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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 11/24/2007 11:43:56 AM | | some men don't want to work to hard to impress a more attractive woman, an uglier woman is usually easier to deal with because they are more grateful to have anyone especially if he is attractive. So a man with an unattractive woman is one I would not want I think I am worth a little effort............ | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 11/24/2007 11:56:23 AM | | I may not be what you might call a handsome man, but the answer to this is simple...all the rumors about guys being so shallow are not accurate..we all have our own preferences but we are not limited by them. In the real world sometimes the situation is such that we are around those that we don't usually think that we would find attractive and through being with them an attraction develops. I have always been attracted to "average" women. Women who look to made up or ideal dont do much for me...but as I stated, if the situation were such that I were around them a lot an attraction might develop.Preferences are just that preferences, doesn't mean people can't date different types and find them equally attractive. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 11/25/2007 3:17:47 AM | What makes you think being thing and happy are mutually exclusive? Or that large and unhappy cant happen together either?
Loads of women are slim and blissfully happy and loads of large women arent thin but are totally obnoxious to be around
So, bearing that in mind, and as large + happy or thin + unhappy ARENT the ONLY choices available we already know you wouldnt like thin + UNhappy, and could probably assume big and UNhappy wouldnt appeal either
But what about the choice between thin + happy or large + happy???
Which would you choose there if it WAS a choice? | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 11/25/2007 4:16:29 AM | | Ha! Didn't know they did....makes me wonder if that's why I've been contacted by several of 'em....I know I'm average at best, which is why I normally don't give such guys more than a "sorry, not interested" reply. I figure if they contact me, they either have it in their head to use me because they aren't seriously looking to connect, or they have some serious character flaws and can't find an equally gorgeous woman who'll have 'em, lol. Now, I'm talking about the drop-dead-gorgeous,looks like he should be a model or in movies kinda guy. That is not to say that the guys I do talk to are ones I find unattractive, I'm just saying those who (as you say) look to handsome to be real, usually AREN'T the kinda guys I would believe to take an interest in me seriously anyhow. | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 11/25/2007 11:05:57 PM | Undertones of depression all over this page Heart Surgeon/Drug Rep.
I'm sorry that:
That life is suffering
We are all lonely
That most people do not give a damn
One cannot trust anyone
That being rich and good looking does not buy happiness
We can only control ourselves
These are facts most people know, learn to accept/cope with, while continuing to keep their hearts open to love. Love is a word you seldom use in your diatribes, you may not believe in it.
(Here's my little dirty secret: Life is ****ed up and beautiful at the same time, you can choose to live or simply exist) | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 11/26/2007 6:56:50 AM | | I have to admit that I'm very hesitant about contacting some of the really great looking guys here.........and, no, I'm not insecure. If I see that they are on tons of favorite lists, I just figure that have more than enough women to choose from, and I probably would never contact them.. Going by experience, if a guy is great looking, he knows it, and I am at a stage in my life where fighting for attention is NOT part of the plan. | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 11/26/2007 7:28:30 AM | I'm sorry that:
That life is suffering
We are all lonely
That most people do not give a damn
One cannot trust anyone
That being rich and good looking does not buy happiness
We can only control ourselves
These are facts most people know, learn to accept/cope with, while continuing to keep their hearts open to love. Love is a word you seldom use in your diatribes, you may not believe in it.
Good job of completely missing the point I was making.
Everyone in life has it hard for dating. Everyone in life has it hard period.
The problems of attractive people might not be issues that unattractive people can relate to very well, but it doesn't mean those problems don't exist. They are different kinds of problems that make dating hard, but they don't make dating ANY LESS difficult.
You know what gets old after a while? Watching the double standard when it comes to who can get hosed and bashed. A good looking young woman must instantly be shallow and stupid and selfish and evil. It's ok to call her that. But God forbid anyone dare challenge an older overweight single mother because she obviously has a heart of gold. There is no shortage of "thin bashing" or "good looking bashing" or "wealthy bashing" and it's not any less offensive than "fat bashing" or "ugly bashing" or "poor bashing"
Questioning a good looking guy about why he's dating a woman that most people might not find attractive is really an insult and an attack on both those people. But it's ok right? Since he's good looking right? Why do his good looks mean he has to conform to not only societies standards of what he should do and how he should live, but apparently he also has to conform to the standard of some of the folks in here too. Here's a wild and crazy thought, people in the world don't have to justify their happiness to you. Or anyone.
Do you realize that is what this topic is about right? Look at it again -
Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
All that is asking is for someone to justify their happiness to a complete and total stranger for pretty much no reason at all.
Overweight people, short people, older people, single parents, divorced people, etc, etc don't have the market cornered on being persecuted and not being given the common courtesy of the benefit of the doubt.
Deep down, people who are ignored wholesale might secretly desire to be objectified for once in their life.
Deep down, people who are objectified wholesale might secretly desire to be ignored just like everyone else for once in their life.
Everyone wants what they can't have. Everyone has it hard. There is no dividing line between that reality in the dating world based on "good looks", it's a human condition, not one based solely on attraction.
If two people are happy, why question it? Why begrudge them that much in life? Is the problem theirs for not fitting into the ideal of what people think they should be? Or is the problem yours for asking people to justify their happiness to you instead of trying to pursue your own? | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 11/28/2007 12:08:34 AM | "Why do hot guys spend hours writing in forums that pose silly questions?!"
My apologies to the Ultimate*Drug*Rep for missing the question in hand, but please understand--It's easy to lose sight of the topic when laboring through several chapters of ultimate wisdom. With all due respect, it's hard to appreciate the message you attempt to convey because of your je ne sais quoi, most likely Narcissistic logic. A great man once said "I love your ability to seamlessly combine a compliment with an insult". As a Provocateur, you possess this ability. I truly am not insulted by your demeaning view of women, nor your denial of life's complexity. I just think it's too bad...for someone with your analytical mind, emotional sensitivity and talent. | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 12/16/2007 2:58:50 PM | | because, my dear OP, some people realize that it's who a person is inside that makes them beautiful, and not the pretty bows and glitter they come wrapped in. while some people are stuck on superficial appearances, others want something deeper.......this is why you see stunning women with average-looking men, and gorgeous men with average-looking women. it's not about slumming, or thinking that a less *attractive* mate is easier to keep satisfied...its' about looking past the surface to what really counts. looks fade, we age, we grey, we gain or lose a few pounds, it all changes...but it's a person's core being that remains constant. if you fall in love with what's on the inside, the exterior doesn't matter nearly as much. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 12/16/2007 3:30:44 PM |
some men don't want to work to hard to impress a more attractive woman, an uglier woman is usually easier to deal with because they are more grateful to have anyone especially if he is attractive. So a man with an unattractive woman is one I would not want I think I am worth a little effort............
Men dont want to work hard full stop.
Men usually work very hard to bring home the money so the last thing they want is a woman who is full of herself and is hard work. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 12/16/2007 5:04:19 PM | An ex-girlfriend of mine was smokin' hot good looking. A 5'11" blonde. Guys hit on her all the time everywhere. She would be right by me. Wouldn't matter. I would be standing right there laughing at the most ridiculous pickup lines. If either of us stepped away from the other, someone would approach her or follow her. The guys were like little puppy dogs following her around, begging for attention. After awhile it just started to get sssoooo old. She did nothing to encourage this type of behavior either. If she had, I would have been long gone before we parted ways.
I wouldn't want to date a woman that good looking again if it involved dealing with those same issues again every day. It is more about what type of person you are inside anyway, than it is about how you look on the outside. | |
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