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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/29/2007 7:23:33 PM | Let me get this straight.. are you attempting to rationalise being LOOSE?
guys probably get upset because usually when 2 people finally get to that point its typically in a relationship and usually happens after so many attempts by the guy.. for a woman to just say.. ok letsa screw.. is confusing to the average guy.
so It suddenly changes gears from low 2 to 10 all of the sudden. then your off to find someone else to bang?
I would be concerned with what you were carrying if you were so easy. Also since i value inteligence and personality i would probably give you a frozen banana and send you on your way.
LOL
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/29/2007 7:27:11 PM | I'm certainly not upset by it....
In this age of equality.....a woman is equally entitled to be known as a slut as any man would be........ Who am I to get upset? It's your body....it's your chlamydia....it's your herpes or whatever culture you want growin' in there. But before you think you're gonna "use" ME....your azz is gettin' tested...... or you can just move on to somebody who actually thinks it's that good....... | |
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/29/2007 7:56:42 PM |
C'mon guys, many of you use women 4 sex all the time, yet seem 2 have issues w/women who do the same 2 guys, why is that? is it all about having double standards?
I've never used a guy 4 sex, but I did "ask" a guy before if he'd be ok w/me just wanting sex from him, he got mad at me and sez that only guys are suppose to think that way...
I don't "use" women for sex. If I'm interested in a woman sexually, I'm direct about it. Trouble is, as many womanizers can tell you, being brutally honest doesn't always get you what you want.
It takes two to tango, honey.
I don't buy the double standard argument. There are men that are sticking to their standards that are left out in this air of hook up culture. Those men are typically monogamous, don't go to clubs, and try to present themselves as men desiring loving relationships because they are sincere. I know many of them that get either burnt time and time again, or left out in the cold, or get cynical (such as myself) because of women claiming the same thing and not actually acting that way.
Plus, guys who are known players get lot of attention. I don't buy that women that sleep around with them are all that innocent. It's crap. If you knew who you were f--king, don't complain about it when he moves on to someone else. If you didn't and get used over, then I can see why you are upset.
Nowdays, there are some women will sleep around without guilt and shame, and even being called a slut is a badge of honor for some of them. Not every woman likes this designation, but let's face it: the girls gone wild "ethos" is at all time high with a certain faction of women, and these women believe that since men can do it, women can do it, too. The fact of the matter is not every man does this, and nor does every man desire one night stands with many women. Some do, many others don't.
Since when are loyal men undesirable? Strangely enough, there are women who won't even give them a chance. I'm suspicious of those that completely shut men out who will willing make a commitment. Perhaps they can't live up to that standard, eh?
I'm very flattered when women are open about their desire of me, but my criticism is that there are women that want to play several faces at once. I have more respect for a women who is open and truly honest about her stance about seeing multiple partners than one that acts out in a slutty fashion on the weekends, then plays the stodgy good girl that gets offended by sex jokes with her workplace cohorts. Pick a way of being and stay with it. The woman that's openly polyamorous has more respect from me than the closet sluts, because of her honesty, if anything else. I may not desire to see her, but I understand the motives.
Obviously, I prefer a woman that will see me sexually---one to one---as opposed to either situation above, and have nothing against friends with benefits as long as it's mutual, as other poster mentioned.
I have no problems with women being up front and sexual, but being shallow and deceptive, and hurting others in the process? That's another matter entirely. It's interesting that there are people that refuse to make that distinction.
It's your body....it's your chlamydia....it's your herpes or whatever culture you want growin' in there. But before you think you're gonna "use" ME....your azz is gettin' tested...... or you can just move on to somebody who actually thinks it's that good.....
Good point, Piano4te. I'm STD-free and plan on keeping it that way. Even with condoms, nothing is 100%. | |
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/30/2007 12:38:04 PM | Wow! it's amazing how so many of u guys r so quick 2 label women,.( notice I said "so many"...and not "all") when we all know that if some of u saw some chick u were attracted 2 out somewhere, the last thing ur thinkin is whether or not she's a "slut" or has any std's.
I'd been w/the "same" guy 4 over 2yrs.it wasn't about me wanting 2 sleep around w/others, if that were the case, I wouldn't approach him w/the question, I'd just move on.( I basically wanted 2 see how he'd react)
I've interviewed & worked with std patients (male/female) who aren't so-called "sluts", so I still feel as if it's somewhat of a double standard issue here, hence all of the female bashing, yet I think only one of u said it's not ok if a guy used a female 4 sex(interesting) I do agree that if a woman is w/multiple partners & has a man @ home, who knows nothing of this, is just wrong!wrong!wrong! but that also goes 4 a guy who is doing the same 2 his girl.
I see where some of u r ok w/the females"asking" as opposed 2 using u & another guy was honest enough 2 admit 2 guys wanting 2 be used 4 sex, w/a few rules of course,lol.
This is what I find 2 be VERY interesting though, the topic is about women or a woman who only wants sex from "HIM"as in solo, yet so many of u got off into this multiple partner/std rant... | |
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/30/2007 4:36:35 PM | I don't use a woman for sex. Perhaps others do.
I would not want a woman I was seeing playing around, particularly one like you. That would be like asking for HAGS--Herpes, Aids, Gonorrhea, and Syphilis.
You think you are an exotic diva. I call you something else. A tramp.
BTW I like tramps. I just would not want to die because of one. You look deadly, and I don't mean that in a good way. | |
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/30/2007 5:02:48 PM | I was used by women for sex. You know, the knock on the door after bar closing time.
