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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/2/2007 12:24:45 AM | For me, I don't find the number of "Favorites" near as alarming as people with these "Testimonials" - That's one feature that creeps me out big-time. To me its like the old bar trick of sending the friend over make first contact - lame.
Perhaps its the duality of the site that is a little confusing to me: 1/2 LavaLamp, 1/2 FakeBook. I understand that there are people here who are in relationships and simply looking for friends to hang out with. But, with all the social engineering (Yes, I meant to say that) websites out there, I'm inclined to think that if you're wanting to keep track of a pile of people for parties or whatever, you'd be better off using one of them.
In the end, I can usually tell how many "Favorites" lists a person will appear on within having read the first couple of sentences in their profile. Generally speaking, the ones with 60-70+ are seldom people I'd want to get to know anyway, so it all works out really.
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/3/2007 3:50:39 AM | | I am personally not intimidated, but rather disgusted with people who get some sort of sick satisfaction oout of collecting the possible routes to escape, in case everything is not working the way you want it to.... If you really use the fav list to find someone you are going to contact soon, it's your responsibility to yourself to "trim" the list periodically, becuse when it's time to go and fish that ONE person that you liked right away, it will take you forever to go through your lengthy list, and it's very likely you are going to get sidetracked sooner rather than later, and end up contacting, if contacting at all, something you never had in mind.... Find a day of the week, like Saturday afternoon, or any rainy day in Vancouver, no lack of those, and just do it, or, like going to the can every day, do it right after yout morning sh&t, and keep your records and conscience clear, along with the bowels....... Really, huge # make me automatically cringe and say all sorts of words I would not say to a lady(to her face, anyway) Here you do, let erasing begin..... | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/3/2007 6:43:21 AM | I do look at how many favorites a person has, however it doesn't stop me from contacting if I choose too. But I do have to say if someone has used a rose or two then I'll shy away. Tells me this fish is seriously interested in someone.
Side Note: I remove all favourites added to my profile. I feel it's not a competition, if the right person comes along none of it will make a difference anyway. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/3/2007 9:29:55 AM |
But I do have to say if someone has used a rose or two then I'll shy away.
Yeah, I look at the roses too, although I hadn't really thought about it, til you mentioned it. The # of Fav's, really doesn't tell you much......as so many have said before. I used to leave my list grow, now I keep it fairly trimmed (depends on my mood).......mostly now it's friends, many of them female. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/4/2007 9:57:21 AM | When I had my other profile I made it up to 430 fave lists. It means nothing!! I did go to quite a few large events and I had male and female friends on there as well as a lot of people from out of town that I never will end up meeting.
Of course, then you get the losers who send messages like OH! you have 400 faves but not ONE is good enough for you??????? Ummm........I am on THEIR faves they aren't on mine, which I think would have a more realistic number of showing people how many I actually even talk to.
I started deleting them off but what is the point?? A lot of people use this as a 'save for later' list and I have to say that occasionally I have been guilty of this myself. There is no spot on here to add someone's profile so you can plan to send them a message after you attempt to wallow through the 4000 matches.Also, I have deleted people who have never sent me messages and don't interest me and they readd themselves anyways, so why would I waste my time and energy deleting someone that may or may not interest me?
I have occasionally looked to see who has added me and I have ended up talking to some fantastic men, even if they are out of my age range, dating area, or even not my type. Some guys get so intimidated by the b****** on here that cut them down that they are paranoid that all women are like that and sometimes I have used this list they have added themselves to contact them myself.I have even questioned men on why I have been on their list for weeks and they never sent a message and a lot seem to be unsure whether I will respond so they seem to take the safe route and hope that I will pick up on my own that they are interested.
Don't be so quick to judge someone on something that they don't choose. I could waste all my time weeding through that list every time I sign on but what is the point?? Is there really a perfect number?? POF put that feature on there and does not give us the option to turn it off so by not choosing someone that everyone else seems to like too...........you could be losing the opportunity right under your nose. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/4/2007 11:36:34 AM |
am personally not intimidated, but rather disgusted with people who get some sort of sick satisfaction oout of collecting the possible routes to escape
Give me a f***king break, abs man.
Trim your list and hush. One glance and I looked away. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/8/2007 2:33:22 PM | I had to laugh about the roses. Every so often i mess up and 'accidently' send one off in error. Not very polite to say after the fact to someone....sorry I sent you that rose. LOL Kind of tacky. So...im sure there are people out there who have made a 'faux pas' by clicking on something in error. Gad, one time I accidently purchased a $15,000.00 bracelette on Ebay. I still make errors with placing my cursor and submitting. Oh well.
Intimidated by favorites tally? Nah, . . . I do question their intentions though; especially with the long term issue. Showing your greasy pecks and hot bod determines that high number on the favorites never mind some of the ladies pictures also being very seductive. Um...ok. They're great pictures in many peoples eyes. Its an ego boost Im sure. Then 'some' will say they're looking for a long term relationship. Maybe so but Im very speculative about that. Party list...hmmm...ok....
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/8/2007 10:28:59 PM | Appreciate the post xittix...
Of course we are all individuals and opinions vary from person to person....
Personally, I feel the larger the number the busier the person is with their mail system... Would I pass a person by? Sadly, I do. Of course the lady might be a very wonderful person... again, opinions vary...:)
Do I feel intimidated?...not a bit...personally, I keep my list short...it is only a matter of personal preferrence/choice is all.... Of those I feel a connection and joy with I am able to enjoy my online time with....:) I am also aware there are many reasons for being on another favorite list too...:))
POF sets guidelines on pictures and profiles and I will not put down anyone that keeps to the rules.....respect...is important.....
