| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 1/6/2009 12:31:41 PM | freebird: Sorry, but I think that's BS. She's only a flesh-and-blood human being like you are. Ask her out. Let HER be the one to determine if you're "good enough". If she doesn't, shrug your shoulders, take the rejection in stride, move on...sounds like you've got some real self-esteem issues, dude, or think they'll find you boring because you're not "good-looking" enough, when the reality is, they'll probably find you boring because you just don't know what to talk about! Get her to laugh and you're halfway home...
Physical beauty only goes as far as sex anyway, and EVEN sex can get mechanical and boring without a little passion and intellect behind it. I don't give a rat's ass how "beautiful" a woman is--I try to appeal to her personality and intelligence. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 1/6/2009 2:50:18 PM | | Noone is ever beyond approach. I've always been pretty good at reading people (helped out when I was a cop). That's all there ever is to approaching someone when you're out and about. You simply have to be able to tell from their body language and how they carry themselves what kind of person they are. I've met women in libraries that were absolute knockouts but had no idea and therefore were actually flattered by little old me. I've also encountered women that knew exactly who they were, what they were and what kind of rich guy they were out to find that day and if you can challenge them a little... make them think on their feet and make them laugh... you're good as gold. All it takes is a little confidence on your part. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 1/8/2009 3:08:56 PM | I feel that I miss out on a lot of great opportunities because men are too intimidated to ask me out. Sometimes I meet men in very plutonic situations...and after they become comfortable with me they eventually confess that they were really interested...but scared to death i would turn them down.
It unfortunate, but a fact of life. Some really sexy guys intimidate me also, I guess. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 1/12/2009 8:55:45 PM | After last week, in Baltimore, I feel sorry for you East Coast dudes!!
Talk about a fricken tough crowd!!!!!!
I mean, I was around Cali girls, which can be pretty tough. But DAMN!!!!!!!
I think that the trick for guys.........
Is to just treat them like they aren't anything particularly special.
I mean....princesses make me  | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 1/12/2009 10:03:29 PM | | I no longer find this an issue because the beautiful girls have taken notice of me. Once upon a time I used to be on the outside looking in, but now I'm on the inside looking out and it doesn't make it any easier. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 2/8/2009 12:47:49 AM | Hey All
I 100% agree with you re this...no one should ever be considered out of anyone elses league...Also, you can tell straight the way a lot about a person from the initial way a person treats another person...You got to always remember: treat someone the way you want to be treated yourself.....
But please dont tar everyone with the same brush!...what if you didnt hear the guys chat up line and it was for instance: what do you want for breakfast or some such bull....come on guys....a girls patience is only so long!!!!...lol.
Oh and please please dont get me wrong I dont consider myself in thie above category...I just had to answer this thread as I agreed with the above comments..... | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 2/8/2009 11:00:09 AM | 1. You create the league you play in.
2. You're putting too much stock into someones looks.
3. The men that do approach and show no fear possess that rock solid confidence that is attractive.
4. Just do it. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 2/8/2009 5:57:55 PM | If she is beautiful and a lady...she will take the time to respond to you, for her looks do not affect her character.
If she is beautiful but vain, she will take the time to respond to you and her true character will not make her "look" so beautiful anymore!
It all depends on the woman and how classy she really is. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 2/8/2009 8:22:46 PM | | LOL, i used to think there were women out of my league. Then i changed my thinking. You cant be intimidated just because shes beautiful, for all you know that may be all shes got, then what, you waste all that time wondering and when you finally get the balls to approach her shes an air head. Nothing worse my friend. (I am in no means saying that all beautful women are air heads, its just an example) Focus on remaining calm and smiling in your interactions. That will go along way to eroding how you approach people, let alone beautiful women period. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 2/9/2009 1:49:35 PM | | I have never had any problem approaching women that are so beautiful...men who are intimidated by women I feel sorry for you guys because if you don't step up your game and be confident then you won't get anywhere instead you all **** and complain how come an ***hole gets the good girl but I don't well because you are a **** to begin with lol....Women love men who are confident and smart...Take note lol | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 2/15/2009 6:03:03 AM | In my opinion, and I should have a pretty on the mark say in the matter with 17 years of education behind the PH.D. !
Here is where most men make their mistakes in approaching a woman that they may deem "unaproachable" or " too attractive", etc. Firtst off, these labels are attributed to the women BY THE MEN...the women don't walk around with signs hanging from their necks "I'm too good looking...don't you dare approach me" !!!!!
People are people, and men and women can be anything from decent approachable persons to snobby stuck up full of themselves morans....
YOU have to decide what you want to go after in life and take a chance....
Often times men will make the first move, lets say they spot you in a book store, make a casual comment to you, then suddenly show up again in line at the check out register...another quick quip, names are exchanged, causal chat....and the guy lets you walk out of the store without 'closing the deal.'
Are men too fearful to ask for what they want? If 3 minutes goes by and the man doesn't make the "move" I simply say it was nice to meet you and tell them to have a nice day. I think that men often believe that the woman , if she is into them, will make the move. All women aren't all that aggresive....bring back the chivalry please!!!!!
Men....."Man Up" and stop whining about the great looking women that wouldn't give you the time of day.......Go out there and live your lives and take a chance darn it!!!!!
Whats the worse that could happen? She doesn't seem interested and you move on to something better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dr. Arlene
www.Bocatherapy.com | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 2/15/2009 3:38:34 PM |
the women don't walk around with signs hanging from their necks "I'm too good looking...don't you dare approach me" !!!!!
No...but now I'm thinking about having tshirts printed!
