| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 2/23/2008 10:30:03 AM | oh heck here we go again. the whole nice guy routine and why it doesn't work. what you have to realize is attraction is a choice....unfortunately it's never logical. In a Utopian world, a guy that's nice to a woman would be found attractive. However, this is planet earth and that never happens. A guy can be the nicest guy ever created and treat a woman like a queen. BUT, and i stress the word BUT, that doesn't mean she will automatically want him.
you have to find the FINE LINE that exists between being a total ***hole, and being too nice. it's a complete mother ####ing pain in the ass to find that line because it's different with every woman. but once you find that line and walk it, your chances of success will increase. However, you have to get rid of the mindset that women like nice guys...because they don't. If they did, dating wouldn't bee as screwed up as it is. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 2/23/2008 10:42:20 AM | | I agree with the lack of physical attraction I don't think it's everything, but have to not want to put a bag over his head to talk.....LOL. You have to heading down the same path in life, too. I think most of all women want strong men and need to be showed that along with all the romance. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 2/23/2008 4:04:28 PM | | I agree with a poster who said you can go too overboard on compliments and gifts and stuff. If it happens to me I think either this person is trying to buy me off, impress me or am i really special to him or is this just him type of thing? I like the nice guys but not doe eyed ones who keep paying me compliments all the time! | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/26/2008 12:27:00 AM | Agreed with the overboard and nasty pt... these women can simply be open with the relationship & their intentions... this isn't spy games... hello*
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/26/2008 12:35:32 AM | Because most women are screwed in the head and love drama, just beat the hell out of one and treat them like dirt, they will love you.
Birds of a feather adage probably applies.... til it backfires * | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/26/2008 2:50:43 AM | | Because the fact of the matter is, there are some women just as shallow as some men out there and you weren't physically attractive enough for their tastes... | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/26/2008 2:52:57 AM |
I agree with a poster who said you can go too overboard on compliments and gifts and stuff. If it happens to me I think either this person is trying to buy me off, impress me or am i really special to him or is this just him type of thing? I like the nice guys but not doe eyed ones who keep paying me compliments all the time!
Also got to ask yourself what is it about you that is causing the guy to feel he has to do those things to impress you as you may be saying/doing something you were unaware of to encourage such... | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/26/2008 1:20:55 PM | Some of these posts are a bit much; I'm a nice guy and not to brag but I can have a date any time. All nice guys are boring? whatever. Ex nice guy you need a life.
1. Attraction; just because your nice doesn't mean she will be into you. If she's attracted to you then she'll be into you with the kindness.
2. some guys are very insecure; they try to hard and it seems needy and insecure and its a turn off.
3. Especially in todays girls gone wild genre, some girls do like bad guys; look at all the posts of girls getting cheated on constantly and then being asked, "should I stay with him?"
One rap song talks about the worse I treat her, the more she wants me, and I think with some women; especially younger ones; this is true. Their self esteem erodes and nice guys say; WTH?
Be a good guy, dont overdo it and things will be fine. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:14:13 PM |
1. Attraction; just because your nice doesn't mean she will be into you. If she's attracted to you then she'll be into you with the kindness.
2. some guys are very insecure; they try to hard and it seems needy and insecure and its a turn off.
3. Especially in todays girls gone wild genre, some girls do like bad guys; look at all the posts of girls getting cheated on constantly and then being asked, "should I stay with him?"
Tell me about it. I know a female friend that has been with a guy for years who belittles her all the time, runs off all her friends with his jealousy so he can appear as the only one that "loves" her, comes crying to me for support all the time, yet insists she "loves" him and he "loves" her... | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/27/2008 2:30:53 PM | I was once one of those way to predictable nice guy... It took me 2 broken hearts to actually get it... To all the guys, Make sure you keep a woman on her toes. Do not be to available or else you'll be come plan B if plan A doesn't go down. Make sure you always put yourself first before her and little by little make her earn status in your life...  | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/27/2008 10:14:24 PM | | It's quite odd because you hear alot of women on these forums looking for a "nice guy" then when you actually go out into the world, they would rather hook up with a jerk that treats them "terrible". It's like you have to be a total a*$ in order to get most of them to even hook up. I know many on the forums would say something along the lines of "Yeah right, he doesn't know what he's talking about..." Yet when you say one thing on the forums and do another in a live relationship interaction, your actions speak louder than words... | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/28/2008 3:09:45 AM | How dare you make such claims, have you ever thought that some of us women do not trust Mr Nice guy, and that most "nice guys" turn out to be morons like yourself.
AWWWW..... if it rains, it better pour...
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/28/2008 3:27:44 AM | Saw this topic and had to comment cause this is something me and my friends talk about all the time. Yes I have had nice guys and my fair share of bad ones and terrible to say that the nice ones have been treated bad and the bad ones I ve wanted bad. I think its all to do with challange. In the same way some blokes dump you after sleeping with you once they have acheived that then the challange has gone. It could be a case of what you cant have or some sort of commitment fear, knowing that with the nice guy it could be long term and committed but with the bad guy settling down might never happen.
Depends on what you want at the time as well. I have just met a lovely bloke (yes one of those nice ones who have been walked all over in the past) he opens doors for me is polite and generally a nice person. This time am holding on to him cause I deserve to be treated nice. Am also encouraging him to stand up to me so see with nice guys you can get the best of both if you work with them............. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/28/2008 3:43:43 AM | | Probably the same reason a man dumps a woman who is nice to him. You do everything you can, but they dump you anyway---maybe all the dumped people should start a club. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/28/2008 4:04:41 AM | some women who have never had a nice man that treated them as they should be get scared as it is all new to them. that is my thinking as it was how i felt.
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/28/2008 4:38:17 AM | A lot of nice guys forget the attraction has to be there before anything else you do for her can work
He's talkin' about .... bi#chs... If U catch the drift...
Look Sharp, Nice Guys.
Long live the muppets... | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/28/2008 4:42:01 AM | ***chews cigar***
***speaks in cuban accent***
Do you remember in high school when the attractive girls hung out with the biggest idiots they could find? It's nature! Sometimes, they are just attracted to these types of men. Daddy didn't get the discipline done, so they look for the daddy trait somewhere else.....Forget eet! | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/28/2008 11:23:52 PM |
Do you remember in high school when the attractive girls hung out with the biggest idiots they could find? It's nature! Sometimes, they are just attracted to these types of men. Daddy didn't get the discipline done, so they look for the daddy trait somewhere else.....Forget eet!
Did know some women that seemed to be looking more of a father figure in the relationship than a companion of equal age. Some would say that the older guys were "more mature" yet maturity knows no age... | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/28/2008 11:56:56 PM | | As for the physical attraction, why then should she take a year or two of him being nice to her and then tell him to get lost. If the attraction was not there to begin with, then why not just say so early before anything goes too long. If there is some quirk about his philosophy, why not say so instead of saying no thanks or get lost. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 4/29/2008 12:40:55 AM | So tell me, what is wrong with person wanting to know your background??? How are you suppose to get to know someone? Unless, there's things to hide.... like dead bodies in the cellar..  | |
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