| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 9/19/2007 8:49:05 AM | Well Beachchick, the lecture was for me, otherwise I would have been talking to myself all the way home about what I should have said...lol. I may even have taken it's picture with my cell phone and posted it somewhere to warn others....  | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 9/19/2007 8:57:36 AM | Wow, and I thought I'd had some bad online dating experiences.
I think you handled it very well. Personally, I would've left far sooner, explaining honestly that I expected a woman and it was very dishonest on he/she's part. | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 9/19/2007 9:20:21 AM | Now that's a good point...I'm still saving you some room on the biotch couch, though. The OP is much nicer than I would have been. LOL!
I just think that any kind of lying and misrepresenting of yourself is wrong. What this guy did was inexcusable, and neither God nor Miss Manners could have made me sit there and pretend to have a normal conversation with that person, as though everything was all hunky dory. | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 9/21/2007 12:15:45 PM | I would have shook this person's hand and said "Hi, I'm so and so....I know we had planned to have coffee, but unfortunately I'm not very comfortable with this situation; I hope you understand. Take care."
Exit stage left......... | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 9/21/2007 1:59:02 PM | You wasted time with someone who wasn't who they claimed to be. They evaded the issue the entire time by not providing a picture. You had every right to say sorry you aren't interested and leave him at the coffee shop the moment he walked in.
Something similar happened to me once, a woman who appeared to be in her mid to late 20s messaged me on another site, we talked for a few days and agreed to meet. And when I met her, she was much, much older. Over 15+ years at least, but was using her scanned college pictures online. | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 9/23/2007 7:03:35 AM | | The guy obviously had some real issues, I saw no point to coming down too hard on him. If i am going to come down hard on someone i want to make sure they are mentally strong enough to handle it. This person was very fragile emotionally, what was there to be gained by ragging on him? | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 9/23/2007 10:04:52 AM | 
Thank you. Your story does make us all feel a little better about our own unfortunate experiences. The way you handled the situation and the fact that you can talk about it, shows great strength of character. I once endured dinner with someone who was at least 15 years older than his photo, about 100 lbs heavier, had absolutely no table etiquette, and smelled like a brewery. I think some folks actually see themselves as the person they are trying to portray; even though, they are not. You can call them on it all you want, but they are not going to get it. Why bother? | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 9/23/2007 11:42:13 AM | | You have handled it in a very considerate and sensitive way. If the same had happened to me ( with a Drag King) I would have probably left after 5 minutes. I would not want to meet with anybody without having an idea of what they look like and I don't see this as being superficial, at all. | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 9/23/2007 12:31:33 PM | Dishonesty is dishonesty. Period!
It has many forms, but one intent, to deceive. The pretense of beginning something as sacred as a relationship based on deceit is announces instantly what type of person you are communicating with. When I first got online, I was more tolerant of it, but its got to the point where I just call it what it is, and get away from the liar as quickly as possible.
Last year, I met a woman at baggage claim, saw that her photos were ten years and seventy pounds out of date, told her "the worst thing in the world has happened...She said "o no, you arent attracted to me" while I took her directly to the check in counter and re-booked her flight home. She was a bit stunned, but I noticed she changed her photos the next week.
Many have said you handled your disaster with class, saying some would have kicked the crap out of the guy for lying. I think you put up with an uncomfortable situation unnecessarily. Give the liar the truth. That keeps you strong, why concede kindness to someone who obviously extends nothing but lies to you? It's neither considerate nor sensitive, to acquiesce to a lying predator. He(pretending to be she) called the shots and their lies announced their character.
Allowing for inflation, that's my three cents.... | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 10/10/2007 7:03:26 AM | | Did you cop a feel too? maybe he/she/it will invite you a Brokeback mountain Hip Hop party and you guys can sing "its raining men hallelujah" | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 10/10/2007 6:27:36 PM |
The guy obviously had some real issues, I saw no point to coming down too hard on him. If i am going to come down hard on someone i want to make sure they are mentally strong enough to handle it. This person was very fragile emotionally, what was there to be gained by ragging on him?
Just because his/her fantasy is not mine/yours . . . who are we to rain on their parade? Do you really think that have he has not seen the consequences of their choices????
To EACH their own . . .
~Myth~ | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 9/25/2009 12:00:07 PM | I'm gonna resurrect this thread... just because... I'm evil... 
And I gotta wonder how I would have handled that... Honestly I think I would tell them that I'm leaving because he/she seriously misrepresented him/herself. | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 9/25/2009 12:26:39 PM | you shouldn't of resurrected this thread, because the OP was how do I say this ???? a Lying full of sh1t Jack off, who we believe made up this thread, because no one could be that stupid, well maybe a certain married guy from Oregon could be.
Read his other threads he started, you will swear the person is either really desperate for attention or is a piece of chicken short a snack pack for $ 2 tuesday at KFC. | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 9/25/2009 12:34:27 PM | ^^^
Well Mahogany, tell me how you really feel...
Hey I never said the OP was a great guy... I was only musing how I would handle such a situation... | |
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| My date with the Drag queen.
Posted: 9/25/2009 12:36:00 PM | Yeah we need 4 more pages of this garbage.
It wasn't funny or interesting the first time. | |
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