| The ex..
Posted: 5/25/2007 1:07:28 PM | I am almost speechless. You need to cut this guy out of your life and find someone who builds you up, not drags you down. In fact, you really shouldn't even be thinking about a relationship right now at all. You should take this time of singleness to reflect on who you are and what you want out of life. You have to love yourself before you can truely love someone else, otherwise it is all a facade (fake). You are beautiful, and you deserve so much more.
Why does this guy keep calling you? Because he wants to keep you on the back-burner by making you think there is hope for you to be together. You're his back-burner b*tch for when his current girl isn't giving him any or he wants to punish her by being with someone else. What an *ss.
You really threw me on this one, though.
...this creep gets away with EVERYTHING.
So, you didn't tell his girl about his cheating to help HER, you told her so that she would PUNISH him? Is she his mother? That was SELFISH. You wanted her to punish him for what he did to YOU, not her, preferably by breaking it off with him so you could have him ! (you shouldn't even want a scumbag like that) Then you get upset because your plan backfires, she tells you to get lost (rightfully so) and doesn't think you're Mother flippin Theresa? PLEASE!
Does this sound logical to you? You need to stay FAR, FAR AWAY! | |
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| The ex..
Posted: 5/25/2007 1:16:00 PM | | Msgs 19 and 23...do you remember what it was like at 24? And someone who was a very young 24? Maybe you two were lucky enough to have good self-esteem then, but some people aren't that lucky, or are simply naive and believe all people are good and then they get shat on a lot. There are many young women, and some older ones, who have low self-esteem, who have been emotionally abused and don't realize it, and who need help. I don't see the OPs post as attention seeking; I see a woman who probably does have lower self-esteem, who probably doesn't know why she's attracted to someone she's finding out is so wrong for her, one who probably has been abused mentally by this person - which makes it hard to simply leave the situation 100%. She needs support and help, not accusations of attention seeking. | |
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| The ex..
Posted: 5/25/2007 1:20:21 PM | | loll Dramaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa,sounds like one hell of a soap opra to me with a lot of issues. | |
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| The ex..
Posted: 5/25/2007 10:10:45 PM | Wow! Sounds like a soap opera.
Seems like this guy doesn't have any integrity. Unless you like being used, stay away!
You are not, however, guiltless. You knew he was with someone and you helped him to cheat on HER 7 times.
OK, you were in love, and that explains it all. Uh-huh. Never mind why HE would do what he did, why did YOU?
If I may - only one suggestion - make sure you get well and know for sure that you love and respect YOURSELF before you get involved with ANYONE again.
For his sake as well as for yours. And for your sake, as well as for his. | |
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| The ex..
Posted: 5/25/2007 10:16:28 PM | | you need to put him on ignore this man has major issues,,hey maybe i can introduce him to my ex, they would become best of friends trying to see who is more messed up in the head,,,slap you?..and you didn't press charges?????????...this man has no idea about love,,why woudl you go anywhere near him? | |
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| The ex..
Posted: 5/26/2007 6:06:16 AM | | I think thats my problem - how i know he is abusive and crazy, but he has this other side that is charming and fun....I know i sound like abused women who make excuses. His girlfriend called me up last night, of course calling me names telling me she hates me blah blah, and i tried to explain to her that instead of wasting her time belitting me, she need to talk to HIM and find out why he keeps wanting to cheat - and its not even that - he abuses her too on occasion - it seems all she cares about is the cheating thing - its messed up - but i think he is more comfortable with abusing women now than when he was with me - because when i was with him, he never slapped me in the face! so i think shes prolly getting it a lot worse - they always say that abusive men get worse as they get older...i guess i really do have a problem if he pounded on my leg and slapped me in the face and i stuck around there....i guess i became so accustomed to it over the course of 3 years that i dont know what is right and wrong anymore | |
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| The ex..
Posted: 5/26/2007 3:18:12 PM | | OP, no, the answer is that you *didn't* know right from wrong *before* BUT you do know it *now*. The only way things will change is if YOU change them; if YOU put a stop to any of this drama being a part of your life...And that means no contact in any way with him, or her - tell her you want nothing to do with him or her and that if she call ever again you'll have the cops on her for harrassment (if they want to act like immature idiots, let them - don't *you* join in); you don't go to places you know they hang out - at least until you're past this and healed; and you take some time for yourself...do things you enjoy with friends and alone, and make the time to figure out exactly what you want in your life and what you want in a partner...And don't date anyone until you figure this out...it will really help you see what you want, see what you were letting be done to you by not making better choices and learn from your mistakes, and it will help you to pick people to date who *are* what you're looking for...and you'll have much healthier relationships. And if you slip up every now and again, don't berate yourself...just look at why you slipped up, remember what you really want in life and in a partner, dust yourself off and go right back out there. Best of luck to you. | |
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| The ex..
Posted: 5/26/2007 3:26:14 PM | People will treat you exactly the way you allow them to treat you. If you think you deserve to be treated badly , you will accept the treatment. Users and abusers will flock to you like moths to a flame.
Spend some time seeking professional help and take control of your life.
If you sell yourself short, the world will not increase your value.
Learning this at an early age will save you years of heartache. | |
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| The ex..
Posted: 5/27/2007 6:58:51 AM | | after sitting here reading this, i couldnt help but laugh at how ridiculous it all sounds. he hits u and u dont call the police. he cheats with u not once or twice but 7 times and u dont see a problem with that. then his retarded girlfriend is mad at u and wants to beat u up...maybe she should just wait a little longer and he can do it for her the next time he cheats on her with u. im not trying to be an ass but wake up. ur an attractive girl but any guy who reads this forum would know better than to ever go out with u. u have no morals when it comes to relationship boundaries. why would any guy waste his time with u other than to **** as your ex put it so eloquently. if ur willing to be the other woman then ur not anyone i would trust in any relationship. set some boundaries before u start looking to date. get some help fast cuz from these posts u look nuts. | |
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