Evenor
| | Joined: 10/1/2007
Msg: 251 | |
| | Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?Page 11 of 12 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12) | - lying
- manipulative, especially those who try to be cunning about it and actually believe you don't notice what they are doing....
- needing me to run by all my decisions by her for approval...
- fake, she should be who she really wants to be and quit trying to put on a show as I am already impressed with her if we are dating
- unwilling to be truly 50/50 in the relationship
- (goes along with clingy as mentioned above) not giving me any space as sometimes I just like to take off out of the blue to walk and collect my thoughts in peace
- (as with manipulation) constantly trying to make me be who they think I "should" be instead of what I want to be myself
- them not taking responsibility on their part when things "go bad" because I don't say/do "bad" stuff without being given good reason
- a person that likes to tear other people down because of gender, race, religion, etc. so they can have an illusion of feeling better about themselves
- getting mad at me because they tried to do the impossible and demand more love, trust, respect, etc. from me than they were willing to give
- also them spending alot of time asking for me to tell the truth, yet not wanting to hear it when it's said.... if they didn't want it to begin with then don't ask | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 4/27/2008 6:33:25 AM | *Warning - Sarcasm Ahead*
I love coming home in the evening after being gone 13 hours for work, and the first words out of your mouth are yelling at me because I didnt' do the laundry that day... seeing as how I WAS AT WORK!
I love coming home in the evening after being gone 13 hours for work and seeing you standing there in your sexiest negligee' telling me "c'mon in to the bedroom after you eat! I want to sex you up!"... and then 3 minutes later after I wolf down the nice dinner you made me, get myself cleaned up, and pop into the bedroom, you tell me "Sorry, I have a headache." (i'm sorry, but a headache that persists for months on end is a medical problem)
I love taking you out to the store whenever we need to get something, and you spend the whole time we are out demeaning me and telling me how I don't shave right or I fold the towels wrong, etc.
I love sitting at home on my days off work and listening to you complain about my friends and then threaten to leave me if one of my friend's girlfriend flirts with me because we were good friends in highschool.
I love planning a special day out for you weeks in advance so that I can shower you with adoration and gifts and a fun day out just to have you piss on my parade by being a mean lady who rhymes with the word witch, all day, no matter what I do for you.
I love it whenever you tell me "I'm gonna play a game on my computer. Go ahead and pop something in your game system and play it." Then when I do, you come over and chew me out for not paying attention to you.
I love it whenever I go out of my way to do something special for you (like get to work late so I could pick you out some flowers to be delivered to where you work) and then you chew me out at home because I dared spend a few dollars that I'd saved up without telling you.
I love it whenever you 'play intimate' and get me all hot and bothered with your kissing, caresses, and come-ons, and then when I finally respond to it, you say "Sorry, I have a headache." (again, a months-long headache is a medical problem, not an excuse. Go have your head examined)
I love it whenever you throw out perfectly good food because it was older than 1-2 hours. (never heard of leftovers to take to work the next day?)
I love it whenever you tell me "I want to get a pet." and then we go get one, only to be told when we get home "Sorry, I'm allergic to our new pet, we have to get rid of it!"
I love it whenever I curb my spending to make you happy (i'm an electronics geek, I love new gadgets!), and then you go out and blow a whole paycheck on jewelry, purses, or shoes.
I love it whenever we decide to invite all our friends and family over for a bbq and we have spent the time/money/effort to get it all set up, and then you disappear whenever everyone arrives and claim that you were sick! This was believable once. Maybe twice. But on the third time, after everyone left and I did all the cleanup, you wanted sex? I'm sorry hun, you lost out by lying to me again.
I love it when you tell me you love me and would do anything to satisfy my desires, and then I tell you "Ok, my desire is sex and I haven't had any in weeks. Let's go!" and you then reply "Sorry, not that. I have a headache." (again, a months-long headache is a medical problem, not an excuse. Go have your head examined and this time, i'm gonna call ems for you since you seem incapable of finding a cure for your obvious brain tumor)
*End of Sarcasm*
I could go on and on... but you know... I love you too much to complain (ok, now the sarcasm is really over).
And women wonder why men get so upset at them. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 4/27/2008 8:20:19 AM | my top 5 turn offs are:
physically unattractive - for any reason or number of reasons, it isnt actually that important in the long run but i need something to get a spark going.
drinking, partying, bars and nightclubs - a person that enjoys these is just not serious enough for me, also very likely still looking around to just play and get laid rather then be interested in a relationship of a higher nature regardless if she admits it to herself or not.
dishonesty - in all its forms. straight forward and to the point.
hypocrisy - for example: if a girl says she enjoys exotic vacations or things that tend to be outragiously expensive, or is looking for a man that is well financially secure but then says she is not material ? LOL @ that and anything alike.
games - mixed signals, inability to continue and choose one way or the other, etc. | |
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MX220
| | Joined: 3/31/2007
Msg: 256 | |
| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 4/27/2008 8:30:24 AM | >High maintenance.
