asked me if he looked good. I sat there in a state of shock. I was at a loss for words - which is rare. I didn't know what to say and told him that. He then tried to kiss me and I pulled away and told him that I was uncomfortable with kissing him at that point. He then asked me if I would go to a wig store and help him pick one out. I said no. I don't remember what I said to get out of there, but all of a sudden I found myself sitting in my car driving home. I had to stop the car on the side of the road to laugh as I thought that I was going to have an accident. The next day, I called him and told him that it was over. I told him that his being an alcoholic was bad enough but that I knew that I couldn't live with his dressing like a woman too. He then asked me if I would be open to being with him if he got help for the alcoholism. I said no. He then asked me if I would be interested in helping him get himself together as a woman --- with my being just a friend. I hung up. I have not talked to him again. Now, when I decide to meet someone - I ask them if they dress up in woman's clothes. I want to know up front and not waste any time.
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/21/2007 11:47:18 AM | That was hilarious...because you told the story more than once it is the truth?
ack.
I think bush suffers from the same problem.
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 5/21/2007 11:50:30 AM | | I forgot to add that after the breakup several of his family members called me up and told me that they thought that I had known about his "habits" but that it hadn't bothered me. I couldn't believe it. | |
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