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Posted: 6/15/2009 6:38:01 PM | Heh, I think 68 is the new -2 (days). I'll be getting born later this week. . . . Catch is, it'll take a few years getting my language back, which is why I've put it off so long. . . . Not being able to communicate effectively is for the dogs. And wet diapers are a drag, too.
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Posted: 6/16/2009 7:58:27 AM | Well you dont know if you dont try. age difference and an obvious difference in oppinion on spare time pursuits is not what you call a good sign but hey sometimes you just need to take a chance and see what happens. if you like the guy meet up have coffee or a drink and see what happens. you may find you have nothing in common and move on, you may have a few laughs once in a while and you may find the real thing. not much of a downside that i can see.  | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 1:46:39 PM | Let me add a few comments from the perspective of a man who is just about to turn seventy and who is also just about to be single again (discussed in profile).
I am attracted to a women of ANY age who carries herself with pride and confidence, who communicates vibrancy, boldness (or at least absence of fearfulness), and zest for life. I am inclined to associate with women who are also intelligent, articulate, experienced and challenging.
However, I must qualify that by adding that I have met very few women in their sixties (and not too many in their fifties) who possess those characteristics and who are also interested in a physically active lifestyle. As one admitted, "My get-up-and-go got up and went". That does not fit well with me because I cannot be idle or sedentary for any extended length of time and I have very limited tolerance for being a spectator.
What is attractive to me has not changed much in the past fifty years – though physical beauty was more a focus earlier -- until I learned that things OTHER than a "Marilyn Monroe body" and sex appeal (an ideal an earlier era) were of crucial importance in marriage.
I have been involved with women who were much older than me (early) and some who were much younger than me (more recently) – and some who were my age. Chronological age doesn't seem to make much difference provided that the other things are present. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 1:54:35 PM | Heh, I think 68 is the new -2 (days). I'll be getting born later this week. . . . Catch is, it'll take a few years getting my language back, which is why I've put it off so long. . . . Not being able to communicate effectively is for the dogs. And wet diapers are a drag, too.
Hi wooby,
Thanks for the giggle, and just to think I found 13 years younger way to young for me.. lol
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| dating over 55
Posted: 6/19/2009 11:16:56 PM | I agree to not worry about that age think right yet - just give it a little time and see. Older men are wonderful. I am in my early 50's and have dated younger (like that too) and older and the older men who are in good shape, intelligent and experienced can be wonderful. I find they are better lovers, better listeners and more settled in their skin. They've gotten the high school/college/post college thing out of the way and if they really fall for you, they'll treat you like a queen - the good ones that is. I think their concern is that you won't have enough in common if the age difference is too great. Give the guy a chance. You might like it - a lot.
My guy is 60 and he's the best I've ever been with. He's studied in the art of women and he gets an A+++... Have fun! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:36:14 AM | | concur ginny there are indeed fit and active ole blokes out there if not in abundance a good deal of them, and be assured sugardad syndrome and midlife crisis is for most part not in the package. Age disparity is a hard read for this group as speaking for moiself did not have a problem keeping up with younger ages sometimes 16 yrs my junior! Prefer a broad life experience with a partner so an active beauty a few yrs my junior has fit the bill indeed! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 10:53:50 AM | Well, pccc3, you are definately a case in point. I had to look at your profile to check your age, because tyou certainly don't look to be old enough for this thread. And it is true, I have found, that some men my age, 56, and older are much more comfortable in their own skins.
It's a shame there aren't more of them. Too many are hung up on percieved negatives associated with age.
I blame advertizing for a lot of it. Remember, the job of advertizing is to first create a market and then provide a product to fill the need. What thinking woman would reject a man because he has grey or thinning hair, or is bald, (personally, i find bald men sexy as long as they don't try to hide it.) have ED. (as long as they are still loving and attentive.) And now the newest snake oil ploy is this thing called "Low-T" which i'm guessing stands for low testosterone. So, now they'll get men even if they don't have any other reason to feel the onset of "age. Pfft! Stop watching comercials!
 
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Posted: 6/25/2009 2:51:46 AM | I thought the new 55 is 65???
Guess that's just about the speed limit on the turnpike. 
I'm still waiting for a fit man my age or older, who has a twinkle in his eye and, as Ginny said, is comfortable in his own skin!
