| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/17/2009 12:46:57 PM | There are a lot of misconceptions about beautiful (single) women - That they must be unapproachable, man-eaters, extremely picky, whatever. Some of that may be true, some not. Some of the sweetest women I've known were among the most beautiful (although I admit sometimes it's hard to separate the two - To some extent they are beautiful because they are sweet).
I've learned there's no harm to be done by approaching anyone who I'm attracted to. There is no woman too beautiful. Maybe that's arrogance on my part - I don't care! (It's too bad I didn't come to the realisation about 20 years earlier, is all.)
One thing I do still notice is that mass-market-appeal-beautiful women rarely do the approaching. Is that because their dance card is laden with options already, or some sort of warped low self-esteem thing? Different people, different experiences - I guess we'll just have to ask them!
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/17/2009 2:24:25 PM | I suppose there's some truth to a universally attractive woman being a little harder to break the ice with, due simply to the fact that she is often approached.
However, this type of a woman usually has a better overall picture of what she is precisely attracted to in a man. So, you would benefit from her not being prone to being as ambivalent as one who doesn't have as many different men approaching her.
So, it can actually work in your favor. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/17/2009 2:40:50 PM |
I suppose there's some truth to a universally attractive woman being a little harder to break the ice with, due simply to the fact that she is often approached.
However, this type of a woman usually has a better overall picture of what she is precisely attracted to in a man. So, you would benefit from her not being prone to being as ambivalent as one who doesn't have as many different men approaching her.
So, it can actually work in your favor.
*FAIL*
Attractive Women can be dumped just as fast as any other Woman can.
just because they look good doesn't mean they have their ducks in a row when it comes to finding what they need in a man. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/17/2009 2:50:36 PM |
this type of a woman usually has a better overall picture of what she is precisely attracted to in a man.
Yep, this bit definitely doesn't follow naturally.
Very attractive women tend to see the world through different-colored glasses that it's hard for most any guy to understand. Players always pick them out of the crowd, and those poor "nice guys" tend to recoil from them out of misplaced fear or awe. Unless they actively seek and approach truly nice guys they may end up with very little experience with them, and a dating history that seems to support the "all men are players" viewpoint.
There's a lot of other psycho-babble about attractive people being told all their life that they are valued mainly because they are attractive, thus forming a perspective that attractiveness is more valuable than other characteristics, thus looking mainly for that in a partner even when it doesn't end up making them happy.
Coles notes version - Attractive women tend to learn a different spin on how attraction works, but that doesn't make it "better", either for her or for you. :) | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/17/2009 3:11:18 PM |
Attractive Women can be dumped just as fast as any other Woman can.
just because they look good doesn't mean they have their ducks in a row when it comes to finding what they need in a man.
Well, duh... | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/17/2009 4:25:27 PM | | There is an old saying from the 1700s. I'll paraphrase it. A woman who is in love with herself will have no rivals. Let's assume that a woman thinks she is gorgeous, and from that, she is in love with herself. The saying applies. If a woman is beautiful but is not impressed by herself, only then would I approach her. Why be in competition with her ego if she thinks she is hot? | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/17/2009 10:37:02 PM | I use to get frustrated dating because I felt like the only way I was gonna get a guy to start talking to me was if I initiated it. Then my brothers and guy friends said that men are most likely intimidated by me and dont want to approach me do to fear of being shut down.
