| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/16/2007 8:39:18 PM | "FALLING IN LOVE". I don't like this term. It is cliche. It implies that love is somewhat of a "fairy tale." I have never met a man who says that he has fallen in love. He usually has said he wants to marrry the woman. So there is a difference in the terms. Just my opinion.
There is no right answer. For some, it takes a very short time. For others, they never love--and end up alone. The key point is to get to know the other person. You can love someone--and still not be compatible. You need to find out who they are. You need to find out their interests, values, beliefs, attitudes, asperations, etc. As well, according to a recent psychology study, the most important component to sustaining love is similar personalities.
We can fall out of love faster than we have fallen in love. Just look at all the miserable souls on this dating sight--searching for perfection. | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/17/2007 7:47:56 PM | Real love takes time. At 3 months, you don't even really know a person. You know the person you see. Anyone can be lovable (and sane) for 3 months. It takes time to stop being "nice" to each other.
There is WAY too much you don't know yet to call yourself in LOVE. You don't know her faults, values, temperament or character yet. You know she cleans up nicely and SEEMS great. Give it some time. Observe her over time. If it's love, it will just get better and deeper. If its not, you'll save yourself from making a big mistake.
How long does love take? Long enough for you to go through the flu, her waking you up to talk at 3 am (when you have to get up in a couple of hours!), money problems, sexual disinterest, getting on each other's nerves, your families, fighting, her gorgeous ex, your boys that hate her, her best friend that hates you and the HOT new girl at your workplace!!!
I think, if you love someone, tell them. I am not much of a game player. If they run, they're not the one for you. | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/17/2007 11:31:48 PM | | there is no time table for being in love, my ex husband i knew i loved him the second i saw him, no not lust,but true love..true we are divorced now but the funny thing is, we have talked n we are great friends, but we both agree that we can still feel the love when we're around each other, our timing was just screwed up. in another long term relationship it took me quite awhile to be in love and a little longer to get the nerve to actually say it and you know what he didnt say it back, what he said was that he cared deepely for me but wasnt ready to say he was in love with me because he didnt feel it. he did eventually fall in love with me and i was a little surprised that he didnt say i love you too when i told him but i fully understood where he was coming from and i would much rather someone be honest with me then tell me a lie. i say follow your heart, if your heart feels it then go for it, tell her!!!!!!!! | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/18/2007 9:19:04 AM | What a question! I was recently in a relationship where I finally experienced actually being "in love" with someone. Wow what a feeling! That breathless feeling when I saw him walking towards me,the world shrinking down to just the two of us when he held me, falling asleep thinking of him, waking in the morning knowing I would talk to him in a few hours... It took me almost three months to admit it to myself, but I didn't say anything to him until he said it first.
And no, we are not together anymore. I fell in love with a player! And what a player; he was married to two other women, still!
I know that he was a player, now, and I still miss him. Or perhaps I miss that breathless feeling, and all the rest.
Oh, and I have been married a few times, and have never experienced that feeling with any of them. I am 48 and fell in love for the first time, and am very cautious now; I think that it will be a long time before I let that happen to me again. I don't like being made a fool of, and having my love used as a tool to hurt me.... | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/18/2007 9:33:15 AM | | Well It does take longer then many of us would like to think it does in my honest opinion. People have to be able to feel comfortable with one another in every area (emotionally, mentally spiritually, physically) and it takes getting to know a person , and their strengths and weaknesses and accepting their flaws (because we all have them) and it just takes a good and open heart and a giving heart and not to mention patience and introspection of oneself and just taking things slowly and letting it develope in it's natural course. | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/18/2007 9:34:38 AM | You have to just know in your heart what is REAL and what is not. There is no time limit on falling in Love. You just know when it happens to you.
The most important thing, is to recognize and realize it when it happens.
Be true to yourself and your own feelings, so that you can present your true self to your partner.
Follow your heart, it's the one organ that will surely give up on you one day, so use it while you can. | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/18/2007 9:52:50 AM | | My uncle just got married this weekend to a woman he met 3 months ago. He is 60 something and has been married twice before. So this guy who has been around for awhile and should know better obviously thinks it's possible. I know it is! I think people who are open and in touch with their emotions can easily fall in love in less time than that! Just make sure that you both share common goals in life and share the same interests and you'll be set! So you don't scare her off you could start out slow and tell her you realy, realy like her alot, more than she knows, and see how she reacts to that first. | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/18/2007 10:02:43 AM | | You are absolutely right that having similar personalities is paramount! I just ended a relationship because of that very thing. I am outgoing people person who likes to go out and experience new things at every oppertunity so that I feel like I'm not missing anything life may have to offer. My ex was the opposite. He prefered to stay in, watch tv, NEVER have a soul over and was never spontanious about stopping anywhere new and different. It was horrible!! I have learned not to do that again and will never settle for anything but a replica of me! Only male...not female. Lol! | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/18/2007 10:07:15 AM | | ITS different with every one some take a long time others dont. When i meet my wife the frist time and we went out and had a great time the second time we went out, at the end of the date i told her we would be married one day. Now what is hard to belive is we lived 1200 mile a part i meet her when i was in the service in 68 she was doing uso shows well she went home and i went home, we wrote to each other offten and called each other about the same, so in april of 1971 we were married till she passed away last year and i never regeted that move ever. So i do hope that i will be able to find a nother turn love as I do belive it can happen again. | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/18/2007 10:28:46 AM | | Thank you for allowing me to post my thoughts on this matter..she has to know if she is to deal with it..how you tell her is very important..making it clear that you are in no rush to change anything..you just need her to know how you feel ...go for a walk in the park & find a beautiful flower..show her the flower and tell how you love that colour , such beauty, so very lovely, then slowly turn the beauty toward her..like someone I know also so beautiful..you get the idea..you plan your own..time & place to tell her but she has to know..in order to react atall..then leave the topic alone for awhile..& see if she comes back with an answer..to your feelings..If she so no ..& wants out of the relationship..then you must accept & move on..but staying caring, kind, understanding of her feelings..stay in control..no matter how hurt you are..if it is handled gently you will remain friends after..this message must be said without alcohol or drugs..in an honest sincere manner..take care..d | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/18/2007 10:43:52 AM | Gawd am I really jaded or what .... either that or its jealousy 
Whats with all these "When do I Say I Love You" Posts 
Ye I'm Jaded ... Show me dont tell me !!!! I think the L word gets thrown around and over used
Say it when you mean it and your certain of it otherwise just express that you have feelings that are deepening
Te Quiero
and good luck
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/18/2007 11:02:00 AM | In response to your post on whether it's possible to fall in love within afew months,I wanna say I believe you can fall in love with someone within a short time or even at first sight.
