| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/18/2007 7:24:21 AM | Very well said. But sometimes it's not so easy not looking back, specially when you have kids together.
So when you get "trashed" here, it's hard to ignore the fact that this is happening. It's kinda like a "control thing" over the ex, isn't it? You feel like being "watched" all the time, almost seems like the ex has problems of letting go.... | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/18/2007 7:39:37 AM | just ignore her. or email her telling what a filthy slut she is. or start a forum about her. Hell I see my ex on hot or not, when it asks if I want to meet her, I click HELL no | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/18/2007 7:54:18 AM | Im only a young 23yr old guy! but as far as i see it a relaionship is abt truth compermise and undersanding from both of u! Dealing with an Ex is never easy but aslong as u make ur postion clear i cant see there being a problem. I have been contacted by my EX on here we are now good freinds and get on well still 2 yrs after we spilt up. If they want to make hassle for u and be imature id say there not even worthy of ur freindship aswell.
so stand ur ground people do what u feel ir rite and rember ur honesty,dignity and self respect can never be crushed if u belive in urself. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/18/2007 8:03:37 AM | .
Why should I care? As long as she is not intentionally bothering me, I don’t really give a damn what she does. And truthfully, I wouldn’t pay any attention whatsoever.
A couple of my lifelong friends might, though. LOL
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/18/2007 8:09:42 AM | I helped my ex-husband set up his profile....
Just cause we did not work out does not mean he is not perfect for someone else.... | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/18/2007 8:46:30 AM | | I ran into this situation when browsing another dating site. While I was so tempted to respond to him in a very negative way, I decided the best revenge I could have is to be happy. Ignore her. But, one question remains...if you are so happy in your new relationship, why are you browsing? | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/18/2007 9:48:58 AM | Hay m8
I not been Married, But my Girlfriend did Cheat on me. I too have bitterness and do not want too see or talk with him. I think, like you say you are pretty much sorted with your new girlfriend. If you do go too a meeting, she makes a scene. Its your laugh, dude, She as too live that Down.
you can just smile and walk away, Knowing you did not act too her childish Action. I am glad you are happy and with someone that loves you for, who you are. Least she is there for you. You Ex will have too live here life, Asking questions like, what if, Would it have worked.
She as too Face the fact, You are gone. In time it will hurt her more then you m8. She is trying too make your life as sad as hers is. But you are not thinking, You life as moved on for the better. So Do not worry about profiles and If you bump in too her. At one time in your life, It will happen.
But your what diffenences it going too really make. Nothing, She lose you before and she as still lose you in the future.
Time too Cuddle up with your new honey and know that lifes a whole lot Sweeter. Lifes on the up my friend.
Go away. Relex and find out more of eachother. Clear your head and just live a happy life.
Pass is passed. It as no place in the future.
Happy Days ahead and more happy days too come.
Be good.
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/18/2007 10:01:50 AM | my ex boyfriend of seven years is on PoF... actually, he sort of brought me here... the joy of this is that we don't HAVE to interact here or offline... just block her before there's ever any contact and that will take care of it... and my ex didn't accurately depict himself either! he claims to be an inch taller than he really is so i emailed and said "quit that lyin'!" lol... oh the horror of his exaggeration!
good luck gamer, the previous poster was right... she can't make a mess of your time online, only YOU can allow that  | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/18/2007 10:19:36 AM |
BTW, I'm still on POF because I have made some friends here, and I like going to some of the local events. My profile is hidden and my IM is turned off, so it's not like I'm easy to find.
That's all fine and well that you have friends here and yada yada yada....give them your personal email addy and delete your profile, especially if you are now attached to someone else. The forums aren't THAT interesting, and you should be concentrating 100% on your new lady-friend.
Oh, and another thought: As soon as you posted this thread, you became visible to whoever reads the forums. ANYONE can view your profile now. And, if your ex can read, then she is bound to find you now, if she hasn't done so already.
best of luck to you~~ | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/18/2007 4:52:06 PM |
Oh, and another thought: As soon as you posted this thread, you became visible to whoever reads the forums. ANYONE can view your profile now. And, if your ex can read, then she is bound to find you now, if she hasn't done so already.
Yeah, that's something I've thought of, but since I had forum postings even before that, then it's pretty much a moot point.
