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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/22/2008 4:55:26 PM | | ^^^^For any of us, I would say average is that which does not stand out. Most of us don't want to date what we consider "average", but that varies with each person. Most of us want someone we're attracted to, which also varies with each person. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/22/2008 5:00:24 PM | Strange saying you wish that average guys would try harder. The man you're looking for seems to be way above average according to your profile.
I wonder if alot of men share your sentiment, cuz the person I'm describing is basically a male version of me in many respects, and I don't regard myself as way above average. I see your point though: it's quite possible that alot of those average guys see themselves as out of my "league," which is such a bummer cuz that misperception cuts off so many possibilities to connect with each other. However, I and most of the women in my life HAVE all those qualities listed in my profile. The men I know who embody those types of traits are gay and/or already in committed relationships. So it's not that the combination of traits is rare (at least not among the liberal artsy spiritual intelligentsia crowd here in NYC). I think it's more likely that I haven't put myself in the right environment to meet single guys who have that combination of traits. I see myself attending more Noam Chomsky lectures and Mos Def concerts in the future.   | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/23/2008 2:04:18 AM | Ummm.................
Being well-endowed, implies in it's very terminology, being above average.
Now, I can try harder to be well-endowed...................
But don't hold your breathe.
I certainly consider myself to be an average guy.
And if I seriously paid attention to the pic ratings...................most women would agree too.
Me, personally, would not find Noah Chomsky lectures or Mos Def concerts to be interesting.
Add to that, my avid aversion to NYC, and there ya go.
But that's just me. I grew up outside of L.A. I'm strong-minded and strong-willed, goal-oriented and have a plan.
However, I can certainly be spontaneous and fly by the seat of my pants. And, I tend to take issue with authority figures.
So, it's no wonder that I'm an entrepreneur and don't like being "talked at". | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/23/2008 5:42:12 AM | If a woman is so beautiful, that a man cannot approach her, then he should look for a woman who does not frighten him away. It is of no benefit to either the man or the woman, if he can't even make an approach.
Maybe the guy should take a class on approaches, or else carefully study the masters of the art.
My own take on this is that the most beautiful women often develop a sense of entitlement, and become takers, rather than givers. That, I do not need.
On the other side of the coin, I have been trying hard to get cuter, myself, in order to better attract women. The gals are now approaching me to offer physical compliments, but I have not yet developed a method of reeling them in. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/26/2008 1:59:36 AM | I have dated a few generations,,,lol,,yet I have dated,experienced ladies of the full spectrum,,,all social,all physcial levels,all appreance levels,,,,the biggest mistake any person can be is dating a person on if they are pretty physcialy,,and not know the inner person,,,thats the most import aspect,,,some men feel they are just to hot,,,just as women( nope I am very hertosexual,),,,,both sides see a "Hot babe",,yet to be swayed by apprarence only is just as shallow thinking,,,,,,yes,,I have known/dated professional models,,they will tell you that men are intimanated by thier beauty,,and its the men who have the hang up and insecurity to even speak to them,,,yet they are great people,,,they just seek someone who will acept them for who they are as a person,,to look past thier beauty and learn about them on whats in the inner being,,,
Hey,,if a person using thier physcial beauty as a weapon or tool to gain advantage,,and you feel for it,,or just did not walk away,,,its your responcibility,,,if she felt she was too good for you based on who you are as a person,,,,she did you a favor,,,for life is like at a dance,,,if a lady is asked to dance and says no,,,she did me a favor,,saved me time and gladly I walk away,,,there is always someone who as a mre beautiful personality that also has beauty that cannot be discribed,,,that is waiting for you,,,for the next dance in the song of life,,,,
What I think is so funny,,,yes there are those men/women who think they are so pretty that they can get whatever they desire based on physcial appearence,,,,yet you all know how upset and mad they get when thier "victum" walks away and they drop thier jaw,,and wonder how that vitcum was a great deal more happier with another,,,yet thats why we use the term "stuck up the @@@",,,or goldrigger,,,,,lol,,,they can only be that way if YOU let them,,,whats even more funny,,,is that kind always knows one day they will be a victum of the real sharks,,,,,,lol,,,
Have a great day,,,Dave:) | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/26/2008 2:38:33 AM | I think we've all been there at one point or another. When I was younger I often didn't approach many women because I thought they were "out of my league". As I've gotten older I've found that feeling that way isn't necessarily a bad thing. The best relationships I've ever been in were ones where I had a degree of admiration for the woman I was dating. Not necessarily for her looks, but for her personality traits. Having somebody in your life that you have a degree of "awe" for is good because it keeps your head on straight so you don't take them for granted.
