| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/6/2008 4:03:41 PM | spumoni spinoza
Singer James...how does one LOOK like a total ****? I want to try that!
I have alot of faves, but because I'm a serial dater, I give lots of chances. It's the second chance that is few & far between.
Next time you go out, pay attention to the beautiful late teens / early 20's girls and just copy the lifeless facial expressions of utter disgust and boredom that they wear like a badge of honor. I don't think it's possible to go outside and not see at least one beautiful girl that looks like a total bitçh. And if you go to any bar, I guarantee you'll see at least 10; at a club, I'd say at least 20. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/6/2008 4:26:54 PM | | sometimes, most times, but I give myself the confidence to work things out in steps by saying hi to her if I see her a lot, then once I'm comfortable with her and she is with me then I ask her for her number. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:56:41 PM | I was at a bar and walking to the bathroom when I actually heard a guy say "don't you wish you could get the nerve to talk to someone like her"? I was absolutely floored!
My first thought was of course they were talking about someone else, but looking around I was the only one close by and they were looking at me.
I am never approached in bars or out somewhere and I have never understood why. I don't think it is because I am pretty (to be honest guys most women have no clue, I know this because women I think are beautiful and compliment are surprised)
Each person has THEIR own version of what is beautiful and what is not.. Never let something keep you from talking to someone of interest. The worst someone can say is "no thanks" ... find what attracts you and odds are she is gonna respond.
It breaks a womans heart (at least in my opinion) to be the only one in a group of friends to not be approached... gives women a really big complex especially if they have low self esteem anyway!
I will walk up to any man I find attractive and let him know. Most times they are surprised and respond. If they don't then you just go on.
You will never know until you try.. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/6/2008 10:56:13 PM |
It breaks a womans heart (at least in my opinion) to be the only one in a group of friends to not be approached... gives women a really big complex especially if they have low self esteem anyway!
yes, it may be like this.
But good looking people don't really suffer from low self esteem in general, because they know the impact of their look. And some of them act like this (no matter wich gender and not always the nice way...). This may happen so often that you start seeing a link between the look and personality. I know such generalizations are wrong because it means to judge individuals by that and I try to avoid that.
Maybe it's human nature to put some "rules" together that helps to navigate through life without stopping at every little station pondering "Am I wrong or right now...?" I always tried not to have too many of them to keep my mind open. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/7/2008 12:11:42 AM | in this society, yes, but if it was known that women chose on character and not on worldly characteristics then her beauty wouldn't get in the way.
in societies where there is much wealth, the prettiest women get so much attention and things given to them in some ways, more guys after them and paying bigger bucks for dating, and so if a guy sizes her up and thinks he doesn't have enough money to deal with her then why bother.
now, i could spot the prettiest, but those aren't the ones that i'm attracted to. when that once in 5-10 yr woman presents herself i'll chase after her no matter what.
if you disagree, then fine, this is through what i've seen in life and experienced myself. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/7/2008 12:26:33 AM | | Honestly when I was single I didn't put a picture on my profile because when I did they only people who would talk to me were the "pretty boys" that I don't go for. When I took the picture down I started getting messages from guys who probably wouldn't grace the cover of GQ but who I found to be quite cute. The guy I'm dating now never even asked for a picture of me even though we messaged for about 2 weeks before we met up. When we did meet he told me straight out that if he'd known what I looked like he probably wouldn't have written me because he would have been intimidated by how I look and figured he wouldn't stand a chance. Now that boy is mine and I think he is the cutest one in the whole pond! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/7/2008 12:36:41 AM | | I just want to say though that being considered beautiful is not all it's cracked up to be. The part of your life that is affected the most I'd say is your relationships with other women. No one seems to want to make friend with the pretty girl. I have a friend that has been one of my best friends since we were 15 years old. Now back in the day when we became friends I still hadn't grown into my looks and we had a wonderful friendship. About the age of 19 though things changed. One day when I was 23 this girl who was one of my dearest friends looked me dead in the eye and told me that she didn't want to go out in public with me anymore because she resented me for being beautiful. I was crushed. You want to talk low self-esteem? Forget the fact that I was loyal, funny, caring and thoughtful because none of that mattered anymore. All that girl saw when she looked at me was a pretty face that was dragging her down. Harsh reality check. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/7/2008 12:56:04 AM | Part of being approached is looking approachable. I will approach when I am getting clear friendly eye contact and a smile.
Tonight I was filling up my bike at the gas station and this tanned brunette pulls up in a bad ass porsche 911 and gets out wearing a backless blouse. And she had nicely proportioned, but fake, breasts and a tight body. She was beautiful and she was hot. She looked expensive.
