niita
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/13/2009 4:55:33 PM | i am here to beleive there is someone you can actualy except me as whom i am and treat me with respect. im starting to loose the faith as everytime i find someone i think may have a match turns out dodgie ive been on this site for 2 years meet numerous ppl and only had 3 responses i could actualy say may lead somewhere in the future. first guy was saying all there rit stuff wants a future takes me on a date 4 months later ... wanting something casual as he was spotted heeps of time findin other chicks on this dating site number 2 was okay said simualar but had issues with his past. and still thinks he can come door knocking for bootie then number 3 was really sweet and used the hole big thing about distance which he only lives 3 hours away. i dont mind driving either lol ... so my point is that i can stay on this site and wait around see if someone genuine is on here for a long term relationship and have heeps of fun geting to know the world! or give up seems like i feel the impossible is here as the only ppl in 2 years seem to want bootie call and a bunch of men who say one thing and do another!
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/13/2009 5:02:32 PM | | For me this site is an extra... I've had better luck meeting people in real life. Seems they have an interest in who I am a little more. I keep the profile because I love the forums, and yea maybe a bit of ...you never know.... | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/13/2009 5:34:43 PM | I don't know if what I am seeking is impossible or not. Is it impossible to think that somewhere in this big world there is someone who thinks ,even a little, like I do ?
Shares at least some of my ideas and hopes? God I hope so. I've learned not to jugde a book by it's cover and learned the hard way. Now I know that some of the most worn out , beat up, torn up books have the best stories ever told. I never set the bar higher than I can jump. (and being in a chair most days means I can't jump very high
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But hey I still belive in Santa so what does that say about me?  | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/13/2009 5:53:49 PM | | Looking for the impossible? yes, I guess I am. I guess that it is to much to ask for a man who has a job, and brings home the paycheck without spending it first on booze, drugs , toys for himself, etc. I guess it is to much to ask for a man who doesnt physically , mentally, and emotionally abuse you. I guess it is to much to ask for a man who doesnt take you for granted or cheat on you. Is it to much to ask that the person be at least reasonably attractive to you, not others, but you? Is this all really expecting the impossible? I guess so. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 8:02:06 PM | Not everyone thinks Ayn Rand is one of the great minds. She is and was a controversial figure. Further, I don't believe in blindly idolizing any public figure. I believe in reading critically, and thinking things over carefully.
I read 'Atlas Shrugged', and it was an interesting story, but I actually found the writing itself, hackneyed and full of cliches. The philosophy of objectivism has been analyzed, criticized and discussed for many many years. I find it overly simplistic and self-serving; it speaks to a lot of Rand's personal dislikes, and I think gives very impractical solutions for the problems she saw.
Do we seek the impossible? I think quite a few of us do. I think having necessary 'traits' and 'qualities' in mind is a very, very poor way to go about finding a partner. Too many times, the things we seek are so superficial, so situational, that I think they actually stand in the way of finding a partner.
I think we are really fooling ourselves if we think that the key to a successful relationship is finding a person with certain traits.
It in a way reminds me of my friend who wanted to have 'The Perfect Dog!', so she bought a MAGIC book, called 'The Perfect Dog for You', and filled out all the little worksheets in the book about what she liked or didn't like in a dog.
We were talking with a dog trainer and he thought the book was a riot. They had a really ascerbic argument, and his point was basically this - 'Perfect dogs aren't born or picked, they are made'. Training, time spent bonding, going for walks....
Sounds really stupid to compare picking a dog to a relationship, but I think where it's exactly the same is that relationships are built out of work, not from picking the 'person with the right traits'.
I love the song from The Wedding Singer, that had a title of 'I Want to Grow Old With You'. The lyrics are nothing more than a long, long list of silly things he would do for her. They weren't such great big things, and they weren't dignified things - letting you hold the remote, lending you a coat when it's cold, holding your head when you drink too much and have to barf...LOL.
I think a good relationship is work. I think good relationships happen because two people agree to work. That's it. Very simple.
A good relationship doesn't EVER happen because Mary is 5'6'' instead of 5'4'', or because John has brown hair instead of blond hair. A good relationship happens because two people have a comittment to making it be a good relationship. | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:08:51 PM | In a way when I think to myself about this, it does seem like I am seeking the impossible. But then again, everyone does have that ideal match set in there head, but when it really comes down to it and you really start getting to know someone you are interested in and really start to hit it off and everything seems to fit in to place that one ideal match you had stuck in your mind will slowly drift away and will be replaced by the real ideal match, the one you now are talking to, going out with, and wanting to spend your time with.