Sometimes two people experience this phenomenon towards each other at the same time, usually when their eyes meet.
It is ok to fall in love within months or weeks,I don't understand why ppl would hate someone at first sight,but they look at you weird when they hear you fell in love at 1st sight.
Love is beautiful,love Is tha sweetest thing next to getting azz.
Love is when you think she’s so adorable.
Love is when you wouldn’t change a thing about her,even the little things that kinda bug you,because those are the things that make her who she is.
I met this gurl,Kara trust me broz shawty's tha shyt,awesome chick,my angel,my baby,my boo,she's perfect and with an azz like dat she's gotto be one of a kind.
Hold on gimme a minute,let me Reminsce like Mary J Blige.
Ppl tell me dat I maybe rushing things,but everytme I see her I have this feeling or excitement associated with love,it's like falling in love again for the first time.
I don't believe there is a time table for love,if you feel you love someone tell them and if you feel ur not ready for love yet that is good too because if she loves you enough,then she will wait for love,trust me she'll wait for datazz.
I don't know If I answered part of your post,I might be talking about myself here,I can't help it am in butterfly land,skies like candycoated rainbows,everything's beautiful,she's my wonder woman,my kinda woman,shhh shh Silent...I better shudup whatif she reads this and hates me forever?well datz a chance am willing to take so Kara tuck your hair behind you ears
Am here to wipe away your tears and take away your silly fears
I'll be your teddy bear
You chose the clothes i wear
For you i suffer much pain
Sharp glass migraine
For you i'd lose my focus
For you i'd swim a swarm of locusts.
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/18/2007 10:58:27 PM | OP, just a guess, but from reading your profile, I take it that the relationship didn't work out quite as planned? I'm sorry.
I believe in love at first sight. Like a classic cartoon when someone gets the anvil dropped on their head. I also believe you can grow into loving someone. It depends on the people involved. | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/19/2007 7:21:20 AM | There's no time limit on it.
You don't have to know every little thing about someone to love them. It's about how you feel, not what you know. How long it takes depends on how well you connect and how closed up your heart is. Taking longer to fall in love doesn't make it better, more real, or more lasting. Some people might take years, and some might say it and mean it the day they meet you. | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/19/2007 8:34:26 AM | | i know that am in luv and it was love at first site, it takes as long as it takes, my brohter feel for his gf str8 way asked her out 1month later, his feelings went afa 6months and he dint dump her he stayed as it was a fase and he is bk madly in love and wants to marry her, so it takes as long as it takes, its like a rollat coaster u never kno wat ur turly feeling | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/19/2007 11:18:34 AM | OP:
I'm going to elaborate beyond this simple quote although it may say it all:
The heart knows no time when it comes to loving another.
I've been with my wonderful girlfriend 1 month now and very recently, we both fessed up to being bitten by the love bug. I know most others are going to read that and go YEAH RIGHT. And that's fine, it may take them longer to fall, but there's hardly a prescribed time for it. I knew I was in love with my sweetie when all I did was think about her 24/7 and also no matter how bad something might had made me felt, the minute I thought of her, I felt better. And the bottom line, if the good lord above has brought you the right girl, when you tell her, you'll find out she too loves you the same. If it's not right, then she won't and you'll know. Either way, God Bless you and best of luck. | |
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/19/2007 12:42:53 PM | Dear Falling in Love,
Between five and ten seconds. You can time it.
Some people say they're looking for one kind of person, and then choose another. Other people say that don't even know what they're looking for. It turns out that in dating situation, people use their hearts and go on first impressions, rather than using their heads to work out if it’s a good idea. Ahhh, how romantic!
In my opinion, only three months is not long enough to determine if you're in love. I do think that you can definitely have strong feelings for the other person and probably can know whether or not you think the relationship will lead to a long-term commitment, though. Now after three months of dating, you are still in the stages of I don’t know. You should be getting an idea by now… Focus on is she your best friend and has a lot of good qualities. Let yourself be happy…
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| How long does it take to REALLY fall in love?
Posted: 9/19/2007 11:01:55 PM | 3 months is WAY WAY WAY too soon, i think. you don't even know half of who she is....that takes moonnnttthhs and months. you could love spending time with her and how you know her, but do you know the BAD things and annoying things and crappy things about her? maybe you haven't been in an arguement/disagreement - how does she handle that with you? most people who do stuff too soon, don't know that side of people.....and that is why there are so many divorces and breakups.
everyone is different, but if a guy told me he loves me before like 8 or 9 months, i'd probably run away. but ??? | |
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