The worst thing a beautiful woman can do is simply say no. If this happens, no big deal because you've lost nothing. The thing about beautiful women is that they've had every jerk known to man hit on them and use line after line. Approach her with respect, be yourself, maybe pay a sincere compliment, offer to buy her a drink or whatnot and go from there. Whenever I've used this approach, and been declined, it's always been polite and respectful. Just wish her well and move on. Or the exact opposite happens, you strike up a conversation or maybe even exchange phone numbers.
Bottom line, just go for it. You've got absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Funny enough, I find so many stunning women are single mostly because guys are either intimidated or just assume they have a boyfriend. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/26/2008 2:43:57 AM | Funblonde2 I would disagree, I do think there are a lot of men on the net who would not approach because they think a beautiful woman would have all the attention she needs so they wouldn't stand a chance.
I have a friend on here who is stunning and rarely get's messaged and when she does the message often reads, "it's taken me ages to write because i'm sure your inundated with messages but thought i should in case you think i'm a stalker" So, dont pre-judge people guys. | |
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Joined: 8/17/2008
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/26/2008 2:59:04 AM | Beauty fades, everyone is beautiful! Confidence....I message whoever I want to, not saying that they'll reply...I'm obviously not their type. At the end of the day If you see someone you like message them, what have you got to lose? I myself find confident men sooooooooooooooo sexy! Getting messages saying, it's taken me ages to message you as I didn't think I was your type...is quite suprising. When we are in our 80's we'll all look the same. Personality counts for a lot! If you mesage someone & they don't message back so what??? I have had it lots of times on here.....It's great lol  | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/26/2008 6:40:19 AM | Women do you feel sometimes men avoid you because they are intimidated?
Yes. If you're intimidated, don't be!
I have had countless men tell me at some point or another that they're completely intimidated by me. I'm actually quite a shy, friendly person, but apparently I come across to them all as extremely confident in myself, intelligent, attractive and personable. While they all say these are qualities they look for, I scare the hell out of them. It's very frustrating to know that something about you which you cannot control is causing men to run in the other direction.
I'm with my current SO because while everybody was flirting and yet not making a move, he was the one with the balls to step up and say "Hey, I like you. Want to go out sometime?"
So yes, if you're a guy and you see a confident, smart, sexy woman, go talk to her. It sucks being passed over for being who you are. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/26/2008 10:23:30 AM | [Many guys are definitely intimidated by certain traits on a woman that makes them assume that such woman is either out of their league-high maintenance-room for trouble.
The ironic thing is, that most of the times, girls that are very attractive are seldom approached because of this, thus reinforcing men's preconception about their unreachable status. So what are this girls left with? The shameless disrespectful ***holes, the overly conceited ones, or those too drunk to give a hoot about the outcome]
I hear this quite frequently from my daughter - she is single, gorgeous, and a pretty all right kid - 24, good job, great friends etc. But she spends a lot of time dateless - when she goes out for a drink the guys stare and whisper, but if she wants to dance she has to do the asking.
A woman can only do so much about her looks and holding it against her, whether she be goodlooking or not, sells everybody short. Why not assume the best and give it a shot? | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/26/2008 11:23:28 AM | Women, in and of themselves, are not intimidating. Actually, the thought to us men that someone who has radiant beauty, giving one of us the time of day, is where the intimidation lies.
I can't begin to tell you about the struggles I once had on a subway train here in NYC. About 5'6", blonde over blue, and sexy as anything. I was writing one of my songs, as I noticed her sit next to me. I smiled, as I noticed her eyes. She started to comment about my writing, when we were interrupted by a few construction workers entering the train.
I tried to strike up a conversation. But it seemed that every word coming was gaa-gaa. The fact that she took interest in my work was so captivating, that I hadn't noticed her taking the pen from me, and writing down her number.
I guess that was her way of setting in the ice breaker. Yes I did call, and, yes, we saw each other for a few months.
