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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/10/2007 11:18:02 PM | I've heard a lot of very attractive women say that they don't date often...that men don't ask.
If someone really caught my attention, I would have to make a move.....the worst that can happen is you find out she is taken.
I think that being approachable enters into the mix as well. I have 2 sisters....both smaller than me..a lot smaller; although we are all short. We seldom go to clubs any more but in the past, it was always interesting to see who got asked to dance first. My youngest sister was always smiling and receptive....while the other had the look of "I dare you to mess with me"...other times, the guy came straight to me and they were both shocked.
We give off vibes......I'm attractive enough but very round.....but am comfortable in my skin and I think that makes others comfortable.
It's for sure that men and women make for interesting conversation.....and to stay in the game we just have to suck it up and go.
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/10/2007 11:24:43 PM | Well Id hate to sound egotistical here but ...... When Im out lots of men look at me in an admiring way but very few actually come over to talk to me. Im not sure why this is ... maybe for the reasons the op state or that they cant believe someone who looks like me is actually from this planet
Its hard to say ... you decide  | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/10/2007 11:28:05 PM | Oh yes ...it's the old "too beautiful to get a date thing" ...
I think that is just awful , all these beautiful women sitting home every night.
I really feel sorry for beautiful women.
I'll tell you what ......
I'll come to your rescue!
If there are any poor lonesome beautiful women out there (who can't get a date 'cause guys are intimidated)
and you live in my area and you are within ten years of my age .
Feel free to mail me .......I'll ask you out.
And...I promise, I won't let you intimidate me.
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 1:07:37 AM | maybe for the reasons the op state or that they cant believe someone who looks like me is actually from this planet
Ineffable Me, it's probably because some (not all!) girls that are very attractive are 'b**chy beautiful'. They're obsessed with their looks and rely heavily on this, failing to ever develop a decent personality. Alot of them can be very nasty and dismissive when you try to talk to them, especially in a nightclub environment. In this way, they're intimidating, also because men assume that they get hit on all the time, and hand out rejections like there's no tomorrow. Plus, let's face it, the more beautiful women can afford to be more choosy.
Also, it's hard to explain, but sometimes it's because we're so attracted to gorgeous women that we go a bit silly and can't be ourselves, we feel like we have to make a big impression.
I just wish I was like Shallow Hal! When he was brainwashed, that is! The irony is then, that beautiful women would probably would find you more desirable, because you wouldn't seem the least bit desperate! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 1:39:17 AM | Rejection in any form pertifies most of us.....I have never, ever asked a guy out in person, but have done so many times online.....it's easier if they ignore you on line...
In person, we do assume someone "so nice looking and kind & attractive MUST have someone" ...so I'm going to have to start taking my own advice I'm about to give here, but maybe try something less threating:
Walk up to someone and tell them they have the most beautiful smile you ever seen and you just had to say so!....Or pick something else not meant to be flirty that you like about them. I had a gorgeous guy in a club tell me that one night as I was talking and laughing and passing him with a friend, and he wasn't hitting on me (he was with someone else) but DAMN did that make my night! Plus if they are single and interested that at least opens a 'safe door"....
Look, I know guys get pissed when they ask for a girls number and they call and it's fake or they don't return their call, but no one wants to be backed into a corner, and no one wants to tell someone else they're not interested and embarrass them, so pick a safe compliment that doesn't require a "I am or am not interested in you" type of response...
I honestly can't imagine any person of the opposite sex treating you like crap, if you stop them in passing and tell them what a becautiful smile they have etc, and then start moving on without glaring at them wishfully....if the attraction is mutual you'll probably find out very quickly, otherwise no one feels embarassed and you just made someone's day... | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 1:39:55 AM | I do not have a problem approaching beautiful women, online or IRL.
