| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 10:30:24 AM | Ok you two. A UK 16 and a US 14 are the equivalent of each other.
My turn off:
- A woman that thinks not being attracted to a certain size range is just me being shallow. I'm not attracted to Eskimos or Aboriginees. To some, that must make me a racist. Sorry, but attraction is an involuntary response. You cannot force someone to love you so what makes you think you can force them to be attracted to something? That tells me that your trying control who I am and if you can't do it, you'll berate me for having free will.
-I'm not attracted to women that have the intentions to go and get smashed. If it happens by not being cautious enough to prevent it, that's one thing. To set out with the purpose of doing so is a turn off. It shows lack of discipline and maturity.
-I'm turned off by a woman's so called "obvious" hints. Hints are a terrible form of communication and I actually believe are a way to create plausable denial if an argument arises in the future. It turns into "I never said that," which is actually true. You never "said" it. Your actions and favorable response to my picking up on it, are indicative of your intentions. My trying to explain it with my actions, then your actions, then my response, then your response; ends up just being a pitiful attempt to try and defend myself. Bravo ladies. You have discovered the ultimate weapon for your actions and men keep playing into it.
- I'm turned off by the "oh men just think they're in charge" lines. You'll whine if we don't take charge then you'll call us controlling if we do. You'll claim you're just being sarcastic and having fun with such a line, but the reality is that you only do it in front of our friends or when I'm in the middle of the pack of women; it's a way to belittle us.
- You'll whine incessantly if I decide that I don't want to pick up my niece at the barbecue. "Oh that was such a turn off, You're taking your disdain for your brother out on her, etc." Yes this did happen to me. There is a familiar pattern with many women I have met on the same subject. If I however bring up the subject of how you wont talk to your father, oooooh Hell hath no fury. No, hypocracy shouldn't be a turn off. 
- Rolling your eyes at me, like I'm some sort of caveman, when you discover that I don't have any fabric softener. Men have detergent and maybe some bleach. That's it. We don't have softener or drier sheets or whatever Martha Stewart product is out there.
- Using my being skinny as a way to somehow say that I am attacking your weight. You'll bring up my weight then work in a line to get me to comment on your's and then just say I am being condescending, coddling, etc.
- The tests. The ones that end up with "Oh I just wanted to see what you would say/do", "I just needed to know."
- Addressing anything that I have said that reflects the above statements as whining and I should act like a man and not say anything about it. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 10:44:08 AM |
So if you get a woman who thinks you are just out for a shag DONT blame us, blame all the seedy ****ers out there who have no respect for us - they are giving men in general a bad name
Maybe the problem is the women who think they're SO interesting and special that all of us men should be HAPPY to pursue an entirely sex-free relationship with them, with no hope of getting any action, ever, just for the honor of being her "friend."
Why is he a creep if, after a nice conversation, and seeming mutual interest, he decides to see what ELSE might be of mutual interest? If he didn't hold you down, tear off your clothes and take it from you forcibly, what's to stop you from just politely saying "No, I don't want to watch you wank it. How about a nice game of chess?"
Or maybe the problem is anyone would automatically react negatively to someone NEW based on the actions of someone from the PAST. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 11:10:00 AM |
Wow! A lot of you guys sound bitter!
She asked. Bitter vs. No more crap. I've actually liked a lot of answers here, especially Goomba's. Pay attention to them.
No more crap is no more crap, and we have to take a stand to prevent it. Even if it requires some hostility to better the future. Rise up. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 11:30:04 AM | A huge amount of swearing.
I was looking around and saw this girl reasonable attractiveness then she started having a conversation with her friend and seriously every 3rd word was a curse word.
I have no problem with swearing as emphasis but its not to be used like "the" | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 12:43:35 PM |
The past 3 women I've dated have found the urge to criticise me constantly out of nowhere, on a frequent basis. A few times a week. It ususally starts off with "No offense, but..."
Telling them this annoys me is usually met with "You can't handle criticism!" or "I'm just trying to be helpful."
I no longer have much of a tolerance for that.
No more crap is no more crap, and we have to take a stand to prevent it. Even if it requires some hostility to better the future. Rise up.
Amen. We've tried to "evolve" and not be the proclaimed knuckledraggers and look where it's gotten us. We have become emasculated, because of the last 50 years. I admit that even I am guilty to have tried to appease the fem-nazis.