I'm amazed at how many men have admitted to not approaching women because they're * too attractive!* I thought it was part of male nature to WANT to hunt the best of the best. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, no? | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 2/15/2009 10:21:05 PM | ^^^^"In my opinion, and I should have a pretty on the mark say in the matter with 17 years of education behind the PH.D. !
Here is where most men make their mistakes in approaching a woman that they may deem "unaproachable" or " too attractive", etc. Firtst off, these labels are attributed to the women BY THE MEN...the women don't walk around with signs hanging from their necks "I'm too good looking...don't you dare approach me" !!!!!
People are people, and men and women can be anything from decent approachable persons to snobby stuck up full of themselves morans....
YOU have to decide what you want to go after in life and take a chance....
Often times men will make the first move, lets say they spot you in a book store, make a casual comment to you, then suddenly show up again in line at the check out register...another quick quip, names are exchanged, causal chat....and the guy lets you walk out of the store without 'closing the deal.'
Are men too fearful to ask for what they want? If 3 minutes goes by and the man doesn't make the "move" I simply say it was nice to meet you and tell them to have a nice day. I think that men often believe that the woman , if she is into them, will make the move. All women aren't all that aggresive....bring back the chivalry please!!!!!
Men....."Man Up" and stop whining about the great looking women that wouldn't give you the time of day.......Go out there and live your lives and take a chance darn it!!!!!
Whats the worse that could happen? She doesn't seem interested and you move on to something better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dr. Arlene
www.Bocatherapy.com'"
Dont get me wrong...I don't mind approaching at all.I actually find it challenging but what is wrong with the woman meeting half way once in a while and closing the deal? Are we living in the turn of the century? Its 2009 for christ sake!!Men and women should be able to put in equal weight when it comes to simple things like asking someone out.Plain and simple.
Thats if we all want equality....which I am whole heatedly for.If not then go back to the time period when women stayed in the kitchen and men did all the hunting.
Why cant we all "take a chance darn it!!!!!"....women included. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 2/15/2009 10:34:51 PM | The title of this thread suggests that because the woman is beautiful, she can't be approached, as if it's the beauty that is to blame.
I recall so many instances where a stunning looking lady laments that no one approaches her because;
1- Men assume she's taken.. due to her beauty she must surely be involved with a man
2 - Men feel intimidated by her looks and thinks she's way above their league.
Never assume.
It's the issue of the person afraid to approach her. Nothing more, nothing less and the ol' cliche comes to mind (they're cliches because time has shown them to be true)... "Nothing ventured, nothing gained'.
The worst you can get is a 'sorry' and she'll feel flattered. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 3/28/2009 8:14:14 AM | I have been told by some men on here that they are afraid to contact me because I probably wouldn't respond to them because I am so pretty...
I actually went on a date with someone that thought that from here and we were not for each other ...but we are good friends and still get together on an ocassion for lunch and to catch up...I say to all men, don't be afraid to contact a woman on here, you might just be suprized... | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 3/28/2009 8:31:39 AM |
I think that men often believe that the woman , if she is into them, will make the move. All women aren't all that aggresive....bring back the chivalry please!!!!!
Dr. Arlene,
I was with you until I got to the above statement. As a professional with 17 years of experience, do you REALLY advocate continuing to play a game. You would seriously let some man walk out the door who may be great for you because you feel that you aren't agressive enough? Has nothing to do with chivalry. Maybe he's tired. Maybe he has a cold. Maybe Pluto isn't aligned with Jupiter that day. Who knows.
What your comments morphed into was the same old tired "The man is the pursuer and the woman should give the hints on if she is interested". Coy, all too often turns into lonely...unnecessarily. So, if you like playing that game...great. But, in my opinion, if women want to get "in the game", they need to learn how to take risks just as much as guys do.
And as for the "chivalry" thing, people being nice to other people in their everyday lives isn't chivalry. Me, opening the car door for the woman I love isn't chivalry. It's what I do because I love her. Knights on white horses and men sweeping women off their feet are best left to the romance novels. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 3/30/2009 8:13:18 PM | | when i was in high school (and always single) my mom always used to tell me that i intimidated guys at my school. Im not sure if she was right or not, but it didnt keep me from developing low self esteem and crying myself to sleep every night lol | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 4/16/2009 4:16:03 PM | It happened to me before, i went out and i can be there all night long and no one talks to me, guys look at me but they don't talk to me at all, i asked my male friends if it was something wrong with me, they always told me that it is because guys get intimidated because the way i look, they even told if they weren't my friends and they saw me at the bar or club they wouldn't try to talk to me cause they don't want to be rejected
That make me very sad cause almost never i can make new friends, guys feel free to talk to any girl pretty or not the most important thing is not the way you look is who you really are inside, just try forget the way she looks it doesn't matters if she looks like a Goddes just have a nice conversation, you never know!!! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/17/2009 10:52:32 AM | ahh!!
Another misperception.."guys who do not think the odds are worth it to get into a line behind 100 other guys when there is a much shorter one available where you might actually have a chance of getting to the front before the window closes".
Many men have perceptions of long lines, etc. but, the reality is everyone thinks that so, no one gets in line! Surprised?
This is a true statement.
Never be afraid to approach someone you perceive as beautiful. If they are truly beautiful, they will graciously decline if the interest is not mutual. If they are not gracious, you really didn't want to meet them anyway. You may be surprised to find a very kind person you'd like to get to know. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/17/2009 12:43:23 PM | I hear so many men, and yes I am targeting men on this one, say that if they were to date a beautiful woman such as the ones discussed in this thread, they would treat them like gold. Well, my question is: Why is it that you would treat a beautiful woman any better than an average woman?
She surely doesn't deserve any more special treatment than anyone. Why is it that your first thought is that you would treat them so splendidly? Perhaps that is the reason why they don't date you. Beautiful women are not omnipotent. | |
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