| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/3/2005 1:57:33 PM | I think that you can't choose who you fall in love with, and really, when it's love, we become helpless to a certain extent and have to go with it. Not all attractive people are boring or stupid or egotistical. Not all unattractive people are secretly hiding a wonderful spirit either.
I think it's down to just being yourself, having confidence that you can't even throw away what belongs to you, and that whomever is "slated" to come into your life and love you is going to get there regardless of your efforts or even lack of efforts.
I'm on the verge of changing my profile so that I can just be here for the forums which I enjoy because I've recently paired up with someone. (whom I met through a friend, not from here) That someone is the most gorgeous guy I've ever been with. He's the kind that women go up to in stores just to start a conversation with. He's so fit you could bounce a quarter off any part of his body, so wonderful to look at that I just love to make him smile (his smile is like the sun), so kind to me I can hardly stand the incredible intensity of his love, he brings me tea in the mornings in bed, loves to cook for me (and is marvellous at it!), works like a fiend at his employment, and has an outrageous sense of humour. He is also 13 years younger than I am. I avoided him at first because he was so gorgeous I didn't want to care and feel a fool. I guess that avoidance made him curious.
I have to have confidence that he really wants to be with ME, and that he could have anybody but he chose ME. HE was the one who approached me, and who made sure that I would not want anyone else. But through his friends he got to know me. He found out that I am a sincere person, and kind hearted. He works so hard to be aware of my needs and to listen to what I say, and give as good as he gets. That makes me want to spoil him rotten. (which I do!)
We have chemistry, and are very attuned to each other in spirit. The silences are comfortable and the other stuff is amazing.
I have never had a long term relationship with a gorgeous guy. I've always been nervous to trust that it could work. But when there's good chemistry and you really get along, and want to be with each other as much as you can because it's so rewarding personally, then you really have something. We have much to offer each other on many levels.
When the motives are to love (otherwise known as giving) then it stands a chance of working. When the motives are to show off this gorgeous person to the world as "yours" then you are operating from selfishness and likely it won't work.
I don't know where it will go, but we certainly have plans and they include each other.
I just lost 20 lbs and am feeling terrific. I want to be as fit as possible so I can go bicycling with him (he bikes many miles to another town just for the fun of it and then rides back) and keep active for as long as possible because it means there will be even more things we can enjoy together.
Lust is all about finding suitable targets to enact our fantasies .....Love is sincere and very giving....being with a really attractive person is scarey at first, but they are not all idiots inside. Trust me :) | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/3/2005 3:46:43 PM | Just for Fun - THere used to be a song... (too much truth for some...) If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, make an ugly woman your wife...
Seriously though - Just cause a person is unattractive to YOU... obviously does not mean that he finds her so... AND, if she is not stunning... so what... she just MAY be the most beautiful gal in the world to him... and SHE KNOWS that he is with her, because that is JUST where she wants to be... and I promise you that he thinks she is the most beautiful woman in the world...
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joe93
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Joined: 7/6/2004
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/3/2005 5:33:35 PM | Could u be the most beautiful girl in the world?
It’s plain 2 see u’re the reason that God made a girl
When the day turns into the last day of all time
I can say I hope u are in these arms of mine
And when the night falls before that day I will cry
I will cry tears of joy cuz after u all one can do is die, oh
Could u be the most beautiful girl in the world?
Could u be?
It’s plain 2 see u’re the reason that God made a girl
Oh, yes u are
How can I get through days when I can’t get through hours?
I can try but when I do I see u and I’m devoured, oh yes
Who’d allow, who’d allow a face 2 be soft as a flower? oh
I could bow (bow down) and feel proud in the light of this power
Oh yes, oh
Could u be (could u be) the most beautiful girl in the world?
Could u be?
It’s plain 2 see u’re the reason that God made a girl
Oh, yes u are
And if the stars ever fell one by one from the sky
I know mars could not be, uh, 2 far behind
Cuz baby, this kind of beauty has got no reason 2 ever be shy
Cuz honey, this kind of beauty is the kind that comes from inside
Could u be (could u be) the most beautiful girl in the world?
So beautiful, beautiful
It’s plain 2 see (plain 2 see) u’re the reason that God made a girl
Oh yeah! (oh, yes u are)
Girl (could u be? )
U must be ... oh yeah!
