| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 6:57:17 AM | After spending a passionate night together, and getting ready to make coffee, my beautiful petite girlfriend at the time turns to me and says, " well looks like you're gonna get a get out of fart free card", as she proceeded to rip a fart that was loud enough to make a trucker jealous. I actually thought she was funny, and confident, and since I ate the same same thing as her the night before, "I saw her's, and raised her one." She was fun, funny, and a drop dead geourgeous. You would have never thought such a loud trumpet could come out of a little dainty foxy thing. Now I could take that, and continued dating her for a while after. She only did that once. and It didn't phase me.
Now on the other hand, if they say I love you on the first date, they're done.
Don't get me wrong, I want love, and want to love, but come on. | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 7:09:39 AM | When the WOMAN says.....
"my children are grown now.... and NOW it is time for me...."
Turn - Walk away - Don't look back.... Adios... Ciao.... BYE!!!
This shows that they have their priorities out of whack .... (i.e. that their well being wasn't/isn't important)
Too, they didn't want to potentially show their children what a 'good' relationship could be like.
I could go on and on and on....
Basically, they are not a 'healthy' and a well rounded human. Likely the only person that they are 'fit' for is someone else that thinks and acts like they do. | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 7:31:59 AM | The commonloon
It came up several more times after that and at the end of the date he asked if I would go out with him again. I told him sure, but he needed to know my brother was gay. He's never called me again!
PRICELESS! (And well done!) | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 7:42:42 AM | To all the people who run when someone ( over 18 ) says they live with a parent.... In todays world there are many reasons other than they are still (mentally children ) as to why some one lives ( or shares a home ) with there parent . I ask before I ASS U ME !
I am a 39 almost 40 yr old & share my home with my Mom who is disabled and unable to live by herself but is in no way ready for a nursing home.
I run when I find out someone is not willing to take care of the people who brought him/her into this world . For the simple reason if he/she is not willing to take care of them in there time of need .... how will this person react if /when I need help ? | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 7:54:01 AM | | Not working right now(and not decently retired). Needs a place to stay. Had unprotected sex recently or had more than one partner recently. (Believe it or not, they'll tell you this. One told me he hoped a girl of 2 weeks ago wasn't pregnant). Working in a boiler room.(Fly by night phone sales). Glassy eyed and slurred speech (drunk or stoned). Excessive ego. Wants sex right now, demands or whines about sex right now. Really cheap. Won't even buy a cup of tea or an orange juice. Complains and complains about some past relationship. Really inflexible. I've had them so that can't know me unless I become gaga about some obscure philosopher no one ever heard of, or they can't know you if you don't do certain kinkey sex practises. Hates cats or animals. Uses that n---- word. | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 8:28:11 AM | Hey I got one..
I went to meet a this man he was very handsome and all and told me his a pastor for the children ministries.. but when he kissed me he tried to feel me up at the same time then got mad when I told him no.. and he was supposed to be a man of god
or another one where your on a date and his teeth are brown darker then your ice tea
I was glad he didn't tried to kiss me. dont like men that dont shower or brush their teeth
yuck... where are all the good fishes  maybe I need to change my bait | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 8:40:39 AM | Here is a interesting question that came up on another thread that i though would be fun to discuss. What could someone tell you on a first date that would send you running for the hills??
For me i think if someone were to tell me "i have been to jail" or what one guy i was talking but did not meet told me was he was under house arrest.So what would freak you out.
I second the prison
Also children, marriage (married or divorced), disease, sharing a room with their sister, a fetish for a Goth vampire lifestyle (actually, most sexual conversations on first dates will send me far, far away to never return)... BTW these are all real life experiences | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 8:41:33 AM | | finally,someone understands what its like that there are many other reasons besides insecurity of why people still live with their parents. my mother still lives with me because she can not financially support herself. my mother will sometimes cook dinner for me or do my laundry for me because she wants to and not because i'm too lazy to do it myself. now,if someone needs their parents to make dinner for them or do their laundry or remind them to go to work,then we are playing a different ballgame. | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 8:50:58 AM | Ok I think this whole prison thing is just wrong
Just cause someone has been too prison does not mean that they are a bad person,
I know a few people that have been too prison and they are some of the best people I have ever met in my life,
People really need too stop believing movies and tv shows about prison,
I can understan if they was in on a sex offense or something like that, I would be nervous too.