I had just come from the track and jogged a lap and was full of healthy endorphines. I tried to make pleasant eye contact. At least get a smile from her. But she was in too much of a rush and never looked my direction.
She was probably some rich dudes girlfriend and driving his 911.
That's the way it really goes. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:38:13 AM | I definitely don't even bother talking to a really attractive woman.
Experience has taught me - the majority of them are so full of themselves that even if they were to respond to a simple 'Hi' that it wouldn't be a friendly response.
I imagine that there might be some out there were this doesn't really apply, however I have no way of discerning the difference between the two different types. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:46:41 AM |
Next time you go out, pay attention to the beautiful late teens / early 20's girls and just copy the lifeless facial expressions of utter disgust and boredom that they wear like a badge of honor. I don't think it's possible to go outside and not see at least one beautiful girl that looks like a total bitçh. And if you go to any bar, I guarantee you'll see at least 10; at a club, I'd say at least 20.
HA! So true....I'd even say there might be more than 20 depending on the club and the atmosphere. Those women are absolutely hysterical to watch...I only hope I didn't look like that at that age. It looks annoying and exhausting to keep your face that way for hours...but they manage to do it without facial cramping! lmao
I will walk up to any man I find attractive and let him know. Most times they are surprised and respond. If they don't then you just go on.
You will never know until you try..
I do the same. Why not? It can't hurt anything to say hello, make small talk, admire their hotness and wish them a good night. If they're interested in you, they'll grab you before you walk away - or find you again before the night's over. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:32:15 AM |
Next time you go out, pay attention to the beautiful late teens / early 20's girls and just copy the lifeless facial expressions of utter disgust and boredom that they wear like a badge of honor. I don't think it's possible to go outside and not see at least one beautiful girl that looks like a total bitçh.
It is true. There's a total babe in my office building who fits that description.
I have walked right up to her and introduced myself, held the door open, held the elevator, try to talk to her. She seems pleased, but it is always reserved and fleeting. And then sometimes she is stone cold and has no expression.
And just 20 minutes ago I saw her walking in the parking lot and I so wanted to pass by to say Hi, but timing was off. But then I see in the reflection of the windows that she is looking at me.
It is so confusing to guage. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:45:28 AM |
You want to talk low self-esteem? Forget the fact that I was loyal, funny, caring and thoughtful because none of that mattered anymore. All that girl saw when she looked at me was a pretty face that was dragging her down. Harsh reality check.
wow... this sounds weird somehow... but makes sense.
Didn't you ever encourage her to do the first step instead of waiting for guys approaching? Guess most guys would have loved it to get some attention from a beautiful girl... especially if she's a nice one... | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/7/2008 11:10:32 AM | And here I am on less than 30 favorites list and have multiple dates.....wonder what it all means???...... 
OT.......Maybe we just need to let others approach us more, and meet them half way........works for me.....
Just my opinion........  
PS........I have never found a correlation between favorite lists and dates, even popularity..... There are many of us that clean up that list often in order keep it within our range of manageability....... | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:09:44 PM | | Honey, there is nothing wrong with being selective. Fact is, with this many fish in the pond you're going to get a lot of bites regardless of the bait or hook. Personally, I'd rather catch something I want to come home to than just reel it in and see what it tastes like. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/8/2008 2:04:59 AM | As a result of a childhood accident, I was the ultimate geeky, nerdy guy with leg braces and wrist canes. My plight became very painful as a teen. My beloved father understood this due to his own gangly growth and bad complexion. One of his pearls was, "Remember, as long as you can get on the horse, nothing stops you from being a Prince." Since my Mother was a knock out, I figured he had a real secret, and asked how they got together. He replied, "Well, it was quite simple really, I asked her."
Shortly thereafter, I decided to get on a big horse and put his philosophy to the ultimate test. By luck of the draw, every guys fantasy babe was my lab partner. I asked her out. My leg braces were rattling so loud from nervous legs that I barely heard her say, "Sure! I never thought you liked me." From then on, despite my geekyness, I always showed up at social events with beautiful, intelligent companions. I was asked a few times by the very same "cool kids" that tormented me, how I always managed to pull that off. I took great pride in saying , "Its a highly technical skill my father taught me; I say hello, and ask them." I never forgot that lesson, and one of the last things I said to my terminally ill gentleman father was, "You're still on your horse, Dad." | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/8/2008 5:05:04 PM | A reluctance to approach to some may be lack of self confidence. To me it's my constant desire to be unique, as in -
"Ok, how can I talk to this woman and not come off like the 10,000 other blithering idiots she deals with everyday?" This also goes through my mind when approaching an extremely attractive woman for reasons other than getting a date, such as the girl behind the counter at the department store, the chick cutting my hair, the waitress at dinner, etc, etc.
