| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/28/2009 11:54:25 AM | | Yeah, I was chasing the fantasy and the fairy-tale there for awhile. Now I'm always asking myself "how much of a relationship do I REALLY even WANT?" A part-time thing seems to work, with a career-woman who merely wants to hook up a few times a week for some cuddling and sex. | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/28/2009 11:58:01 AM | | Some women on dating sites do have unrealistic expectations. They have a long list of strict requirements that very few men match. The men that do match these requirements are most likely already taken. Or if they are single, there is probably a lot of competition for these men. Same thing applies when the gender roles are reversed. | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/28/2009 1:48:24 PM | Are you looking for a man who thinks like a woman, empathizes like a woman, understand what women are and what they want? You are looking for something that practically does not exist. Men canNOT read minds. They need us to tell them explicitly what we think, what we want, what we need.
No, I too have come to the realization that this does not exist. However, good manners is not male or female. Life experiences that enable one to laugh at themselves is not male or female. Some things are not male or female and each of us is looking for that person that is on a similar wavelength - mentally, emotionally and sexually.
Eventually people who see each other alot will annoy one another. Big deal, it's like family. Unless these annoyances are really really bad, it's part and parcel of the person. I don't know of one couple who doesn't think their spouse has faults, some bad habits, different opinions etc.
They have a long list of strict requirements that very few men match.
I guess the only time these are acceptable is when the woman meets the same requirements. The old I can expect what I can offer. | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/28/2009 1:51:30 PM | | No I am not. I'm seeking someone who is similar to myself in education, maturity, looks, etc. And I have even found men acceptable and desireable who actually had less to offer than myself only to have them not want me like I was not good enough. LOL I got over them real fast. WHAT I DO SEE IS THAT A 6 WANTS AND 8 AND AN 8 WANTS A 10 SO PEOPLE OFTEN WANT UPGRADES LOL. Which .... can often be ..... impossible | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/28/2009 1:52:32 PM | | Interesting ... see my thread ... friends with benefits. Seems that is what most people want .. and can I say men or are women out there like that too and I just don't know many like that? | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/28/2009 1:54:28 PM | ^^^A FWB situation is not satisfying for me. I want someone where we can talk to each other daily, hug each other daily, be there to listen to each other.
A FWB situation seems so empty to me. | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/28/2009 3:12:44 PM |
Interesting ... see my thread ... friends with benefits. Seems that is what most people want .. and can I say men or are women out there like that too and I just don't know many like that?
HUH? Since when?? I've never been approached for that particular situation, nor has it happened to me. Maybe I'm lucky or maybe this is a HUGE over-generalization???
Are you seeking the impossible?
Nope, I'm just hoping for something in the semi-abnormal to normal range.  | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 1/28/2009 3:19:48 PM | A little left of center will work just right for me, and always has...... 
OT.......I dream the impossible........but.......I seek reality.......  
Just my opinion........   | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 2/2/2009 1:26:21 AM | I think if you already know exactly what you want, then chances are you aren't ever going to find the one person in the world with all the qualities that you're looking for. On top of that, most times you probably end up passing by some good people in the process. All in all, how do you really know what you want, until you have it? | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 2/2/2009 5:47:59 AM |
"how much of a relationship do I REALLY even WANT?"
Of course...good question kpooks
and...it really should be the starting point every single one asks themselves
before they 'assume' what they need.
you know, what you 'think' you need
\and what you really need are never, ever the same thing.
