EC22
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Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 28 | |
| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/22/2007 12:46:56 PM | | Maybe some men don't like eating out a woman or don't do it often just like women don't like giving BJs. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/22/2007 12:51:52 PM | the softer, the slower, the wetter the better...until it's about time to cum. then the faster,the harder the better. *hopefully my parents don't see this* lol | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/22/2007 1:13:54 PM | | Maybe he is licking the wrong hole , and that's his dry nose you're feeling? He may be sick if his nose isn't wet......................... | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/22/2007 3:32:40 PM | | I never had a complaint.....then again I had a good teacher when I was younger. Maybe you should learn how to teach ? Its not very hard to do, I never had a problem getting a woman off !! | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 7:03:35 AM | hmmmm... dont we all salivate when we have something yummy in our mouths?  i'd definitely be concerned if his tongue was dry, i'd be thinking he really wasnt enjoying himself or i tasted awful or something.
OP, have you been faking your orgasms with him? unfortunately women make this mistake all the time. they fake their orgasms, then complain that the man doesnt know how to satisfy them. uhm. if you (essentially) tell them they're doing you right, why the f'ck would they change it? if you fake your orgasms the man thinks he's doing it right... and will never get better. and if you've been faking your orgasms, good luck in teaching him anything now. it would be kinda awkward, i think, to tell a guy "i was faking it before. you're doing it wrong, so please do it this way."
if you've been honest in your lack of orgasms, and he has no interest in getting you there, dump him. he's a selfish cad.
if you've been faking your orgasms, too late now to do anything about it. dump him.
unless he's a superbly wonderful man. then hang your head in shame and be prepared to soothe his hurt ego when you tell him you've been faking.
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just like women don't like giving BJs. hey man.dont generalize. i happen to love sucking c'ck. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 7:22:37 AM | | I have to agree with a lot of the posters here. Each person is dififerent, the key here again is communication. You and your man need to talk more about it. One person I know likes it hard and fast the other slow and soft, and D like it slow and soft at first then hard and fast toward the end. You guys need to learn each others signs of what each other likes. | |
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njm777
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Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 36 | |
| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 7:35:29 AM | | Dry??? I think that goes agains all "normal" eating habits. I mean Im not a woman, so far be it from me to think I know what feels the best to you, but dry? I know when Im on the recieving end ( hard to believe I know, but the generostiy of women always baffles me) I like it sloppy and wet. If it were dry I might get road rash. Maybe the "men" your with are missing some key ingrediants. Like; Passion, and sensuality. And yes comunication is key. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 7:46:33 AM | I do not believe this is the case since every girl I have been with told me how great I was doing it but if you really think men can't do it properly then I guess this leaves you to try with women who are known to be born already possessing this great ability of knowing what every other girl on the planet personally likes without being told anything.
I don't really think men are the problem, if you are analyzing the level of moisture instead of focusing on your own pleasure then there is definitely something wrong and it is most probably happening in the upper part of your body, not the middle one. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 8:22:47 AM | | It all comes down to communication. A good communicator makes a good lover. Moods change, desires change from day to day. One day a woman just wants to be cuddled and touched, another day she wants to be ravished. Giving head is much the same. What is her body telling you? Take your time warm her up. Is she wet when you genitally run your fingers over her love mound, is she swollen and ready, as you proceed does she pull her hips away from you - too intense to quickly, or does she thrust her hips towards you and lock her legs around your neck - your doing something right, keep it up. Does she moan and bit her lips, can you feel those little tremors, growing in intensity. A woman can tell you allot without saying a word, listen! As far as being to wet, your goal is to us her lubrication to bring her pleasure, if your not careful your saliva can take away from the sensation. But then again sex has never been clean. The most enjoyable sex is when both get off at the same time, talk about wet, we just laugh, clean up a little and start again. I loved going down on my ladies. Ken | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 9:34:44 AM | Smurfette, instead of critiquing, open your mouth and TALK to him! Us men LOOOOOOVE sex to be vocal, so just tell 'him' how! Sure, it's great when a partner just 'gets' you, and rings that bell magically on their own, but if he's a great guy, makes ya laugh and would be a good person to give you heart to, SAY SOMETHING! lol  | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 11:05:34 AM | | HMMM makes me glad i learned how to do this from a lesbian..LMAO but ive learned that some women like it one way and others dont its subjective from one woman to the next, one woman likes fingers while licking clit others like their nipples pinched while licking...bottom line is communication i usually try to start slow and gentle...and go from there when her legs clamp the sides of your head you know youre rockin! lmao grabbing a handful of your hair while pushing you down onto her clit is a good sign youre on the right track also lol as far as the dry tongue thing its impossible im not sloppy like a water fountain but come on our face is at a downward angle to hit the clit to begin with and well water flows down lol but also if a guy is doing it right the woman should get wetter anyways so maybe this wetness isnt all from the guys mouth eh???? | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 11:37:02 AM | | Sorry love I think you need to be in tune with what your body wants and not be afraid to tell your lover exactly where feels good...communication verbal and non verbal is the way to go girl lol | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 1:31:55 PM | | Person-lay I never called it giving me head when a guy licked me into heaven ... I thought guys where the only ones who got HEAD .. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 1:34:50 PM | | not that I have had any complaints heheh but remember we are not that bright we need to be guided....straight up tell us hey moron harder softer left right till we get it just perfect....so practice practice... | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 4:53:01 PM | I would agree with the "teach them" and suggest that can easily be done with the kiss... You kiss his mouth like its you and he'll catch a clue. Each woman I've known has had a different 'spot' , technique for manipulation, and desired presure when it came to stimulation that worked for her... and only recently did I figure out their kiss was a great clue as to how they liked my attention down there... try it. They'll like it! | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 4:55:04 PM | i change it to give tongue then or give mouth, satisfied?
