| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/26/2007 6:21:51 PM | And you considerate yourself to be in which catagory Punkette?
By the looks of your picture you are not a virgin anymore are or you advertiseing
for a good looking guy there? Hadn't U been able to get a decent guy Or U
waiting for the hot guy to come along and ****u in a minute.
That was not very nice of you to assume that of any "Chick", or
you just assume that you are goodlooking (OK then).
Maybe you don't get the G-looking guys and you are jealous or something.
I don't mean to sound mean to you but you just sounded like no one was up there
on your pedestal but you looking down at all of us (young,middle, and of age "chicks").
Look in the mirror sweetie....U R definanitly seeing something that not a lot of ppl
are seeing!!!! don't cut us gals down before you get to know us.
Where are all the guys for us average & under average gals? | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/26/2007 7:17:34 PM | | While punkette could have said it in a nicer way,unfortunatley she is partially correct,one of my best friends is male and he tells me what guys talk about.Ugly girls are often viewed to be easy,as well as fat girls.Trust ,me I'm both,and get hit on for the wrong reasons all the time.Guys figure we'll be so grateful for the attention that we'll be more eager,and thusly 'better' in bed.It's sad that this kind of shite is believed by anyone. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/26/2007 9:48:48 PM | Disclaimers first:
1) I haven't read the entire thread, so apologies if what follows has already been said.
2) I do NOT presume I meet the thread title criteria for male attractiveness, but did want to share why none of the women I've been involved with have ever won a beauty contest. (well, one placed second in a bikini contest once, but that was twenty years before I met her)
A good friend once came up with the perfect attractiveness test for the type of woman we both find appealing: "take the woman in question, have her get all dolled up ready to do the town, then take her backpacking for two weeks. Measure how many kilowatt hours it takes to return her to the original state. The lower the number the higher the score."
In other words, what I find attractive is the low maintenance, run-a-brush-through-your-hair-and-go look.
While there are a few women who are just natural stunners, the vast majority who would score highly on some glamour mag's beauty list put considerable effort into their looks. The kind of woman I'm attracted to has higher priorities in her life than spending a couple of hours each day trying to achieve some external beauty standard.
Certainly some of the women I'm not attracted to also don't conform to popular beauty standards, but as often as not it's their attitude, not their two dimensional appearance, that turns me off. A ready, sincere smile and a twinkle in the eye accomplish more than any cosmetic ever could. In fact I find noticable make-up unattractive. I feel like I have to look through a mask to see the real person underneath. But then, I don't use stain or paint on my woodwork either. Whether woman or wood I prefer not to have to look through exterior veneers to discern their true character.
Another aspect I've noticed, although I wouldn't generalize in all cases, is that women who are real head turners are subjected to so much shallow attention that it's easy for them to assume all men are shallow and be slow to appreciate all that I might have to offer or quick to bail knowing that there truly are plenty of fish in their sea.
I'm more comfortable when a relationship progresses based on steadily increasing mutual interest. I've learned the hard way that if things get started with one of us doing all the relationship-building heavy lifting it's difficult to evolve into a healthier balance down the road. That problem can present itself regardless of our respective appearance, of course, but if she's used to being the center of attention the risk seems greater.
So there's one guy's take,
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/28/2007 9:32:57 AM | guys that are goodlooking go for girls that are ugly because most ugly chicks will **** a hot guy in a minute! no questions asked and theres a higher chance of the chicks being tighter as well as being a virgin... which guys like
Huh??? This seems to be a bit of a contradiction...if a "so-called" ugly chick will **** a hot guy in a minute - how would they be more likely to be a virgin??? Apparently Punkette is not so good at the math - dumb blonde exhibit "A". Youre making the rest of us look bad. Better to keep your mouth shut and let everyone THINK you are stupid than to open it and let everyone KNOW you are.
Re: Snoogins
Ugly girls are often viewed to be easy,as well as fat girls. Trust ,me I'm both,and get hit on for the wrong reasons all the time.
Well, I wouldn't consider myself hot or beautiful but I am also not fat nor entirely unfortunate looking and I get hit on mostly for the wrong reasons too. I don't that it has anything to do with the prey specifically, more the social depravity and lack of character of the predator.
Because some plain women are fun, kind, charming, giving, sexy and intelligent, and some handsome guys happen to be attracted to that.
Very well said, Vorpal. Bravo!!!!