(could u be? )
U’re the reason ... oh yeah
(could) {x3} | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/3/2005 8:49:46 PM | | Have you ever noticed that you can meet a very attractive person who just blows your mind, but as you get to know them you realize that they know they are hot and their looks just seem to go downhill from there. Then you meet an average looking person (whatever average is) and for some reason you get to know them and they start looking like your fantasy person,(without alcohol involved) because their personailty is awesome? If you think someone is average or ugly the that usually means that you think you are better then them. Something about all ppl make them beautiful, hot, tempting, gorgeous, whatever your choice word is. I believe tha is why you see hot ppl with "average" or "ugly" ppl. | |
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joe93
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real
Posted: 9/6/2005 7:05:03 AM | Why do handsome guys go for average or ugly women...?
1. cuz they are so full of themselves no woman with self esteem will have them !
2...they don't have to work... cuz damn they are just so good looking !
3...they don't have to develop a personality cuz  that good looking thing again!
4.It's just so hard to be humble! | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real
Posted: 9/6/2005 7:35:00 AM |
Why do handsome guys go for average or ugly women...?
1. cuz they are so full of themselves no woman with self esteem will have them !
What the hell..God, I hope that was ALL sarcasm.
Why would any of you automatically assume that a non-gorgeous woman would have no/low self-esteem? Anyone that assumes that is the case, OBVIOUSLY is the Pot calling the Kettle Black.
I think ugliness should be determined by what's on the inside. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/6/2005 7:36:11 AM | | I totally agree with you. I have dated men who thought they were better looking than they actually were and when it came down to their personality I found them rather arrogant. I think the average Joe is much more secure with himself and does not need to prove himself as much. Some of the best looking and wealthiest men I have dated have been the most insecure of the bunch. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/6/2005 7:42:58 AM | ezgoin ...I was joking
I was referring to the good looking women ..! Lighten up there blondie...!
"Why would any of you automatically assume that a non-gorgeous woman would have no/low self-esteem? Anyone that assumes that is the case, OBVIOUSLY is the Pot calling the Kettle Black."
^^^^^^
just wondering where you came up with that???
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/6/2005 7:46:33 AM | | I dont like hard to get, the second a girl plays hard to get I immediately dismiss her as a potential, as she may not be playing, and I could get into serious trouble if I continually persue someone who is playing a game or not, just isnt worth it. Better the girl show interest immediately and play no games, that is a real woman. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/6/2005 8:37:34 AM | Indigo, since I've joined here, I've read several threads where people are asking why 1) they can't get someone in there life "when they look they look the way they do"(meaning they thing they have it going on) and 2) why their ex is going out with someone they feel isn't as "pretty" or "in shape" as they are, and now, 3) why do GQ guys go out with "ugly" women.
Maybe the people that are posting this "crap" are having a hard time dealing with not having that "special someone" because they don't like themselves. If you can't like yourself, how do you expect someone to like you for you?
I guess I look at it as common sense when it comes to questions these people are asking...it's about the inside and not always the outside.
I've met some average looking guys, where after I talk to them, appear sexy as hell to me. People are too vain these days. Don't get me wrong, I've been guilty of it myself to a certain extent, but it has never stopped me from making a new friend either. | |
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| Why do some guys that look to handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/6/2005 10:32:27 AM | | I’ve dated a few jaw droppers. The kind other people turn to stare at in the airport. Sometimes you’d hear a “OMG, did you see that!” or a moan as you walked by. Men would veer in when we would go out - especially when we were on the dance floor. Even when we were together people would hit on them. Gorgeous women seem to be a**hole magnets. A lot of assumptions are made as to why you’re dating her - different standards are applied. It required extra effort on my part and I’d rather not have that kind of attention. I prefer to date women who are attractive in an everyday sense for that reason. Give me the wash and wear type. | |
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| Why do some guys that look too handsome to be real go for average are ugly women?
Posted: 9/6/2005 10:59:14 AM | I admire a man that takes the time to get to know a woman for who she is and not what she will look like hanging off his arm. Maybe these men are not as shallow as you assume they are.
We can only alter our appearance so much on the outside , some are lucky enough to be born beautiful some of us are just average looking but it takes hard work to devlop something on the inside that represents quality and interest. Maybe these men are just more than a pretty face perhaps they have some real depth to them. | |
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