| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/6/2009 8:48:44 PM | I would prefer NOT to date someone who is seperated. Too much emotional stuff still going on. If I am going to enter into a relationship with someone I want them to be completely free of any past relationships. I have learned a hard lesson through several experiences in this area and my vote if for my guy to be completely free! | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/6/2009 9:02:04 PM | Separation often involves a whole lot of drama on both sides and I prefer not to have to listen to it from some guy. I also prefer that a guy is divorced for at least a year and maybe has already dated other women before me....I find it unrealistic to think that a man newly finishing a divorce is looking for a committed relationship; most need some time to figure out what just happened in their life and to enjoy their "singleness".
No, I would not date him... | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/11/2009 4:31:34 AM | To me, the key thing to look for is if the person has the desire to move on and has taken steps to do so. ~zekestone~
Hey Zeke, I would love to know...would you date a woman if she was still living under the same roof as her ex?
Can you really consider a person being "seperated" if they still live with their ex?
To me, the key thing to look for is if the person has the desire to move on and has taken steps ......
Good post... and for some reason, it made me think of my mother ~zekestone~
^^^^I dunno....for some reason I think this post should have made you think about your children....and the drama you put them through allowing your "potential" dates to call the house...but keep preaching....not sure where the choir went...but carry on... | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/11/2009 8:03:04 AM | I wont date someone who is seperated...
There is no excuse not to get divorced if thats what you both want.
Staying seperated for months become years. Then its a case of havent got the time cant be bothered. If you want a divorce you will sort out. If not divorced you are still classed as married even if you havent seen then in a long while.
Decide what you want from life then do it no inbetweens. Its not fair on the new person you date if you are still attached.
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/11/2009 7:02:02 PM | Don't do it!!!
My most recent ex had been seperated for 2 yrs!!! After 5 months of dating, he decided he was ready to finally get the divorce. When he told her, she freaked and suddenly couldn't bear living without him ever again. He went back. Seperation isn't final, it's just postponing something because the final decision hasn't truly been made yet. | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/11/2009 7:09:01 PM | No way. Recipe for trouble. Jealous boyfriends or husbands or whatever, not to mention who knows the motivation. Person who is separated could be using you to get back at the other person.
Run, do not walk, in the other direction. | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/11/2009 7:47:39 PM | | I will date someone that is separated as long as the divorce papers are filed. A lot of men who are separated will not list that on their profile; however, I have found it is better to know up front before going out rather than starting off with a "white lie" just to get a date. | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/12/2009 8:29:07 AM | Sorry but I am old school and beleive you are married until divorced. I find that many use the I am separated as a green light to see whats out there.
To me I find it very interesting that someone can be separated for years. Come on folks unless you are married to a millionaire etc there is no excuse for being separated for that long....
I dated someone once who I thought was divorced who turned out later to be separated for 4 years. 4 years, come on folks. I told her sorry but I can't see you as long as you're married. I am not much into the adultery thing. Sorry!!!
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/13/2009 6:37:19 PM | I would feel comfortable having a date or more with a woman who is seperated.
I am currently seperated. I initiated my seperation, and have been completely over my ex since months before I even packed my bags and left her. The only baggage I had from that relationship is what I've already unpacked three and a half months ago when I moved to my apartment :)
I am "single" in my mind, and I beleive likewise that another who is seperated (the one who initiated it at the very least) is datable material. I can learn about them and the "baggage" they still carry as we chat during our date. If nothing comes of the date and they still carry a flame for their ex, it will at least make for an interesting conversation that date! | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/13/2009 7:16:15 PM | When there is kids involved, a person is never really seperated or divorced from ex. I have been seperated for 3 years and have no plans on going back to ex. Divorce hasn't happened for many reasons, but not because I would go back.
I think it all depends on circumstances and person involved. My ex would be jealous divorced, seperated, or anything else. So, I guess I wouldn't hold that against another either. But, I know some have thought twice because of seperated status on my part. To each their own belief. But like the piece of paper in marriage, it is only as good as the people involve want to make it. | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/13/2009 7:22:31 PM | | I do not feel comfortable at all but for quite different reasons. I have found they are in quite a different place than I am . They are still dealing with lots of different emotions depending no matter which they are one who initiated or the one who was did not see it coming either way they are in a different stage emotionally than I am. I do understand but been there . So I would choose not to date someone separated or probably not even someone freshly divorced. I could be a friend to either but would be very upfront to that fact. | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/16/2009 4:41:06 AM | | absolutely! as long as a person is truly separated in body,mind, and spirit and is moving foreward with no intent to reconcile with the other person, my answer is yes!i have been separated for 2 yrs now and am finally going thru the divorice because of financial reasons. life goes on! | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/16/2009 4:46:50 AM |
I do not feel comfortable at all but for quite different reasons. I have found they are in quite a different place than I am . They are still dealing with lots of different emotions depending no matter which they are one who initiated or the one who was did not see it coming either way they are in a different stage emotionally than I am. I do understand but been there . So I would choose not to date someone separated or probably not even someone freshly divorced. I could be a friend to either but would be very upfront to that fact.
Right, my answers more along the lines of I would not.
I meet a lot of seperated women (listed as divorced) on this site.....a lot of them have husbands that will forcefully not sign the papers...why? Well, because they don't want their wife leaving them.
I was talking to a married friend about me possibly going out with a seperated woman, however, he gave it to me from a married man's point of view. He said, "I wouldn't want MY wife going out with another man" There's PLENTY of legit single women out there.
And if you tick off the wrong husband, you might your tires slashed or something. Esp if the divorce idea was not his. | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/17/2009 8:36:29 AM | i met a guy last year, fell hard for him....i thought things could have been good bc we seemed to have gotten along well...only problem is he still had is ex wife, not divorced yet, in his head....the whole time i thought me n him had something going on he was still talking to her n hoping to get back with her....i learnt from that experience to stay clear of any man that is not legally divorced and done with the ex....
i also think in all fairness, if someone still feels that they want to work things out with there partner, they should not bring anyone new into there life till they know what they want...its not fair for the other person.... | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/17/2009 6:29:34 PM | | No way! I did that once and she ended up getting abused by her estranged husband. I would never have put myself in a position like that had she been truthful with me. There is too much drama yet in separated peoples' lives to take on a relationship. No way I want to be just a rebound guy. | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/17/2009 10:42:48 PM | So much of it depends on how long they have been separated, and how long in the marriage before they have been separated. I know some people who have been married for years who may as well not even live in the same house where the separation was almost a nonevent by that point; but the ones who live in the same house for real who are separated would be a little tougher.
It depends on the person and the situation. Some are very ready to move on; others are in an emotionally bad place. | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/18/2009 8:59:09 AM | Baggage is having strings that are still attached from a previous experience that may bring negative vibes.
Being 'seperated' in a marriage to me is baggage and if you really think about the possible negative drama that could come along with that....an ex who is bitter and isn't giving the divorce, or lazziness on both parts to just file and get it done with, court dates to fight for entitlements etc... NO THANKS if I have no baggage then I don't want to date someone who does....I hate drama....I prefer clean cuts, fresh starts and new beginnings..... | |
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| Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 4/18/2009 4:00:22 PM | OP every situation isn't different like some are saying; it's not that hard.
Being separated means;
1. they are married
2. they have unfinished business
Do you want to risk them going back to their ex? Do you want to date a married person? This is a no brainer; I tell each one the same thing; I dont date people with unfinished business.
Separated means you are still married. | |
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