| | Would you keep seeing this guy?Page 3 of 9 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9) | Thank you all for your support and opinion. No, I no longer see him. I broke up with him already.
I just want to let you all know though. About the red flags, it is easier being said than done. I didn't see the red flags all in day one. They came to me one at a time during the 4 months period. Looking back, these accumulation of red flags, had I saw them on day one, of course I wouldn't even hesitate. Just like one of you said: "Are you kidding me"??
So, please don't discredit me of keeping seeing him although I knew the red flags. I didn't see them all at one. You do though. Because I gave them to you all at once. Anyway, he and I are history. And I am so glad that we are history :)
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Posted: 5/21/2007 12:42:24 PM | No, I would not. As soon as I saw personality disorder -- undefined...I went "Ohhhhh." Please stay away from him....persons with personality disorders are untreatable. Oftentimes, they have no conscience. He is trouble with a capital "T."
Edit: Ah, I am so relieved you guys are no longer together. You made a good decision. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 4:42:11 PM | I really don't know why you feel the need to ask the question. Sounds pretty obvious to me. Why would you want someone like that in your life? He sounds like nothing but TROUBLE. T-R-O-U-B-L-E. Trouble.
Tell him "Ciao" and find someone who will be better for you.
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Posted: 5/21/2007 4:49:48 PM | OP, sounds like the dating gene pool in your area needs to have the plug pulled and refilled. Did any of this not jump out and bite you on the nose as you were typing it? Gets drunk, angry has black-outs and has a gun? What a recipe for disaster. I hope you don't end up on the 11:00 news.
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Posted: 5/21/2007 5:04:32 PM | | What bothers me the most is the fact that hes an alcoholic church goer...do you realize how contradicting that is???? The church thing is a cover up for all his past and FUTURE mistakes....sounds like the guy is a little messed up and doesnt really wanna change.Id be getting out of that relationship in a hurry. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 5:25:49 PM | It sounds like you MAY be in the "love is blind" stage when you potentially could be looking at this relationship/man through rose colored glasses. I'm glad that you shared your concerns on POF. I would have to say that the odds are AGAINST this relationship turning out successfully. Always remember that the more you see this man, the more you are investing emotionally in him. I am wondering if it would be better to "invest" in someone who doesn't have as much baggage and, therefore, has the potential to be there for you in ways that this man may not be. It also sounds like he has an anger problem (big red flag) and if that is coupled with poor impulse control it may be just a matter of time before he becomes abusive. Relationships are hard enough with two healthy people as it is--why complicate things and stack the odd against yourself? Also, the fact that you felt it was necessary to share you concerns on POF is a red flag to me. If the relationship was right you wouldn't be doubting and questioning it and asking others' opinions. If in doubt--don't! RUN and don't look back...there are POF as they say.
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Pucks
| | Joined: 10/14/2006
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Posted: 5/21/2007 5:30:15 PM | | Nope i wouldnt...Too much baggage, too many issues. This would equal too much stress and unhappinness IMO> | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 5:40:53 PM | | I wouldn't be dating this person. Sounds like the con's outweigh the pro's on this one. Seems as if he would be pegged with having some major issues that are not able to be corrected. My personal opinion on this would be that if someone is putting themselves into this situation they are asking for some mental, emotional and possibly physical abuse in the long run. | |
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Genrae
| | Joined: 11/10/2006
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Posted: 5/21/2007 6:38:46 PM | NO.
Since I'm not allowed to post a message "this short", I'll restate that the above is most definitely an emphatic "NO!" | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 6:45:50 PM | | He sounds like a nut and I sure wouldn`t want my kids around him.If you feel like walking on egg shells then keep on seeing him.Its not going to get better and he will not get better either. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 7:02:13 PM | He failed anger management, blacks out when drunk and carries a gun. Ha ha ha ha ha ha. And you don't know if you should keep seeing him????? HA HA HA HA HA
Ok, I see you later say in the thread that you dumped him. Thank goodness. Phew. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 7:21:39 PM | Run away from this person!!!!!!!!!!!!....seriousllyI would have ran before the 8th thing you said...if not sooner!
Yes there is good and bad to people...this guy's bad out weighs the good by far! | |
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Posted: 5/22/2007 10:20:19 AM | Like most posts here I would say a resounding NO! What I am curious about is why would you need a message board to validate this. If you are unsure enough to ask a poll of random strangers, does that not speak volumes.
Each to their own, and if you feel like taking a chance on this guy because you think you can 'fix' him, or you need that sort of guy in your life then that is your choice, but I think most sane women would be running by now! | |
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Posted: 5/22/2007 10:22:35 AM | HECK NO..run..run far..run fast..hell...driiiiiiiiiive, fly, boat, skate away quickly....
OH you did already...good girl..Now, go find your self a nice, relatively normal man.
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Posted: 5/22/2007 11:09:15 AM | "So, please don't discredit me of keeping seeing him although I knew the red flags. I didn't see them all at one. You do though. Because I gave them to you all at once".
Those "Red Flags" can either show up all at once or a one after another over a period of time-so very true! This is why it's so very imporatant to be aware & to allow yourself time in any sort of relationship. If you feel any sort of discomfort, then you must re-evaluate & ask yourself questions as to why you have allowed yourself to get involved with this person.
Communication is key. Do the actions match the words? Sometimes, what a person thinks to be "Red Flags", was nothing to be concerned about. However, there's no harm in asking questions. Be watchful on how the other person reacts to your queries. You'll gain a better understanding of the situation & how you must handle yourself.
"Anyway, he and I are history. And I am so glad that we are history :)"
With that being said, one could say: "Whew! That was close"!
Be careful out there! Have fun & "Swim Safe"!  | |
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Posted: 5/22/2007 11:22:55 AM |
He carries gun. And put it on his night stand.
Couldnt pay me to date this guy.
Clearly he has problems and the last thing I would want to do is date someone with anger management issues that carries a gun. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2007 11:29:19 AM | | What do you care about what other girls think? You are dating him...not other girls. You need to make up your on mind. Do you need other girls to tell you what to eat? Or what to wear? Or where to go? What hobbies to have? Or how to have a good time? | |
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