| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/8/2007 8:29:20 AM | IMHO, good looking/gorgeous/handsome men....will be with a woman who makes THEM feel GOOD. Take a little bit of positive attitude, add some confidence, throw in friendliness, a healthy dose of brains, a warm heart, genuine interest in HIM, some sense of humor, and a dash of chemistry and compatibility AND THERE YOU HAVE IT.
Remember Julia Roberts married Lyle Lovett?
And Heidi Klum is married to Seal...
It goes both ways..
The most handsome men who go for 'average' women are usually the men who are finally 'grown up' and see through outside beauty (no pun intended).
Beautiful women, imho...(my guess is) will be with an average man because he loves her, not for what she looks like, but who she is on the inside. Beautiful women are used to being gawked, hit on, etc...and I'm sure it gets tiring, and they feel like "Am I nothing but just a shell?".....
And finally, as many posters have said before me, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
One poster said she doesn't think Brad Pitt is all that great....well....to be honest, I do...
But then again, I also dream about, would love to ______ Johnny Depps CHARACTER in Pirates; Jack Sparrow. And in the movie, he's a dirty, conniving, irum drunken, pirate!!!
I was attracted to his charm, his confidence, his attitude, the whole persona....
(hahaha....no I'm not pining after him, I just thought to myself, "No matter how dirty, yucky, etc...he is...If I met Cpt Jack Sparrow, I'd tell him, come on home with me baby!!)
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Joined: 1/5/2006
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/8/2007 10:18:57 AM | I believe that everyone finds differents types of people attractive. To me someone might be handsome but to you, you may find them ugly. It is only a preference. Just because you may be attractive does not mean that you should be with someone else just because they are attractive. Go for the person who you want to be with and who cares what people have to say in the matter. Be happy thats all you can ask for. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/9/2007 3:17:31 PM | SHINXY.......Sorry hon you have STEREOTYPETOXIA…..This is a not so uncommon disease in which the person believes everything they are told by the media and anyone else that wishes to mislead and manipulate. Stereotypes are rarely ever accurate and are all to often destructive…please seek professional help soon.  | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/9/2007 5:51:02 PM | Not sure...lemme go check--
*walks to mirror*
--mirror, mirror on the wall...
Why do handsome guys go for average women at all?
*mirror responds*
why, you handsome devil, it's like I already said...
Beauty is just something...that's inside your head...
*turns from mirror back to post...mirror says*
pssst, hey buddy, c'mere....here's a couple more lines to that little ditty:
*me*: umm, ok....
*mirror*: ok, here it is...listen up bud, to the secret of life...
Where was I? Oh, yeah...
--Beauty is just something...that's inside your head...
and maybe she's wild, and kinky, and crazy in....
Me: Hush, mirror! Stop there, that is soooo not-PC...like, man, you're gonna get me yelled at by all the women!! I get it, I get it...
*mirror*: Sometimes them's the facts of life, brother....
*back to post*
um....uh, it just happens? Maybe they...have, yeah, chemistry...
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/9/2007 5:52:33 PM | Who wants to date a guy/girl who think they are all that...I am a big time people watcher no matter where I go..Its kind of funny to watch people...most of the really good looking ones...don't stop looking at them selves every time they walk past a mirror or window...the are always to busy looking at themselves to notice who they are with....and god forbid if you are talking to them and they can't look you in the eye cause they are too busy looking at themselves in the window behind you..... | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/9/2007 5:59:23 PM | Extremely attractive people have a tendency to be high on their appearance and require constant praise. In my experience, beauty is directly disproportionate to personality and humanity... Beauty+10:Personality-10 = Diva princess who is vapid and shallow. The same goes for men. The exceptions to this rule are few and far between unfortunately. The few that attain life experiences that change them, become real and caring people who see the beauty underneath.
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mefein
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Joined: 7/7/2006
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Posted: 2/9/2007 6:03:01 PM | passin through....... KEEP GOIN. they go for average women because they have much better personalities, generally not as insecure and are REAL. men dont like EMPTYHEAD lookers........... me fein. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2007 6:38:23 PM | This is one of those cases where if you repeat a lie often enough, people will take it as a truth.
There's NO relationship between looks (as in a classically beautiful woman or handsome man) and their personality, intelligence, depth. They are just as likely to have wonderful personalities as the rest of us.
