| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/22/2007 5:38:38 PM | I carry my weight well. If I said how much I weighed, and I have before, people dont believe me.
To me it's how you carry it if you're a little over weight. But honestly with me, I could stand to lose 50lbs to be in my healthy BMI for my height. But I dont have any use for a man that has an issue with my size. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/24/2007 5:45:28 PM | OP: oh gosh yes and much more personal stuff than that! someone else posted somewhere on forums how many ways men think about sex. and friends only must make some men think they're gonna get lucky.
***"My profile very clearly states BBW as that is the term that seems to be what is used for as my kids call it "big and fluffy and great for a cuddle"
So my response is this:Did you read my profile?Well yes.Go back and read it again!Ok I have.Good....Satisfied...because that is all you are getting. The rest is between me and my Doctor.What is your cup size, bum, legs, blah blah,blah?I am big and fluffy from head to foot!"***
I like this!!! I find mostly it's men who do the IM thing that are that rude. The men who take the time to email me are usually much better behaved. That's why I've turned off the IM thing excepting for "favs". | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/24/2007 8:38:02 PM | windkist, I LOVE your hat. 
.. and thanks to you and all who answered with your various perspectives.
I still maintain it's dumb for anyone to be concerned what I look like if I state friends only.
Whatever's inherent between myself and someone who chooses to meet me face-to-face is another story, and I absolutely refuse to go there on POF.
Some might say "well then you're limiting your odds too much because most guys want more than friends" .. well, that's fine, as I'm not desperate to have 'just anyone' simply to avoid being alone.
General note to the guys who see me in their 'recent checked emails' picture row:
.. if you don't want a woman friend (who might or might not become more ~ the bottom line is to have NO expectations), don't write me! Simple as that... but if you do write me, never mind what I weigh, as you'll see for yourself soon enough in the event we meet... if you don't want to meet me because I don't match your criteria, it's no loss to me. 
Best Fishes, everyone... | |
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Sigi
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Joined: 5/26/2005
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/24/2007 9:04:30 PM |
Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Come to think of it....haven't had that 'privilege' yet! And nooo....don't ask me ! 
Though I 've been asked about my height. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/24/2007 9:27:42 PM | I've never been asked my weight but have been asked:
everything about sex,This is very rude, we haven't even met yet so why ask about sex?
I'm not here for sex, There r sites for just that.
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Joined: 12/14/2006
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 5/25/2007 12:23:11 AM | I have... with my job, numbers are standard (there's a reason they sometimes refer to it as 'cattle calls') but sometimes I quip, "why? are you paying by the pound?"  | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 6/4/2007 8:23:58 PM | You are right, the man should not ask a woman their size and shape if you clearly state in your profile you are looking for friends. When you like someone in your life and they are your friends, you don't keep them as friends in your life because they are slim, athletic, average or disabled. ... But I find internet dating quite superficial, we are trying to unsure the person we are about to meet will meet our expectations. An image/photo on our profile is only a poor introduction to who we are. I say "poor introduction" because it is only an illusion, but this is the only tool we have on this internet dating.
On the other hand, I wonder if they read fully your profile, have they noticed you are looking only for friends.
And my last two cents... I have been asked once about the size, I can understand the curiosity .... however, if they are hung on the numbers of my weight, I find it childish, superficial, I loose interest all together ... they are very shallow, I kiss good bye. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 6/4/2007 9:10:03 PM | Okay we get it OP. You are just here for the Forums.
No, just friends. And we believe you. At least I do.
But here is the thing. The moment I read your first response to me I fell in love. So you see, Its really all about me. Not you at all. So when you say
For a guy to ask me, prior to even indicating a wish to meet me, essentially if I'm petite and not overweight (they don't say that, but it's implied) .. to me is really presumptuous of my attraction to him!
It sounds like he's already made up his mind that I'm after him,
maybe, in my self centred falling in love with you, I just wanted to know what you looked like, so I don't get my heart broken by my own fantasy.