So really what it comes down to is yes, most of us probably really do want the impossible, but when they meet the right one, or atleast someone they really want to be with, they will realise that what they were really looking for is right there with them.
Just my 25 cents. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 9:49:25 PM | I want someone who had as much to offer, not necessarily the same but... en-balance, as much. I don't expect more.
Besides what they have to offer... they will have flaws... and I'm confident I'm ready to handle that.
Doesn't sound impossible to me!!
It could happen tomorrow. I'm enjoying the wait. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 10:51:14 PM | | This does not apply this day and age. Today the meaning is lost on the supposed men of today. The wimpiness of the men of today make it a mute meaning. There are few real men out there today. | |
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niita
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Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 85 | |
| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/14/2009 2:11:34 AM | | i really beleive in what you just said i think something is lost with the mens way, good old beleifs of treating one how one wants to be treated. we have profiles and if only one would respect what each want.. and it does make you loose that faith when you continuosly get taken advantage off | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/14/2009 3:38:06 AM | Nothing is impossible ... seek and you shall find .. open your eyes and you will see .
that which you thought was impossible is now possible .
i havent found what i am seeking // but i will ,
The only problem will be when i do will i still want it .
Time stands still for no one . | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/14/2009 5:16:35 AM | When we seek people who fit a cookie cutter mold, we always limit ourselves. The point of any good relationship is to be challenged by our beliefs and grow individually and as a couple.
I seek an open mind, a big heart, a sense of wonder and adventure along with a bit of mutual physical attraction. It doesn’t seem impossible, just very difficult to find, especially online. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2009 6:26:58 PM | I don't find 'the men of today' 'wimpy'. I find a lot of variety among men. Some are less interested in hurting someone else, more interested in having everyone finish the evening out in one piece, less interested proving people wrong, and more interested in hearing what people have to say.
Is that wimpy? Then I like wimpy.
(RE, not finding a lot of people whose relationship would 'lead somewhere').
I think every relationship, whether it's just a friendship, or just a casual meeting, 'leads somewhere'. I don't want to say it gives one pleasure in that moment, because it makes it sound like I'm out for a quick...well...But yeah, every relationship DOES have a value and an importance. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2009 6:30:29 PM | | We all sag physically. I want someone who is growing spiritually. Those are the ones who shine from the inside out :-) | |
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Posted: 1/26/2009 8:27:27 PM | | I used to worry about being unrealistic, and that maybe I should lower my expectations, but I really don't think that's necessary anymore. I would say it's far more dangerous to think that way - to lower your expectations, have a mindset that you're going to settle, find a person to "settle" with. I think you'll just become even more disappointed with them later, and cause the two of you grief and heartache. When it feels right, it won't feel like settling. You'll feel lucky to have met that person (which doesn't mean you will be blind to faults...you should be able to see some faults, and still feel lucky to know them and be with them). It might take a while to see someone's faults, and even to get annoyed with them, but hopefully you'll still count yourself lucky to have met them. | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/26/2009 8:52:14 PM | I dont think so.
No mental problems, ( or getting help) Reasonably attractive, ( to me, i dont give a S*** what other people think of the girl i'm with. ) Not a golddigger, ( since i dont have gold ) honest, faithful ( when in an accepted exclusive relationship ) and willing and able to forgive my mistakes.
Is that impossible?? | |
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Posted: 1/26/2009 9:02:37 PM | I am Ken... the Asian short and pudgy version.
Yes, I have an ideal.
Same ideal I have for my career. I would like to earn a million one day, but if I don't achieve it, it's still ok.
Aim high but be grounded in reality.
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Posted: 1/26/2009 9:11:08 PM | Quick question
Dagny Taggert
Is that the guy from Atlas Shrugged?
Yes, I am looking for the impossible. I've found it once. I can find it again.
My Dagny is a woman (huhduurrrr). She is absolutely stunningly beautiful. She is the center of a room and the heart of any party. She is an advice giver and supplies a hug that makes everything bad go away. She is almost always right, but has a way of breaking it to you in an inclusive way. She enjoys the finer things in life and I happen to be one of them and I just can't believe it.
Yeah... nvm, I just read that. She doesn't exist :P | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/28/2009 4:45:48 AM | Yes I am seeking the impossible here in POF, a decent man who is looking for woman to be his mate on this journey of life . He is like a needle in a haystocks . | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/28/2009 4:57:33 AM | Hi OP,good post by the way,there is nothing wrong with having dreams of,and hoping to find the perfect person for you just as long as its mixed with a little realism too.