BTW OP, who are you to decide who's hot and who's not. Your opinion is only your own, you do not speak for, nor make decisions for mankind as a whole. Who died and left you in charge? Did I miss a memo or something? | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/28/2007 5:29:08 PM | sigh...wow ...this barely rates even answering but hey its the internet so why not?
Hmm...perhaps, contrary to popular belief, some men are looking for something more than the "society" approved "same league" women...some men are really just looking for someone that maybe touchs them on more than one level.
Some women shine from the inside out....but most people wont take a closer look to see that...when someone (man or woman) has that quality though no longer appear to be "ugly"...their inner beauty actually changes the way you look at them.
On some level we have to be attracted to our mates...however this attraction does not begin and/or wnd with how other people percieve them.
I dont know where this idea that people only date those who are an "appropriate" level of attraction....but man that idea sucks. | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/28/2007 5:31:26 PM | Do you mean average OR ugly women?
What difference do you think that would make ? None at all. you also need to remember that beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder.. All too often the beuty hides a real ugly interior as evidenced in a post just a short while ago.
Edit ok . yes someone made a mistake in the wording of the question. LOL you know i had never noticed. | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/28/2007 6:25:35 PM | Wow........what a loaded question. The psychological implications of that are enough alone to boggle the mind. As I said in another forum.." Beauty fades........dumb is forever."
Sometimes "great looking" guys are just as insecure as great looking women and need that constant re-affirmation that they are truly great looking, so, sad to say, they(men and women) will pick what they consider less attractive people as a background for their own looks.
Some men truly have very little to no ego and can see beyond the packaging. Some women who are great looking are empty shells.......same for some men. Then there are those who have it all........looks, integrity, basic goodness, and genuineness. Those characteristics will see them through when things will not function anymore, and sags, bags and wrinkles (it is just nature) settle in. Ah heck......I am beginning to depress myself and I am not easily depressed. :)~ | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 2/28/2007 9:00:30 PM | I loved your reply also, Dave. 
I honestly seem to have a strange view of beauty. Whenever I go for a guy, he goes up a notch, then another, then another in beauty. Pretty soon, he is the most beautious.
I actually do not desire to go out with the cutest guy around. All the girls around flaunt themselves, throw themselves at him...and stick numbers in his pocket. It is annoying to me.
That said, I go for genius intellect and chemistry. And I have a thing for very stunning eyes.
I once went out with a very stunning, I mean, drop-dead gorgeous Danish guy. He was tall, smart (working on his Ph.d) and he was looking for a wife! I thought wow! score!
We met off an ad when the internet was just starting to take off. I put ethnic background... and since my mom is half danish, I thought it was very cool he responded in Danish even though I did not understand a word of it. He did not read my ad much apparantly. I was keen to learn about the danish culture since my grandpa passed away and I learned zilch...and he was kind enough to bring a basket of danish goodies to me. A very thoughtful man he was.
He was a gentleman and very sweet but I was truly very, very bored. I was also slightly ill which did not help my mood. So being bored and feeling sick, I got edgy and demanded he take me home early. And this guy had asked me "would you ever consider moving back East?" He was really looking for a wife!
But we had NOTHING in common! I complained to him "why the hell are you so into heavy-metal music?" (I mean c'mon, the guy was more than slightly obsessed...playing loads of songs in the car, asking my take on each one...did I know this or that group...just really really into the heavy metal...really really into it...) and he in turn said "why are you so into the bible when you say nobody in your family is into it?"
We just could not get any chemistry. I wish him well..in fact, 2 years later, found his e-mail on the internet and I did send him an apology which he never responded to.
My point was his looks left me cold since we did not have that "spark."
There is that je ne se quios (sp?) element a guy has to have for me. And I just don't like them too pretty. I want to be the pretty one!
But if he is smarter than me and not too into hair products...he can be my boy trophy.  | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 3/16/2007 7:00:56 AM | | In response to krash099....or it could be that these handsome guys are well adjusted and quite intelligent. They get it....they're not in a shallow relationsip that is only about looks....they want the whole package. Who said that average or "ugly" women are easier to get anyhow....believe it or not there are people out there whose self-esteem does not solely revolve around their looks.....you guys should try it sometime u might be surprised, but then you might also be surprised that unlike the handsome guy....you couldn't get the 'ugly' woman to go out with you....lol | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 3/16/2007 10:59:59 AM | I've actually known of good looking guys that do this... and some have done so because deep down they're insecure. They figure this girl will be so grateful to have a good looking guy that they'll always be there... even at the risk of her getting treated like crap because somehow having said good looking guy makes them feel validated.