regards,
Kimbo ********************************** | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 2/2/2009 11:17:32 PM | im seeking honesty,trust,respect and loyalty.and someone that i find attractive(to my eyes only)
i dont find thats seeking the impossible | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 2/3/2009 1:39:22 AM | | I DO AGREE..MOST WOMEN ON HERE ARE LOOKING FOR SOMETHING THAT IS NOT HERE ...MAYBE IT'S IN A BOOK SOMEWHERE..EVERYONE ON HERE IS HUMAN,NOT PERFECT...BESIDES YOU CAN NOT LOOK AT MY PICTURE AND KNOW ME..THERE IS SO MUCH MORE ..AS THERE IS TO YOU ..WELL I STARTED BY SAYING MOST WOMEN..WELL LET ME ADD..I AM SURE SOME OF THE MEN THINK THEY ARE ALL THAT AND A BAG OF CHIPS. ALSO.YOUR NOT ..HAVE A NICE DAY | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 2/3/2009 1:45:02 AM |
I DO AGREE..MOST WOMEN ON HERE ARE LOOKING FOR SOMETHING THAT IS NOT HERE ...MAYBE IT'S IN A BOOK SOMEWHERE..EVERYONE ON HERE IS HUMAN,NOT PERFECT...BESIDES YOU CAN NOT LOOK AT MY PICTURE AND KNOW ME..THERE IS SO MUCH MORE ..AS THERE IS TO YOU ..WELL I STARTED BY SAYING MOST WOMEN..WELL LET ME ADD..I AM SURE SOME OF THE MEN THINK THEY ARE ALL THAT AND A BAG OF CHIPS. ALSO.YOUR NOT ..HAVE A NICE DAY
I know most women don't like angry guys ... | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 2/3/2009 1:58:36 AM | | I AM NOT ANGRY..JUST DO NOT UNDERSTAND MAYBE ..I THINK SOME JUDGE YOU BEFORE YOUR GIVEN A CHANCE..REALLY NOT ANGRY..JUST TRIED OF THE GAMES PEOPLE PLAY..LOOKING FOR ANSWERS..HAVE A NICE DAY | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 2/3/2009 2:08:31 AM | | jmsmcswn..when you write in CAPS you come accross as shouting. We're all seeking something, this something may appear to others as impossible but it's what makes us comfortable with that person... | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 2/3/2009 2:14:40 AM | | sorry,just easier to see not young any more..i hope everyone finds what they are looking for ..even me ..but some seek perfection ..it seems ..sorry you thought i was shouting ..i am so easy going ...have a lovely day.. | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 2/3/2009 4:43:35 AM |
I am pretty sure I have conversed with over a thousand women in that time, and 990 give or take a couple were eliminated from consideration by one of the first 4 questions. I never waivered in my decision to not accept less than the answers I was looking for.
you're kiddin' me, right dude? I mean, a thousand woman....and guys on here can't even get one email????
HelI, I didn't even think there were that many women in the woods in all of Pennsylvania....but, if there are.....could you teach me how to bait a hook like you are doin' with that big asss worm there????.....then, I ki'n git somma those wimmmins too.....
funny stuff
aKimBO****************************** | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 2/3/2009 5:32:27 AM | I don't think people are seeking the impossible as much as they are seeking ideal, or even perfect...for them.
I've noticed, at least for myself, since I've re-entered the dating field, is that I have certain things I'm looking for and I'm not willing to settle for less. Why should I? LOL
But in all honesty, it all comes down to communication. Puttin your needs and desires out there. And if it takes mind reading, or an owner's manual, to figure out a person's mind then that might not be the person for you. | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 2/3/2009 5:48:31 AM | I would think it is safe to say that everyone has their ideal mate in mind and there is nothing wrong with that however where the real problem comes in is when they start looking specificly for that person and not allowing room from adjustments and flaws...
Men and women both do this... I think most want someone thats reasonably attractive someone you have a chemistry with have good conversation has morals manners and goals in life, self respect and respect for others.. is compassionate, empathetic, kind hearted but not a door mat, hard worker, loving romantic and most of all sane!
Everyone has flaws and I allow for that to some degree but, that is a big gray area and varries dependng on the person and the flaw...I think too many people go by the pics rather than the bio and not everyone looks good in pics. The ones that get me are the ones who bullshit and say one thing and mean another... for once I wish there was one man who could state what exactly it is he wants and not play games and beat around the bush about it... Lately I have not even recieved any mail from this site which makes me wonder what I'm doing wasting time on here ... | |
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| Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:48:00 AM | I like the description by Incubbus (btw Dagny Taggart was the female lead in Atlas Shrugged. I always wanted to be Dagny) and still-intact.
I like to think that I'm not so much looking (although I do actively search and make first contact), as putting out to the universe who I am and what I want and then try to be open to seeing/receiving what is provided. | |
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