| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 9/18/2007 8:22:30 AM | | The funny thing about the favorites list is that it doesn't define who the favorite is or why they are there. When I was on here before I had a very high number of favorites because they were friends (both male and female) that I met at a couple of the "POF Events". So without further definition, it really is only a number. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 3/24/2008 4:07:58 AM | | It says something about a person who remembers to "how far they made " on fav's lists, yet in the next sentence claims not to care. Gimme a break, you're not flattered when you end up on a lot of lists? Sure. Its reminiscent of those that place the "sorry if I don't get back to you, I get so many emails.....". You have to time to open and read them, but not time to reply?.....fibs people tell. All that said, my opinion is that there is way too much selection on this site. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 3/24/2008 11:16:40 AM | I usually don't bother once I see favourites into the triple digits, 250+ range. I figure that there's probably a hundred other jerks just like me messaging that chick, that minute. And I know that i'm the sheeit, but she doesn't...
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 3/24/2008 11:57:41 AM |
how about a select all button?
yes, and they should have a Select All Button for emails too and a place that you can move mail that you may want to keep around till you can answer and then select all and delete the rest.
Numbers mean nothing!!! | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 3/24/2008 2:22:27 PM | | Most of the time I don't think numbers mean a whole lot. However I have encountered some members who seem to get "addicted" to the whole attention thing. They have been on POF for quite some time and still have not found that special someone to be with. Look at their favorites and the number continues to grow. I am currently interested in one such person and I am starting to wonder if she doesn't fit in this category. Chats have been great and promises to meet usually come with an excuse and an abscence from the IM world. Then after a bit she's back like no time has gone by and lets get together? Is it a case of growing numbers and something that might be better has come along. Sooner or later one has to commit to giving something a try or they will always be chasing the grass on the other side of the fence. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 3/25/2008 5:26:43 AM | | I figure the guy probably has his hands full with all those women on his favourites list already & I'm not going to expend my energy competing with hundreds of other women when there are other guys on here who may not be as popular but who are down-to-earth & just as nice, if not nicer. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 3/25/2008 7:39:06 AM | I never take anyone serious who has a ton of favourites.
they will always be chasing the grass on the other side of the fence
some are on here permanently for that reason and will always be comming back . | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 3/25/2008 8:23:48 AM | Prejudices, every one seems to assume something about a person they do not know
though that appears to be the 'norm' I find it strange
there may be a multitude of reasons why and many have been mentioned here before, but the true reasons we will only know from that person him/herself. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 3/25/2008 1:07:46 PM | This topic is being discussed right now on another Forum and the concencus seems to be that people who are collecting trophies and regardless of whether they have made contact with these people or ever intend to contact them, they love how it appears on their profile.
I mean...come on now... you got to say out loud when you see anything over 50, 60, 100 ...Appears on Favourite List.... and say... That person is really hot!.. or really popular!...they got a lot going on....
to me... I am intimidated by it... I wonder... how could I ever compete?
Why bother contacting that person?.. they will never have enough time for me.... it would be embarassing probably...and a waste of my time and energy.
Funny thing is ... I don't look at someone's profile unless I notice that they checked me out....then my curiousity kicks in and I check them out. Why would a guy with over 100 Favs be checking me out?... his he collecting?... doesn't he have enough on his plate?...
anyhow... to each his own... funny thing is way way way back when I was on POF... I was on over 100 pple's list in less than 2 months......and I never had a pic posted....so go figure.... maybe it was because of the stuff I was posting in the forums....wasn't based on my pic... maybe it was my nic...  | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 3/26/2008 7:40:39 AM | I have always thought its nice to have a few favorites,....but just the ones that keep in touch,..as several people have proven themselves to really be my friend.
But when my "Favorites" started adding up, and I dont even get messages from these people,..its,... "DELETE".
Yeah,.....I just love it when I see a beautiful womans profile,...and they claim to be looking for "Long Term",.....and they have over 250 "Favorites",.......I believe their not looking,..their playing,....and addicted to the dating site.
I mean,...come on,......either your looking or your not,....if you have over 50 favorites, and their all people that are interested in you,......and "YOU" cant find a
"Life Partner",...then theres something wrong with this picture.
I mean,...Im picky,....but not so darn pickey that its dysfunctional.
I think a lot of these kind of people are just "Players",..and extreemly "Dysfunctional",
and wouldnt be happy, with "Prince Charming",....or being able to "Play" on this "Dating Site" any longer.
Id be more than glad to find someone that shares the same intrest as I,...and a non smoker.
Is that too much to ask ?
Currently,....I have very few pwoplw on my "Favorites" list,...and Im getting ready to delete a couple of people that have added me to their favorites,..yet havent bothered to even send me a message.
And by the way,...if you read my Profile,...you will find, that at this point in my life, Im not activly seeking anyone right now,....but ya never know,.......I might turn a corner,
and find Love standing directly in front of me. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 3/26/2008 1:28:05 PM | Re "Unread Deleted" ... I think instead of reading the message first, some people are clicking on the name of the person who emailed them & checking out their profile first. If they don't like what they see, they delete the message without reading it ... which totally lacks class IMHO. If a person has taken the time to write to you, it is common courtesy that you take the time to read it & send a brief reply to thank the person for having taken the time to write, even if it's to let them down gently. Where are some people's manners?
if you have over 50 favorites, and their all people that are interested in you,......and "YOU" cant find a "Life Partner",...then theres something wrong with this picture.
