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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/8/2008 12:35:26 AM | Women are just human and we like attractive males-just like men like attractive women- the fact that many women like jerks does not mean acting like a jack A-- will land you the woman of your dreams. All it means is women, like men, can be superficial and overlook bad behavior in jerks because they are attractive.
Yeah, however, good lookin' women will still date nice/interested guys;
it's just the **** issue(s) posters seem to forget here.
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/8/2008 12:49:26 AM | | gosh ive never been dumped for being nice, but being nice hasnt gotten me any dates. i certainly cannot act like a jerk so i guess i'll just wait to find someone whos looking for a nice guy. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/8/2008 1:03:04 AM | The problem is sometimes people think they are nice but they are not. They are lying to themselves. Nobody walks around thinking, 'Gee....I'm such a jerk.' even if they are.
It's human nature.
There are some women who prefer bad boy types.....good luck with that  | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/8/2008 1:41:52 AM | | Hi scottish warrior, In life ,in general,we don't get to choose who we are attracted to,or who is attracted to us,but we do get to choose what we do about it. It doesn't matter how well we treat someone,we can't make them become attracted to us,if they aren't,and vice versa. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/8/2008 2:44:10 PM | It almost sounds like guys are faking it! To me, it is natural to treat anyone the way they want to be treated in return, and if it doesn't work out, then at least the guy has no regrets. But this shouldn't be something that you have to remember to do! Little things like opening the car door for her, always walking behind her, seating her, stuff like that goes a long way, and should be natural and automatic in doing so no matter what the situation. I would so those things for any lady! Maybe i'm old school, but that's just me.
It's called respect, and if you don't do this guys, then you have lost the ball and will have trouble finding what you are looking for. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/8/2008 3:16:27 PM |
Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.(?)
Because they don't know what's coming down the pike? I'll wager that most have been taken in by a good line and find it difficult to differentiate between "good" and "seems to be good."
Also, some women have come to believe that bad treatment is a sign of caring. When I was driving cab I had one woman tell me that her boyfriend's calling her "ho" was perfectly acceptable. Go figure.
Carry on carrying on. Remember that out of all the possibles out here, allyou need to do is find one. The one. Don't waste time on the others. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/8/2008 3:33:57 PM | | Well said dudleyk! ........and if you havnt gotten any dates from being nice then those woman must be blind and wouldnt see a nice guy if he bumped into them! Your answer alone says what a nice bloke you are and your very easy on the eye. Sounds to me your better off without those kind of woman.! | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/8/2008 3:39:01 PM | | This is a very long post been around for a few years, so I guess the original poster is right, lets just face it as much as you love women and as wonderful as they are they are just a very wierd creature, you will never work them out so just do not try, if you are with one enjoy it when they wake up one morning and there opinon on life has changed or there whole opinion on you has changed . Just say thanks it was wonderful but I am not suited to this new you and get out of there. why do we always have to be the old fashion part. Yes I grew up were giving flowers for the sake of It was alright. if i was walking past a shop and was thinking about my partner I brought her a little gift, I still like to open the door for a lady and give compliments on there beauty and think it is important to say I love you at least once a day. Basically I like to make my partner feel wanted well if that is wrong or clingy or to desperate I am sorry, Face it just read 10 or 20 of the posts in this thread and you will understand women have minds that men will never crack because they can not work it out themselves so enjoy there company why you can and one day along your adventure you will find the one that wants to settle and enjoy being treated with respect and dignity. I think there mothers inhaled to many fumes when they all burnt the bras LOL . | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/8/2008 5:29:33 PM | to all who shall read this presents wisdom:
WOMEN TODAY....NOT ALL OF COURSE....BUT A LARGE MAJORITY DO NOT WANT A NICE GUY!!! Period. end of discussion. They don't want a guy who's nice to them all the time. On the other hand, they don't want a guy who's an a$$hole. They're looking for a guy that's in the middle....a phenomenon called the "sensitive **stard."
if you're wondering just what kind of guy this is....here's an example. He is a shoulder for her to cry on when she's feeling down or just needs somebody to listen. On the other hand, if he decides to have a night out with the guys, he tells her tough when she nags and harasses him about it. Basically, he doesn't listen to or deal with her garbage.
You need to make sure you always adhere to the Nice Guy Limitation Doctrine. What the heck is that you ask?
Thou shalt not put princess on too high a pedestal.
Thou shalt call princess on her bullshit.
Thou shalt not be a yes man.
Thou shalt respect thyself above all others.
Thou shalt spank said princess. (Just cause they like that) :)
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:25:11 AM | | Because some of them have cold feet. I say that some women that are like that, need to grow up , and get their life together before they even thinking about having a boyfriend. Some that are needy and picky is going to be harder for them to find the kind of man they want. One time I met this lady that I was interested in, I treated her like a queen. I really like this woman and I complimented her. Now all of a sudden, she's like " I'm not use to a guy that treats me like that." and brings up the word "friend" when it comes to me and her. That's when I head for the hills. I stop e-mailing her and threw her phone number in the trash. Why? Because she was not interested in me as her boyfriend and not even as her friend. To the conclusion, you don't have to do nice things for a woman, sometimes let them do nice things for you!!!! | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:15:13 AM |
Because no amount of "being nice" will have any affect on a woman who's not attracted to you.
