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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/8/2008 3:35:52 PM | 1) Shrek, you're pretty observant. I barely hit the weights, but walking and biking? At least 8 miles a day of hills. Which counteracts all the food I eat :) I did try the gyms once in an attempt to meet people, but no go there. Met more guys wanting to talk than women...sheesh.
2) Msdenissen, one of the suggestions of the pickup guides, is to not befriend a woman--if she turns down a date, leave her alone. So perhaps you are hitting some of that, but I suspect you're right, you are getting men who only want one thing.
Interesting point, tho, you mention you do get hit on a lot. I suspect most attractive women do...but don't realize it, out of humility or some other thing. Or maybe they do what us men do...don't add in the unattractive people, when we count up how "little" we get hit on. We only notice when the attractive ones seem to be flirting w/ us.
The mind is a wonderful thing :) lol | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/8/2008 5:11:00 PM | I've been told I'm too pretty to approach a thousand times OP, but I certainly don't see what other people seem to see when they look at me. To me, I'm shorter than a garden Gnome (5' and shrinking daily due to menopause..lol), I wear no makeup whatsoever and bounce around town like a kitten in shorts, flip flops and cut-off tees 24/7. I haven't been in a dress or a skirt since 2004.
Some men do have the courage to approach me but dang...after they find out that I would rather kiss a wild boar on the lips than to go out with them due to the fact that my standards are higher than the stratosphere (which they can't even spell much less know the definition of, btw) then they lose interest very quickly.
Never approach a beautiful woman if you don't know the definition of the stratosphere (in the sky) as well as a thermocline (in the ocean).
Some of us beautiful people (..and I'm not one of them, mind you) are glad we aren't approached by unconfident, unintelligent men that can't even hold a conversation regarding global warming much less ocean conservation.
Sans *wink* | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/8/2008 9:46:27 PM | Home gyms can work wonders!! You can almost always find them cheaply at thrift stores...I've always asked "How low can you go?" and got a DP Home Gym for $25, mostly because the lady said she never wanted to try & move the darn thing again! LOL
If you have a spare bedroom or plenty of Garage space...or even a decent Back Porch you can set up a nice home gym for low $$. Between Thrift Stores & Craigslist you can get some NICE equipment...most of it for free from folks who slack off totally from their New Year's Resolutions.
Also, work out EVERY muscle in your body...and do your Keegle Exercises daily. Sex muscles are just like every other set of muscles and BENEFIT GREATLY from exercise. Besides, nothing like watching a gal's eyebrows raise & her get a Cheshire Grin from seeing yer Willy Wonka wiggle in ways & directions she's only seen a prosthetic device do!!  | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/9/2008 5:27:45 AM | You're right about the home gyms. I've got the free weights (no roomies, tho, to spot), books on isometrics, etc. But given a choice betwixt hefting weights, and pounding comfort food....well....
And yes, ms, we humans tend not to notice the people who flirt w/ us, if we aren't attracted to them. We don't notice they are treating us differently from other people in the room...b/c they aren't attractive to us, enough for us to pay attention. We just brush them off as annoying us with their attempts. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/9/2008 6:33:38 AM |
you CAN approach her but why ask for her phone number in first or second email?
My reasoning would be because some are comfortable with emails back and forth and have no intention of ever talking or meeting and might lead the person on and waste each others time. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/9/2008 7:10:44 PM | | Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Women tend to think they're god's gift and seem to have HUGE egos from being hit on a lot. (Take a look at what various women have said in here and what they say about themselves). Most guys seem to hit on pretty much any woman if they are the type that do it a lot. I would think the women who seem to think they're so "beautiful" would have learned this by now. The fact women have this attitude is probably why a man wouldn't approach them. I don't think it has much to do with fear. I used to get hit on a lot when I went out, I never thought it meant I was the best looking person in the world though. At the most it just meant I happen to be that certain person's type. One of the most attractive qualities is humility. Without that, you're as ugly as it gets in my eyes. Some women would do well to learn this because constantly complimenting yourself is pathetic. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/9/2008 9:14:32 PM |
Women tend to think they're god's gift and seem to have HUGE egos from being hit on a lot.
Guys who say this tend to want women to be the bad person to feel justify in his anger toward them. Want to believe this do not mean it is true, is more likely you know nothing of the person you accuse this of.
