Kazot
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Joined: 12/7/2006
Msg: 26 | |
| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/23/2007 2:07:54 PM |
HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
The problem may be that you are approaching it from the wrong direction.
The better question would be "How do I encourage my man to do what I want?".
It varies from man to man but we have managed to keep the species going for this long so there must be some people doing it right some of the time.
It is very important that you remember it is a man and he doesn't think like you. Figure out what he wants and give it to him then let him know that you want to continue to giving it to him and you would like to do such and such.
Now that may offend a womans sensibilities but for most men that is very exceptable.
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/23/2007 2:08:05 PM | | No one can have control over another person. Women/men that do or try to is because, they don't have control over their own lives. So, for those people, is guess it give them a sense of value to their lives. Anyone who is in control of their own life are too busy with their own life to have control over someone else life. Love, well that has to start with you and your own ability to feel your own love. It is not something that someone can give you. You have to be open to it, and then once you have this love within you and then you meet that special someone, then what you are both saying is I want to feel my own love in each other presence. | |
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/23/2007 2:12:43 PM | Animals can be controlled?......Must be why we still have Animal Control Officers on the Municipal payroll. Self perpetuating job. Sorry that was a joke... but if you ever owned a cat you know how ridiculous the concept of control really is. But in reality the whole idea of controlling another person removes all semblance of self-respect and personal dignity, from both parties.
Edit: LOL kazot......such truths should never offend anyones sensibilities. Well said and extremely funny....but ever so true. | |
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Fran47
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Joined: 3/31/2007
Msg: 29 | |
| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/23/2007 2:20:48 PM | Wow....what a question. Why would anyone want to "control" anyone I don't mean to be unkind..... but if I was a man reading this... and was slightly interested..... I'd be running away from you as fast as I could. You don't need to control anyone. Men and women need to be themselves, and know one should dictate to another. Wow...is all I can say  | |
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/23/2007 2:28:03 PM | Love me, encourage me, support me, to be who I need to be and what I want to be.
Then tell me who you are and what you want, and I will bend steel for you.
Love is not control. Control is manipulation. And anyone being manipulated will one day wake up and realise it and then your bed will be half-full.
Let the garbage go down the garbage chute. 'Cause that's where it belongs.
The rest of us want to stay. Don't force us. We'll do it on our own. Lol | |
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/23/2007 2:31:51 PM | why would you want a man you have to control?????
In an ideal relationship nobody controls the other. duh?
Aperfect relationship has 2 equal partners. Not a leader and a follower.
You'd think that would be common sense? But from reading these forums, it seems obvious that the reason nobody has perfect relationships is most people have no common-sense.
If you feel a need to control someone, you have problems.
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If you feel you have a man who needs someone to control him, then you also got problems.
What's really fucking laughable is the age you show on your profile.
If you haven't figured out the things in life, that should be obvious, and you're already 49, then I guess you never will. | |
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shoree
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Joined: 4/29/2007
Msg: 32 | |
| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/23/2007 2:47:48 PM | Would you yourself really like to be 'controlled'? I know I wouldn't.
I think a mature relationship is where two people build a foundation of love, trust, compassion and friendship. People who care about each other don't 'control' each other.
I hate when people think being controlling means you are 'strong'. Controlling people are usually some of the most insecure people on the planet.
The only person you can control is yourself. And if you don't like how your mate is acting, you can choose to walk out the door. | |
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/23/2007 2:56:14 PM | PLEASE PLEASE when will people learn The only one we can control is OURSELVES
bottom line if someone in your life isnt doing what u want them to do KUDOS FOR THEM
obviously u need balance in your life healthy balance work friends self family personal, end of story | |
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/23/2007 3:25:45 PM | Control?..........why would anyone even think of controlling another person.
You either fit.....or you don't? The whole idea is to find someone to compliement your life.
Control.......thats too much work.......... | |
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/23/2007 7:14:18 PM | OP there is very few people who will put up with being controlled and evebn fewer that like it.
Why would you want to be with a person that you need to change or control?
Myself? Not a chance. A snowball in hell would have have better chance then a mate who tries to control me.
A mate who wants to control is not worth the time it take to say goodbye. | |
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/23/2007 7:24:53 PM | Ca-Razy.
You can't change a person. Don't marry someone you think will change.
Classic mistake.
A guy marries a girl thinking she won't change.
A girl marries a guy thinking he WILL change.
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/24/2007 9:06:15 AM | Thank YOU !
I do not WANT TO CONTOL ANYONE !
I HATED BEING CONTROLLED , My shoes have walked in the path of someone trying to control my every move and thought and action . PERSONALLY I AM VERY INDEPENDENT AND CAN THINK FOR SELF most of the time >
tHANK yOU VERY MUCH I was only asking question to learn if women really did that . But if someone did after the replies in post I dont think they would confess
it .
My apologies go un said It was not a good question to ask ! How silly of me ! I will not come to this Thread Again Your anwers have been my answer it does not happen !
what the women said to other women in drs office was a joke !
 I try to live by & attract same from others
in > 1 Corinthians 13 | |
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/24/2007 9:31:33 AM | More than likely what was meant by the expression was the ability to "control" what a woman will or will not put up with and making sure the man in her life knows she MEANS what she says.
For example, my last boyfriend ....a former "notorious" cheater.... told me that he would never cheat on me because forgiveness was not part of my reality. His former partners, including his wife, always "forgave" .....so naturally he kept right on cheating because he had no incentive to stop!! | |
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/24/2007 9:54:11 AM |
Can we control our men ?
Why does it always have to be a CONTROL issue?
What ever happened to COOPERATION?
Nowadays it's always "My way...or Highway!!"
Guess what? Those Interstate signs look real good to me! | |
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/24/2007 10:13:21 AM | I think that some men control women and some women control men.
For the rest of us:
I think that what we as women need to do in order to a have happy mates is:
Love them, respect them, consider thier feelings, listen to thier dreams, support them through all things good and bad, show kindness, gentleness, humour and always offer a warm hug and a soft place to rest when the world gets them down.
I think that what men need to do in order to have a happy mates is:
Love them,respect them, consider thier feelings, listen to thier dreams, support them through all things good and bad, show kindness, gentleness, humour and always offer a warm hug and a soft place to rest when the world gets them down.
So the same for both sides. Relationships take work and comprimise and sacrifice and understanding.
And lastly: Do Not sweat the small stuff. Life is too short to fight over the toilet seat or the toothpaste lid or crumbs on the counter top. | |
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/24/2007 10:20:23 AM | Firstoff if youneed to comtrol yourman then there lies the problem. A relationship isnt about control. its about sharing 50 50 and if your man doersnt want to go that rout then hew has problems. It has been my expierence that in the past you need to let go of control and then they willcome to you if not keep fishing. | |
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| Someone Please HOW Do I CONTROL MY MAN
Posted: 5/24/2007 10:25:10 AM | | Why would you want to control him anyways ,it has nothing to do with being weak or having a backbone ...if they dont want to be with you let em walk ,who wants someone that you have too fight to keep?....Not me | |
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