| | Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?Page 11 of 12 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12) | | It depends on the strip club. Some are more lenient about what you are allowed to do. Lap dance imo is not cheating...going to the VIP room, that's a different story. | |
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| Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?
Posted: 5/5/2012 2:18:58 PM | Of course its cheating, its emotional cheating, and cheating is cheating
Im sure if the guy who thinks its not, if he had a girlfriend,wife , fiancee or common in law partner and he walked in and found a naked guy lap dancing with his girl even though she had her clothes he would hit the roof and the guy. | |
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| Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?
Posted: 5/5/2012 5:07:09 PM | Depends on the partner. If your partner thinks it's cheating, then it's cheating. If your partner doesn't think it's cheating, then it's not cheating.
I've seen couples go to the strip club together, and from the look of it, they enjoyed themselves, so it's not really cut and dry. | |
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rbk183
| | Joined: 5/1/2012
Msg: 255 | |
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| Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?
Posted: 5/5/2012 5:34:54 PM | Perhaps more realistic questions would be, would you find it offensive, upsetting, or a deal breaker if your partner got a lap dance from a stripper with, or without you knowledge?
Or perhaps better still, how would you feel about it, or react to it, rather than loading the original question with specified parameters? | |
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jmark4
| | Joined: 7/3/2011
Msg: 257 | |
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| Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?
Posted: 5/5/2012 6:41:38 PM | No, I do not see this as cheating nor do I see an issue with it. But if he goes to the strip club every weekend or always asks for the same girl or is keeping it a secret from me then that becomes an issue but not quit cheating.
Now, if they started grabing her lady lumps or they were making out or going further then yes that would be cheating. But just her danceing on him and his hands staying staying off her lady lumps I don't care about. | |
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soicat
| | Joined: 3/3/2010
Msg: 263 | |
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| Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?
Posted: 5/6/2012 6:46:47 PM | | I think that it holds the same equivalance as cheating. When you're in a committed relationship; you should have no reason for being at a strip club or doing anything that goes against the relationship or that displays disloyalty. | |
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| Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?
Posted: 5/7/2012 5:44:54 AM |
of course; why is this even a question? lap dances are sexual aren't they?
if a person wants lap dances i guarantee you there is more to it.
Exactly! You are paying another woman to dance naked on your lap (and if your in Quebec, well...dancing isn't what we would call it.).
If you were to come home and find your spouse on the couch with a naked woman on their lap gringing against them, would that be cheating? Of course it would. Just because it's being done at a strip joint doesn't change the act and walking into a strip joint doesn't give you a free pass to be an arsehole. My rule is never do anything without your spouse that you wouldn't do with your spouse. | |
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| Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?
Posted: 5/7/2012 8:20:26 AM | and if your in Quebec, well...dancing isn't what we would call it
Haha, c pu juste rendu d'la danse quand la fille en string se tortille sur ton dard, n'est-ce pas? Mais bon ya du monde qui ont une vision spéciale sur ce que constitue tromper qqun...
For a couple bucks more than admission price, the "dancers" in Quebec can do a LOT more....
There are still some who refuse, I know because I know some, but they are more the exception than the rule.
If you were to come home and find your spouse on the couch with a naked woman on their lap gringing against them, would that be cheating? Of course it would. Just because it's being done at a strip joint doesn't change the act and walking into a strip joint doesn't give you a free pass to be an arsehole. My rule is never do anything without your spouse that you wouldn't do with your spouse.
My thoughts exactly. | |
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| Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?
Posted: 5/7/2012 10:07:10 AM |
It depends on the strip club. Some are more lenient about what you are allowed to do. Lap dance imo is not cheating...going to the VIP room, that's a different story.
What do you think actually happens in those rooms?
Seriously, guys, try actually talking to strippers about what they'll do for you in those rooms. You'll be surprised how little they actually do.
Most times, VIP rooms are more lenient on touching (but only above the waist)
You have to understand, if the stripper has sex with you or anything, the club owner goes to jail with her if she gets caught. The club owners tend to be very aggressive towards not letting stuff happen, that's why for every dance, no matter where it is in that club, you're being watched on camera.
Now, if you're in a country where prostitution is legal, then there can be some room for something to happen, but in the US (and even Nevada), it's illegal for a stripper to do anything that's actually considered sexual contact with you, and almost every time, she WILL be fired for it (the exception are club owners who are using the club for prostitution) | |
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| Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?
Posted: 5/7/2012 10:10:10 AM |
Now, if you're in a country where prostitution is legal, then there can be some room for something to happen, but in the US (and even Nevada),
Oh, it's illegal in Quebec too. But since everyone from Politicians to Cops to the common man is getting some............................................
Get the idea?
They always get fired, but odly enough no charges are pressed, and they mysteriously get re-hired a couple days latter....LOL
I'm sure the same happens in the States, only it's more subtle than you think. I used to think it never happenned, that's until I met certain types of people who introduced me to a world I have no intention of getting back into. But it happens. | |
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| Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?
Posted: 5/7/2012 10:14:50 AM | idk, i guess canada realizes there's bigger problems.
But even still, it's nowhere near as widespread as people are making it seem. There's always a club that you'll get something out of. Just to the majority of strippers out there, it's just a job, they're NOT going to put out for you, they're just going to convince you that they are, empty your bank account, then move onto the next person. | |
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| Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?
Posted: 5/7/2012 10:23:08 AM |
Oh, it's illegal in Quebec too. But since everyone from Politicians to Cops to the common man is getting some............................................
Get the idea?
They always get fired, but odly enough no charges are pressed, and they mysteriously get re-hired a couple days latter....LOL
I'm sure the same happens in the States, only it's more subtle than you think. I used to think it never happenned, that's until I met certain types of people who introduced me to a world I have no intention of getting back into. But it happens.
exactly! My Sister was a stripper so believe you me I know what goes on behind the scenes. You can even find strip joints here that have condom sucking machines...for when you are done. It's nasty. And when woman go to the strip joint it's even more crazy! They are pulled up on stage, danced with and walk away with the mans handprints all over their chest and arse. I'm sure you guys would love to see your woman come home with a mans handprint on her breast... | |
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| Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?
Posted: 5/7/2012 10:35:48 AM | In Canada, sex worker is a legitimate claim on income tax...
dont' know about Quebec... ya'll are kinda like the New York of America, think the rest of the country's full of inbreds.
Some men go to strip clubs, others don't. I think it's important for a person to decide whether or not she's willing to tolerate it from the get go. Yeah, but, it's not all stripping... so, me personally, I used to be okay with it, but now I'm too jaded and jealous to tolerate it. | |
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| Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating?
Posted: 5/10/2012 5:59:22 AM |
I think that it holds the same equivalance as cheating. When you're in a committed relationship; you should have no reason for being at a strip club or doing anything that goes against the relationship or that displays disloyalty
How is that any different than looking at someone on the beach, or watching movies with nudity in them? Everyone looks, if they are in a committed relationship or not. As for the dancing part, is it not ok for a woman to hug/get a hug from a male friend? Some people would say that is worse because there is an emotional connection there, where the women at strip clubs are putting on a show for money and there is no emotions to it.
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