Unless you men wanna be single forever you better grow some balls and take the risk of being shut down cause It goes both ways guys. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/27/2009 8:54:03 PM | | Alot of guys I think get intimadated by very attractive women. I know I do. I dont have that willy nilly confidence to go up and start a conversation with that "perfect 10" I find even on this site The girls I find Stunning I think to myself I couldnt keep her happy... maybe its just me and my lower than normal self esteem tho, lol. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/28/2009 11:13:03 AM | Ive been with what you would say beautiful woman...some were ok and some where very insecure....they need the attention on them....spoiled girl syndrome you might say...they miss out...and as for being intimdated....naaaa...got over that way back in high school...I know where the door is...their the ones missin out not me...lol. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/28/2009 11:16:40 AM | | I don't think it's a confidence issue not talking to beautiful women, I just assume the outcome won't be very positive. This isn't the case with all beautiful women because I know a lot are really nice. I just don't respond well to being snubbed or put down by women who think a lot of themselves. It's not worth the reaction I'd have and the yelling that would follow. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/30/2009 5:10:11 PM | | But it can hurt to try.....People can be cruel on rejections. And a gorgeous guy is way more approachable than a beautiful girl. The guy usually will not insult you just for being. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/30/2009 6:34:12 PM | | Ive seen quite a few that Id stay clear off, but getting rejected doesnt really bother me. Its gonna happen sometimes. You wont know if a cutey will holler unless you open your mouth. There have been a few occasions in which I told myself, "Let me get shot down so I can get this outta my system."(lol) | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/30/2009 8:00:59 PM | OP,
Looks are subjective.
I find that a bigger indicator of who will be a waste of time are those who are on hundreds of people's favourites list... and they've been on this site for a while but just can't seem to find anyone because 'they're picky'.
I suspect they're not really 'picky' so much as they're attention whores most of the time who likely already have a partner. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/31/2009 8:27:14 AM |
Well I know If I thought a guy was that gorgeous I would be intimidated. But hey it never hurts to try all they can say is no thanks , not really a waste of time.
Yeah. I'm sure you hear the word no a lot. (sarcasm) 
Basically, I agree, but the best looking women I've ever dated asked me out. I always get a no if I do the approaching. (Almost always.) Accompanied with a look of panic or fear. It's very disconcerting and off putting. I'm either a Quasimodo lookalike, or so good looking it's scary. I lean toward the first. My mom always suggested the latter.  | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/31/2009 9:27:22 AM |
When I was a young woman, I was very pretty and quite lonely. There may be some truth that attractive people are avoided.
I very much agree with this statement. When I was young, I too was very pretty and dateless many a night. Oh, men would stare, but they wouldn't come up to me and talk. You have no clue how many guys, once they met me, couldn't believe that (a) I would talk to them; (b) I was down to earth and not hung up on my looks; and (c) just assumed I had tons of men calling me nightly and, therefore, my calendar was full and I had no room for them. Lol. So not true. Thank God I'm not shy, because I was the one who approached all but one of my ex's. Otherwise, I'd still be sitting around waiting for a date. 
By the way OP, you are still a very attractive woman. 
Note: For those who are wondering, and I know you are, yes, I am still attractive. I'm just curious to see how many e-mails I get based on personality. Yeah, I know, I'm a punk, but I don't care.  | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/31/2009 2:17:01 PM | | I have experienced being intimidated by men. I am really shy at times. life is to short just go for it. You might let a good thing pass you by. You'll really have nothing to lose maybe a friend to gain. But who am I to give this advice. I should practice what I preach. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/31/2009 3:24:56 PM | I have had so many men comment to me that I must get so much mail cuz of how I look....and I hate that!!!
Cuz it does make me feel that some are too intimated by how I look so they don't bother contacting me (hypothetically speaking) thinking that they would rather not be part of the competition....
And by men doing that, they could be losing out on something so worth it for them.
Time and time again ppl feel not 'good enough' for a certain person just cuz of how they look and that urks me soooo much. We all pee and drink water so I don't get how different we are? If I ever come across someone who feels I am beneath them or that someone else is beneath them, I don't fret or argue about it I actuall laugh and wish them the best because to be so shallow and to live is a cave of darkness in the long run is a lonely cold place to find yourself lost in!!!
Just because someone is attractive doesn't make them better then anybody else....There is so much more to learn about someone once you pass the outer layer and to pass that oportunity up because you yourself doesn't feel worthy enough is a crock of sh..it....
Everybody has something to possibly offer in one form or another so in my eyes nobody is perfect or above anybody else!! | |
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