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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 5:15:32 AM | | Weight fluctuates during the course of the day.I have a fairly flat stomach (despite the caesar overhang lol) at the start of the day.By the evening its definately more rounded and noticeable.I never understand why weight is such an issue.I see some really good looking guys out with bigger women.my own son,s fiancee is a big girl and i,m proud that he is not shallow enough to judge someone by their weight. I have lost almost 2 stone (nearly 28lbs if you prefer) in the last 3 months.My profile says average which i was at my previous weight but i,m not going to change it because i,m never going to be stick thin.I lost the weight for myself because i,m more aware of the health risks at my age,not because any guy ever told me i was fat!Personally, i think a guy should never be so rude as to ask a lady her weight | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 5:59:47 AM | | I dont mind telling people about my weight...no biggie. But like you said, you're only looking for friends so weight shouldnt matter if they're looking for the same thing. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 6:31:19 AM | I have been asked for all kinds of things as well from weight to bra size. I think those questions say way too much about the person u are speaking to right away, I am not ashamed of my weight I mean I would like to be thinner but I am who I am and if u can't love me for all of me then u aren't the kinda guy I want to meet either. I also agree why do u need to know right away about a persons size why not see if u have anything in common first and go from there. I think nice eyes and a good smile is way more important than body size. If u enjoy being around someone and you take time to get to know them the outside appearances becomes less important.
I think guys that ask those questions are looking for one thing only and thats neither a friendship or long term relationship...If men ask those questions should we ask about there body part's after all if we are larger girls maybe it would be too small....sorry that was shallow but isn't that the kinda guy we are talking about.. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 6:56:00 AM | No offense, but it sounds like your making a mountain out of a mole hill.........Suggestion: Instead of explaining and rationalizing your position regarding this issue with the people in the forums, just mention it in your profile, making it clear that you are not looking for anything beyond friendship..........Even though, you should know that this is considered a "dating site" ( by most, anyway).... | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 7:13:56 AM | | This has nothing to do with American, European, or Canadian men. I have been asked for full body pictures and have explained that I don't have one. I have been asked my weight and height by Canadian and American men. I explain that I am a small woman. I have no qualms about saying that I am 5'2" and approximately 100 lbs. If they want to know my measurements, I tell them to tell me what theirs are first. Then, I blow them off. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 10:13:13 AM | LOL ,,,no doubt I don't understand why they really need to know , I mean really now a days with the clothing we all wear would it be appropriate to not take care of of the nether regions ?? Geesh
As for the whole weight thing ...well beauty is in the eye of the beholder ! I am a vuluptous woman , am proud of my curves and have been blessed in all the right departments. So I have a booty ......better meat on my bones than something you can crush if you drive her to hard !!
And what does it matter what I weigh ? It's not like your going to have to impress me by tossing me up in the air !! or to do the typical "lake" test that I hear ya all talking about ...(some guy said to me this " I want to find a girl that passes the lake test " and i was like WTF ...apparantly it meant that if he tossed me in the lake and I came out looking like I went in I could be the ONE ........riiiiiiiiiight !!! any guy that wanted to see me in the lake rather than show me a good time is not someone I would want to hang with anyway , so find another lake to go fishing in buddy ! geesh sorry just my 2 cents !! | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 10:23:49 AM | | I have only been asked once. I had a few pictures up at the time and in one I was leaning over a railing. I am really small but top heavy. In this pic, I think the top heavy took over. I didnt mind the guy questioning me because he was a personal trainer and fitness is a priority in his life. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 11:25:03 AM |
just mention it in your profile, making it clear that you are not looking for anything beyond friendship Uhm.. I did, hence the 'making a mountain..'
... why remark on a post if you don't sufficiently read the source?
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 11:45:20 AM | As a "fat chick" I would like to say something to all you obviously "north american" men.
There are plenty of men out there that love "fat chicks" some date skinny chicks because of what the rest of you "men" might say if they dated what they like. Most date who they like and do not care what all the narrowminded people of the world think.
In many cultures in the world women with some meat on them are considered the most attractive.
So would you lay off the "fat chicks" for a while. If you do not find them attractive that is your personal choice but there is no reason ever to be unkind to anyone.
There are all different types in the world and someone that likes all of them.
I love who I am and have never found it difficult to find men that like me as I am. Period. | |
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dpd22
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 12:01:22 PM |
There are plenty of men out there that love "fat chicks" some date skinny chicks because of what the rest of you "men" might say if they dated what they like. Most date who they like and do not care what all the narrowminded people of the world think.
When a man states that he isn't attracted to fat women, why he is often labeled as shallow, ignorant, rude, narrow minded etc on POF. Most men don't date fat women because they aren't attracted to them, not because of what other people might think. If a man dates a fat woman that he is unattracted to, then many people will say that he is using her. Can't have it both ways. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 2:56:21 PM |
When a man states that he isn't attracted to fat women, why he is often labeled as shallow, ignorant, rude, narrow minded etc on POF. Same thing in reverse. I have my own preference, and I'm labelled as superficial and fickle for it.
Why should I insult someone by dating him if it's not what I really feel? He'd sense it.
Anyway, some guys won't even be my FRIEND if they think I'm 'fat', which is just dumb. It also shows me they have ulterior motives... thus saving me tons of time.
.. get it? TONS?
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 6:21:08 PM | Yes,I have been asked my weight several times.. Cup size,and Do I shave??? LOL PLEASE!!.. Is this all that are on the minds of men???
Well,I dont mind telling guys,as long as they dont mind replying: WAIST size ,pertaining to beer GUTS.. JEWEL size,and I dont have to tell U where that hangs, LOL And are u a MINUTE man,or do u really care about a womans needs???
It would be nice,If some men actually would like to get to know a good looking woman 1st before they think with their other brain..