What's wrong with this picture could be that many of those people who have added me (or anyone else) to their favourites may fall short of qualities I look for in a life partner. For example, if I have 50 favourites, some of those people might be smokers, live too far away from me, be way too young for me or whatever. Yet for whatever reason, they added me to their favourites. I don't delete people immediately just because they don't meet the qualities I'm seeking, because they obviously saw something positive enough in my profile to have added me & I view that as an honour & think it would be rude to delete them. I have had guys add me & not contact me for several months, but when they did, we either had a great conversation or date ... and I have done the same with guys I've added to my own favourites list. I've even added my women friends to my favourites so I can contact them easily & women have added me as well. But still, my first impression when I spot a large number of favourites is to A$$ U ME they are too popular & busy for me, which I really shouldn't do. My bad! | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 3/26/2008 9:02:08 PM | I never been one to "repond" to anyone, ton of faverites or not. I am here to post and let others "repond" to me. Somehow, I always seem to attact a few kind soul my way. I am quite happy this way.
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/18/2008 11:31:23 PM | I use my favorite list like a fishing net.
I first go "fishing" and find many fish that seem interesting. Then After a few bodies are found, I really go through their profile. If something catches my attention I will drop off a note. If something really turns me off, I delete them.
Then if they delete my message or I get no responce after a week or so I delete them.
Its great to have to keep my contacts in order.
As for being on someone elses favs. If there is NO connection there for me I will delete myself off your list. Why be there really.
I really do hate this write your own profile bs.. its hard to get your true self across without sounding either to shallow, ego or full of it. I try to get creative to get attention but, it still makes me feel empty... | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/19/2008 9:10:41 PM | | I will admit I was intimated at first, I did respond to someone who has over 100's favs on their list I find it a compliment OP, if they email me. I asked this one person if they email everybody on their list, they said no. So I felt quite lucky. If they did email everybody they would be at their computer 24/7. Nothing went further than the email. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/16/2008 9:46:01 AM | | I want to add my three cents to the fav's list thing although I did mention it in my profile because of this same thing...I dont know any of the people that have added me to their fav's .... alot of them live far far away... I go thru occasionally and delete some of them when the number gets too big... mostly because I get emails from men that I might indeed have been interested in answering if their objective in sending me a note wasnt to scold me for the so called popularity contest 99% of the men that have added me have " never" emailed me.... I do beleive they just add you so that when and if you change your pics they can easily see that? there really cant e any other reason? what I would like to see...is an option you either allow or disallow someone to be listed on that said list... and then you truely would have people on it that you have had or wish to have some contact with? Once you have deleted them off the fav's list? do you know that blocked them from contacting you? ..its really a glitch in the system... after reading the forum on this ...am going to go thru once again and delete a pile of them...as it seems to connotate overall a negative thing... thanks ! | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/16/2008 10:25:07 AM | I will delete them if they do not contact me with in a certain time after adding me,
The people I leave on are already friends of mine (and 98% female) ,
or I am already communicating with them in some form . I clean house daily | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/16/2008 10:44:07 AM | Being on a favourites list doesn't mean the person want to shag everyone on it. They could be friends or just someone that they like to keep in contact with to some degree.
You don't have much control over who adds you to their list. Some people can't be arsed to keep going and crossing off the no goods or even look at the list.
Too much is read into the profiles on POF. There is a life outside this screen too ya know. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/16/2008 10:57:51 AM | There are probably a ton of reasons that people add others to their favourite lists, but I think the biggest reason is that people use them like a wink or smile.
They might be too shy to make a first contact or have the fear of rejection so they simply add you to let you know they are interested.
This gives you the option to either message them and you have an easy convo starter by saying you noticed they added you, or you can add them to yours, and perhaps if they see this they will send you a message.
I agree with BS that there is a lot that can be judged from what is in a persons profile from the pics they choose to share, their favourites numbers, and prefer not says, etc....
But what it comes down to is if you are interested you should shoot someone off a message to let them know you are as the worst they can do is unread/delete. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/16/2008 1:26:17 PM | I'll admit, I'm not a big fan of 'collectors', but it really has no bearing on whether or not I will respond to someone.
Since I've returned to the Pond, I've kept my number down to friends, people that I exchange emails with, and those I stalk in the forums.
If someone adds me to their faves and does not make contact within a few days, I remove them. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/16/2008 3:22:55 PM | | I agree with runs with wolves. IMO: I personally will remove myself from favorites if I have heard nothing from the person , I have no wish to be part of someone's collection. If I add someone to my faves I contact them if we do not connect, after emailing a few times, or if they do'nt seem interested I delete them......I do not bother approaching anyone who has a collection.....it smacks of ego and petty competition reminds me of high school ( disliked it then too) everyone has their own spin on how they percieve it and thats cool, just thought I would throw my perceptions in the mix. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 8/16/2008 3:38:21 PM | An interesting twist on the matter of favorites.
I see a profile with something that appears to be designed to intrigue the reader. I take the bait and nibble... I write what I think is a polite and courteous message, inquire about the intriguing profile aspect and also say we have some interests in common. The question is not something mundane, it is one where one would expect a reply.
My message has been read but a reply has not been sent.
However she has added me to her favorites.
So I am thinking this may unfold something like classic fishing drama. The angler is providing plenty of slack line after the fish takes the bait, to make sure the hook is deeply swallowed before the hook is firmly set. It now appears to be a waiting game.
The trouble is that I just don't know if I'm the angler... or the fish.  | |
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