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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 1:30:17 AM | Well I'm no Hollywood beauty (no apologies ;-)); Anyway, I’m thinking rather of a woman that a guy perceives as beautiful…
Anyway, story goes:
A guy, much younger than I, seemed to see me in a somewhat exalted light. I was sitting at a local bar, having fun with friends when he came up to me, and in a defeated but ever so sincere manner, humbly stated, "You are the kind of woman every man wants", said why he thought so and that was it - he was NOT hitting on me - wouldn't have dared apparently... it seemed he just needed to get it off his chest. I smiled (I guess sympathetically), said thank you and….. off he went back to his friends. This defeated, I’m-not-good-enough-for-you attitude is UNattractive – and will get you nowhere fast… but you know what, an “I-AM-more-than-good-enough-for-you attitude” cannot be faked – and even if you manage to get away with it for a while, it’ll be exposed…. sooner rather than later.
The root is how we measure ourselves and consequently others. What makes us worthwhile and attractive - you definitely do not have to be good looking to be attractive – some of the sexiest men I’ve known were not good looking!!
The key is self-growth & self awareness…. getting to really know ourselves, love, accept….or rather, accept and love ourselves and not only for our success with the opposite sex… it’s necessary in every part of our life… heck, just to be truly content.
I’ve seen guys who are really “ordinary” to plain – yes plain!!!... sweep attractive women off their feet! These guys KNEW who they were and were not going to apologize to anyone for that. I’m telling you guys… start on yourself and do it FOR yourself… self awareness, self development is the key. YOU ARE good enough but only when you know that yourself: GUT level! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 3:19:37 AM | There are two women I know who are so beautiful, I won't talk to them. I don't know where Bill found them, but he hired them as bartenders for my favorite club. I think they are clones, made from the most perfect female parts. And im not talking bodies, im talking chin, jawline, nose, eyes, hairline, hair, cheekbones.....and while every other female in the world plucks their eyebrows out then redraws them with a pencil, these girls actually have real eyebrows! The silkiest hair that i just want to wrap around my....well. you know. it just looks really soft.
I have such a crush on them, its sad. My friends like to tease me 'hey we were at the club last night, that one bartender was asking about you'. **stards, lol.
I call the one with short hair my wife, and the one with long hair, my mistress. And they know about each other. Its a whole fantasy Ive made up haha. My friends go along with it 'hey some guy is talking to your wife, better go straighten him out'.
I will never talk to them. They could seriously take brad pitt away from angelina jolie, just by passing through his peripheral vision. They could steal any man from any woman.
I could die tomorrow, and i would be happy knowing i was lucky enough to gaze upon their beauty. Their faces are imprinted in my memory, if i knew how to draw I could draw them with my eyes closed.
a little psycho? a little sad? yes, and yes hahaha. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 3:33:28 AM | | I'm not too intimidated by any woman. In the case I don't know the the woman, I'll always speak to her, regardless of how gorgeous. If I can tell there's no chance, then so be it, if there's an opportunity, I'll exchange numbers. If the woman in question is someone I already know and I'm interested, I'll just ask her out. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 3:34:47 AM | I read somewhere that it's always best to shoot for the stars, and I truly believe it.
It's a lot more fun being turned down by a star than by someone whom you thought you could easily "get".
Also, I find that many of the "stars", perhaps because they turn people down so often, are actually nicer about saying "Thanks but no thanks" than the non-stars. A real classy lady can make you feel like a million bucks even as she gives you the boot.
Besides, I just feel that I owe it to any woman I date to be a quivering gelatinous mass of anticipation before and while I spend time with her -- at least a little. She should know that she sets the butterflies loose in my stomach. I don't mind giving her that power over me because even with butterflies in my tummy I can still keep a cool head. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 4:41:40 AM | Deeming something beautiful is a perception. It is subjective. Some guys don't find slim girls attractive, or big breasts, or perfect symmetrical faces as asthetic, or even a nice personality as beautiful. Depending on what angle you come from, if you think someone is beautiful, you believe everyone else will probably think the same. I am sure there are others who will think she is beautiful, mainly because humans have a natural tendency to love and we're social animals.