The EXCEPTION is the empty-headed, shallow bimbo/himbo, but we notice them and they become the stereotype.
The same applies for the rest of us: the vast majority of us are average, and just as many, percentage-wise, are stupid, creepy, shallow and, yes, full of ourselves. It's the numbers game. There are so many of us, that the nice ones are plentiful. Hence, "average" people are nicer.
But it's not really true. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2007 6:54:26 PM | If you want to be happy for the rest of your life--
Never make a pretty woman your wife!
So from my personal point of view--
Get an ugly girl to marry you!
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life... | |
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Joined: 10/16/2005
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/9/2007 7:00:57 PM |
because most of the ugly women they go for will put up with thier $hit and they know that most ugly women can't rebound anytime they want to... unless their sluts..
its a rule. if a guy is hot then they want a hoodrat or trailor trash... Huh? Where do you get your facts? Since when do you see your typical "hot" guy with hoodrats or trailertrash? As for saying that a woman who is ugly is going to put up with more...double huh? And if a hot man is with a woman who some might consider ugly, that means she must be a slut? Wha?
It's funny that so many are being so judgemental. I hate to break the news, but here it is: some people actually look at personality first! Is there a shock emoticon here? | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/9/2007 8:09:09 PM | Anegnima,
Wanna know someting funny? Wanna know what makes a second date? Being able to finish a sentence. It sounds funny don't it? In my experience so called "average" or below average women at least let me try. I had a speech problem growing up, and I had to supress stuttering to fit in. People who stutter tend not to speak much because it shows a weakness and you either figure out a way to compensate or get beaten. Mumps as a kid didn't help. Both my kids had tongue tie just like i did luckily that got taken care of soon after they were born, when I was growing up, they waited for me to grow out of it...I didn't.
Me? I became a listener and a person that provided short answers. I would not get involved in long lengthy conversations except with certain people because when I got upset or surprised or excited, it came out. More than 4 people in a room? It sounds like a beehive to me and they can't fix it, short of shoving a drill in my ear canal.
I dated someone after I got divorced who had no clue as to why and it came out one night. She said, "Why don't you just say what is on your mind?" not knowing how hard it was for me. When I finally got up the courage to explain it to her (my ex never knew) and let her know that when she let me finish a sentence without interruption, I cherished that more than she could know. I was married to a very attractive very intelligent woman and I couldn't possibly let that be known.
Over a year and a half it got to the point where I learned to unlearn what I had been taught (to a point...I'll always be a little reserved).
Its funny that this was brought up as a topic. I stopped by a pub tonight for beer thirty (Hadda toss down a couple of Boddingtons much to the dismay of my Irish decent). There was a guy there on a date with a woman who spoke but he was deaf. They were signing and it was no problem and this girl (I say that only becuase she was of college age and I remember pounding one with T-Rex, and he couldn't hold his liquor...seriously...with those short arms, taking him to a bar was a death sentence but I digress...but you should have seen him try to do a Yaeger Bomb...and then there was the time we tried to do a flaming Dr. Pepper and the next thing I know...BAM! not a dinosaur around to go drinkin' with!)
Seriously tho...no really this time (I hide things with jokes) they carried on a full conversation and never said a thing...verbally. Most most people would understand but I did. I thought that was so cool.
The best thing was being able to go home from work and decompress (I do it by cooking) and be asked "what's on your mind" and be given the chance to sort out my thoughts and then talk and still stutter because I could finish one or two sentences and then get excited or upset or whatever and she could see it coming and knew I was going to do it.
The worse thing was having to let her go because of things that were beyond our control and then not being able to return a phone call because I couldn't put two words together, almost a year later I can't. The stuttering thing doesn't happen anymore except under emotional distress and when you combine what I had to go through, couple that with stress, and being male, when I say "I don't want to talk about it", that is the biggest lie. However when somebody gets into my inner circle and understands that, then they know how to deal with it.
Long and short of it? Some men don't want women (I'm not talking about gay men). There is this image of what a woman is supposed to be. This is what is supposed to be according to what we have been taught:
1. What month and year did you do your centerfold for Playboy?
2. When did you graduate from Le Cordon Bleu (because women can cook..sorry but not
as good as me...)
3. How long has it been since you got your commerical driving license (you can't cart kids
around without it).
