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kdykaz
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Joined: 3/31/2008
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:00:32 PM | Treat em like a queen/sooner or later they run for the hills!
Been there done that.
Not that I want to treat you like S----t, cause I dont ..
Could you just except me for who I am ,and I do the same for you.
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:08:06 PM |
Quote: Could you just except me for who I am ,and I do the same for you.
Sure but could you just learn to speak English
accept...
not except...
Sorry, but I think we are here to refine each other, to help each other become more wonderful
to polish the dark spots off of the diamonds
So, If you can't stand a little polishing, you can just retreat to your cave.
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:22:22 PM | I was a nice guy ounce, treated a woman how every woman wanted to be treated, after a months she said I was to fat.
It’s not just the nice guys that finish last; the nice guys that are fat don’t stand a chance.
It's all about looks and money, if you don't have that? then your only chance is luck.
Just kidding guys.
There is someone for everyone, the Good,the Bad, the Ugly, the fat ..........and the nice guy? | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:28:49 PM |   ....................................................................................................................................................................... | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:11:11 PM | Hate to say it; but there are many women into the badboy syndrome. They have been treated so crappy by most of thier partners that they are dysfunctional.
Trust me, don't change there will be a woman who will appreciate your love and kindness. Food for thought- has it crossed your mind that you may have the badgirl syndrome ? | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:27:21 PM | Who is to say that someone that claims they were "too nice" is the reason a woman breaks up with him... I'd like to hear the other side of the story.
I have had men that I've broken up with. Perhaps they considered themselves "too nice".
I don't buy it. If someone is a great catch you don't throw them back. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:40:03 PM |
Some comedic genius happening in the last page or so...not much actual conversation it seems, but a lot of gems! Let's review...
Keep the jokes coming, guys. You're all awesome.
Uhhh everybody please bow down to "Ugly Betty" the "Voice" of all women
 U heard her fellas...........keep the jokes coming the "Queen" has spoken | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:51:43 PM | Ok let's look at things if reversed. MEN; a woman who you find repulsive but sweet as can be, asks you out. What would you do? Would you date her solely because she's nice? Or would you reject her because you're not attracted?
Yeah, it's a different story now. Don't give us crap for not being attracted to someone.
I tried dating someone I found really unattractive but he was the sweetest guy. I tried to block it out and just concentrate on his personality. It didn't work. We have to face reality people. In order to have a relationship with someone there has to be an attraction there. He doesn't have to be gorgeous. Just a bit attractive at least. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/7/2008 6:16:50 PM | I CANT ANSWER THIS AS I WONDER THE SAME THING ABOUT MEN ...JUST HAD IT DONE TO ME... AGAIN .WE WERE TOGETHER FOUR YEARS HE HAS A NEW CAR ,NEW BOAT, A BIG TROJAN PROJECT BOAT A36 FT MOTORHOME ANOTHER PROJECT BOAT ON THE BACK OF THE PROPERTY AND A OLDER FORD PICKUP WITH A NEW TOOL TOPPER ON IT ....HE HAS QUIT MAKING PAYMENTS ON THIS STUFF GONE TO CALIFORNIA AND NOW HAS A NEW HARLEY ...WHY? CAUSE HE MET SOME MASSAGE THERAPIST TAUGHT HER TO DRIVE A TRUCK AND HE IS MAKING PLANS TO GET HER ON WHERE HE WORKS AND DRIVE TOGETHER. HE IS 58YEARS OLD TODAY . NEVER THINKS ABOUT WHAT HE WILL DO IN A FEW YEARS WHEN HE CANT DRIVE ANYMORE .OH YES... HE DISCOVERED LEVITRA TOO AND SPENDS BIG BUCKS ON THAT ..ITS THE ONLY WAY HE CAN PERFORM
MIDDLE AGE CRAZY? I THINK MORE LIKE OLD AGE STUPID!!! | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/7/2008 6:29:42 PM | | Hello Lindsay just read your message and just wanted to get another womans opinion. I just want to get your point ok. Well there was this girl that i was seeing she was my best friends cousin, first I need to say she was going through a divorce but it was just about over and she said at that time she wasnt looking for anything and I agreed we hae known each other for 15 years. We were having a blast when she would come out she would drive 2hrs one way to see me and vise versa she would come out on the weekeneds we would go to dinner to the movies have a few drinks but that was it yes she did stay over but that was it. We were having a blast with each other, then one night we were watching a wild hockey game I was explaining the game to her then all of a sudden she rolled me over on my back jumped on me and kissed me and she said so I guess this explains how I feel about you I looked stund and said are you sure she said I want to open up to you but just not yet. So from that point we were getting more serious, then she told me that none of her relation was to know that her and I were going out. I said ok at that time we would text back and forth then when we out for dinner one night she said that she was always treated like crap in any relationship and couludnt believe how different I was to because I listened to her and cared for her. But hten she brought up the subject of children and wanted to move in together not right away but later, we even picked out the girls name, she wanted to take it eeasy because the divorce was so close didnt need more pressure so we agreed that we would take some time there were things she needed to do and same her. So the second weekened that she didnt come out she went out with 3 of her freinds from work who just started there divorces, she went out and did shots which she doesnt do but anyway it got quite then she says yeah I dont have feelings for you anymore its done. She let me beleive that she cared for me for 3.5 months. Then one night she called me up and I asked why just give me a reason and she said fine I used you because it was nice that somebody cared for me wanted to be with me and cared to what I had to say, so I said you want to give that up. She didnt say anything except for