Playing the devils advocate, I like to think beautiful women are ones that have a nice personality, they are happy, and they aren't easily angered. They have a good sense of humour and see the bright side of life even in bad situations. This is whether they are pretty on the outside or not. In the past me and my mates used to rate the looks on girls as they walk past. I met this girl who would have been a 3/10, but talking to her displayed a beautiful side from within. She was confident, happy, and always smiling. She plays cello, and I play violin - now we play in a trio together. She then became a 8/10. Yes I know.
So the initial pre-judgement that a woman is beautiful probably subjective and during an approach, if there is fear, it is probably because the missing component in the mind that she might have a brain and personality. Yes, she is attractive on the outside. Perhaps she isn't so nice - some men can deal with it, as long as they end up bedding them. I know I can't simply because it doesn't make me happy. Yeah, I don't fear talking to beatiful women that guys are intimidated about. Even ones that are behind the counter in a coffee shop or one that tripped over on a pebble. I often make their day by making them smile or laugh with a witty conversation. I also talk to women who aren't deemed as beautiful. Because they might be really beautiful and I might be missing out. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you couldn't give a shit about her
Posted: 5/26/2007 8:12:26 AM | If you value other people above you, YOU HAVE ALREADY LOST. People must PROVE their value to you, and even then, why would you let someone elses apparent value overshadow your own?
So a girl is good looking, big deal. You want to stand a chance with super hot women? Don't be like Mr Nice guy and be the little whipped b!tch. Don't even notice she's good looking, no compliments, no checking her out every 3 seconds, look at her eyes. Pretend that she's an ugly chick, or your sister.
So what, I don't score or get to date every hot girl I say hi to. But I sure as hell don't let some chick I don't know kick me in the balls because she's good looking.
Want another tip on beautiful women? Give them a little attitude, even point out a flaw or two. "Your hair is so nice...are those hair extensions? Well...it still looks good anyways"
"I bet all those other guys let you get away with acting like a senior high school snob. If you want to play school games, I'm not really into that anymore"
Trust me....she'll remember you, if not for your charm, then your attitude. Hot women don't get stood up to alot. Most guys are like beforementioned loser. "I am not worthy, you are so much better then me...please, let me buy you a drink"
That is ****ing Pathetic
Sincerily,
Solitaire | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you couldn't give a shit about her
Posted: 5/26/2007 8:42:26 AM | When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
When that thought crosses your mind, that's a big sign that you MUST give it a shot IMMEDIATELY.
Yeah, you're probably gonna bomb, but once in a while...home run!
It really helps one to get over that whole 'fear of rejection' thing more effectively than any other method I've ever found.
Those insanely beautiful women can be just as cool , clueless, insane, wonderful or damaged as anyone else.
Plus, you've just broadcast to all the other women in the place that you have balls. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 8:50:36 AM | | Absolutely not. Although the direct approach is tough. You have to be casual in your approach. I will send a female friend over. You have to look at yourself though. I am young rich, not bald, 6 pack stomach, 6'2, can hold a conversation and make a girl laugh, well traveled, emotionally stable, not divorced, no kids. The thing is if you have not much to offer and get a beautiful girl you have to ask why? She is probably one of those girls who has a cute but psycho shirt that says things even out lol! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you couldn't give a shit about her
Posted: 5/26/2007 8:51:53 AM | | if a man is intimidated by my looks, intelligence, and independance, then I say its not my problem. how can anyone fear , what hasnt hurt you yet ? how do you know if theyre not the sweetest thing ever? i have met some that are intimidating to others but i got to know them as an individual and talk bout big teddy bears..hehehe. they perseve to be tough on the outside but in all honesty...very soft on the inside. you have nothing to loose by approaching them...you just might gain something in the end..whether it be friends or a lesson to be learnt, you can gain knowledge, who knows. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you couldn't give a shit about her
Posted: 5/26/2007 9:14:20 AM | You have to look at yourself though. I am young rich, not bald, 6 pack stomach, 6'2, can hold a conversation and make a girl laugh, well traveled, emotionally stable, not divorced, no kids. The thing is if you have not much to offer and get a beautiful girl you have to ask why?