I've gotten chastised for holding a door open, following the "if you love me, you'll do this" lines. Being told that I am not spontaneous enough, then when I just do something; I get berated with how I should have told her in advance so she could have been prepared and that she doesn't like surprises.
How often do I have to hear how strong and independant a woman is; because she has a car, job and her own place? Pushing that little chip on your shoulder tells me that: you don't have to take the bus, you can buy groceries and you're not a bum on the street. Those are not signs of how strong and independant you are. A coma victim has a wheelchair, a hospital bed and a cup of jello. How is that different from what you justify your strength and independance with?
When I go to a Subway; I am not on your diet. Don't just give me three little slices. The only women that really make a good sandwich are the little old ladies. I theorize a grandma complex there and thats why they dump em on. ( I love you surrogate grandmas.  )
No I will not go to the other end of the mall, to get those other shoes you have in the car; so you can see what they look like in that outfit. I thought women had more creative minds than that.
Using you're menstration as an excuse for being a b-tch. I'm sure as hell not allowed to act like that to you. I've yet to get an appology or maybe even a thank you for having such consideration and patience during your time of struggle. That really would make enduring that acceptable(as long as it's sincere.).
I'm actually not attacking women on these behaviors. I'm accusing men of allowing it to go on. Every example I have given, I have endured repetitively. This is crap behavior and it's unacceptable. If I never date another woman again or find "my true love" because I wont put up with it anymore; then at least I'll live a less stressed, less criticised, less dramatic, full life. I quite dating back in Novemeber and so far have seen no reason to start up again. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 2:09:19 PM |
let me explain to you WHY women act like that
We don't care why you act like that. We don't like it, and we don't want to deal with it. So, we won't.
So that leads to my particular beef... self-righteous self-justification.
Not really a women-only thing, but a human thing. I'm guilty of it myself, actually.
The other one, for me, is condescension masked as concern. Overly judgemental, and in a rush to assume things. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 2:49:56 PM | | I once went out on a first date with a women, who ate her meal like a prison inmate that only had 5 minutes to eat. I may burry my face in my plate and chow down my grub like a starved dog as well from time to time, but never infront of anyone else. It turned me off right away. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 2:54:38 PM | Some who's fake.
A liar, or a cheat.
Someone puts people down a lot.
Jealousy.
Someone too high maintenance (I don't mind the "girly girl", but if she wants to always be "done up" she shouldn't expect me to be paying for it all).
Someone with no sense of humor.
Someone who talks about people behind their backs (goes in with being fake). | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 3:51:28 PM | 1) Women who think they got everyone and everything "pegged" .."Oh you're THIS kind of guy..Oh she's THAT sort of girl" etc..
2) Women who don't take responsibility for their emotional behaviour and use their "time of month" as an excuse instead of realizing that we all have "handicaps" but are all adults and must behave accordingly...
3) Women who feel that if you don't think like they do or behave in a manner which they deem appropriate or in accordance to their own selfish needs then there is something wrong with YOU...instead of trying to understand you.
4) Unattractive hypocrital women who think that just because they are "confident" they should be dating someone like the Doctor in the show Grey's Anatomy and hypocritically want someone that isn't in their league while claiming that MEN are shallow.
5) Generation X and Y women with the "Princess" or the "Barbie" syndrome who feel that they deserve ..well..EVERYTHING. Then realize that most men can't provide EVERYTHING they want so they try and get it themselves by becoming "successful" and then when they do become "successful" they are not happy just materialistic and bitter.. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 5:25:19 PM | yeha I haev to say a lot of the comments are stuff we would guess at though
I mean i havent ever heard anyone say 'I i really want a jealous/psycho/controlling/critical girlfriend?' LOL
the 8/10 one is a but ridiculous though - fair enough that a lot of people arent into over weight woman - but size 12 is hardly overweight - where as 8-10 is clinically underweight for some women | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 6:27:06 PM | Okay you want stuff women wouldn't guess at?
1) Asking for an honest opinion and getting pissed off at an honest answer
Her: "Does this purple dress make me look fat?"
Me: "No, the fact that you are fat makes you look fat. That dress just makes you look purple."
2) Holding guys up to a double standard.
Her: "How dare you flirt with the waitress in front of me!"
Me: "But you were flirting with the male waiter last week!"
Her: "That's different!"
3) Wearing ALL black ALL the time!
Friend: " So what did your date look like?"