I used to get hit on a lot when I went out, I never thought it meant I was the best looking person in the world though. At the most it just meant I happen to be that certain person's type.
You do not have huge ego but women must?
Some women would do well to learn this because constantly complimenting yourself is pathetic.
Thinking positive of myself do not mean I have huge ego. It is funny that you can think well of yourself being humility but women are not allow to think well of themself being beautiful.
Believing you are a good person who is smart and funny is okie but believing you are attractive is wrong. Such strange concept. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/9/2008 10:22:21 PM | Wow Alexy Twirlatica, you think as I do. If you were here I would kiss you. Some men can't deal with a woman who admits that she knows she's beautiful. Some guys think it's ok for men to be proud of their looks but it's not ok for women to be.
CW35: Some women would do well to learn this because constantly complimenting yourself is pathetic. I am beautiful. There, I guess this makes me pathetic. Oh well, I'll manage somehow.
What is pathetic is a man that whines constantly about women feeling good about themselves and their looks. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/10/2008 5:50:05 AM | I have a HUGE ego...........to go along with my love handles!
And I'd prefer it if she strokes it gently, so as not to injure it.
I'm just too damn sexy for health clubs or home gyms because that would be admitting that I am unhappy with myself and whom I am.
We all work our attributes to our own advantage and I'm no different.
Sometimes, having a belly gives me an excuse to rub up and against that hottie!!!
Hey, and if she like the teddy bear type??? Then It's on like Donkey Kong! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/12/2008 4:26:33 PM |
When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Here's the deal.
First, In my line of work, I don't meet said beautiful women. Predominantly, I am surrounded by men.
Second, If I were to, she's at work and it's inappropriate for me to do ANY kind of approaching unless it's kept strictly business. I take my job seriously and professionally. So, I don't even consider it.
Third, wrong or right, I would assume that she is attached already. Why wouldn't she be?
Fourth, if she's not attached, again wrong or right, I'd assume that she's not the type that stays single for long. Which, if that's the case, I'd wonder how much effort she'd REALLY put into a relationship...........knowing that she could have another in a heartbeat.
Fifth, being a little self-conscious, I'd wonder what "I" have to offer her. I mean, there's plenty of guys out there that are better than me in one way or another. So, why would she want to be with me?? Seriously!
I've have relationships with some real knockouts before. But, obviously, they didn't last for the duration.
So, what kind of reassurances do "I" have that this one would be the last one??
NONE!!! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/12/2008 5:56:36 PM | freebird~
i am sure it does happen to some guys, at least i've had guy friends tell me that they've been unable to approach some women that they found completely breathtaking. i'll tell you what i tell them...
with women looks dooo matter, but they are not the top of the list like it is for guys. for women it is more about the personality then anything else. who the man is, his character, is confidence, his wit, the way he carries himself... all of these things override looks.
don't get me wrong, i am not saying that some guy who is morbidly obese with a tattooed face doesn't need to worry... no, what i am saying is that even if the guy is average he has a fighting chance with a really beautiful woman.
i am not saying i am beautiful by any means (i am pretty average) but i have dated men that were not all that good looking and i was quite attracted to them physically. they were adorable to me, but i knew that by societies standards they were not. it didn't matter because they were really great to be with, talk to, and more then anything else
the CHEMISTRY was there...
so don't worry about the gorgeous woman sitting across the room. get up off your butt and go talk to her! what do you ahve to lose? if you're nervous just ask her questions and LISTEN to what she has to say that way you won't have to talk too much. but just go talk to her!!!!! if she shoots ya down SO WHAT!!!! (then go home with her friend... just joking..lol!)
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/18/2008 8:42:51 AM |
you have to believe in yourself! I too had a low self esteem, then I took four yrs out to learn about me, and learn to love me and life.
The moral of this tale is...If you don't love yourself first, telling someone they are great, but your not good enough for them will result in regrets and failure, due to you not knowing what could be.
Live life! it is beautiful!
Not everyone will want to know you for the inner person. it's life! Move on to the next person. but don't just go for looks!
I consider myself beautiful on the inside, and it's that what counts, as beauty on the outside fades with time
You're the master of platitudes.
Probably every human on the planet feels they are beautiful on the inside regardless of how they are perceived on the outside. Even Stalin and Hitler must have felt they were wonderful folks. The truth is that we express ourselves both physically and emotionally to others, and that is our true selves. If you're physically disgusting like being obese, this is a result of your inner self doing a number on your body.