I love your posts Travelor.....So you're saying that if you aren't 6'2 with a flat stomach, and rich you can't get beautiful women?? lol..How totally arrogant of you. I've got beautiful friends that would chew you up and spit you up just because of your attitude.. Oh and you spelt traveler wrong..
Nobody should ever feel that anyone is "above" them, OR that they are "above" others. People are people, until you get to know them you have no idea what they're like, what their insecurities are, what their lives have been like, so how would you know if they'll be interested if you won't try?
vvvIf you look in the dictionary sweets, both versions can be used...Thanx Freude! lol | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you couldn't give a shit about her
Posted: 5/26/2007 10:09:24 AM |
if a man is intimidated by my looks,
how can anyone fear , what hasnt hurt you yet ?
I really dont think its about fear, intimidation, lack of self worth, or confidence, or thinking they are better than you... for most average guys, its about being realistic. Of course you can play the averages, and many will, just like playing slots in a casino, if you pump in enough quarters, eventually you will get something back... but most of the time, she will be more concerned, with weather her friends think your "hot", or if your the proper distance higher than her, than weather or not your confident , funny , or smart. They will deny thats the case, but Im sure most guys know better, which is why they dont approach, they consider her "eye candy", not like a real person... So for the extemely attractive women... if your not like that, and you do care more about whats in a mans heart and mind , than what he looks like, then go ahead and make the first move on an average looking guy, blow his mind...... I double dog dare ya !!........  | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you couldn't give a shit about her
Posted: 5/26/2007 10:17:03 AM | Some of the replies on this thread display the kind of unfair crap that some so-called "beautiful" people get subjected to very often. One guy spells out the prejudice: "most of the time, she will be more concerned, with weather her friends think your 'hot', or if your the proper distance higher than her..."
We even have one guy suggesting ways to actually devalue beautiful women ("Don't even notice she's good looking, no compliments, no checking her out every 3 seconds, look at her eyes. Pretend that she's an ugly chick, or your sister.") Nice.
What is wrong with noticing someone is beautiful?
What is wrong with allowing yourself to be affected by their beauty?
Ugh.
Here's the thing: I want a partner who thinks I'm pretty damn hot, okay? I admit it! I'm shallow! Yes of course I want them to like my personality, good heart, the way I'm kind to small furry animals, etc. But I want them to be attracted to me! It's fun! And if a woman were actually trying to devalue my looks in some way when we first met, I wouldn't stick around long enough to find out whether she was just putting on an act or not; I'd be gone.
I suspect many beautiful women feel this way, too. Frankly, I suspect most people feel this way, although I can't be sure.
Games, games, games. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you couldn't give a shit about her
Posted: 5/26/2007 10:48:12 AM | Awww, are those poor "beautiful people" being subjected to prejudice ? damn the mis-fortune... life must be so difficult for them,lol.
its not unfair crap.... its reality, notice the word "most" in the post, the thread is about women that are so beautiful, most men wont approach them, and why. I didnt say all very beautiful women are like that, or even that there bad people if they are. As for the very young man who said
("Don't even notice she's good looking, no compliments, no checking her out every 3 seconds, look at her eyes. Pretend that she's an ugly chick, or your sister.") sounds like he read D'Angelos silly e-book. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you couldn't give a shit about her
Posted: 5/26/2007 10:59:38 AM | | Well when every hot women I have ever walked up to has shot me down in a rude manor I just go fine I just thought u looked lonely and figured it would be interesting to start a conversation Now I know you are a ugly **** and its not your looks that do it its your personality so good bye you are not even worth knowing. I have had some of them change thier mind on getting to know me and then I just keep blowing them off it tends to work very well. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 11:30:46 AM | I think, whoever the beau is, there is no such thing that you "can't" approach... If you feel "impaired" by the moment, well, I believe things have always a reason and a season, if it wasn't the time, it wasn't the time, and we learn. Beauty also varies with time and intensity... enjoy the moment however it comes, that is it.
It also has usually two outcomes or the warming middle: yes, no, and maybe . Objections and acceptances are our all daily bread in life, make the best you've got.