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 6:32:39 PM | I'm honest from the beginning. I do have a full-body shot, although not a good one it gives an idea. I don't fault a person for their preferences, I have my own and I don't want anyone disappointed when we meet....hasn't happened yet 
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 7:59:40 PM | and I am curious: OP, do you think it's real to find a male friend on a dating site? I mean a FRIEND == without even a thought about sex, body size etc??? or you are just tricking yourself?
Isn't it easier to write in the profile that you want to take things slowly, but it still be dating. BTW, some men can be dating for months without even mention anything physical.........if it's what you want.
maybe I am wrong and it's really possible...............I just never had a man as a pure platonic friend. I've made some friends on dating sites but it's still
1. ex-s
2. we didn't click
BUT it always started a s a dating
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 10:49:28 PM |
it's a personal preference. If a man prefers not to be with a bigger woman, it's a personal preference. I don't mind anyone asking at all.
What if someone, having read in my profile that I'm just looking for friends, still wants to know my body size? What difference does it make if it's just for friends, and if the guy doesn't want just friends, why does he email me?
That's what I am wondering, not so much why he'd prefer a certain type for dating.
Maybe he hasn't actually read the profile, some might wonder? He just liked the pic and didn't bother to see the rest?
.. no one will have seen 'prefer not to say' for body type if they haven't first seen my headliner: "Friends or Nothin'
Maybe because most people put friends down with the idea it could lead to something else. Maybe because if you don't share a vision of health and activity it would limit your topics in common. Maybe they like to surround themselves with beautiful people. Maybe they just aren't interested.
I don't know...I can't answer for them, but most people on here are not looking for merely friends. They are looking for a hook up here and now or they are looking for something with at least the prospect of a future. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/21/2007 11:50:34 PM | ~OP~ Yes, I've been asked about my weight. I've also asked "why do you ask?" Personally ~ I have pictures posted....if that isn't enough for someone, they have a serious suspicous nature and think all women are lying in their profiles. I can't stand that. And if they ask for more photos ~ they need to head on over to one of the adult sites, I'm not sending nakie-nakie pics, nor am I interested in convincing someone I am or am not. JMO  | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/22/2007 8:30:52 AM | dpd22
What I wrote: Most date who they like and do not care what all the narrow minded people of the world think.
If you read my statement again you will realize that I am not refering to men that do not date "fat chicks" as shallow or narrow minded. We all have choices and can date whom we wish.
What I am saying is that those persons that judge who other people choose to date are narrow minded. And in doing so try to impose thier preferences on others. No ones preference is right or wrong. Just an individual choice.
We are all attracted to those that we are attracted to and it is narrow minded to judge others by thier personal pereferences and choices.
Hope that clears up any misunderstanding of my statement.
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/22/2007 9:13:56 AM |
do you think it's real to find a male friend on a dating site? I mean a FRIEND == without even a thought about sex, body size etc??? or you are just tricking yourself?
Isn't it easier to write in the profile that you want to take things slowly By stating I want friendship only, I'm seeking an opportunity to meet a guy who could be a wonderful, regular buddy who will do fun stuff with me.
I don't want my weight to be an issue with someone who doesn't even know me as a human being. That's why, when they see I'm here for friends, I think it's silly to write me if that's not what they want! ...*duh*, whose time are they wasting? THEIR OWN.
While I don't rule out the chance it could evolve, I don't want any guy to expect more than being friends.
In this respect, I hope to acquire male pals who, in person, will either be possibly more, or just friends.
If I say I'm here for dating, the dynamic will be totally different from the git-go because now there'll be anticipation of a more physical connection, which I absolutely do not want with a stranger.
.. and I already have made some very sweet man friends who don't think of me as more, and vice-versa, but we get along great anyway. There's no pressure at all, and we can gab about other prospects as they present themselves! | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/22/2007 9:25:03 AM | | thank you ...for asking the question that always puzzles me also.yes i need to lose 35 lbs and am diligently working at it . but it seems all men want a size two barbie doll type.i am sure we women would all like to be at or near that but ..fellas heredity plays into things and sometimes it just isnt possible.wouldnt you ever think about just meeting for coffee someplace off of the beaten path just to maybe get to know someone?like the young women who posted the quote said. sometimes a friend for a lifetime can be worth more than a roll in the hay for a day..or nite dont you agree? | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/22/2007 9:29:46 AM | LOL I tell them I weigh 350 and leave it at that... Geez if someone is that interested in weight, why not meet them? And no I don't weigh 350...
Some people lie anyway or give older pics or even fake ones.. so why ask? | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/22/2007 11:52:47 AM | | I like your post. I too have a few extra pounds, but I look damn sexy and I carry it very well in my opinion. I tell guys on here right up front so they're not expecting Pamela Anderson or something. If they don't like it, keep on moving, cause there are tons of guys that do. I'm not willing to change for anyone. I love myself just the way I am. If the guy is looking for someone with a smaller frame, they should keep on looking; it doesn't hurt my feelings at all. I feel very sexy exactly like I am. Fortunately there are a lot of "real" men that can appreciate a "real" woman. | |
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Karen5
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/22/2007 12:20:16 PM |
I do think is bad if some fat guy asks a girl her wieght he has no right to. LOL, why can't a fat guy ask her too? I've got an idea - let's all ask each other anything we want and if someone asks us something we don't want to answer, then tell him/her that we don't want to answer it. It's called communication. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/22/2007 5:34:53 PM | I have and I tell them to mind their own business.
I don't *really* mind the question if someone I have been talking to pretty regularly asks me, but I still think it's a question that indicates a bit of shallowness on their part. I'd probably go ahead and answer, but I'd definitely think a touch less of them for asking. | |
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