I found this post to be so short, to the point and accurate that I had to post it again. This pretty much sums up the whole thread. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:35:33 AM |
Because no amount of "being nice" will have any affect on a woman who's not attracted to you. I found this post to be so short, to the point and accurate that I had to post it again. This pretty much sums up the whole thread.
Accepting of course that by virtue of being "dumped" one had to have been attractive enough to have originally been had. Ergo it has no bearing. Just saying.
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:39:50 AM | well I see "nice guys" with their gfs/wifes all the time...
they're pathetic....ughh
honey...you need anything?
can I get you anything?
Honey, whats wrong??
you want a foot massage?
you want a back rub?
what do you need baby?
tell me, baby...tell meeeee!!!!
how boring and pathetic can you get....really..
no wonder women dump these guys.... | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:45:09 AM |
Accepting of course that by virtue of being "dumped" one had to have been attractive enough to have originally been had. Ergo it has no bearing. Just saying.
I agree...I totally believe there is no relationship to be dumped from to begin with in most of these cases unless it's been agreed to that there is one in the first place...attraction aside. Most times the person in question is merely a friend and assumes they are more. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/10/2008 12:08:01 PM |
I agree...I totally believe there is no relationship to be dumped from to begin with in most of these cases unless it's been agreed to that there is one in the first place...attraction aside. Most times the person in question is merely a friend and assumes they are more.
To borrow a legal phrase. Facts not in evidence. Your theory is irrelevant as the facts provided do not support it. The title and the op indicate an existing relationship. Therefor at the least initial attraction as is your arguement was/is established.
Your presumption is that most times its a confusion. but that wasn't what was asked. The question -IS- why do women who have a relationship with someone who is nice to them/good to them leave it? There's tons to argue away about on that anything from stolkholm syndrome to lack of adventure to finding someone more attractive to just plain stupidity. So work with what you've got :) not what you want to make it into :) | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/10/2008 7:10:23 PM | | Maybe the men are to clingly, Maybe they are looking for a mother figure, Maybe the man doesnot give the woman enough space to do things she likes to do alone.. IE: curl up with a good book and just get lost in it.. maybe he needs attention 24/7.. He can be a great guy but sometimes people need their space without each other......Since i havenot meet any nice ones on here, where are these nice ones??? | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/10/2008 7:39:46 PM |
To borrow a legal phrase. Facts not in evidence. Your theory is irrelevant as the facts provided do not support it. The title and the op indicate an existing relationship. Therefor at the least initial attraction as is your arguement was/is established.
Your presumption is that most times its a confusion. but that wasn't what was asked. The question -IS- why do women who have a relationship with someone who is nice to them/good to them leave it? There's tons to argue away about on that anything from stolkholm syndrome to lack of adventure to finding someone more attractive to just plain stupidity. So work with what you've got :) not what you want to make it into :)
Nothing in the original post that initiated this thread said that there was a relationship, that there was initial attraction, or that there was anything to be dumped from. The word "dump" in itself does not indicate an actual relationship, outside the mind of the person asking. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/11/2008 6:58:31 AM | | It takes more than being nice..... the woman has to be attracted to you physically for her to wan't to be with you. I've been in your shoes man so I know how you feel but the best thing you can do for yourself is forget about her and move on to someone who will enjoy having a nice guy in her life and is attracted to you physically and mentally. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/11/2008 9:27:18 AM | Because their afraid, I find alot of people will stay in what the know rather to venture out to somthing new. It just easier, And when the nice guy takes a intesest in a female that only has known abusive relationships , she feels awkward when someone is treating her right. In fact she is so ashame and suspicious of men that she finds it terriably hard to accept somone actually finding her pretty or smart (so she puts up her guard and self defence) and sabotages the chance of happiness. Its sad I know because I have done it myself thinking , " I can not go with a certain person he is far to good for me ," I am the girl from the wrong side of the tracks and he has everything going for him so he deserves the best, and because we have convinced ourself were not the best , well we just end up not excepting the Nice Guys that comes are way because we deserve different. Just my opinion may not be right, but it may be why some girls feel this way.
bye for now
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 6/11/2008 9:31:48 AM | Why do men like tits & (explitive)?
Its a question of sex appeal.
First: women don't dump men who are nice to them; they dump men who are nice to them and nothing more. Attraction for men is visual; we look at a woman and may reject or pursue her based on her appearance. Surprise! Women can be equally cut and dry but they base their judgements on psychological qualities, not physical ones.
Women want men to be fun, to challenge them, to show strength, to be a leader and to be assertive in going after what they want. Being nice, giving them whatever they want and submitting to their wants doesn't impress women; it just makes you REALLY UNSEXY. The more you submit to a woman, the more you start looking to her the way a 400 lbs woman with stubble and a peg-leg looks to you.
And when you think about it, that's not even superficial at all. The whole thing about women wanting a "bad boy", that's only true for a small minority of women who have psychological problems, bad father figures or some other issues. The vast majority of women just want a fun, confident guy who makes himself AN EQUAL PARTICIPANT in the relationship.
The qualities that women find sexy are mostly qualities that would make you happier and more successful in life if you developed them more in yourself. They also give you the tools to better maintain a long-term relationship. It's not realistic to enter into a relationship thinking you'll maintain it by doing whatever the other person wants; pretty soon, you'll realize how much that sucks and then it'll all fall apart. Focus on your own personal growth and you'll see a change in how women react. You can still be nice to women; if they find you sexy they'll think the niceness is really cute! | |
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