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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/10/2008 4:02:55 PM | | if there is no attraction there is nothing we can do. as i have gotten older i have become more thoughtful about things as sending flowers an such just because . i have also gotten dump for being that nice guy when i thought everything was going great . she was also giving back what i was giving her. then one day bye .somebody explain that to me.if u don't stick ur heart in it , it doesn't get broken. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:16:33 AM | Because nice guys are suckers.
A man is a hunter, a predator. A nice guy may as well be a castrato.
Women like that killer instinct. When your nice to a woman is a subconscience way of admitting they are better than yourself. So in turn subconsciencely women are always looking for someone better than themselves. Its part of the genetic mating ritual.
A nice guy doesnt have the confidence to kick women to the curb like they want to be. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/11/2008 7:07:38 AM | How can it be lack of attraction when we were together for 10+ years?
People lose attraction and interest based on many factors - and some get involved despite no attraction because there's some other benefit they think will make up for it. I can only assume it was never there to begin with and she decided it didn't matter, or she was into you and something changed that made her lose it. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/11/2008 7:27:38 AM | | Probably women dump nice men for the same reason men dump nice women. Firstly, nice is just one aspect -- without attraction it doesn't matter. Secondly, there can be a fine line between "nice" and a "doormat." No one should ever be a doormat, not just for themselves, but for whomever they are courting. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/11/2008 7:29:05 AM | women are shallow is that what you are saying.
if a man isn't pretty enought or changes his look she loses interest he's gone dumped, well in that class i'm glad i'm a male but i'm loyal, faithful, was a marine, guess i'm a mythical being according to the movie "must love dogs " good luck shallow women, you'll pass on true love for what ???? | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/11/2008 7:38:23 AM | While I find people who don't care about anyone but themselves despicable, I believe 100% that we teach people how to treat us.
Here are just 10 ways you may be acting like your own worst enemy:
1. You are needy and desperate and lonely and as a result jump into bed or fall in love quickly (and hard) without doing a proper assessment of the people you get involved with.
2. You rearrange your plans around him/her and most of all leave all decisions up to him/her. Basically you wait on him/her hand and foot.
3. You walk around on eggshells fearing that you might say or do something to upset him/her and cause him/her to stop liking you.
4. You are easily intimidated when you try to voice your feelings because you feel that you have nothing special or important to offer a man/woman. You always feel insecure.
5. You deliberately withhold personal information, thoughts and feelings for fear that he/she will either belittle you or reject you. You never get close.
6. You worry so much (worry about what the other person said, worry about what they meant by it, worry about how you reacted etc) that your worry creates a sense of helplessness and powerlessness.
7. You exaggerate your own faults so as to make the other person feel good about him/herself. The problem is he/she actually starts believing he/she is better than you.
8. You give of this facade of everything is great and I'm happy but you're not. The cost of pretending is not having a voice.
9. You privately harbour a great deal of anger that you react to situation as if you’ve been attacked thereby creating constant drama and distance in your relationships.
10. You are so afraid of taking risks, making decisions or making a mistake that you sub-consciously seek out people who control and dominate you and tell you what to do.
Knowing how you let yourself be walked on and treated as if you are dispensable and in some instances even interchangeable is important but the real issue is: what are you going to do with this information? Are you going to quickly build defenses and illusions about your situation or are you going to begin to do some repair work on the structure inside? That is what needs work.
It helps to relate with men/women on a whole new level where you feel valued. You’ll not only increase the your attractiveness to the opposite sex -you’ll gain men/women’s respect with far less effort.
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/11/2008 7:44:01 AM |
women are shallow is that what you are saying.
if a man isn't pretty enought or changes his look she loses interest he's gone dumped, well in that class i'm glad i'm a male but i'm loyal, faithful, was a marine, guess i'm a mythical being according to the movie "must love dogs " good luck shallow women, you'll pass on true love for what ????
I have no idea what this is about - I never said any of this. Project/assume much? Loyal and faithful are useless if you pick a woman who's not interested in you for who you are, and yes, you can have chemistry and then find out something about a person that kills it for you.
uglybetty
so you are saying women are shallow, and will pass up on ment to be soul mate true love for ....what chemistry !!!
glad i'm a male
Um.. "meant to be" - that's idealistic BS. You can't have true love without chemistry (at least for most people) so a romantic soul mate wouldn't be one without it. Again, I don't get your post. But thanks for your participation. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 7:46:52 AM | to pia c.windwolf
you are very insiteful, i even have some of those, and i'm 51 but you know what i never cheated, and i never broke up with any girl friend | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 7:50:38 AM | | your welcome but i guess i'm deeper in my words than you read but you even said " in most case's " i think you have been hurt recently it shows | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 8:02:12 AM | ms. pia c. windwolf
i just copied your 10 reasons it is going on my fridge to read everyday
i'd really like to chat with you i could use more of your insite help if you will... ha that is something i've never done befor ask for help thank you | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/11/2008 8:04:36 AM | Guess I am not meeting the "nice" men. I get asked to go out for dinner, get dressed up, they show up with a bottle of wine and don't want to go out for dinner. x used to say "You don't need that shit on your face" on the rare times we did go for dinner.
Am I cynical, - yes to a point, however I have not given up on finding a nice man, who wants to treat a woman with respect. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/11/2008 6:19:51 PM | | There is “nice” and there is “doormat’, the two do not have to be the same. I like to think I am a nice and a polite guy; however, I am no ones doormat. If being courteous and polite is a turn off for some, then I guess I just move on. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/13/2008 9:27:15 PM | | I think that many nice guys forget to behave like men while being nice. Women like being treated well, but they are attracted to masculine behavior. Being a doormat who does whatever a woman wants is not masculine. I know that I am turned off by a woman who is too nice. I want a woman to tell me when she thinks I am wrong and to argue with me at times about things that matter. Lack of any conflict in a relationship is not healthy. So, be nice to a woman, but, don't act like you are her servant. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:05:20 PM | I TREAT woman nice . even my ex's . one never knows when they will need them . I am 43 and sometimes like to have someone I can talk with about things . You can say I am a doormat . yes . I live in wiscosnin . and it DOES get cold yes . we do get teh snow BUT , it is nice to " just " be able to have someone you be freinds with . and not worry about the bad things . My job . all day I do is say " thank you . " it's nice to talk with someone OTHER THEN THE WALL  | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/18/2008 11:25:25 AM | | I cant answer the question but I can say this if she left you she wasnt for you and remember from a guy who has been left in the rain more than a 1940s movie life isnt how many breaths you take its how times your breath is taken | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/19/2008 4:41:58 AM | MEN; a woman who you find repulsive but sweet as can be, asks you out. What would you do? Would you date her solely because she's nice? Or would you reject her because you're not attracted?
Hmmmm.... I would be tolerant.... where's the liberal spirit, people?
Libs luv to belly ache about religious values, yet, whose being judgmental here ...
Oh well...
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/25/2008 1:20:19 PM | | i think its all down to the fact that many women who ive met like guys who are a "challenge" if your too nice then they will walk all over you-find you boring...its crazy but you have to find a right mix of being nice..but not predictable....if that makes sense??? lol | |
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