yes that is what I wanted but not with you. She never wanted it to work with you in the first place. So she said there I just used you ok. I said I cant believe what I am hearing, so i told her cousin who is like a sister to me and she said I dont know what happened to her this isnt julie, she even told me I hate to say this about my own cousin but let her go shes not worth it. So what did I do wrong. I sent some of the textes that julie sent me to chellie and she said to me if this was anybody else telling me that my cousin was doing this I would tell them they were full of it. There is no way my cousin would do this, but chellie saw first hand what she sent me. The worst part was that I really fell for her, what she said is what I wanted to here, nobody in the relation could figure out why it was such a big deal that she didnt want anybody to find out, we did keep it a secret for a long time, she kept telling me that her mom and dad had no clue I said your mom knows dont know how moms know but they do, and later found out her mom had known for a while and the reason they didnt say anything was they knew that I want going to treat her like crap. They said that there were alot of positives but in the end it was still her decision, but even they said the way that she treated me was not the daughter that they raised. Well any insight would be helpful. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/7/2008 6:42:48 PM | | I think women as well as men like a challenge. and keeping it exciting. ....What I keep hearing over and over , it's all about self- confidence and being secure with youself and being overweight isn't the issue .....People can sense if someone is needy, desperate and lonely off the bat. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:18:01 PM | | I think in my opinion if a woman truly cares about a man ie. he is funny or loving then there is no reason to dump them. However if the man is moody or difficut, I would want to get off that rollercoaster. Men and women often give there all and it doesnot always work. There must be mutual compassion and respect. When one partner lashes out at the other then that says it all. I hope that this makes sense it is written at 1:17am Thursday May 8 2008 | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/8/2008 3:50:34 AM | plz somebody helps me.i have my heart broken.my exlove with my best friend .in her birthday party .......
i can not believe it.i think im sleeping and its a nightmare.i ganna become crazy | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:56:53 AM | A lot of women who are into bad boys put "no games" in their profiles. I do not understand that at all.
Extremes are bad. Too nice. Too busy. Too mysterious. It is best to be confident, open to anything and have a nice moderate dose of everything else! If someone finds out how to do this, please let me know.
The "too nice" syndrome may actually be trying too hard to make up for some other area which the nice person feels he/she is lacking in. Instead of nice, why not aim for considerate? That is something everyone could use. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:59:55 AM | Hey McMasters, wold you really want to associate with either of them anymore?
Don't do the anger thing, be grateful you see them for what they are. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/8/2008 5:14:57 AM | OKay..this is a great question...some women really honestly do not know how to accept
the fact that someone really does care about the REAL them...so they dump them...then there may be the fact that there isn't any physical attraction there,so sometimes the lady in question lets them down easy...but in all honesty they should set down and have a heart to heart...it is better to be honest now...then to hurt feelings later on...If the attraction isn't there..then it isn't | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:33:09 AM | Ok let's look at things if reversed. MEN; a woman who you find repulsive but sweet as can be, asks you out. What would you do? Would you date her solely because she's nice? Or would you reject her because you're not attracted?
Yeah, it's a different story now. Don't give us crap for not being attracted to someone.
I tried dating someone I found really unattractive but he was the sweetest guy. I tried to block it out and just concentrate on his personality. It didn't work. We have to face reality people. In order to have a relationship with someone there has to be an attraction there. He doesn't have to be gorgeous. Just a bit attractive at least.
Exactly. Can I assume that most men who claim they are nice and don't end up with the girl they desire also weren't into someone who liked them at some point? If they were so nice, wouldn't they have dated that person (or persons) who were interested regardless of no attraction? If they were as nice as they want women to be, they'd all be off the market and not here to post these threads. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:42:19 AM |
Read :
David Deida
The Way of the Superior Man
get a clue...
it's not about nice or not nice, it's about becoming powerful in who you really are, and then you attract like-minded people like flies to honey
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:51:02 AM |
Hey there McMasters
It appears you are gorgeous, and oh sooo young.
There is an old sufi poem that goes something like
Oh break my heart, again and again so that I can truly know what love is
or something like that (very rough paraphrase..anyone know it?)
You need to focus yourself on growing into a strong, powerful, clear and loving adult man....
become the witness to your emotions here,.... and do not drown in them...
Someday you will be a hunkarama, and women will fall all over you, but do not remain an emotional basket case...there are POF in the sea
Do not get egotistical about any of this or hard hearted, just learn
Read David Deida
anyone who does will jump 100 spaces on the game board of life, love and relationship | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/10/2008 12:15:49 PM | Women want a man that is strong. At the subconcious level niceness = weakness.
Then, there's also the draw bridge syndrom. Guys who are terribbly nice until they have taken home the prize. Then the real evil **stard self comes out. I hate these guys!
It's probably a good idea to reign in the niceness early on but not easy to do if you are truly a nice guy. Definately give niceness a free reign once in a committed relationship! | |
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