| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/24/2007 4:48:59 PM | I was on a movie set earlier this year (had a bit part in an indie film). There were several actresses, all gorgeous. One of them had to be one of the most stunning looking women I have ever seen close up in my life. Tall, long legs, shapely, long full flowing blond hair, and a face that looked like a slender Anna Nicole, big clear sparkling blue eyes, high cheekbones and those full bee-stung lips. A knock out. In full make-up. I can't describe in words how gorgeous this woman was in real life. So I decided to approach her, because I wouldn't have been able to live with myself the rest of my life saying "why didn't I?" That gal, most guys I'm certain would've said, "W-A-A-A-Y out of my league!".
I did approach her, she was talking in a group with two other tall beautiful actresses, I said something smart and funny, she immediately started yakking away with me, lots of laughs, other people started coming over to check out what all the laughter was about (it gets boring on a movie set waiting for set changes and the scenes you're in) and soon we had a slew of people all hanging around laughing and cracking wise ass jokes and nothing more came of it but it was fun! But let me tell you, she was good. She must get hit on all the time and so she was sharp, throwing zingers out! Funny, sharp and fast! A real hoot. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/24/2007 4:50:24 PM | In daily life where I live, I often feel as if I am invisible...
Could be that a lot of the nice men here in Vancouver BC already have nice boyfriends. 
Thanks for giving me hope it may be something else!!!
WD | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/24/2007 4:50:34 PM | | The nice thing about truly beautiful people is when they don't know it. I think we all assume that beautiful people realize their beauty - I am not convinced that is so. For example, have a look at your px. You are really good looking. How do you feel about yourself? Just go for it. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/24/2007 5:02:10 PM | I'm definately one of the guys that's intimitated by a beautiful woman. Seems like when I do have the ___s to approach one, I get shot down like a dying Quail, LOL So, based on experiences, I choose not to put myself through any further pain and agony, LOL
I CAN say this: Dating sites help me tremendously. I get a "Feel" for the person, before I actually meet them, and by chatting, and E Mailing, I'm able to talk more freely once we're together. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/24/2007 5:04:00 PM |
who you think are so beautiful that you would be wasting your time if you asked them out?
Thank you!
That trims down the competition for men such as myself :D
All kidding aside.
Most man fail to realize that a lot of what counts is their own personification. It's not so much what you say but rather who you are. It's that whole "inner-game".
I am going to say this way too much on this forum I just know this but here it is again... people will see you as you see yourself. If you see you are not good enough for her, yes, you are absolutely right.
If you see yourself as her equal or superior, yes, you are right. She might not agree but that doesn't matter. It just means you won't be going home together :D
Get your ish together and the world is your oyster. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/24/2007 5:12:52 PM | | Yea it's pretty bad...I've had a random guy's friend approach me many times at bars, because the friend is too shy to talk to me. Sometimes I think they are just saying, "My friend thinks you're hot." to test you out. It's irritating or you get these old nasty men who are married try hitting on you. This is why I'm on these dating sites, because guys rarely approach me. And if they do, it's when they are really drunk and acting like a total ass which is a complete turn off! And it's true, you always see the not so good looking girl getting hit on by guys. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/24/2007 5:23:57 PM | That's exactly who you DO go out of your way to engage.
1. She intimidates men by her looks/style, so fewer than you think approach her, so the odds are already in your favor.
2. She instantly recognizes you're different, not intimidated like most of the others. You may or may not be all that, but your stock's just risen.
3. She may very well size U up inside 30 seconds. So what? At least she's sizing YOU up, not the loser that won't talk to her.
4. She's relieved someone had the balls. And she's subconsciously processing, "What is it about this guy? He's no Brad Pitt, why am I talking to him?" You've pressed one non-choice attraction button.
5.She may get hit on 20x a day in the city, but Ur not using a line, just a hi from the immediate environment around you. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/24/2007 5:29:09 PM | Oh c'mon! Nobody is that beautiful...I bet if you watch her long enough she'll do something ugly, like spit, or snort when she laughs, or even pick her teeth!
How would you know what she's like unless you approach her? If she ends up being a bytch, then count your blessings that it'll be somebody else putting up with her shyt one day! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/24/2007 5:46:08 PM |
If you see you are not good enough for her, yes, you are absolutely right.