>Can't leave their cell phone off for an hour.
>Talking too much. Giving long, drawn out and boooooring anwers to any questions.
>The opposite to the above and making it a struggle for me to make conversation.
>I agree with Bobafett on the mixed signals | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 4/27/2008 8:43:43 AM | | Being incapable of answering a simple YES or NO question with a simple YES or NO.If I wanted a long answer,I would have framed the question in a different way. lmao It is fine to have more to add AFTER you have answered the question with a YES or NO. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 4/27/2008 11:11:58 AM | msg 265: So ale's ok then?
msg 267:
drinking, partying, bars and nightclubs - a person that enjoys these is just not serious enough for me, also very likely still looking around to just play and get laid rather then be interested in a relationship of a higher nature regardless if she admits it to herself or not.
Each to their own but life's not all serious. A little fun now and then does you good.
I find most of this thread quite sad.
H.x | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 4/27/2008 1:01:58 PM | - Meanness. Calling what is obviously intended to hurt someone "criticism." This behavior is very common on these forums.
- A desire to make decisions but not properly (irrationally, short-sighted, etc). Along with control comes responsibility... too often I see women (or people for that matter) who want power but have no idea how to properly use it. For example, one needs to understand emotions should always be taken into account but they are not decision making faculties. A good example of the type of foolishness I am talking about here is when I see women reaffirming their independence just for the sake of doing so.
- Oversocialization. I will have a very difficult time communicating with someone that is a walking cliche. I need to talk to an autonomous being, not some disposable person churned out by the "system." | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/3/2008 8:22:58 PM | | I was going to post a couple of things, but I was mostly going to sing the praises of agreement for most of the guys who posted before me...then it hit me. What a bunch of jackasses we are telling them what we can't stand so they have MORE notes on what obnoxious behaviors (behaviours, for the Original Poster) to hide from us. Now they'll all know how to cover up all their bad habits, dammit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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KevanG
| | Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 263 | |
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jco415
| | Joined: 12/1/2007
Msg: 268 | |
| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/8/2008 9:42:28 PM | Wow! A lot of my turn-offs have been covered except THIS one;
Girl: I'm hungry, let's drive through somewhere.
Guy: Okay, there's a McDonalds just up the street.
Girl: Anywhere but there, I don't feel like McDonalds right now.
Guy: Okay, what DO you feel like then?
Girl: I don't know, anything!...Except McDonalds.
Guy: Alright, there's a Taco Bell ahead how about that?
Girl: I don't want Taco Bell either.
Guy: What DO you want then?
Girl: Just stop wherever, except....
...and on it goes!
I've had TWO long relationships where the women did this constantly! | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/9/2008 12:46:58 AM | | Turn offs and turn ons vary with the individual; what turns off one person, will turn on another. There truly is someone for everyone in this world; finding that person is another thing entirely. I know of an old homeless woman who is often filthy with feces. Drinks all the time. Looks like a wreck, smells worse. Lives in a cardboard box. And.....She has a boyfriend (he appears about 10 years younger as well). If she can find someone, so can the rest of us. Just a matter of lowering our standards a bit now, isn't it. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/9/2008 1:40:18 AM | | I was really interested to read men's true answers to what they were ASKED, but was amazed at the women that get mad or defensive when they read what is said. They were asked, for crying out loud. Don't ask the question if you don't want to hear their answer. JMO | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/9/2008 1:42:41 PM | hmmm Major turnoffs not listed in the first post
1) superior attitude; in my line of work (hospitality) it is pretty much a job requirement to be chatty and friendly to anyone and everyone. I freaquently see women being hostile and/or dismissive of almost any male who makes an effort to speak to them. (please note this is not a generalisation against all women, just pointing out how SOME women are). This tends to be worse with more attractive women, but sometimes true of unattractive ones
2) Indecisive women/people pleasers; I have dated women before who find it almost impossible to say no to people (will go to see a movie they hate because they daren't ask if whoever they're going with would like to see something instead) or quietly go along with something they don't like then **** about it later. Some when asked which movie they would like to see would simply reply "I'm not bothered" when I've asked them what they want to see so we could find something we BOTH liked. A relationship is supposed to be about two people together, not one allowing the other to boss them around and make all thier decisions for them!
3) Fake femminists; Women who will pipe up about sexual discrimination against women (unequal pay, unfair treatment, shovenism) but still expect men to pay for them everywhere they go, and are perfectly happy for men to be discriminated against.
for me those 3 are not just turn offs as far as being sexually interested in a person are concerned, but they would prevent me from being friends with them too. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/14/2008 12:02:26 PM | | I put "Looking for an honest man" in my title and that is what appeals to me, honesty. So many people out there, including women, are not honest and quite honestly, I just don't want to waste my precious time with people who can't be upfront about themselves. | |
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