| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/30/2007 1:30:54 PM | | maybe they just need someone to let them know-damn, if I'm not happy with the going's on, I'll happily give some suggestions. No one just magically knows what to do-they need to be taught! And no one is a better teacher for what you like than you! | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/31/2007 9:44:42 AM | if they can't do it properly its probably cus they don't want to, people who want to do it are the best; or people who want to please their partner wholeheartedly are good at it.
people who do it as a courtesy or to make sure they get theirs in return, those people suck at it | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/31/2007 9:57:22 AM | | My guess is because they are too HORNY, A for effort, trust me its nice that they are able to keep from busting long enough to warm you up...... i have found that the younger the guy the more KIBBLES N BITS they are, all they can think about is gettin er dun, and they are chemically driven to this... It takes age and experience to take the edge off the eagerness. it doesnt hurt to go for a guy whos favorite part of the female anatomy is not TNA but ****. p u s s y ask the question and ask what makes it their favorite..... my guess is you have bin dating guys who like tits... and yes that is how they would say it when asked............lol | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/31/2007 10:10:20 AM | Seriously i feel kinda sorry for both of you, poor guys getting beaten up by his girl on here and doesn't know he's doing wrong and your not getting an oral orgasm. It really is all in the communication though.
Make it fun, try to get your tongue to the exact wetness/dryness that you expect from him, then go down on his head and treat it as you want your clit treated, the right pressure, motion, lubrication the lot, then ask him to try to copy it exactly on you.
It'll be fun without making him feel to much like "t w a t" (Excus the pun) and hopefully getting you what you want the way you want it!
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/31/2007 12:42:14 PM |
"Why cant men never seem to go down properly?"
Man! Is this a loaded question or what!
Seems like a TROLL to me, but here goes anyway...
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First off, if ALL men don't do it 'right' for you, ever consider it's you and not them?
You are the only constant in each situation...
Secondly, Most guys have no idea in the world what they are doing because,
WOMEN IN THEIR LIVES NEVER TOOK THE TIME TO TEACH OR EXPLAIN HOW TO DO THINGS 'CORRECTLY'...
Third, No two women are the same, or usually even close from one to the next...
But I don't sleep around a lot, so maybe if the count were higher, the 'coincidence' factor would increase...
Some like hard and fast, some like slow light, some like beards or stubble, some don't like facial hair of any kind...
Some like anal play or vaginal play, 'G' spot included or excluded, some like for you to stay on track for the clit and go for broke...
As for the 'Saliva' comment,
Honey, most of that isn't saliva...
And if wet bothers you, have a towel handy.
Once you tell your guy what you like, you will be surprised how much he's going to enjoy doing what you want...
Knowing what you like and want is a good start. Lots of women are not, have never been, multi-orgasmac, so that's a pretty good sign they aren't real familiar with what does it for them...
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Personally, I have a thick head of hair and I'm not tender headed, so I prefer a woman to get a couple of hand full of hair and 'Show me the yellow brick road', so to speak...
DON'T PULL MY EARS! I'm halter broke, so you don't have to use hobbles on me!
Don't use fingernails unless someone asks for it! Anything you can reach with fingernails is tender and most of us won't feel it at the time, but don't care to be carved up!
Some pointers for women...
Men have to breath!!! I understand you all get excited, but give us a breather once in a while.
We're excited too, so oxygen doesn't last long for us and we will have to breath somewhat regularly...
Verbal direction is good for us since we are WAY too close to our work to see what's going on...
'Up/Down', 'Faster/Slower', 'Harder/Softer', 'Right There/Move over a little' goes a long way to getting us where you want us to go!
Cleanliness!
Anything/Everything is OK between CONSENTING adults,
BUT,
Running into something unpleasant (smells, tastes, ect.) is going to ruin it for most of us...
Not saying we won't go along with it, but the eagerness and 'Wow' factor may go way down.
If you are in doubt at all, baby wipes leave no lint/foul tastes/foul smells behind.
Also, I've never seen a guy that won't wait for you to take a quick shower, (Or help you take a shower!)...
(Getting some guys in the shower is a chore... and you do have the right to say, NO!)
Breath/Kissing afterwards...
Remember, if he didn't have bad breath before, it's not his fault!
(You may want to check into that... Odors can go by for months or years unnoticed by anyone but your lover...)
If you don't like to be kissed after a guy goes down on you, have a wash rag and maybe a mint or drink ready when he comes up...
Remember, this is YOUR preference, so make yourself comfortable so the evening/interlude can go on smoothly... Or you can complain about how no one 'Gets You' later...
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If you use scented or flavored douches, MAKE SURE THERE ISN'T A FOOD ALLERGY...
Food allergies are sudden, and worsened by the sexual excitement.
Explaining why your date with a food allergy to strawberries or coconut is dead in your bedroom can be a real task!
If he lives, it's hard for him to tell the doctor what happened when the hives are concentrated in his mouth and his airway is swollen most the way shut... | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 6/1/2007 8:06:22 PM | | Indianchop, you're a hard person to get a hold of due to mail settings. Would like to say hello, I'm Amy's mom. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 6/1/2007 10:40:58 PM | It's all about knowledge and knowing where all the sensitive areas are. I actually read up on this shit and take pride in knowing what Im doing.
Hey guys, take my advice, know how to please a women, and it makes it much better for you too.
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 9/27/2007 12:46:49 PM | | Giving good head is an art that requires practice. I've never had any complaints. Why don't you, and I, get together, and make some instructional videos to help educate everyone else with? | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 3/29/2008 5:03:48 AM | I think its a huge generalisation to state men cant give head properly, its like saying women cant give good blow jobs, some can some can't.