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Posted: 6/25/2009 4:39:49 AM | | Hi, not sure from the post waht the age difference is? Not necessarily a problem suppose issues like do you want kids etc may be . Older man can be very good for younger women in many ways. Good luck | |
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Posted: 6/26/2009 4:36:22 PM | "if one keeps in shape and young in action and mind"
This is the key and the reason people are sur[risedwhen they find out how old i am.
Older people become the victims of age [rejudice and that's why many people don't tell their real age -so that someone will give them a chance | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 9:45:20 AM | Why has no one responded to this forum for so long? Seems to me there should be some type of forum for those of us over 55......there used to be and then they took it off, saying there is one for people over 45. Well, issues are different for those of us just past 60 than those people who are 45!!!! (I'm 62) Let us have a forum for those 60 and over. PLEASE. We date, we are not dead yet, but have different issues than those that are 45. Anybody have any threads they can lead me to in these forums? Thank you.  | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 10:20:14 AM | The more I think about it..
the more I find it doable to plan one last
major offensive..
I will parachute in dead of night..
make my way silently and without notice
to the targeted objective..
I will then patiently wait for dawn,
somewhere around ninish I will
knock on the front door of
Ms. ..thecatsmeoww
and beg her to keep me, marry me,
and put that cat suit with the kangaroo pocket on..!!
I've never been much for Canada
(figured just a mirror of the US)
but I'm debating...
maybe just a lil.."fly-by"..
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Posted: 7/31/2009 11:12:10 AM | Woobytoodsday wrote: "Heh, I think 68 is the new -2 (days). I'll be getting born later this week. "
I love you, Wooby. So many people on these sites are obsessed with how "youthful", and "young at heart" they are, and say revealing things like "In spite of being 55, I don't feel a day over 20!". Since when did getting older, looking older and not being in perfect shape get to be such a crime? I appreciate that's it's helpful to be in good shape, but many people develop physical problems as they get older, through no fault of their own. And some people just show their age more than others. It all reminds me of something Garrison Keillor wrote (and this could equally well be applied to women who hate "growing up" as well):
" Years ago, manhood was an opportunity for achievement, and now it is a problem to be overcome."
(This could well be the motto of the basement boys and their aged cohorts. Kinda sad.) | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 12:10:13 PM | In youth and early adulthood, we are still figuring out who we are relative to the other sex and how we compare/contrast with our same-gender peers. In our 30's and 40's, we've hopefully had at least one major and lengthy relationship, usually a spouse, and have evlved as a couple as well as individuals, through the years of home-making, parental responsibilities, financial commitments, social network, etc.
Those of us who find ourselves single in our senior years, while not totally morphed into our final selves, have many different and new issues to encompass that those inearly or midlife have yet to encounter: physical issues of aging, physical issues of sexuality, children engrossed in their own financial and parenting issues, fading attractiveness and the inevitable effects of gravity, living without mortgages and children's student loans but on limited pensions and diminishing life savings, and all these add a dimension to dating and longterm relationships that are only on the horizon for the 45 to 60 year old POF's. So I wonder if it would be agood thing to have a forum for the over 60 crowd? | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 5:22:53 PM | Re the forum for over 60 - I'm a bit worried we'll be shoo'd off to the senior-friend-finder site!! But perhaps there is something in that thought.
Re "'basement boys": Author Gary Cross describes "basement boys" as young men who move back home (or never leave] " not only to find free lodging, meals and security at home but also the freedom to come and go at will and, in the privacy of their converted subterranean lairs where no one will tell them to make their beds, to play endlessly on their Playstation consoles. " He also writes that "as a history professor from a typical state university, I have seen the same thing in 35-year-old professionals who fill their family rooms with the latest and most expensive video game hardware and who would have a pool table in the dining room if their wives would let them." He expresses concern about the current trends toward eternal youth and narcissism, which "turn maturity into a joke, a pitiful loss to be avoided at all costs". | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 5:29:22 PM | Thank you Mr. 240type for the defination...
Wheeeeeeeeewwwww..
I may be a lot of things..
but a basement boy.. not now nor never have..
I've always wanted to be a "boy toy"..
but guess attaining that has come and gone..
Anyways.. guess I'll be content with being a hermit..
Not much of a social life.....
but then again.. not much rejection either..
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