Try give face...and your never gonna be satisfied because your you...a man bashing b1tch... | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 4:58:32 PM | | hmmm thats funny because as someone who gets really wet I always share the blame when the sheets are wet after a good oral session. Maybe the OP needs to just start asking for handjobs if she finds this disturbing. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 5:32:36 PM | I have always heard it called ... this guy ate me out ... cause its all about the tongue lips and all but then so is giving head.
usually when a girl dont feel confident with herself shes not comfortable enough to tell the person they are with what feels good to them and not . Hopefully you will learn to be comfortable with your body and how wonderful it can be .. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 8:00:23 PM | Take his head and guide him if you are not able to communicate in bed,.....as for being too wet,...I really didn't think that was a possibility when a man was preforming cunnilingus on his partner,.....here is a great website you might want to read and share with your partner:
http://www.sofeminine.co.uk/couple/pratiquesexe1/pratiquesexe11__menu=3&part=4.html
Here's How:
Clean yourself up! Make sure your hands are clean, and your nails are trimmed as you'll probably want to use your hands as well as your mouth on her. Shave your stubble—nothing kills the mood quite like sandpaper on her sensitive parts.
Get wet. Many men have preconceived notions about the taste and/or smell of their partner’s genitals. If you're anxious about this, suggest a romantic bath or shower together and then go down on her. Getting naked and wet with each other is never a bad idea, and as you get more comfortable you will probably find that your partners taste and smell trigger more arousal than anything else. Some people use flavored lubricants, and many dental dams (great for safer sex) are flavored also.
Start slowly. Most women won’t want to go from zero to oral sex in 30 seconds. Take your time and ease into it. Do other things you know she loves. Use your hands and mouth all over her body—which will nicely foreshadow what is to come. When she’s good and excited—her hips are thrusting and the moans pretty regular, head south.
Get comfortable. This will be different for everyone, but both of you will enjoy this more if you’re both comfortable. Use pillows and be creative with positioning so that you are both relaxed and feel like you can move around. Some people will find it hard on their neck to lie between their partners legs with their head poised over her vulva. For others this will work just great. Remember that it’s okay to change positions and move around.
Get the lay of the land. If you don’t have the body parts, you may want to brush up on your female genital anatomy . Most of the attention with cunnilingus is on the clitoris, but don’t forget the rest of her body. But every woman is different, and there may be other parts of her that will take oral sex from the everyday to the out of this world. Use your fingers to spread her lips and take a good look at her clitoris, her labia, her mons, her vagina, her perineum and her anus.
When in doubt, go slow. A lot of women have very sensitive clits, so don’t attack her vulva as if it were a juicy ripe peach. Flatten your tongue and use wide slow strokes to explore her inner and outer lips, her vagina, and her clitoris. Imagine licking an ice cream cone. Start at the perineum and lick up and around her clit and back down the other side.
Check the hood. Most women prefer to have their clitorises licked through the "clitoral hood." This is a fold of skin that covers the actual glans of the clitoris, which is extremely sensitive.
Experiment with different strokes. In general, women tend to like firm pressure and repetitive motion. Quick tongue flicks against the clitoris can be irritating. If you’re not sure, ask her to give you feedback while you try different kinds of strokes—circular, side-to-side, up-and-down. Don’t take it personally if she flinches—discovering what pleases is often a process of trial and error—just try something else.
Let her give you a hand. If you've ever seen her masturbate, you have some idea how she likes her clit to be touched. Ask her to show you now, or you can offer her your hand and ask her to demonstrate the kind of stroking she prefers by placing hers on top of yours.
Use your mouth. Take her clit in your mouth and gently suck on it. Use your mouth to suck on or nibble her labia.
Add penetration. When she’s good and excited, add some lubricant to your fingers or toy and gently insert it into her vagina. Move them in and out using short but firm strokes. Put your mouth back on her clitoris and lick her while you penetrate her. This won’t do it for all women, but many love the experience of clitoral stimulation and penetration.
Keep a steady pace, try not to stop. Women like steady stimulation, so don’t stop unless you need to come up for air. You’ll see the signs when she’s getting ready to go over the top—her moans, her thighs pressing against your head, her body arching, her hands tightening on your head! When the orgasm washes over you, she’ll let you know when to stop.
Tips:
Don't forget the rest of her body. In terms of what's nearby, you can incorporate the perineum and vaginal opening into your oral sex. Let your tongue travel down and pop in and out of the vagina occasionally.
If you are using a sex toy for penetration, she might prefer to work the dildo or vibrator inside her while you're licking. This allows you to concentrate, and her to get the rhythm she likes best.
If your mouth or tongue tires, give it a rest, but replace the stimulation with your hand or a vibrator (unless she wants a rest too).
It can take women longer to come than men, and many women are anxious about this. Whatever you do, don't make her feel bad about how long it's taking, and hang in there for the long haul. If you need to stop or change things up, that’s okay, but don’t make it about her “taking too long”. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/23/2007 8:06:29 PM | | umm you said give head properly do you mean give oral properly. now answer me this do you give head properly? if you cant do that good what makes you think you are going to get licked good? its a fair game i think.(hope that didnt offend you) o and girl get you a white man!!! i have nothing against the other race but damn white men know whats up.lol.but seriously if hes not doing it right then show him.show him what makes u feel good.dont tell him how to do it, i dont think guys like to be told what to do. if hes not lickin it right then say baby use less tounge or use more tounge.women know what they want!!! | |
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