What I am amazed at is selfish men who only want to satisfy themselves. How on earth can they enjoy themselves if they know their partner isn't. Makes no sense to me.
My previous job meant I was around a lot of people who we're gay (men and women) and I was talking openly about sex to a lesbian and she stated its a myth lesbians are better at giving oral sex than men. She said before she came out as a lesbian she had a boyfriend who gave better oral sex than some of her lesbian partners. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 3/29/2008 5:35:24 AM | I think I'm a lesbian in a mans body, perhaps there is a business opportunity here doing motivational/instructional videos here visit my new website: http://the-master-of-munch.com for just four easy payments of $29.99 you to can learn to make her PU$$Y smile.  | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 3/29/2008 6:03:23 AM |
Maybe it's because you're not communicating properly with him about what pleases you... But I think it's because you're one of the wenches that just hates men. You did post in your profile under favorite activities "beer and making fun of men" Get your girlfriend to take care of you
So just because she likes making fun that makes her hate men? Isn't that quite a rough generalization? And imagine how many gaymen that must be walking on the street since men make fun of women just like that sometimes and most of us dont even notice it..... | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 3/29/2008 6:09:15 AM | | I have never been told I give bad head. It is an art some girls love doing it others wont even try. Its all in the throat just relax and turn your man on. Nothing better than watching a man enjoy a GREAT BJ | |
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Rob_SA
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Joined: 3/24/2008
Msg: 93 | |
| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 3/29/2008 6:48:10 PM | | Nothing beats spending quality time with a nice clean p u s s y. No clean p u s s y smells, it's the pubic hair that the odour clings to. So the solution should be obvious! :-) | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 3/29/2008 8:14:50 PM | rather its a woman sucking or a man licking ... it all comes down to rather they enjoy doing that deed or not or if they are good at it .. if they do enjoy they pay attention to their partner and can tell what that partner likes ...
If they don't enjoy doing said deed they will half A ss do the job and the partner can tell | |
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custis
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Joined: 3/16/2005
Msg: 96 | |
| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 3/29/2008 8:57:48 PM | | If she gives it, I am certainly not going to complain about it. Besides, once she is done blowing me I may be able to inspire her by showing her all the nasty little tricks I know when I go down on her. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 3/29/2008 9:59:12 PM | This is one of those questions that just doesn't have one simple answer.
some men/females don't have enough experience
not all people communicate and tell their lover what they like to have done to them
others don't want to do certain things, or do ' em a certain way that their lover would prefer.
if two really are into one another, they should research, thru books, chat, etc AND/or ask their partner (positively & gently).
there may be other historical issues that one may have (especially women) definately not their fault. IF you can't honestly resolve those issues, you'll have some decisions to make. Personally, I love pleasuring a woman, if she doesn't honestly enjoy pleasuring me at least some of the time, it's gonna be a problem for me.
I know it's not everybody's thing, but out of all my experiences there were only 2 lovers out of 15 that had no interest in loving my Southern state. Heeeheheheeee!
I think if you use your imagination, that is, "what would I like if I were her/him", most of the time you are not gonna be far from what she/he likes. If you honestly ask and she/he doesn't respond with what they want...then you've done nothing wrong.
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Joined: 7/31/2006
Msg: 98 | |
| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 4/11/2008 8:58:08 AM | | I just need people to know that I did not start this thread. The original OP was deleted and so my response is now at the top. It was probably obvious, but I just needed to let that be known. Thanks. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 4/11/2008 9:36:30 AM | "I just need people to know that I did not start this thread. The original OP was deleted and so my response is now at the top. It was probably obvious, but I just needed to let that be known. Thanks. "
...ok, noted!!!
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 4:46:34 PM | | Tally, you've just nailed it! I remember being so wound up that I'd rush in, fail miserably, and move on. I just wanted to get laid!!! Fortunately as you said age takes the edge off, lol. I for one, absolutely LOVE going down on a woman. That also makes a difference (men or women) because if you don't enjoy it, it won't be what it could be. I have made a point of learning what women like or don't like, and have used it to make me better. That and the fact that I enjoy it, has helped make me very good (I've been told) at pleasing a woman. Basically, I want to be down there so long that you'll have to forward my mail. If your guy isn't good at it, move on and hope he learns quickly! | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 5/6/2008 8:48:31 AM | | i dont know but i personally believe that women have been complaining that men dont listen to their needs, i think that a lot of women dont listen to what a guy says he likes. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 6/12/2008 9:01:43 PM | | Bottom line: If someone doesn't enjoy oral sex, he or she will never be good at it, no matter how much you "train" them. | |
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| why cant they give head properly?
Posted: 6/13/2008 2:23:18 AM | | I get the strange feeling that the OP's post was deleted, so it's difficult to answer the entire question. What's 'proper' varies from person to person; each woman I've been with has required a slightly different technique to come. Some people believe that there is only one correct way of doing something; I suppose that if every woman a guy was with enjoyed getting cunnilingus the same way, he might think he knows all he has to know, and if his next girlfriend can't come that way, then it was her problem, not his. This all might easily come from the 'confidence' that women find so attractive in men, while that very same 'confidence' comes from a very strong belief that what he knows is correct, even when in the face of evidence to the contrary. While us 'sensitive' guys (who women seem to despise) can easily adjust to someone else's preferences, it's pretty easy to imagine hearing something like, "I don't know what's wrong with you, all the other women come when I do that" coming out of the macho 'confident' guy's mouth. BTW, you don't have to like something to be good at it, and you don't have to be good at something to enjoy it. I'm great at math, but I hate it. I loved basketball, but no matter how much I practiced, there was always someone quicker, could jump higher, and had better aim than I did, seemingly with no practicing at all. | |
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