Maybe there was not only no presumption, but no consideration, regarding your attraction to me. Maybe I figure I'll cross that bridge when I come to it? | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 6/4/2007 10:14:28 PM | | It's evidently something that's important to him...if that's how he wants to judge his friendships then off he goes. I'll happily tell him and then boot him. I think someone looking for a full on relationship is fine to ask, but if it's a prerequisite for a friendship I wouldn't bother with him because he's not being completely honest. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 6/6/2007 3:10:33 PM | ....this maybe little bit of topic, however, I find it amusing. Men who are hung up on woman's weight. I once was seeing this man, who was evidently obsessed with woman's size. He kept bringing up how this buddy is embarrased of his wife who just gave a birth to a baby...(she must have put on weight I pressume). Next, he hinted at me that he would like me to shake few pounds. He was rather on a short side ( I mean his height) , and not typically someone I would go for. (Ok, I can be shallow, too). Next, I thought "well, I could loose few pounds if I worked on, but there is no way he could grow few inches for me..." right?
Anyway, I really found him quite boring after all, thanks good this relationship didn't last too long.... javascript:smilie('') | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 6/6/2007 6:23:49 PM | I say the same thing Funnygirl. I only have one question that I won't answer and that's my weight. I don't lie about not being in shape but I don't feel the need to tell that nasty number either. Any other questions, bring them on. I'll answer them online or in Starbucks!
I've been asked lots of interesting questions....sexual likes/ dislikes/ preferences/ experiences, cupsize, foot size & shave vs. trim preference. And some of these were asked by men who were looking for 'friends'; friends with benefits maybe! | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 6/6/2007 8:15:07 PM | I've never been asked online, but in real life a few men have, well, not so much asked, but said something like, "So you weigh about XXX, right?" They've always been wrong, sometimes by as much as 20 pounds. That includes one guy who had already picked me up. (I mean in the lifting off the ground sense, not the other sense.)
OP, I think quite a few people (men and women) think the "Friends" designation is some kind of code or ploy. They think you're actually looking for someone to date, but don't want to say it. So that's why they're interested in a physical description. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 6/6/2007 8:28:06 PM | | Ya well lots of people lie about it and post out of date pictures/information. To the point that now I am gonna have to ask "is that really you NOW and how do you define your body type?". | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 6/6/2007 10:24:30 PM | | I know that since I'm on the fluffy side, that turns off some men. But I'm not all that picky about body type myself. As long as the guy isn't a total couch potato and will actually get up and do things with me outside of the house, it's fine with me if he's overweight. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 6/10/2007 9:55:26 PM | | If they care so much about weight and not the actual person for what's inside then you should pass them right by cause if they don't want you for you it's not worth it. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 6/10/2007 10:16:15 PM | yes I have been asked, cup size, weight and the whole nine yards, before ever speaking to them or before I have expressed an interest in them....and I just think,,, some guys that think they are hot dont have a clear picture of who they are... like this guy with ears like dumbo, a big nose, a unibrow and the personality of a dialtone, thinks because he works out , that it will make up for the fact that he is a jerk....and that somehow I am as shallow as he is, that I will love him right off the bat. Should ugly or stupid people be required to state that in their profile??? Have you ever read a profile where the person said that they were extremly good looking? and were not even close? I am pretty sure that most people think they are attractive and not everyone is... so.. there are lots of people living in denial...
Then, as we age, the looks fade and if you dont have anything else to fall back on, you are up the creek... with no paddle.
If you are on here for friends, just remind the people that your weight is none of their business, and block them.. Shallow people that feel weight is so much more important, than brains, or personality, and deserve what they get...
sometimes people have to be reminded of facts like.. we are all goind to get old, we will all die, and we dont know when or how...money doesnt mean you are a better, happier person, and if they want to hold out for the perfect model,, then more power to them.
there are POF in the sea, no need to let one or two hurt your feelings.. or cause concern...
BL | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 6/11/2007 9:43:52 AM | I get asked this question as well ....I find it pretty offensive and rude. the last guy said "well I cant see your lower half".....LOL. I told him there was nothing wrong with my lower half and provided him my dress size.
I also get the bra size....drives me crazy but it seems to be part of the norm around this site.
I got a list of sex questions today, pretty offensive, so wont be meeting that fishy for coffee anytime soon. | |
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| Who here has been asked about his/her weight?
Posted: 6/11/2007 10:16:27 AM | Wow - I have never been asked anything about my body/cup size/weight. Sheeesh - I am missing out
OP - I don't understand why someone would be so concerned about your physical appearance when you are on here for friends??? What part of friends did he not understand?
Also wanted to comment that I really enjoyed reading your profile! | |
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