| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 2:52:02 PM | I got the bill from match.com when my ex was sleeping in the spare bedroom. At that time it was soo over it didnt hurt me at all. I looked him up and just like you I couldnt believe the profile. I wouldve married the man if it were true. Not one thing was honest and the picture was one of those arms reach take yourself kinds. When he came home from work I offered to take a better picture for him and to spice up his profile and to fix his typos. He didnt laugh but I sure did. Hope you get over your pain and can laugh at her stupidity the way I still do at his. His caption was "One man One dog" he stole my dog in the divorce and left me with the stinkin kids. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 3:51:47 PM | | Fortunately for me, I managed to keep everything from the marriage. She just wanted what she came into the relationship with, and left me with everything else... including over $120,000 in debt. But I get a fully furnished house, a truck, and a nice camper out of it. The way I see it, I've been able to keep everything I've worked hard to achieve, and all of the negative stuff is gone. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 4:10:58 PM | | What I don't undersatand is if you have a new gal in your life,what r u doing here??? | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 4:12:20 PM |
When he came home from work I offered to take a better picture for him and to spice up his profile and to fix his typos. He didnt laugh but I sure did.
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 4:40:05 PM | Haha if I found one of my ex's on POF id be surprised. They wouldnt know who I am for a start and Id wind em up reel them in............not in a nasty way of course.  | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 4:45:26 PM | Well i had my ex contact me when he found me on here.. Was nothing nasty but that led to us meeting up and giving things a try for a short time.. Bad Idea for he messed with my head ..Again..lol...
Most people I don't think care who they come upon for it is as easy as " Point, click and delete".
If only life was that simple..lol | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 5:12:41 PM |
What I don't undersatand is if you have a new gal in your life,what r u doing here???
Have you read the entire thread? I said I'm still here because I still like going to the local events and I like keeping in touch with the friends I've made here. Nothing nasty or sinister; my profile is hidden as much as it will allow me, and if you look at it, it clearly states that I'm not looking for anyone. My GF, who I met through POF, also has her profile hidden, and she hasn't been on the forums for several months. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 6:15:48 PM | | Seeing my ex's picture on pof has made it a bit more difficult to get over him for sure. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 11:00:40 PM | why not just let old issues go? Get over it and move on which you have already stated you are doing... At least you can look at it this way, your profile is somewhat hidden, you have someone else in your life. Wish her the best of luck in moving on... | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 1:30:11 PM | omg tell me he didnt say >>> I get a fully furnished house, a truck, and a nice camper out of it. The way I see it, I've been able to keep everything I've worked hard to achieve, and all of the negative stuff is gone and he has a new girlfriend?
gawd for bid..what the hell you doin in here anyways...go live your life with the new woman an enjoy your house and toys. cant believe how many lives revolve round this box to communicate an stay intouch with others....try givin your friends, your phone number, they can call if they want to talk to you, otherwise their not your true friends. Eventually, they will find someone an vanish to make that relationship work...its what everyone is here to do. | |
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Joined: 11/20/2005
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 1:42:35 PM | I guess I am just wondering if you have found a wonderful lady that you are moving on with, why are you on POF still? I would be sick to my stomach to find my ex here (he is in a different s=city so I just don't search there unless I get masochistic), and I would be even more sick to find someone who is telling me I mean the world to them and he is still looking for what might be better, more or different...
That is just probably the difference between she and me... and you aren't dating me anyway, so what the hell business is it of mine... sorry, I was just wondering what keeps you here I guess.
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favfox
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Joined: 11/20/2005
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 1:44:48 PM | | just read this part... good on ya. I understand... If she is on board with all of it. then there you have it. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 2:01:29 PM | Sounds strange, I know. But everyone's situation is different. Just because I'm on POF doesn't mean I'm still looking. I like to go to events and get-togethers and so does my GF. Just last month, we went to a party for a couple who met on POF and have gotten married. I have met them both before, and I never would have known that they were even having a party (open to friends, family and POF members only) if it wasn't for the forums. And then there's the Friday drinks-on-the-patio get-togethers, the Saturday night tailgate parties... This is why I'm still here. POF is no longer a "dating" club for me, but is now a "social" club.