As for my presence here on POF, I agree that the forums aren't all that special. But I enjoy getting into "group discussions" much like this thread, and it keeps me up-to-date on local gatherings. However, sometimes I'm astounded by what some people think is acceptable forum behavior. Because of this, I really think my time here on POF is quickly coming to an end, because every day, I find fewer reasons to return. A great many people have commented on this subject, and I thank everyone for their opinions, even if I didn't agree with them. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/19/2007 5:36:56 AM | Yep-- it's extremely easy to sit in judgment of others and cast aspersions. Amazing how most people will say things from behind a mask of anonymity, but if given the opportunity to say them face to face would rather cut their own tongues out. Most of the time, I feel the same exact way about the forums here. I have OCD, plus I get bored at work, so coming here satisfies two needs. Well, untill I find something else to obsess over, that is. 
You have a pretty dog-- tell your ex to get her own pet and to leave the two of you alone. I am pretty sure you could get a restraining order on the grounds of harassment.
best of luck~~ | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/19/2007 6:34:56 AM |
So how would you deal with this, seeing your ex's profile on POF? Knowing that there's a chance that you could run into them at a function or get-together, seeing them on the forums, or even the chance that they might try to make your online life miserable?
No problem, at all.
No emotional connection whatsoever with her anymore, so she's like any person I pass on the street. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 10/10/2008 6:47:03 PM | | "We have both moved on with our lives" and then you go on to say all the things that indicate you are hurt, wounded and have NOT AT ALL moved on with your life in any way, shape or form. Yeah you've found a new gal but you're still in love with your "very separated" (whatever the hell "very separated" means) wife. You found your wife on POF simply because you were looking for her. What the hoot. Want to torture yourself? Keep at it. Want to move on? Drop off this site and dedicate your time to the new woman you have supposedly fallen in love with. Does the new woman you have supposedly fallen in love with know you still have a profile up and are trolling this dating site? Think I figured out why your wife be gone. Move on man | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 10/11/2008 1:58:37 PM | | Whine on Havest Loon. If it is so difficult to seperate yourself from the past/an ex, you are not ready to be involved with anyone new. Be a big boy, grow up, and move away from whre your ex is. If the ex shows up at functions, and causes scenes have her butt arresed for trespasing, creating a nuscience, and stalking. Tell the cops you are afraid of her. Get a restraning order against her. Get her arrested when she violates that. After establishing her as a crazy, dangerous, stalker bent on harming you, wait for her to show up again, and kill her. You will have ample evidence of the justifiability of the use of deadly force in self defense. Problem solved. Cajones save the day once again. You should try to grow a pair. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/12/2009 6:56:14 PM |
So how would you deal with this, seeing your ex's profile on POF? Knowing that there's a chance that you could run into them at a function or get-together, seeing them on the forums, or even the chance that they might try to make your online life miserable?
My two exes are both here so I couldn't care less. If they try to send me nasty email, simply I will ignore them and block them. I doubt I'll ever run into them again IRL. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:56:21 PM | | This sounds good. Give her a little surprise and send her an email ROFL. Say something witty that would put her in check about herself. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/14/2009 6:54:09 AM | | I wouldnt worry too much, my third ex was a regular in chatrooms, and the thing that stabbed me in the back was when somebody posted a pic of my wife kissing another man,before we separated, and she had told me she was visiting friends at the lake but flew out of town to meet this guy, anyhow 30 days after our divorce she married the guy, and I lost my house and of all things , I ended up living with my teenage daughter whom I have joint custody of and my second ex. We had divorced ten years ago but have always remained friends, and we are both on POF, in fact POF tried to hook us up which we both thought was funny. My post my not seem related to your situation, but we are both looking around and Ive only been on POF for a month and went out on a date and Ive also met a gal that really clicks but she lives three hours away. Any how when you fall off the horse you have to get back on and keep going, good luck dude. | |
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| Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/14/2009 4:39:32 PM | With a bit of sarcasim, and total dis-taste for my former cheating wife I can comfortably say she would not be on this site. The only site I could realisticly see her engaging on is" How to steal your Senior aged husband cause I need a Daddy figure" is there a site like this?LOL.
There are so many reasons why people do what they do? For most of us decent people, many will be on the short end of the stick. A trist may be just that, or an extention of a previous encounter.
Which ever the reason, Why? won't people male or female just end the current relationship and then engage in the extra marital affairs? or should I type it "After marital Affairs"? | |
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