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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 7/10/2009 3:32:03 PM | I've heard this so many time from men, but believe me its nothing to do with that.
Women DO like men who do nice things...but if the chemistry isn't there then she will end it. The fact that you are such a nice guy means she's probably tried to give it a go but in the end it didn't work.
I had a relationship with a man who treated my like a princess and i loved it, it was perfect, but that's because i felt that chemistry with him too. Unfortunately he left me for his ex girlfriend, who had cheated on him - which is the reason he was single when i met him. So there you go...another stereotype smashed as men think that its women who like bad men....he was happy to get back with her. I would never have done that to him......but he left me.
You must understand that everyone is different. You WILL meet a women who appreciates what you do for her. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 7/10/2009 6:04:21 PM |
"A lot of men are castrated because our society has been telling them women are better than us and we should treat them as princesses and such."
That's how a lot of mothers and grandmothers teach their male children to behave. Most men don't raise themselves, you know.
I agree that it's about attraction, but like I said, it's a two way street. If more nice guys went after less attractive women, older women tired of the "game", or women with baggage and issues, they'd have a lot more success.
Very Attractive young people, especially women, have more options for sex, so the odds of the "average" nice guy doing well with them isn't as good.
Like James Carville said, "Go ugly early" | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 8/19/2009 10:33:48 PM | | i think some guys try to hard and thats why i think taking it slow the whole way through is the best i been through it alot so im starting to see that is the best way if your rush it you get hurt | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 8/21/2009 1:12:34 AM | Some guys think they are the nice guy when in reality they're just overly obsessed or needy. There's a different between nice and clingy. This may not always be the case but when they don't get the girl they want their true colors seems to show. They are not the nice guy you once knew.
Sure, I really like nice guys but lines are usually crossed... certain guys are too nice... you know a pushover kind of nice. It can be so overwhelming to deal with people that force themselves on you or seem desperate.
Women don't like being treated like crap, so I don't know where certain people get that from. Women like a nice guy who they have a romantic connection with. If that connection isn't there then it doesn't matter how nice you are. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 8/21/2009 4:47:21 AM | WEll i've been down that road three times. I guess some women not all are like that.
I always treat women with respect cook supper, start a bath with a drink before she gets home, some candles..But i kept trying...lol
NOWAY! you too man? i had the same thing happen...i don't think she was happy? as she called the cops and had me arrested for breaking into her apartment...
the above statement is not true...and was written by my evil twin brother.... | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 8/21/2009 11:46:41 AM | 'Nice' guys assume that it's the 'nice' part women are rejecting, so they conclude that they would have better odds by not being so nice.
Well .. in the case of most of these 'nice' guys, they were like that because believed they didn't have other qualities going for them, so NOW what do they think they have?
Do they think that becoming jerks will help, when they themselves believe their looks are their downfall?
Great. An unattractive jerk. Brace yourself for the stampede of desperate women. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 8/22/2009 10:55:43 AM | | It's probably that the woman is not attracted to you physically, or you do not make enough money, or you have something that is repulsive to her about you. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 8/22/2009 11:19:04 AM | There really are some people who can't handle stable, nice people. They had a chaotic, screwed up childhood, and they continue to need this as an adult.
So not all nice guys are unattractive. Sometimes, it really is just that the other person needs some serious therapy. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 8/22/2009 11:19:23 AM | Because they think the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence and they seem to want that other grass no matter what in that moment.
That is the only answer that I can come up with anymore after being dumped on 4 times in a row. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 8/22/2009 11:29:42 AM | I WAS WITH A GUY THAT WAS SWEET TO ME AND YES FELL FOR HIM. I DIDNT WAIT LONG ENOUGH TO SEE WHO HE TRUELY WAS. HE SMOTHERED ME WITH TOO MUCH LOVE BEING TO NEEDY. VERY JEALOUS. HE WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR ME AND I WOULD TAKE IT BUT IT GOT TOO MUCH. HE NEEDED TO BE NEEDED AND IT GOT OLD REAL QUICK. I WAS TAKING CARE OF MOST OF THE BILLS AND HE DID HIS LITTLE SHARE. GOT OLD. HIS SELFESTEEM WAS LOW AS I WAS TO FIND OUT. HE ALWAYS EXCEPTED ME EVEN IF I GAINED A LITTLE WEIGHT. ALWAYS COMPLIMENTED ME. YES WOMEN LOVE TO FEEL GOOD WHEN THEY GAIN A FEW POUNDS BUT IT GOT TOO MUCH. I FELT LIKE I WAS BABYSITTING. HE TO THIS DAY CANT FIND A WOMEN CUZ HE COMPARES THEM TO ME. I ALWAYS TRY TO SET HIM UP. I GOT HIM ON THIS SIGHT SO IF ANY OF U WOMEN ARE LOOKIN FOR A NICE GUY WIT A GOOD JOB SEARCH FOR DRAGONFLY AND SEE IF HE BITES.  | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 8/22/2009 11:37:17 AM | IF U BROKE INTO HER APT THATS A LITTLE MUCH. TAKE THE HINT IF SHE THREW U IN JAIL. IT COULD NEVER WORK. U LOVED HER AND SHE DIDNT LOVE U THE SAME WAY. MAYBE SHE WAS YOUR SOULMATE SO U THOUGHT BUT U WERE NOT HERS. WHAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND. GOOD LUCK IN YOUR SEARCH | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 8/22/2009 10:35:19 PM | There really are some people who can't handle stable, nice people. They had a chaotic, screwed up childhood, and they continue to need this as an adult.
I get so damn tired of hearing the sorry excuse of "I had a screwed up childhood".
I had a rough childhood too,but I got over it!Just because someone has a rough childhood does not mean that they need to carry it on as adults. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 8/30/2009 9:28:40 AM |
Artistic Muse: "Women like a nice guy who they have a romantic connection with. If that connection isn't there then it doesn't matter how nice you are. "
True, but looks and money don't hurt either. Many women will look past a lot of flaws in a man if he's really rich, or really good looking. It's been posted on this site time and time again that most women make up their minds about men romantically SECONDS after they first meet them. Using logic--what can you possibly learn about a man in a few seconds?
1) What he looks like
2) What he drives/wears/does for a living (how much he looks like he earns)
Men who have high grades on one or both of those points and actually circulate in society aren't going to have a shortage of women wanting to be with them.
Most of the "nice guys" I know, (and I include myself) who aren't rich or have movie star looks have to get by on personality. Being patient, trustworthy, courteous, loyal and compassionate isn't going to get you squat at the local nightclub or bar, but those are traits that make great partners for the long haul. That's why I said that nice guys should aim lower as far as looks go, and pursue women who will appreciate those traits more than the superficial "ten second sex test" younger, more attractive women seem to live by.
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 8/30/2009 11:06:54 PM | I can't believe any woman would dump someone who is very caring and affectionate which are two traits most women are looking for, and it gets harder every day to find someone like this. There are so many men who don't say much of anything except for purchasing land or property at a bargain price and spending their time elsewhere. These men aren't young either and should have some experience under their belt yet they claim to be widowers and divorced. It is a mystery to me how any woman can find them attractive at all as all they are interested in is ... from some of the conversations I've had. Building a relationship from scratch is not what they want.
Nice guys don't finish last with me as the available ones are a rare commodity these days. | |
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| Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 9/5/2009 9:20:13 AM | There's a such thing as being *too* nice. You don't want to come of like some weenie metro sexual.
Like when you talk: do you agree with her on everything, just to be *nice*?
If you don't agree, say so. Be your own person.
Women respect that.
And you have to be sincere. Ladies can tell a phony a mile away. | |
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