THAT'S why I'm still here. No other reason, and I hope this answers a lot of questions. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 2:07:32 PM | | How about finding your current spouse on POF and other sites? | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 2:18:08 PM | First time I've ever heard of someone holding onto a dog just to piss the other person off. Oh wait, there was one other time....in the movie Legally Blond.....and the guy with the dog was made out to be an ass by the script writers.
Might want to think about that.
Yeah, I'm with the general concensus that says "you are not ready for the new GF". I actually feel like maybe we should be sorta kinda feeling sorry for her. Not even divorced yet, and you've got this person. ......is this a Revenge Relationship?
Hmmmm.... | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 2:20:20 PM |
How about finding your current spouse on POF and other sites?
That's what happened to me. I found out after the fact that my ex-wife met the guy she was fooling around with on Adult Friend Finder. Tore me up pretty good inside. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 2:35:26 PM |
First time I've ever heard of someone holding onto a dog just to piss the other person off. Oh wait, there was one other time....in the movie Legally Blond.....and the guy with the dog was made out to be an ass by the script writers.
Might want to think about that.
Yeah, I'm with the general concensus that says "you are not ready for the new GF". I actually feel like maybe we should be sorta kinda feeling sorry for her. Not even divorced yet, and you've got this person. ......is this a Revenge Relationship?
Actually, I'm not withholding the dog from her just to piss her off. I don't want to see her at all for any reason, and her not seeing the dog is just a side-effect of that. He's an older dog, and this is the only home he's ever known. We got him from the humane society when he was 3 months, and he's now 10 years old. Uprooting him from his home would upset him too much, and my ex is devious enough that if I let her take him for a weekend, then there's always a chance that I'd never see him again.
I also let her know, through our respective lawyers, that if she wanted to take him for weekend visits, then I wanted to know exactly where he would be at all times. She refused to let me know that information, so therefore, I don't feel that I'm obligated to let her see the dog. As a matter of fact, she's gone to extraordinary lengths to hide that kind of information from me. The judge told us both that because the dog was left with me on the date of separation, he's considered a possession, so therefore, he's mine. Frankly, I don't really care how upset she is about it. I know the dog will live a longer happier life if he stays with me.
I understand everyone's feelings about me and my new GF, but like I said, everyone's situation is different. This relationship is working out to our mutual satisfaction, so I hope everyone can give me the benefit of the doubt. But unlike my ex-wife, I at least waited until the marriage was over before I found someone new. My ex-wife can't say the same thing; she was already in a new relationship before she left me.
But that is something that my GF and I have had to work out. She was concerned that I was having a rebound relationship, and I was afraid that I was suffering from infatuation. But we took it slow and talked a lot. We both told each other that if the other one wants to call it quits for any reason, then each of us would understand. But it's been almost a year, and we haven't had any problems that couldn't be worked out. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 3:50:48 PM | Ok now handsome....
My boy-friensd and I split up a couple of moths ago, after 5 years living together. It didn't work out after we tried everything we could but it just didn't go.
We are still living together as room mates and very good friends, since it is very hard to find something affordable to rent here.
I signed up for POF and I incuraged him to do the same....meet new people, friends and maybe the love of our live.
He's a good guy, only because it didn't work out with us doesn't mean that he has to stop living and the same with me. I lost a lover but I gained a great friend.....
What I am saying here is that life is too short to look back. Can you imagine all the opportunities YOU have here? So many nice girls and maybe the love of her life for you and your ex?
Imagine YOU not having to worry about facing her at a POF event, you actually saying "hi" because you don't fight?
I am not perfect and my ex isn't......so isn't everybody else here because if you all were perfect WHY are you on here?