No one is perfect in every way and no one likes to be put on a pedestal too so as in most things in life its finding the right balance.Dreams with a touch of Realism,a good balance.
I hope you find what you are looking for.best wishes.
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Posted: 1/28/2009 5:20:01 AM |
How many of us are seeking the impossible, looking for someone who doesn't exist, etc?
If by this question do you mean am I looking for someone who is actually emotionally sound and not "broken" to some extent? Someone who can actually conduct a relationship in a mature manner, give what they get - and is basically normal?
Yes, it would seem that IS an impossibility. | |
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Posted: 1/28/2009 5:36:22 AM | .......................................................................................................................................
Are you seeking the impossible?
So, I went and typed "TheImpossible" in and searched .. nothing.. Thought about changing my own user name to .. yeah - TheImpossible, just to be funny - decided to put a joke in the joke thread instead.
Seeking the impossible?? nope = seeking my Best Friend, partner, .. a man who's grown up and not asceered of or angry at women in general. I am 'fussy' - ie: I have preferences - I know what I want and what I dont want = # 1 is an open, available heart.
btw - to the guy who thinks "None" of us "Womens" will even give a "short, bald fat guy a chance" - Wrong!!
Did you ever look around and see who IS in a Relationship?? I'm not talking those late night last call "soulmates"!! I'm talking about people who are in Long Term, committed relationships. I have. The Majority of those who are those happy, loving partnerships are not the Kens and Barbies of the world.
The ONLY place where Barbie and Ken are "real" is on TV and in cheap magazines. I prefer someone who, when they open their mouth; doesn't make me roll my eyes ..  | |
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Posted: 1/28/2009 6:38:29 AM | | I am so guilty of this.. at least I think I am.. I am a die hard smoker (clove anyone) and before i get flamed and told to quit (seen someone tell OP that) I like smoking.. so one of the first things I look for is do they smoke? I like gaming thats the second thing (hard to find it seems then smokers lol) If all they talk about is how active they are I run.. lol I dont look for ken cuz I dont think ken can fill the needs that i have (unless there is a punkrock goth ken i dont know about) and something else that seems to tug at the back of my mind.. do we seek this impossible mate becuase some part of us (our mind) needs to have that exit avalible to us if we want to run? Kind of a safety net of sorts?? | |
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Posted: 1/28/2009 7:47:10 AM | Seeking the impossible? why no.....what would come of that?
If I 'seek' anything......it is the 'possible', or 'within reason' at the very least.
although, that seems like the impossible
hey...waitaminit!!!
so maybe I am seeking the impossible...hmmmmm
damnn these trick questions
OK...more coffee
Kimbo********************************* | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/28/2009 11:41:14 AM | After my last relationship (seven years ago), I decided to draw up a list of 108 qualities that a woman must have in order for me to consider a relationship with them. The qualities included everything from hair color and body type to personality and interests. Of course, the main reason I did this was actually to prevent myself from going out with anyone so I could spend some time to work on myself - figure out who I am and what really matters in life, etc.
What I've concluded is that everyone is only different on the surface and the surface of person is of absolutely no importance. When I say "surface" I don't mean looks, I mean their personality, looks are obvious. Everyone has qualities that are similar to others and everyone has qualities that are different from others, but all of these qualities are meaningless in any kind of relationship. What is important, I've found, is what's at the core of every person, in the heart of every person. It is here that we are all the same. This is why even God Himself said, as was recorded in the bible, that should a man (being dominant at the time) find a woman attractive and desire her for himself, let him marry her (which at the time was the act of sexual intercourse). God said this because everyone is, at the core, the same. So what other factor is there in choosing a mate than physical looks? Why go out with someone you are not attracted to if they are essentially the same as someone you are attracted to?
So many people nowadays are so concerned with individuality. That's nice and all - you know, to have certain preferences and opinions on certain subjects. But too many people make this out to be more important than it is. So what if their political views are different than yours? So what if they like different kinds of movies than you? So what if they like the company of animals and you don't? If that's the kind of stuff you're worried about, then you have a lot to learn, my friend. Although, I used to be the same way. I can't deny that fact.
So in all honesty, I'm not looking for Mrs. Right. I'm looking for a beautiful woman whom I will choose to love regardless of who she thinks she is, because I know who I am, and I know who all are, because all people are the same. Of course, I don't doubt that many women would break up with me for this very reason alone. Especially, those who love drama (which nowadays are generally the more beautiful women). Because I won't provide drama. I won't provide romance. I won't be part of an emotional roller coaster. And that, for some reason, turns a lot of women off, I've noticed. Too many people are too addicted to their emotions to evolve above them. It's too bad. | |
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