It is intellectually minded women that I have trouble approaching because they are so hard to find or identify these days. I do not mean intellectual as in "ivory tower" intellectuals, I mean real life thinkers. Many claim they are but are not. Many are but do not show it in their profiles or when you meet them in a grocery store (I do not mean book presentation events intellectuals). But chances that she is intellectually minded (aka a thinking woman) are not affected negatively by good looks. IMO they are not correlated. Plus it is easier, IMO to approach a beautiful woman to find out if she is intellectually minded than ..... | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 5:56:21 AM | | Well, I can't say that I have ever had the problem approaching a woman as beautiful as you speak of. BUT I can say that it has taken me a few minutes to collect myself before I can approach her. Once I get past the "fallin all over myself" stage, I am good to go. I can walk up to her with confidence, introduce myself and see what happens from there. I know that good women like confidence in a man. I also know it sometimes takes a few minutes to build sometimes. Come down from your natural high a bit. Say some positive things to yourself. Carry your head high, smile, make eye contact, and go get your praise or rejection. Either way, it won't kill you. And DON'T look at the ground or stare at her boobs when your talking to her. I have usually had better luck with good eye contact, a smile and maybe even a wink to know she might be interested. Those are some pretty good signs to look for. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 6:07:55 AM | | Piquebu is right! I couldn't have said it better myself. The sad part is that she has one HELLUVA nice profile and is VERY PRETTY! I bet she doesn't get asked out as much as you might think. What a shame. It just goes to show that if you don't have the stones to take a chance, you could be missing some very sweet fruit in your life. She may perhaps be just as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside. And having a girl who is beautiful through and through ain't a bad thing. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 6:19:14 AM | Hey FB, I would have to reply that , Yes, Men do admit , after the fact of meeting and talking that they do feel somewhat intimidated to approach & contact. But I think EVERYONE feels that way to some degree. We see the opposite gender as being 'out of our league', so beautiful/ handsome, thet we believe that there is NO WAY that either we have a 'snow balls chance in hell' or that we meet the criteria. I get repeatedly commented on about my pics that I post. The pics that people post are those in which we believe we 'look our best'. I DO NOT ALWAYS look like my pics. I tell people that these are my 'Maybelline snap shots'. Do you honestly expect people to post pics of themselves of when they first get out of bed in the morning? For a Man, all he has to be is usually clean shaven and have his hair combed [if he has any, LOL]. But for Women, it's different. Everyone is attracted to different 'qualities' in the opposite gender. But, what is appealing to one person, such as for Women, say a beard.........on one guy, it may be very attractive to a Woman, but then she may see another pic of a Man w/ a beard, and be completely turned off by it. It all comes down to eye appealing attraction first and formost. If that were not the case, they would not have the option of putting up pics of ourselves. And WHO honestly answers personal ads of those w/o pics? Remember the old days of the 'Sheila Woods' paper ads of 'ISO' 'SWM/F' 'DSWM', etc etc??? There were NO pics in those ads, We searched 'blindly' for 'LOVE'. As for feling Intimidated, I think Men just realy need to get to know the Woman and vise/versa for Women. Until then, You need to have self confidence w/o reaching self centeredness, and I think We all work together just fine. Great Post, by the way !!   Marci | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 6:19:31 AM |
Women do you feel sometimes men avoid you because they are intimidated? Any answers to help each other out or personal experiences?
I don't think of myself as good looking, pretty, beautiful, etc..... but I am starting to wonder on that..... and thinking maybe the OP has a point. I recently had a few men chat with me and when I found we had little in common and didn't wish for things to go further, they got angry saying things like "are all pretty women so mean".... or "such a beautiful face and such a b**tch".... etc. It isn't like they had any reason to give me a back-handed compliment at this point, so yes, it makes me wonder if maybe that IS the reason my dating land is like the Sahara. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 7:55:06 AM | Hi all
Just my thoughts. I see women that just pop my eyes out. I will allway say to them they look great today. But I move on .Ladies that nice are going to attract man all the time. And I feel sooner are later they will try for something better. I once dated a redhead that has gods gift to man. I am a great date romanic and fun, educated ,well travelled.But average looking. She been married 3 times already. She has dating another man at the same time. Told me she has getting married to the other guy. So we meet, me a old friend. She told me she could control him better than me. I thought what a nice thing to say. I am a man that does what I belive is right. But I could see they both real wanted trophy mates. They where afriad to go out for fear of losing their trophy.That lead to bad feeling from both sides. They end up breaking up. And how I am not interested but have dated a girl that good looking. But not the live I want to live till death do us part. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 9:23:29 AM | | Don't walk away too fast! Women spend hours working on their image, so any approach is greatly appreciated. Whether men know it or not, women are sometimes terrified of approaching men. Everyone is afraid of rejection. You'll never know if you don't try. I was in a club one night and a fine boy kept staring at me. I thought, "He's too fine to be looking at me." I thought he was staring at my friend, so I sent her over to talk to him. He sent her back saying, "Not you, the cutie by your side." I was shocked and amazed that he overlooked my friend for me. But it proves my point that no one knows what the other person is thinking. If you don't find out, you'll regret your decision. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 9:38:26 AM | | I always have people say to me "You must get asked out all the time". Well, actually, it never happens. I see from the other postings from beautiful/attractive women that they experience the same problem. what is different from asking out a beautiful woman and an average woman?? Will rejection from a beautiful woman be somehow different than any other rejection? Take a chance guys!! | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 9:56:42 AM | I wouldnt know if a guy was hitting on me unless he used a baseball bat! lol I'm not a ditz on a normal basis lol I will admit to having my occassions, but I am so happy in my own little world I dont sit and wait for signals. I dont even know what they are! I was married for 10 1/2 years. The signals stopped a looong time ago lol.