Then I have to throw them out in the morning (those horny ex's). Only explaination? their boyfriends can't please them. They need some Macky lovin'. | |
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/30/2007 5:07:24 PM | | Actually, I've been offended before when a girl tried to get me to just be there to **** her. My reason? She made it obvious that she was under the assumption that she could just turn me on and off like a light switch, and I don't take kindly to being treated like an inanimate object with no free will of my own. The surest way to get me to NOT to something, is to make me feel like you can MAKE me do it. | |
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/30/2007 5:31:40 PM | The problem is that so many people, in general are moving away from true love and falling into the trap of men and women don't need each other emotionally. There is just an inherent problem with that.
Aside from morality, religious and health reasons, the mental aspect of a man and woman just being bed buddies and not having any kind of real relationship beyond that is just mind numbing.
One day, we will be able to look back and say that this wasn't such a good idea after all. By acting against the human nature, we are not doing this society any good. | |
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/30/2007 9:22:19 PM | No matter how many times I type the words "wants him", some of you guys still seem 2 equate that w/ wanting "them", which wasn't the question, so all of the personal attacks r unnecessary, how u interpret my question is all on "you", but it's pretty cool 2 see how open so many of you have been w/expressing your feelings on how you felt about a woman using you or trying 2 use u 4 sex, so my question 2 that is......would it have made a difference if she was upfront in the beginning & said that's all she wanted from u?
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/30/2007 10:35:58 PM |
This is what I find 2 be VERY interesting though, the topic is about women or a woman who only wants sex from "HIM"as in solo, yet so many of u got off into this multiple partner/std rant...
It's an area that is very relevant. You should have narrowed your parameters. In your OP you were not that specific---if it would have been a one on one situation, without the risk of STDs and other certain factors, then you wouldn't have had a multi-tiered response.
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/31/2007 12:07:12 AM |
No matter how many times I type the words "wants him", some of you guys still seem 2 equate that w/ wanting "them", which wasn't the question, so all of the personal attacks r unnecessary
.... thats because people read what they [u]think[/u] you have written, instead of what you have actually written ........ folks dont read posts properly before diving in , knives , teeth and daggers drawn ........... | |
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/31/2007 12:55:25 AM | | x, I too have had the same problem as Ihaveaname4you. It's called being romantic, caring, and hopeful to find a woman who's not into an "us" mostly for her selfish self. I've noticed the swing of the 'sexual pedulum' for older women wanting to have sex more often than previously in their lives, but most if not all that I've crossed paths w/ are still the little girls expecting this man to love them like daddy did. Unconditionally? I find many a woman subcosciously wanting to compensate for his not paying more attention to her when she was his child ...and that only complicates the matter. Making a love grow is not a matter of using one's partner, but utilzing their best qualities and helping them overcome their weaknesses and needs. | |
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/31/2007 1:14:46 AM | Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Because they don't want to feel like the woman is doing their job for them! LOL
Nice double standard to go with so many of the others, huh?
Oh well such is life... if he gets upset by it, he probably wasn't the one you would have enjoyed sexually anyway so move on and find the one who is...   | |
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/31/2007 3:31:10 PM | I don't get upset about it when a woman only wants me for sex, but I wish they would give me a little more time before coming over...
They seem to tell their girlfriends and they think I am there for them to use as they see fit...
I don't mind, and the money is really good... | |
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/31/2007 4:57:48 PM | i think the guys who get upset are guys who are not sincere with themselves to let go of traditional thinking, gone are the days of me tarzan you jane. if you want to contact a guy and tell him straightforward that this is what you wish, then go for doesnt matter if he gets upset, theres others. besides animal magnetism is natural. get the greif out in no better way and it cures headaches, er so ive been told,lol | |
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/31/2007 5:12:06 PM | Well, there was a time of morals and good standards. but in today's world it is true that the women seem to make alot of advances. Now, to those that don't, it is a confusing deal. because the ones that do this have men that expect that from all women. I am not a youngster anymore, and like it as much as the next guy, BUT I would look for a woman that is abit calmer than that. Also in my opinion, this would make me wonder how many times she'd been around the block and with what or who. I trhink when we were all younger, we did what we didto comfort our hormones...lol, but that is not so much of a issue as we age. We are supposed to be mature and have some examples to set for our kids. Hell, would kind of an impression or "okay to do it too" would my kids think if I brought home a different girl say 2-3 times a week? Even 1-2 times? Yep, today's world is different and I may add scary........ | |
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| Why do so many guys get upset when a woman only wants him 4 sex?
Posted: 5/31/2007 8:43:05 PM | xoticdeeva:
C'mon guys, many of you use women 4 sex all the time, yet seem 2 have issues w/women who do the same 2 guys, why is that? is it all about having double standards?
well you seem to have set the stage for what you describe as us guys only wanting womEN for sex.. as in plural.. as apposed to (A WoMAN)
Also.. when your only in it for sex.. its cheap and cold like a masturbatory palm.. which guys are too used to and want more than that..
”at least I do”
also if there is no emotional connection one assumes that he is just one of a line up of other guys since you seem to go and spread your legs whenever the mood strikes.
women are thought to be the more respectable gender anyway.
.. we guys are constantly bombarded with bad press about everything from watching women walk bye (sexual harassment)
or just wanting to get laid (pig)
so if you want to be a sexually harassing piggette lol be my guest.. just don’t do it with me. | |
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