Oh and beauty fading over time consider this. If your unattractive when you're young, you'll be even more hideous when old while the physically attractive person will retain their looks. If you don't believe this, look at the old sirens of the screen. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/18/2008 10:22:26 PM | Beauty fades...but Ugly cuts all the way to the BONE!!
There's Cute-Ugly...like ET....
There's Butt-Ugly...like a babboon...
Then there's Ugly-Inside...the worst kind...like Paris Hilton.
I'd rather be like Shrek...fawkit, I'm ME, and if you don't like it I'll tear your arms off & beat you to death with 'em
it also helps to have bahoogies the size of cannonballs...
Now if only more guys would learn that...and just be NICE until attacked...it'd be a better world! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/18/2008 11:44:43 PM |
... Girls always say they never get hit on ...
See, that's the problem right there. Too many guys try to "hit" on a woman instead of talking to her. Me? I just start talking to a woman I'm interested in the same way I'd talk to anyone else. That way there's no pressure on either of us. Also, because I'm not "running game" on her, she feels more comfy and open. Because I'm not pressing her, I get to see if I even like her or not. If I do, I'll ask for her number. Guess what? Most of the time I get it.
And, later on, when I asked them what they thought when we first met, they almost always say the same thing; "I didn't know if you liked me or where you just being friendly." Get it; she didn't know if I liked her.
Approach a woman the same way you'd approach someone you already know. Interact with her the same way you'd interact with a female friend or cousin. Don't be heavy handed, don't come on to her, just talk. Don't even think about getting her number, email or anything else. Put that totally out of your mind. Just be the same guy that your friends and family know and love. When the conversation is nearing to a end, ask yourself if this person is someone you'd want to spend more time with. Be honest with yourself. If the answer is, "yes" then say, "Give me your number and I'll call you." Don't ask her for it. Just state that you want it. Think about it like this, would you say to one of your male friends, "Can I call you sometime? Maybe, we can get together?" No, you wouldn't. The same applies here. That doesn't mean you have to be crass or mean. Just keep it cool and casual.
If she says no, move on. But, be classy about it. Say, "OK, see you around." Don't offer to give her yours unless she asks for it. If she does, don't say anything like, "You better call me ..." Just jot it down, give it to her, tell her bye and go about the rest of your day.That's the cool thing about being a man, the numbers are in our favor. If she's interested, she'll call. If not, next. There will always be another beautiful woman. Keep chatting them up and you will find one or two who want to spend time with you.
If you've ever seen a poor (meaning no money), unattractive guy with a hot girlfriend, its because he doesn't care how beautiful she is. He doesn't make a big deal about her beauty because its all about him. He knows hes not attractive but he believes in himself. Because of that, she can't get enough of him. And, if things don't work out with her, he'll find another girl, just as, or more hot than she. He knows it and she knows it too.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again; there is no such thing as a woman too beautiful to approach. Don't let yourself fall into the trap of thinking, "Beautiful women don't find me attractive." If you like you, then they can't help but like you. Confidence is the best pick up line around.
Lateef | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/19/2008 7:49:21 AM | ^^^^I totally agree with the conversation part of the above post, a lot of the time what gets in the way of a guy meeting new people, especially women is that if they have any attraction to the woman, they're approach changes. They overthink it. They get nervous, they try and say what they think you want to hear, they don't just relax and....talk.
Talking to a woman you're into is no different than talking to anyone else in your travels, the difference is how you perceive it. If you talk to them differently because you're attracted to them, they WILL react differently because it affects the flow of the conversation.
I would respond to a man (I'm interested in, anyway) who's just TALKING to me eons before I would respond to a man who's clearly trying to pick me up. My friends and I talk about this all the time, and we hate a guy who walks over with the intent to score. It's old and it's obvious, and it's a turn off. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/19/2008 4:59:53 PM | Lateef, we agree:beautiful women get hit on, all the time.
but sometimes, there is a contrary definition of what hitting on, means. I've seen plenty of guys talk to a beautiful woman, and her body language is obvious: why is this weird guy talking to me?
She doesn't see it as being hit on, b/c she's not interested enough to ask if he is. She just sees it as conversation--and not one she wants to be in.