It can be tough to be one's self, especially when one is thinking "Wow! Could this possibly be the one in a few thousand, perfect -10 lady who might have been searching all her life for a 40 something, middle management type who resembles a cast member of "The Sopranos?" It's no fun to be typical, especially when the natural reaction is to blurt out a typical, ridiculous pick up line for some kind of instant gratification.
By the way, instant gratification is a bit like instant grits - I don't care for it but if I feel the urge, I'll go with the real thing...
Hope there wasn't too much sarcasm there.. just having a little fun!
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Posted: 5/8/2008 5:30:24 PM | Time Goes? Here Here!!!!
Not only that, but if I go out alone? Women watch me like a hawk. As a singer often I will want to talk to a band member about their instrument, talent, perhaps working on something. Has nothing to do with my romantic interest in them PERIOD. A girlfriend or wife will swoop in and almost tackle me. I want to say "I am not interested in YOUR MAN!" I even took to wearing a diamond to deflect it!
One of the most recent examples of how bad it can be is when I went to a Japanese steakhouse for my cousin's birthday. He is mentally challenged and its a big family so seating everyone properly can be hard. Before I knew it I was sitting next to a gentleman whose wife and son were next to him. The next thing I know, I am sitting next to an 11 year old boy. THE WIFE DIDN'T WANT HIM NEXT TO ME. One of my family members asked me if I noticed that and if it bothered me. Of course it does. But I said nothing. The boy was charming and I gave him my ice cream after dinner. Now I understand not to just march up and sit next to married men. But if you don't want to sit next to a stranger or are worried about perfect decorum? Don't go to a place like that. Its highly unpredictable. Talk about insecure.
One gentleman that I see regularly points out the glares and stares. I used to catch glimpses, but had no idea how much worse it was than I thought til he came along. My ex was intimidated and wouldn't discuss it.
I am not flattering myself either. I'm not a 10 but I'm not a 5 either. I have very few female friends. You will not believe the hatred I see in their eyes. Or the ones that maybe don't even realize they are staring. Its rude and ridiculous. There is no point in it. People will be attracted to what they will. Sometimes it isn't always the best looking. Chemistry is an amazing thing. You can't control it, so why waste your time. I can love someone to death and they dont' love me. Nothing I can do but accept it and go on. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/8/2008 8:01:15 PM |
Next time you go out, pay attention to the beautiful late teens / early 20's girls and just copy the lifeless facial expressions of utter disgust and boredom that they wear like a badge of honor. I don't think it's possible to go outside and not see at least one beautiful girl that looks like a total bitçh. And if you go to any bar, I guarantee you'll see at least 10; at a club, I'd say at least 20.
Oh I see how it is. Beautiful girls always look bored, lifeless and b.tchyy but average to below average girls are always smiling, engaging and never b.tchy or bored right? Did it ever occur to you that you only NOTICE the bored pretty girls because you're only LOOKING at the pretty girls. I can go anywhere at any given time and see just as many 5's with frowns as I can 10's. The only difference is that if a 10 is bored it must be because she thinks she's too good to grace you with her presence while a 5 that's bored is just..well bored. As the timeless saying goes "don't hate us because we're beautiful."
I'd also just like to point out that there are 2 different types of beauties. Girls who were born beautiful, and girls who became beautiful. I like to call it the ugly duckling syndrome. Yes some girls have been beautiful all of their lives. They don't know what it's like to not be considered beautiful and many of them do become snobby ****es because they are used to having the world cater to them because of their looks. There are girls however that were not born beautiful. They were teased mercilessly as teenagers, never got asked out and even attended their own proms solo because no guy wanted to be the one to show up with her. Then they grew into beautiful women who because they know what it's like to be torchured never take their looks for granted nore do they wish to be judged solely on them.
I actually saw a guy that I went to high school with recently. He stuffed me in a locker once and threw dog food on me another time. He used to tell me I was so ugly that my mother had to tie a steak around my neck so the dog would play with me. When I ran into him again he said "if I knew how hot you'd end up being I never would have been that mean to you in high school" he then proceeded to ask me out on a date lol. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/8/2008 8:56:57 PM | timegoes
Oh I see how it is. Beautiful girls always look bored, lifeless and b.tchyy but average to below average girls are always smiling, engaging and never b.tchy or bored right?
Ever notice that whenever someone starts out a sentence with "Oh I see how it is," then the next thing they say is always some ignorant piece of garbage?
1. I never said beautiful girls always look bored, lifeless or bitçhy.
2. I never said below average girls are always smiling, engaging, never bitçhy or never bored.
I also didn't read anymore of your response beyond what I quoted because I can only assume that the rest of it is just as ignorant and idiotic. You fail epically. | |
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