Wishing you the best...again, interesting post!
O:)
PS I have yet to buy a $15,000.00 bracelette on ebay....hmmm, maybe one day.... O:)
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| Do you ever not respond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/11/2007 11:40:01 PM | | My belief is those that keep favorites in their list to this extent are reenacting high school. Mr, Miss popular all over again. Some people still need to outgrow old habits, or maybe they have to just grab a clue. Life is more than just numbers and it certainly does attest to the shear vanity of those that allow the favorites to just continue to accumulate. Before a Mr or Miss 300, 200,or 20 rebuts my perception, ask yourself does everyone of 'your' favorites email you everyday? Hell do 1% of them email you weekly. Probably not. You're most likely one of those that when added as a favorite and most likely sent and email, you almost always delete the gesture without even taking a moment to read the mail or the profile. I can guarantte that you will not possess a moment of courtesy to reply with a simple thank you. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/14/2007 9:57:20 PM | Oneyummieimport:
If you're so rather disgusted with people who get some sort of sick satisfaction out of "collecting the possible routes to escape, in case everything is not working the way you want it to.... If you really use the fav list to find someone you are going to contact soon, it's your responsibility to yourself to "trim" the list periodically, becuse when it's time to go and fish that ONE person that you liked right away, it will take you forever to go through your lengthy list, and it's very likely you are going to get sidetracked sooner rather than later, and end up contacting, if contacting at all, something you never had in mind.... Find a day of the week, like Saturday afternoon, or any rainy day in Vancouver, no lack of those, and just do it, or, like going to the can every day, do it right after yout morning sh&t, and keep your records and conscience clear, along with the bowels....... Really, huge # make me automatically cringe and say all sorts of words I would not say to a lady(to her face, anyway) Here you do, let erasing begin..... "
then why post cheesecake shots of yourself????????????????????
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/15/2007 8:17:17 PM | I do believe in respect, therefore if I add someone to my faves list I send a hello. Obviously something in their profile has me interested.
I am not on this for some kind of popularity contest, therefore I shall continue deleting ones who can not be bothered to say hello. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/15/2007 9:41:43 PM | 
Like I care.
They have alot of favorites, wow, big frikken deal.
I message who I want, plain and simple, like I care which pervert has added them, and make no mistake, most Women do not clear it out, whatever........
I love Women, Dating site right?, O yeah, beta males suck...
Aloof, I write to whomever I please, and have a hard time understanding what the big problem is...
Mayhap they keep them, just to see whos Really got the CONFIDENCE......
Yanno? | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/16/2007 6:04:34 PM | Generally speaking, I do not message those with high favorite counts. I do read their profile and if they are a regular host for events, then I understand. But..... if they have listed themselves for dating or long term and have no mention of events in their profile, I tend to pass them over.
I know what I am looking for, and high counts is not one of them
I have seen someone reach over 1000 favorites, and listed as "long term" Hmm?
Like a nice garden: every once in awhile you need to trim tthe bush
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| Do you ever not respond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/21/2007 9:25:29 PM | Well, R.J. it would seem to me that you have at least 30 who have listed you as a favourite  ...me included...I consider that quite high. Does that mean I should have passed you by? I consider yours quite a high number, but I actually didn't even look at that until I came across this thread. I am glad I didn't "pass you by" or else I would never have "met" you.  | |
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| Do you ever not respond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 9/5/2007 10:36:42 PM | The OP is "ever not respond" if they have a ton, not make first contact.
The thread has gone both ways.
I respond, regardless, if the person is interesting, or have said something intriguing.
For me my Favs list like for others is a quick note, that something struck my fancy. I want to come back and check more closely to see if I want to contact. It may take me a while.
Or I may decide that I am not interested after all, and then delete them.
Or in one case there was one young lady who had a smile that knocked me out. I emailed to tell her so...too young and too far away. But I liked to just look at her smile every once in a while.
As for being on others Favs list, I do consider it an opening comment and will occasionally email, and those I put on my list are welcome to do the same. I have taken myself off a few, not as many as my ego would like.
But guys, here's a point that the women will have my head over. Women want, what other women want. The guy is obviously desirable, so now I want him. They will deny this, but academic and personal research shows it to be true.
Many a time I have suddenly become popular with women who would not give me the time of day, just because I was with a hot female friend.
So for the guys, I would not take yourself off too many lists. You can seem un-interesting.
And yes, if she's on too many lists, I would figure she's into catch and release, and would take a miss. My loss perhaps. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 9/11/2007 8:34:20 PM | Well if they wrote you, why not? In that case it would seem that all those to put her in their favorites list come 2 nd to you.
If not she would have written to them. Further I would say even if you see this in someone you would like to initiate a contact with, do it.
You have nothing to lose but the opportunity to meet the woman of your dreams.
Go for it.
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 9/12/2007 7:49:58 PM | I just dont' put many favourites on my list and you guys shouldn't either. Falsely boost their egos lol. Kidding aside, I think women here are looking for something in particular, message away, it's tiring but at the end of the day it is the women that choose (especially the hot ones) heh. If there's some quality that they find in you that intrigues them they will message you.
Just have patience. | |
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