So in my opinion i would have too say, Don't judge a book by it's cover, because what you are reading just may not be what you think you are reading. | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 8:52:08 AM | | a guy I met on here, and went out with just last week tells me on our first date, I'm meeting his mother, we have a future together and oh...he was convicted of a serious MV charge and may be sentenced for a few years....nice, huh? | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 12:13:48 PM | I agree Txbaby13. My mom lived with me and my kids for a number of years after she had her stroke. I never complained and whomever I was dating never seemed to have an issue with it. When I told them that my mom shared the house with my kids and me, they didn't flinch at all.
On the other hand, I had a great-uncle who lived in the house of his parents until he was forced to move into a nursing home. When my great-grandparents died, my grandmother took care of him. He never married, but fathered seven children and never spent the night out away from home. He was always home before midnight. Now, a man like that, would be someone to run from. | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 12:37:50 PM | What could someone tell you on a first date that would send you running for the hills?? I met a woman through here and she met me at a local park so we could go jogging together.  I wasn't running for the hills, but I did jog around a lake.
Now she doesn't want to hang again because I called her too often.  Damn these unwritten rules, my recently divorced behind can't figure them out!
Anyway, back to the question. If a woman has kids, I'm out of there! Becoming a single mom involves a whole serious of major mistakes that I would rather not get involved with. If I had my own kids and I met a women with her own kids, it would be different. At that point, we'd just Brady Bunch it. | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 12:54:23 PM | My personal favorite, the classic "im really attracted to you and think im falling in love so heres how im going to alter you to my specifications.first youll no longer hang out with your friends because i think their a bad influence on you youll hang out with my friends and listen to the music we like and do the things we like........"sadly this actually happened on a mercy date no less.damn i never knew i could run so fast. | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 3:09:41 PM |
"my children are grown now.... and NOW it is time for me...."
Turn - Walk away - Don't look back.... Adios... Ciao.... BYE!!!
This shows that they have their priorities out of whack .... (i.e. that their well being wasn't/isn't important)
I guess I don't understand what you mean by that. I actually have a statement similar to that in MY profile. Do you have children? When you are raising children their needs have to come first because they are unable to meet those needs on their own. As a parent you have to take care of the children first until they are able to care for themselves. This doesn't mean you don't take care of yourself at all-- it just means that the kids are growing so they get new shoes before mom because they've grown out of the old; it means they got the last $50 out of the bank account because they have a school project due and somehow that seems more important than that new blouse I saw at the mall; yes, as a parent you miss the last 15 minutes of the TV movie you were watching because you need to pick up your child after their dance practice because you don't want to leave them sitting on the curb in the dark where some preditor might come along. If I didn't care for them, I would have been a neglectful parent. Just because I did take care of them, and it consumed much of my life does not mean that I let all of my OWN needs go unmet. I don't know, am I missing something? Were my priorities really out of whack because I gave of myself to my children when they were young and weren't able to be self-sufficient? Or are you saying our priorities are out of whack because we want to have a life now that the kids are grown??? I really don't understand what you're trying to tell us. | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 3:32:15 PM | | to algebra 1 i think thats an outstanding idea, ive got some that are so freaky so youve got to laugh or assume the fetal position in a safe corner or something.can i be invited?but anyway heres another classic for this thread:"will you marry me?/our children will be so beautiful"or any statement that starts out with when we get married on a 1st date cant be a good sign . | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 3:47:27 PM | Very well put! As for not wanting to date a single mom because she has kids and you don't....that would send me running. Not saying you aren't a nice guy, but I'm a nice and caring woman too. I was young and naive when I had my children and I am also an only child. I met my children's dad when I was 17 and have only been single for 2 years.
