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eyez
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 4/30/2005 4:14:09 PM | Now, to give my reply to the original thought on this thread.
First, attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder. That goes without saying, but, I felt the need to say it anyway.
Some men probably are so insecure to feel the need to have a woman he doesn't think is very attractive...thinking she won't run off. Thinking she will treat him like a king. Thinking... thinking......etc. etc.
Biology is important...but, the parameters shift somewhere around late 30s...and remains in this shifted mode for the remainder of life. Women tend to become more attractive with age whereas men, for some reason, don't age as well. Women are "social" creatures by nature... much more so than men... so, they don't absolutely "have to settle" for companionship/mate like many men. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 4/30/2005 4:14:45 PM | ok i am in the average category send some of the to handsome to be real men my way....
biology and/or chemistry....... i think you might have to cross your sciences
chemistry and biology between two people can be powerful. this kind of goes along with what i previously stated on cookie's thread. sometimes you meet a very attractive person that in time becomes more and more unattractive. then again you may meet a "no sparks" person that becomes more and more beautiful as you learn more about her.
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eyez
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Joined: 11/27/2004
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joe93
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Joined: 7/6/2004
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 5/4/2005 5:38:08 AM | | Okay first of all who is to say what average or ugly is? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder right? So who is to say what kind of woman a guy (good looking or not) should go for? The women that all the guys trip over themselves to get to are often so into themselves there is no room for anyone else. Logic dictates that after someone has had a bad experience or 2 with a certain type of person, they are going to change what they look for in people they date. Simple terms...if someone dates enough good looking people that also happen to be arrogant they are going to assume all are like that. So then they will start looking for other qualities besides the barbie doll facade. I commend anyone who can see past a person's exterior far enough to notice they HAVE a personality. And for crying out loud stop complaining about who other people are dating O_o | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 5/4/2005 10:47:50 AM | Eyez is right on!!!
You date "down" so you are the controller in the relationship and you think that since you are so great that this person will never grow enough self-esteem to leave you.
Robert Johnson, perhaps the most famous real blues guitarist ever, was quoted as 'trying to find the ugliest woman in each town' so no one would be after his woman while he was on the road. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/3/2005 11:17:17 AM | I really do hate questions such as this one. It's so superficial and yet here we sit ALL commenting to the thread...myself included.... im not better
I think the same can be said on the other foot. Why do you see gorgeous women with short ugly men? Same reason....
Beauty is completely in the eye of the beholder. Im not looking for a God, but at the same time all he has to be is perfect for me. That's it...that's all!
We all go through changes and cycles in our lives. When we are young and stupid...we seek material wants and beautiful needs. But then something happens. And if you're lucky...maybe just maybe something clicks and it all becomes clear. That is: That in this life full of journeys and climbs... all that is truly important is that you find someone along for the ride that is truly spectacular in everyway for you. Outter core beauty will always be beautiful yes...but it cannot compare nor ever replace the beauty found within a person's soul.
~ Carissima ~ | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/3/2005 11:37:03 AM | | Well maybe,,,just maybe,,,its becuz,,,,,they actually like them. Ever think of that? | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/3/2005 11:41:32 AM | | Looks and money, easy come and easy go. A guy can be a "stud muffin", but if his personality sucks, I'll take the "Average Joe". A man who is secure with himself and isn't seeking a partner based on her looks, will love a woman, no matter what she looks like. Different strokes for different folks. There's nothing wrong with average women or "plain" janes, just like there's nothing wrong with "average joes" or "plain joes". | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/3/2005 12:54:53 PM | what makes you think these guys see themselves the same way you do...they might actually believe they don't look that great...
everyone is their own worst critic and what makes you think the person the man is with is below them anyways...beauty is all in the eyes of the beholder...so who cares what anyone else thinks...as long as they are happy | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/3/2005 1:15:26 PM | I consider myself an ok looking guy, nothing special, so I really don't know for sure, I'm just guessing at this...
I have a funny feeling that, a lot of great looking guys, find average women, a lot more down to earth about things...you can't make hard and fast rules about these things though...everyone is different.
I think just as an overall observation, most people have the impression that great looking women are "high maintenance", whether insecure about looks, or demanding in general...some are, some aren't...but perhaps because of the overall general impression or sub-conciously, pre-concieved notion, good looking guys might feel more at ease with average or not so beautiful women.
Psychologically, perhaps "Great looking" people in general, get used to attention, and so never seem to feel the need to develop their personalities so much, perhaps this is the notion so many posters are implying...personality counts alot, and great looking people tend to rely on looks more than personality, whereas not so beautiful people, tend to be "nicer" and more amiable. Whether this is true or not, everyone has their own opinion on it...but I think that it might be one reason for it. I hate painting everyone with broad brush strokes, and this is not meant as such. I'm just hypothesising on the potential reasons men might feel that way. In a similar fashion to someone who loses one of the 5 senses....the other senses tend to sharpen, to make up for it. Perhaps the human psychy, does something similar...
Just a thought...feel free to comment, I'd be curious to see what people think. Any psych. people especially.
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