Its not that guys think they are not" good "enough for her.... its that they realize there not "good looking" enough for her, or tall enough for her.... theres a difference... how many of these type women have in there profile, looking for an attractive man, must be 6' plus, or things like that.... so, many of us would assume its a waste of our time to approach this woman... Of course there are exceptions to the rule, there always are, but they are few and far between. So an average looking lady, that dosnt talk about how tall or attractive he should be, has a pretty good chance of finding a good guy, extremely attractive women dont. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/24/2007 5:58:04 PM | | .....I never get asked out or approached in person.....it's a shame because good looks can be a curse... although I must say I am intimidated by handsome men but not because of low self esteem, Just because there are beautiful women and handsome men out there does not mean they are not attainable....... | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/24/2007 9:43:29 PM | Yeah I see women like that here and there. I just don't bother, even though if it were to work out, I would treat them like gold and love them for the rest of our lives.
LOL oh well, whatever, nevermind. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/24/2007 10:01:32 PM | why would you be too intimidated to ask a woman out?
Ask her out..what's the worst thing that could happen?
Rejection?
so what?
she is one in a ?????????????
If you have the confidence to realize your own self worth, then that rejection should mean as much as my last statement . | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/25/2007 12:13:25 AM | | I almost never get approached in person. That's why I joined POF. My attempts to "Flirt" were awkward at best. I imagine I intimidate some men. But then, why worry about that? I wouldn't want to date a man who is intimidated by me anyway. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/25/2007 12:57:32 AM | well said cautiouslyoptomistic :)
i was very shy about approaching... like many who posted here, those memories of regret encourage me to take the small chance of saying hi to a stranger - never know unless you try! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/25/2007 1:16:00 AM | Yeah, I'll be totally honest. It's happened to me (more than once)
where you feel intimidated and don't even try.
It's as if you feel you haven't got a chance (before even giving it a shot). | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/25/2007 1:34:35 AM | I have been struck dumb by a woman's beauty a few times.
The trouble is I seem to have pretty "universal" tastes, so I know if I think a woman is pretty probably 90% of the males nearby do, too. That can be frustrating.
It's hard for me to approach women whom I find extraordinarily beautiful but I usually do it because I really hate that feeling of regret if I don't.
Once a conversation gets going I tend to relax and be myself but sometimes I fear I'll slip right in the middle and say something totally goopy like, "I'm sorry to stare but I find you astonishingly beautiful."
I try to save the really mushy comments for when we know each other better. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/25/2007 7:15:46 AM |
why would you be too intimidated to ask a woman out?
Its not about being "intimidated", Ive never felt intimidated by any woman, its not about confidence either, its about being realistic, through experience, most guys that dont consider themselves g.q. models, wont waste there time on them, because they know they will probably blow them off, so why bother, unless she recently got stuck in an elevator with Tony Robbins, and recieved the shallow hal zapperoonie, shes gonna hold out for the g.q. model everytime... and thats ok... | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/25/2007 11:32:12 AM | I will approach said good looking women for friendship only why because the majority of the ones I meet seem to have this league thing and if you dont fit into what they call their league you dont stand a chance except as a friend.
Also the fact that alot of the times when i do just casually walk up and talk to a women alot of them have this whole attitude like why is this ugly guy talking to me. Alot of the times its because I am bored and just waiting around at a place and just figured they might be as well so just start up a conversation.
Other than that Not one women on this planet has ever struck me dumb. Generally I totally ignore hot women they are just like old castles there to look at but not do anything with because they will shoot me down anyway.
beauty is in the eye of the beholder but so is ugliness and when all you gotten are ugly comments well u start to believe them. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/25/2007 3:56:41 PM |
pinkytoes, because , it usually is a waste of time, your own profile headline asks for your "handsome brute" not your kind, funny, smart, brute... and the first thing you talk about is your own beauty, ... the fact is most beautiful women choose there men, like they choose there clothes.... whatever looks cute on her when she goes out.......
While I do agree with this to a large degree it's not only a trait of "beautiful women" at all. You'll find some of the most plain and largely average women who THINK they're "all that" tend to do this even more often. As for that "pinkytoes" I myself don't see this "beauty" she speaks of but isn't that the point of all this----that not everyyone sees others in the same way.
Women, just like men, can have incredible outer beauty but personalities that are quite ugly. Anyone who has a classic beauty or is "Hollywood gorgeous" typicallly have to fight against the stereotypes assigned to them by those of us not in the spotlights. I was married to a stunningly great looking woman who told me she often times sat home on "date nights" because most guys thought she already had a date. I'm one of those short guys who's not as attractive as many others but that doesn't seem to have prevented "beautiful women" from forming their own attraction to me. Maybe I simply treated them as people first and then as "beautiful" somewhere futher down the list of all things important.
Talk to them all guys----some AREN'T stuck up!! | |
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