4. How in the world did you get your nursing license with everything else you got going on?
5. Should we hire a maid? Nah, you got that taken care of too...you go girl!
And on and on... There is a reason you don't see ugly guys with beautiful girls...to a point and there is a reason that sometime you see a good looking guy in a bar and all he is doing is drinking and that is all he is there for...to drink...because he never thought he was good looking and maybe lost the love of his life who thought the same thing (I'm not talking about Ross/Rachel here...ewwww....)
The reason I would rather talk to a person that thinks they are less than average or average? I don't judge. I am an eye man. That is what I like, that coupled with a laugh that lights up the entire room. When she truly laughs and it just makes everyone feel better. Last time I ever saw that was the last woman I dated, she had this "thing" about her and I couldn't convince her of it, but everytime it actually happened, I'd just go "ooky" around her. I mean her eyes would light up and then her mouth would open and she would laugh. I'm talking a laugh not like a snort, but a laugh that would make everyone stop and take notice because when they did, they were better for it. I kid you not, it was like a laugh from above while making what we now call a platypus. It made me wanna dance, and I'm a white boy!
I could watch her eyes and see it coming.
I just rate a 6.9 on hotornot and that is just fine with me. If you are only going to on looks, I'm f'd. Going on brain power? I'm f'd there too... Oh well at least I can cook and
oh wait I actually test out at 168 and the Boddingtons is going to go put out the fire...
I like average women.
Why do I like average women? Well maybe because the most sexy woman ever in my book was Helen Hunt in 'Mad About You' who could look absolutely sexy in sweats and wouldn't back down and has a weird thing nowadays called an..."Opinion".
When in "As Good As It Gets" she gets Jack Nicolson to say "You make me want to be a better man". (IMHO, this replaces we'll always have Paris). | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/9/2007 8:17:23 PM | I've dated some really handsome guys and some guys not so handsome. In all seriousness, I found the ones who were REALLY attractive like George Clooney/Keanu Reeves/Brad Pitt types who dated unattractive women actually tended to be quite high maintenance as well. Maybe the unattractive feel so swooned by their attention they are willing to put in an unequal and unfair amount of effort into the relationship.
I want to be physically attracted to a guy I date of course but mental tends to take priority. So so-called 'pretty boys' need to also be mentally up to par or else there is simply no competition between them and a guy who is. | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/10/2007 12:15:53 AM | | This thread is very educational but seems very judgmental against those who might actually care about outside appearance too (in terms of how you look and carry yourself), as well as inside. It almost makes it sounds as though if you don't put a little work in how you look, you are a better person. I've been on both ends of the coin having grown up an incredible geek and dork (I even had the kick me sign on my back! Arrgh! LOL) but now I get people thinking I won't talk to them on account of how I "look" and judge before getting to know me, plus the getting mad that we don't respond to everyone isn't fair when you get up to 50 emails a day. I can't keep up with everyone! LOL But I am a good person if people would get past all that crap. I like to have fun with how I look, but I laugh more at it than anyone else. I just don't take it that seriously. And I have been cast aside by guys who don't give me a chance cause they said it's too intimidating to be with me. Give me a chance, people! So, anyway, I think it's unfair to cast a certain type of people to one side. Still as they have been saying here, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, and if someone treats you well, that's all that matters at the end of the day. I prefer really good hugs myself. =) | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/10/2007 1:26:57 PM | Sorry Clematis,
Your generalization doesn't ring true. I consider myself average looking at best. Not all guys are like that and generalizing all of us like that just goes to show you don't have all the facts. No generalizations can be made about men or women using the statement all, with possibly the exception of saying all men have wee wee's and all women have hoo hoos, or to keep up with the times, I'll use the phrease from the vagina monologue ruckus that took place this week. All women have hoohahs.
Other than that any generalization holds absolutely no basis. All oranges are not orange, not all men are pigs, not all women are gold digging psychos. | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/10/2007 1:40:52 PM | Oh and on a serious note now...
I know that i'm not a barbie doll beauty, But when my man is staring into my eyes, kissing me, caressing me that I"m the most beautiful women in the world to him. the more I am with a sweety, and grow to have strong feelings, the more beautiful they become to me. Flaws even become beautiful. It's bizzare.. but as one of my favorite saying goes
LOVE ISN"T BLIND IT"S RETARDED.. | |
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