I have a grand niece who so so strikingly beautiful, she has absolutely no clue! She is just her simple silly self, and guys fawn all over her. What a jackpot men find in her...inner AND outer beauty. I love to watch people around her.
I know a lot of gorgeous women who are so down to earth, men would be really passing something up by not approaching.
Be brave men!! Do the ladies a favor and just go for it! :) | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 10:21:34 AM | I look at it differently, looks are not intimidating to me, it's after you meet them, and find out they are not only beautiful on the outside but are also very beautiful on the inside then I start to get nervous. It's when those biker chicks look at me like they want to spank me, that's when I feel intimidated. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 10:25:47 AM | | I have been in this position, as the unapproachable one. I never knew why due to many personal life history reasons. I had no clue men were attracted to me, and when they did not approach me, it confirmed my own thoughts. Although it was pointed out to me by a gal friend that men were doing strange things while watching me. You know; running into walls, poles, other people, and even MVA's while driving. All of this still happens today and I am aware of what is happening. So MEN TALK TO ME. I have been longing for a good man. I have been told I am very intimidating because of my education and looks. Also that I look better in person than in my present photos. When I was 17 I started a modeling in the VA area, and worked up untill I was in my early 40's. Listen: PLEASE APPROACH ME, any woman who flips you away is not a good person and you do not need her. Just talk and do not take it as rejection, it is her, not you. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 10:36:42 AM | | I run into that problem even though I consider myself attractive, but the men who meet me tell me I'm beautiful.....I consider myself a nice person and I like people. Men feel intimidated on other things, but that is their insecurity and I don't date insecure men. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 10:45:29 AM | | A guy that I went out with for a few years, and who was totally handsome, told me that had we met in a bar instead of on line he never would have approached me thinking I was 'too hot' for him. He felt safer on line and so he did make the initial contact and we were both so glad that he did. Everyone has their own perception of what 'attractive' is. If you see someone on POF that you'd like to get to know, send that email. After all, we're all here for the same reason - to meet someone. Don't rule someone out without giving them a chance. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 10:49:00 AM | oh ok....so dudes aint askin gme out cuz im beauuuuuuuuuuuutiful. ok!!!
cool
I thought it was cuz im mean or weird or somehow UNdesireable. well now I know its cuz they jsut scared of me...wellllllllll ok then!! much betta!
merry xmas
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 10:51:22 AM | The reason "average" men assume that a "beautiful" women would not be interested in them is rather simple...
If Mr Average was really hot (on the same scale the beautiful woman he is admiring) he would not be interested in getting an average looking woman, rather, he would exploit his good looks to get himself a really hot girl. So Mr Average assumes the beautiful woman will do what he would do if he had her level of looks; which is hold out for a hottie - somebody of at least equal physical attractiveness.
Men project their own obsession with good looks onto woman and are shocked to find out that not all women think like they do. To them it just doesn't make any sense that a hot woman wouldn't demand an equally hot man. | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 10:53:54 AM | | Give me a break! Woman are unapproachable due to being ssooooo beautiful....nah, never going to happen...Ill approach anyone...looks dont always mean squat...Give me a break...I dont judge anyone based on their looks...Too bad others are intimidated by these things... | |
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| When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her.
Posted: 10/11/2007 10:59:52 AM | | I dont consider myself beautiful...on the outside, but i am on the inside, but yes ive been at bars and such and have had men look, but im shy, and if they look too long, i will look away, and then some guys look at that as me being stuck up...im not at all, im just very shy. I would much rather be with an average guy, they seem to know how to treat women alot better...(not all, but alot of them). | |
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