But, no matter where you are, the intimidation factor does exist. Identifying what it is...that's different. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/26/2008 1:59:22 PM | | I don't know about being beautiful, but I have been told by friends and family alike, that I intimidate men... I just went on a date with a very nice man and he told me that at first glance, he was intimidated. He then told me that the longer we talked the more relaxed he became . He said, and I quote, "You are the total package!""wow!! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/26/2008 2:15:44 PM |
When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
^^^^^^^Biggest load of crapola I have ever heard...
Nobody is unapproachable.....unless they are armed and dangerous.
Beautiful women don't intimidate men.....where did that come from?
If a guy can't approach anybody because he feels intimidated....then he's a wuss in my eyes.
JMO | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/26/2008 3:51:39 PM | Then wusses they are!
When I was younger, I had men staring at me, and staring, and staring ... but no-one ever talked to me.
Now that I'm old and fat, nobody is even looking and I feel completely invisible at times ... and no-one talks to me.
So you're either too intimidating, or not good enough for men. You know, no wonder 51% of the American women are single - we just can't get it right! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 9/28/2008 10:12:23 PM | Thanks for the reminder. Back in high school, there was on especially georgous senior I was ga-ga over for two years. As far as I knew, she didn't even know I existed.
My family was being rotated back to the 'States at the end of the school year, and the last day of school, she asked me why I had never asked her out...
Some lessons may dim with time, but are never forgotten. :) | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/1/2008 7:52:56 AM | On the reverse, I have always only approached and dated "ugly" guys because I never thought a good lookin' guy would even notice me, let alone date me.
I'm happy to discover I've been wrong, but it took a looooooong time! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/1/2008 8:29:26 AM | There is this girl at my work place that we all think she is soooo beautiful (I'm not gay, but I can appreciate feminine beauty), and yet, none of the guys dare approach her. Their reasons are:
- she is like an angel! so sweet and innocent you don't want to corrupt that
- What if she gets offended? I would never be able to talk to her again. Better admire her from the distance and enjoy her friendship...
- I'd rather keep the idea of the "perfect her" in my mind. What if I approach her and discover she is ugly, shallow and dumb inside? That would kill my motif to come to work every day!
So there. Beauty is intimidating... I'd rather be "not that perfect" and give guys the opportunity to talk to me and discover the "beautiful me" inside.
I also am guilty of not even trying to talk to guys that are prettier than me . My reasons?
-They are gay
-They probably have a super model girlfriend
-They know they are beautiful, and they make sure everyone else notices it too. (Conceited)
-They want perfection to match their own. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/1/2008 8:45:28 AM | It happens and I'd say I was guilty of this as well.
I remember in High School in my Math Class there was this beautiful girl who was so down to earth and kind towards everyone that I figured either one of two things, firstly she's too good to be true and secondly she's got to have a S.O as there is no way that a girl such as herself was single.
Turns out she was, I didn't find this out until after the school year was over. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/1/2008 8:46:32 AM | Wow such wonderful truth poster "unforgiven" above me....................I had never thought of things like that.
I do agree with you about super good looking guys...........I met one through old friends I knew (from school days) and he seemed nice to begin with but the stories that kept coming out about him were shocking. The amount of women he had slept with was unbelievable and it was definitely a case of another notch on the bedpost. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/1/2008 8:47:43 AM | ^^^I agree that at one time I was the same way approaching "hot" men. Then I decided...what's the harm? I won't date them anyway if I don't approach.
I don't look at people in "leagues" per say, but you'd be surprised how many good looking men are also humble/modest and unaware they are good looking, or maybe don't have the smooth social skills you'd expect since their looks tend to draw women alone...but it never fails to amaze me when a man I didn't think would talk to me at all not only does but tells me almost the same story in reverse; he felt uncomfortable talking to me because I have a strong presence and he felt he'd have nothing to offer, or thought I was unapproachable or too good looking (which is obviously more attitude than an actual visual thing) and he's happy I said something.
What if we all feared approaching and no one did anything? Yawn! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/1/2008 8:56:57 AM | freebird6333.. it is strange to hear that because when I see a handsome hunk with a nice bod, I feel the same way, I feel he wouldn't give me the time of day. "what a waste.
Oh to be beautiful instead of rich LOL | |
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