Me: "I don't know, my eyes just kept sliding off her. I wouldn't be able to pick her out of a police lineup!"
4) Constant Tardiness
Me: "Where are you? We were supposed to meet up remember?"
Her: "I said I would be there for 7:00."
Me: "It's 7:30!"
Her: "So?"
5) Mumbling
Her: "So....mkbut...in the...uggft yutffdfer....tomorrow. Okay?"
Me: "Uh....yeah...sure....okay. Huh?"
6) Insistence on us loving your pets.
Her: "Comon! Pet Mr. Cuddles!"
Me: "I'm allergic to cats."
Her: "But he's cute!"
Me: "Yes, he's cute. I'm still allergic."
Her: "Aw comon! Pet him! He wants to be petted!"
7) Pointing out our physical flaws
Her: "Hey you're losing your hair."
Me: "Oh really? Thanks! I never noticed!"
8) Muffin tops
Me: "Urm...I really don't think you should be wearing those jeans."
9)Lastly, No make up vs make up applied with a trowel. Some women don't seem to know what is too much and what is too little. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 6:54:06 PM | | Women who wear sweats. That is for the gym, and the gym only. Women who have to leave in groups to use the wash room. We men know you are going to pick us apart as soon as the door shuts. Changing a dinner reservation without informing us of that. Including the time and or place. Calling your parents/sister/brother/family members at least a couple of times a day. That drives me crazy. I talk to my mother once a week. That is more than enough. And i am lucky to talk to my brother once a month. And he lives 20 minutes away from me. Those are a few things that are major turn offs to me. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 7:21:17 PM | You got mixed up on teh units. 8-10 isn't what's meant, it's size 8 out of a possible maximum size of 10.
Granted, it's an arbitrary scale (There are some HUGE women who would put most women in the 1-2 category if they were 10. They go on TV and Jerry Springer gives them liposuction), but so is the female size scale. Men's scale seems to be "inches at the waist". Women's scale seems to be "Angels this person could fit on the head of a pin on Neptune in the rainy season". | |
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Joined: 4/22/2007
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 7:24:01 PM | For every annoying trait each of these men have posted, haven't we ourselves as women, seen other women behave as these men are describing? I know I have.
Every morning I take the train into Chicago and every morning there is a couple standing on the platform and the women is just laying into the man, I mean every single morning on and on and on. "Jeff, I told you so, Jeff, I told you this, Jeff you are an A$$ blah blah blah blah." Now, this guy is no prize, but I don't know what makes him stay with her, I could never put up with that, but you see all the time and men put up with it and I don't understand why. | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 7:38:03 PM | The 2 biggest turn offs for me are selfishness and lack of compassion. I dated a beautiful girl while travelling through Europe 2005. She seemed perfect when I met her, brilliant, beautiful, british, but I couldn't take the selfishness. It just turned my stomach. I dumped her in Rome. Most guys would have just put up with it just to stay with her. I admit I place a lot of importance on physical appearance, but just for the record that doesn't make people shallow as so many on here seem to think. Dumping this chick was proof of that.
Msg 40... Hillarious
UPdate: Profiles that say "I'm classy" right away I think "What a hick" | |
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Joined: 2/18/2006
Msg: 45 | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 8:07:17 PM |
Now, this guy is no prize, but I don't know what makes him stay with her, I could never put up with that, but you see all the time and men put up with it and I don't understand why.
Do you know how GOOD this feels to hear this coming from the other gender?
Gosh I thin you are a jerk too! We could get together if your weeny is 14 inches long!!! How does it feel!!!!
I'm not sure what it feels like, but I think the answer is "Very lucky". | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 8:23:49 PM | | i have to agree with this. if i don't get the usual read delete I get have you got any nude pics of yourself. you're really hot. ya but you don't want to dance unless it's between the sheets. If you dion't want men to get a bad rap then tell the 80% sleeze balls on this site to quit pulling the male sex down the tubes. one bad apple, PLEASE is there one good apple on this site? | |
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| Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at?
Posted: 5/24/2007 8:31:28 PM | something else that can be a turn off, (that a woman should be able to guess but apparently she can't):
"username: booze hag"
"Do you drink? Often (>3 times/week)"
I guess it would be unsderstandable for a 19 year old to have these kinda priorities.
But in a woman who's in her mid 30s, it's a turn-off.
If she hasn't grown up by 34, maybe she nevver will. | |
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