I've also been 'privvy' to guys who tell me they purposely go after larger and/or less attractive women because in their minds, they're easy and desperate... or so they believe. News flash! There are women who are beautiful on the outside that are insecure too and will give it up just to feel validated... in fact? A lot might have less of a sense of who they are because the only thing that has gotten them anywhere in this life is their looks. I've known many who are pretty lonely as a result... even when they're involved with someone.
I personally am grateful I'm not some drop dead gorgeous chick who doesn't have to always question the motives of the guys pursuing her. I think I'm pretty darn cute and love the person that I am. I'm quite happy in the knowledge that while they may not be lined up outside my door, the ones that do come knockin' will be there because they see the whole package and love it.
I don't believe ALL are shallow in this regard. Some actually want substance and will be with who they're attracted to on all levels. Funny how someone with depth can see a woman for all she is and inevitably find her the most beautiful woman in the world even if outsiders looking in wouldn't. Likewise for women. Once I ended up with this amazing guy who initially was fairly average looking to me, but it's what we had together and how we clicked that made me go 'wow... he's the best looking guy in the world.' Beauty is not only skin deep. For those that seem to think it is, It's truly sad you choose to live in such a limited world. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 3/16/2007 12:22:24 PM | | First of all the term ugly is an ugly term.beauty is a vast definition,Character wit and charm defines beauty.I have found that the so called dropdead gorgeous are not what I find attractive ,sure women should take pride in their appearance but they should never comprimise who they are.Some that take 2-3 hours to get ready are only hiding who the real girl is | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 3/16/2007 12:39:35 PM | I agree with what both of you are saying in a way. Guys THINK ugly girls will jump in the bed with them quicker. Because I list myself as BBW I get a lot of guys thinking I'm going to sleep with them and when they figure out thats not the case then its bye bye birdie. Personally I don't care because I'm not a slut. I'd rather go 10yrs without sex than jump in the bed with some guy that has no respect for me at all whatsoever.
Now back to the subject. When it comes down to it looks don't matter even to the most shallow person. People also like different looks. Some people hate others with freckles and then some think its cute and sexy. Some people like fat girls and some like skinny girls. It doesn't offend me if I'm not a guys type just because I'm big.
I also noticed guys saying that they like hot girls because they play hard to get. Thats the biggest bunch of bull I've ever heard in my life. These are the same guys that after 6 months of their girlfriends crap they will be calling them a **** and get sick of "all the drama." You get what you ask for. I am glad I am boring because it makes for a more pleasant relationship. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 3/16/2007 12:42:46 PM | I mean that I agree with what both punkette151 and eldubu said...
guys that are goodlooking go for girls that are ugly because most ugly chicks will **** a hot guy in a minute! no questions asked and theres a higher chance of the chicks being tighter as well as being a virgin... which guys like
Sorry, but is that a joke post? So, let me get this right...a woman who is considered "ugly" is a slut, because she's sooooo desperate? Also, ugly women are tighter and virgins? HUH???? I've seen plenty of unattractive people who are in relationships. So, what is the theory about men who go for dumb women? (Yes, that was an insult...I thought I'd better tell you, in case you couldn't figure it out on your own) This is in the running for one of the stupidest posts I've read on the forums. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 3/16/2007 1:00:34 PM | | I have to agree with poetik, Hotttttt Women are a pain in the ass. Like I said in my profile they all want Brad Pitts or A Lawyer and they always end up like Anna Nicole all washed up or even dead. I lived in South Louisiana for a spell and I found I could never pick up a Hot woman because they always wanted losers. It seems to me Hot women think that security is in money and cars. To me security means an honest woman I can trust when I go out to sea. My favorite show of all times was JOE MILLIONAIRE when the woman thought she was going to marry a millionaire and low and behold he was anaverage Joe construction worker out of Texas, she didnt love him she loved his millionaire status. She dumped him like a Rock. Hot women dont understand that security is not in clubs, corvettes, diamonds, drugs, how full there closeet is, etc. security is in the home its in the heart. But on the otherhand alot of women these days also find security in a guy who loves to stay home and play Nintindo all day. Who knows. Maybe one day God will get women back on track on whats really important. Becuase what these little beauty Queens dont understand is we all get old and what man wants an old washed up woman. They play this game when there young it doesnt work when they get older.......... | |
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