As for living with parents, we lost my mom to a sudden heart attack 8 1/2 years ago and since I wasn't married my father suggested that we lived together for the support. We have both been each other's support system. I'm sorry, but if someone can't understand that family is important to me than they aren't the one for me.
Things that send me running:
Last year I met someone on myspace that knew all the right things to say. We met for lunch and went dutch, my suggestion because we were still getting to know each other it wasn't a date. He was recently divorced from a woman he met on the computer and married after 6 months and was divorced after only being married for 5 months. He had a daughter that he had been raising on his own since she was 2 but was now in temporary custody with Children Services because she lied to authorities (I never got the full story). He claimed they couldn't prove anything, but that he didn't want his daughter back till she admitted she lied. The daughter was 15....sorry but I have an 11 year old daughter and 8 year old son....not something I'm willing to risk. Was very possessive and wanted to know what I was doing all the time. Sorry but....I have a dad and he freaked me out.
Being a single mom dealing with a deadbeat parent myself...then to find out they aren't supporting their children either....sorry but that don't fly either.
Debt wouldn't bother me as long as they weren't expecting me to fix it. Things happen.
Racisim, every other word that comes out of their mouth is fing this and fing that, no respecting their parents, ex bashing, being disrespectful in general, and I'm sure there are many others. | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 4:55:14 PM | | I recently had a first date tell me that she was new to town because she'd spent the prior three months blowing through half a million dollars in cocaine, and her father and older brother had essentially kidnapped her from her previous home town. That'll toss a little ice-water on the ole' gettin-to-know-you chit chat, eh? | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 5:34:12 PM |
to algebra 1 i think thats an outstanding idea, ive got some that are so freaky so youve got to laugh or assume the fetal position in a safe corner or something.can i be invited?but anyway heres another classic for this thread:"will you marry me?/our children will be so beautiful"or any statement that starts out with when we get married on a 1st date cant be a good sign
I think that might fall into the "redundant" category, but just to give you a clue to some of the gems I've met in my lifetime, here's a top ten list of first date horror stories for your comic relief (and yes, all true stories):
10 She doesn't show up because of a legitimate family emergency, but fails to call to let you know not to wait. After pointing out that you were waiting, she apologizes, you get over it, and eventually you make plans again. She does another no-call /no-show.
9 Spontaneous, uncontrollable crying as she mentions her ex-boyfriend who physically abused her, and she mentions that she is searching for a friend to talk to. (She listed herself as someone searching for a relationship.)
8 On this one, a double date, she becomes intoxicated enough to forget your name. Her friend calls your friend by his first initial. (She forgot his name too.)
7 Not long before the waitress brings the food, she asks you to move into her house with her and her three kids. During the same day, you meet her girlfriend (yes, that kind), and her roommate with the very red eyes. The same day, her roommate lets her abusive ex-boyfriend into her house, and she calls you later with the play by play. I could go on for a while about this particular date, as it does get worse. But reader, I think you get the picture.
6 You meet for the first time. On POF, she described herself as "a few extra pounds". You are standing at her door, she opens it, and her stomach is almost the size of an expecting mother halfway through her second trimester.
5 You go to pick her up, and she is really high. You correctly surmise that the two of you will not be going anywhere
4 You go to pick her up, and she is really high. She informs you that the date must be cut short because she is about to do shrooms. You then get a brief monologue as to what shrooms are. (seperate person from number 5, and actually a funny memory from my early 20's)
3 She asks you to marry her ... Wait a minute, I'm cheating. This one occurred around date 3 or so. Scratch that one, and insert this one: She is such a bad kisser, when she lays one on you it actually hurts a bit.
2 She brings her best friend to the restaurant. The really loud one who won't shut up about the basketball game on the tv up above. (She's a big March Madness fan, and has money on the game.)
1 Spontaneous, uncontrollable crying and breathing spasms, as she tells you that she is a rape victim. The last time it happened it was her father and her brother.
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/7/2007 7:11:35 PM | "oh hey, my ex is here, I hate him you should..." would do it..
so would talk of having children and getting married the next day...
or worse... THE WORST.. would be.. "I have gun fetish and I like razorblades" would do it. | |
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