I hope you will be able to move on, I know you are still huurting but hey...I bet my hind that she is here somewhere...
Have a great day and good luck to the both of you!
J. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 5:33:11 PM |
and my ex is devious enough that if I let her take him for a weekend, then there's always a chance that I'd never see him again.
I also let her know, through our respective lawyers, that if she wanted to take him for weekend visits, then I wanted to know exactly where he would be at all times. She refused to let me know that information, so therefore, I don't feel that I'm obligated to let her see the dog. As a matter of fact, she's gone to extraordinary lengths to hide that kind of information from me.
Does anyone else see what I am seeing here? good lord god almighty.
*shakes head*
This forum thing is turning out to be quite the education. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 5:51:26 PM | Look at it this way.. Know you can learn about the Real Women She is... With no expectation... She is going to have it all laid out on this form... YOU can have the last laugh because you know the truth about the Real her.. Get it...
Me.. I just say it as it is... I have a few ex boyfriends on this site.. Matter of fact.. I gave them this link so they can find someone that will suet their needs...
What a great girlfriend i am... lol OOOO wait.. EX.. GIRLFRIEND.. SORRY..
HAVE A GREAT MONTH IN JUNE.. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 6:12:15 PM |
Does anyone else see what I am seeing here? good lord god almighty.
*shakes head*
This forum thing is turning out to be quite the education.
Well, whatever. This entire thread is getting out of hand. I asked a simple question about how other people would handle a certain situation, and now I'm being judged. The situation I'm in has taken several years to develop into what it is now, so a few postings in an anonymous forum can't even scratch the surface.
The general opinion here is that I should ignore her, so that's what I'm planning to do. The relationship I'm currently in doesn't affect anything beyond my own personal happiness. My ex-wife created this problem and she has made her decisions; all I'm trying to do is to deal with them the best I can.
I guess it's true what they say about POF and anything else that's free: you get what you pay for.
BTW, for those of you who actually have given constructive advice, thank you very much. I really appreciate it. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 6:40:58 PM | Its a good thing you've found someone new and have moved on. Your ex is probably trying to move on too, despite what happened between you two.
Just had to giggle because what if you've found your current boyfriend/girlfriend on here? That happened to me. At least she's your ex and not someone claiming to be the one, the rest of your life, the one & only. :) You'll be fine. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 7:03:05 PM | | LOL...I can SOOOO relate Gamerdude...I was in a 5 year almost married living together relationship with someone...we broke up...I went on POF one day and joined..low and behold a few weeks later guess who shows up with a profile on here..you guessed it..THE EX..LOL...he tried badmouthing me a few times, leaving my name in his headline and a nasty comment...and his profile was all about how I wasn't the one and how his idea of a first date would be an exact replica of our first date..stuff like that, intended to hurt me...and it did for a bit...I messaged him and told him to get a life and stop trying to hurt me...I made it clear i had no bad feelings towards him and that since I still loved him and admired who he was and respected his choices and wishes, ..I wished him my best and that he would find the happiness he deserved with someone else. ..he continued to harrass silently though ...so I ignored him...In fact, if he had left it alone I probably would have gone on loving him forever and always compared every other guy to him...but the continued jabs have only made me realize he wasn't the deeply emotional, solid, honorable man I thought he was and whom I admired so much. Makes getting over him a whole lot easier so perhaps I should thank him..LOL. Life is too short and too hard to constantly worry about the mistakes and screwups you made in the past. Ask for forgiveness, and if it doesn't come, move on....and don't make the same mistake again. Fool me once, shame on you....fool me twice, shame on me. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 9:19:53 PM | | It sucks, doesn't it? In my situation, really the only thing I want from her -- and I know I'll never get it, so I'm not holding my breath -- is an apology. But life is far too short to be worrying about that. Just learn from your mistakes and move on. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 5/31/2007 2:34:40 AM | | well i noticed my ex the one who got me pregnant is back on pof.... i had a giggle and thought good luck to him... | |
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