I have been used to all kinds of "approach", and I suggest you guys to being best off when polite and corteous, it always open doors and opportunities.
I use the very same method and it always works positively, be it a no, a yes or a maybe - we can work out with all three for the best. Cheers!  | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 12:57:52 PM | | I've had this problem with almost every woman I've been attracted to. I have the rotten luck to have a combination of being shy and having confidence problems (I have no idea how they started though). I'll see someone that in my eyes is absolutely gorgeous and want to talk to her and maybe ask her out, but then I start thinking about the potential outcomes. I end up thinking "what would she see in me?" or "she's probably taken" or something along those lines. I always end up deciding that the odds of getting rejected are too great so I'm not even going to bother trying (I know. I'm pathetic). As a result, I am 23 years old and have never been in a relationship and very little dating experience. I'm not sure why I have these problems. I'm a true gentleman (a rare breed these days) and I know that my cooking skills will be an advantage, but the same thing happens every time (And considering I attend TCU, there are plenty of girls to choose from). I know that I have most likely passed up many opportunities because I was scared and have been left wondering what could have happened. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 1:03:33 PM | | Men have got to leave this chasing women thing behind men around the world should stop chasing women and get lazy and put it all on the women then the field would even out because after about 3 years of this I guaranttee women would be kinder in how they reject people they would not play stupid little mind games and there would be alot less leading people on. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 1:17:15 PM | OOOOOOOHHHHHHH!!!!! My eyes have now been opened. So THAT's why men don't approach me. OOOOHHHH!!!! I get it. Geeeeeezzz... I was so worried. And, all along, it was just that I'm so beautiful... My beauty intimidates men. I shoulda known it was something like that.
Well, now that I'm aware of the problem, I'm going to work on being more approachable and less dazzling.
Thanks, freebird633, for clearing up this matter for me. All those years... | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 3:31:49 PM | | Another thing that I didn't notice listed here is that with such an attractive looking woman, works with men too I suppose, is that perhaps they don't get approached is because they might seem intimidating because of their looks. And those of us that can't/ won't approach them and talk to them feel as though they most likely get hit on all the time and get sick of it and would just as soon as ignore us than actually talk to us. Plus, some of us that have actually tried to apporach a nice looking woman and strike up a converstion only to get brushed off does chip away at our self esteem and so eventually we begin to believe we are not worthy of talking to them, much less looking a them. I can speak for myself, I can talk to nearly anyone, and usually do just cuz I like to talk, but as far as approaching a beautiful woman to even consider asking her out knowing she is waaay out of my leauge will never happen. There are some of us that know exactly just who we can/should be talking to and can't/shouldn't even bother try talking to. For me a bit part of the problem is that I'm a bigger guy and so knowing most women don't want a fat belly on their arm, I do not consider trying to talk to many women that I feel are too beautiful to approach. Ya I know, I've heard it all before, "if being big is the issue, fix it, get off your lazy fat azz and exercise more, make yourself look more appealing," and I am, but it still doesn't change the fact that I am a nice person and simply don't feel as though I could be given a chance at all. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 5:06:14 PM | "she often times sat home on "date nights" because most guys thought she already had a date."
I was going to say the exact same thing, if everyone is too intimidated to approach or on the contrary approaches for the wrong reasons, it must be very lonely. You would almost think beauty was a curse. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 5:55:03 PM | beauty is not a cure ugliness is a curse if she sat home on date nights it was more due to her giving off the vibe that she was unavailable.
but people are tested with everything in lives some with poverty some with riches some with ugliness some with looks the point is to be a good person no matter what one is tested with.
I am still a good person though I have done some really bad things to survive. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 5/26/2007 7:18:42 PM | I was very much in love with a girl in high school, and she was a total and complete knockout. She was very popular, and dated whom she wanted, when she wanted. She actually befriended me. I never did make a move, and to this day, I regret it. Jenny H. if you're reading this, I was a coward LOL!
I truly believe there is no woman so beautiful that she is unapproachable. I absolutely do NOT let looks get in my way. I may not get a lot of dates or numbers, but I have definitely struck up lots of "out of the blue" conversations with women who would be considered unapproachable. A positive attitude goes a LONG way. | |
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