I have tried the conversations you wrote about, and you're right--I've made a lot of female friends this way. But get a date from it? Never. Not once. If I ever bothered to get the phone number, I got the same response--a duck.
I don't know, I must go only after intelligent women, b/c the tricks of PUA artists don't work--I've never met a woman who didn't have a reason not to hand me her phone number. They just don't get tricked into that, b/c they are so used to getting it.
But hey, its worth it for other guys to try, I'm not saying they aren't attractive enough to get where they want to go. But conversation and confidence ain't enough. Like the DJChickie pointed out...if she ain't interested,she's not responding.
And if you aren't swept up by the woman...why are you trying to date her? so its hard to hide what your intents are. Hence, the woman too beautiful to be worth approaching. She's got your attention,that's why you're asking, but she'll shoot you down b/c you are showing attention--unless, natch,you're hot. Kinda like evolution of the species, eh? :)lol | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/20/2008 5:02:09 AM | So, now I'm curious....beautiful women don't know when a stranger walks up and talks to them, what his intent is? they really didn't know lateef had an interest? Judging by the "is he interested in me?" posts around here, I suspect Lateef is more attractive to women than he thinks, thus his experiences in the dating pool. B/c I've not heard a woman care if a guy was interested or not...unless she was interested. It just doesn't enter the conscious to ask. Its like a person's wealth--you don't ask if you aren't curious.
But I have no clue what makes a man hot to women, so I can't judge :)
On another subject....talking to a beautiful friend is like talking to a rich one. they talk about what is normal and common to them, like you do. So, if you get along well with attractive women...it may be b/c you are comfortable with the same subjects, which could mean you are more attractive to the opposite sex, than you think. You're both used to getting attention, not worrying about being alone, etc. So neither of you feel like a fish out of water around the other. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/20/2008 8:16:18 AM | Hi shrek!!!!!
I am suprised this post is still here....I have no idea when a guy walks up to me what he wants, because I work at a firehouse...if a person had sex on the mind 24/7,he would carry himself a certain way and act a certain way...you would be able to see him coming from a mile away. I work with a lot of men and most are married or taken...I just assume when approached, they want me to grab the halligan off the engine! I avoid the 24/7 guys and its not hard to spot them quickly! I don't get hit on a lot and have been told by men that because of my job, it intimidates them to approach me. It simply sounds absurd! | |
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Posted: 12/9/2008 11:29:38 PM | HELLO, it is me again,and a conclusion for that story I told you all, this guy kept it up kept it up, and finally he said he was dating in his town some distance away from me,,, I even offered to drive there, no, he just could not ever "meet up" with me, but continued with what I began to believe was bolderdash!! He bragged on how he would wait in resteraunts and tell the women to look for the handsome man, not giving out his name,,,,,,,, and they would just be "thrilled " to finally meet him, but not me. I told him finally, you know JOE, this is bragging on your part,,,,, he got mad, and slammed off, and left that site , Love and Seek for Christians. He never came back, and I still suspect he works for that site to drum up business, there is another on there doing same, always on a chat, one picture up,,,wants to call you, talk sex and nothing more. I will never understand why a pervert wants to TALK sex, and never meet. Or yahoo open cam,,,,,,, I just want a REAL date, and an eventual REAL relationship, not some phone flattery for the sex angle of it . Any way, at least phoney Joe is gone,,, oh yes he is from Modesto CA. so if you ever see this reallly handsome man,,,,,,,,,,LOL, pass him by, because he is all about HIMSELF. Jan    | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 12/10/2008 8:20:22 AM |
Which is good. But having a 6-pack & cannonball shoulders is better! Women, no matter how much they say differently, will STILL chase & prefer Brad Pitt-types.
Not always true. I prefer men with a few miles on their faces and a few pounds on their bellies - more sensual than good-looking, as a type. This was the case when I was 19, too. A hearty physicality appeals to me infinitely more than handsomeness! Not necessarily the Shaved Sasquatch, either, though I wouldn't rule one out if he's a great guy.
And I think I'm lucky in my own looks - just attractive enough to be approached a lot, and to seem approachable as well! I've had some friends who are true beauties, and although it's a luxurious problem, it really can be a problem. The sweet people they'd like to go out with are afraid of them, and the obnoxious who think altogether too well of themselves are forever asking. So, shy nice guys? Go ahead and approach that stunning head-turner - she might be a friend of mine who'd really like you! | |
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