| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/22/2007 11:32:34 AM | Well... I had one unforgettable first date that sent me running for the hills.
We went for a first rate dinner where things were fine and we had a great time and really connected. However, waiting outside was a "just married" lighted horse & buggy carriage.
That was a big YIKES. Long term is the goal - but... that was TOO TOO soon!  | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 7/22/2007 5:15:26 PM |
What I am trying to convey is that if a woman has no room in her life for herself while she raises her children and foregoes dating/relationships because of raising children then - in MO - she is not healthy and that will send me running.
It demonstates many things... no balance in her life, not potentially showing children what a healthy relationship can be like, doesn't think that much of her own well-being, lack of ability to have and maintain a good set of boundaries, and on and on and on..... the list is endless
Steve elfun
I think part of the reason you are not understanding the statement about the children being grown and now its "time for me" may stem from the fact that you are NOT DIVORCED but rather widowed. Its very much a different story. When a woman has been divorced, obviously she comes from a relationship where things did not go well. I can understand what you are saying and its not bad to watch for the redflags, but what you might be seeing is women who have had to go it alone. Even when you are married, its no guarentee that the husband and father is going to be supportive and allow mom the time she needs/ the space she needs. I would suggest that you get to know some of those women and find out the story behind that statement before you get scared by it. You may find that they were very healthy, bright, supportive women surviving through bad circumstances. The statement may be an enjoyement of putting the bad times of doing on their own behind themselves, the recognition that they still have life left to live, and the intent to move on and enjoy life to its limits! | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 8/2/2007 5:24:50 AM | commonloon
There is no problem with my understanding....
These people are the ones putting their lives on hold (socially) until their children are grown and it becomes 'Time for Me' (trumpets blaring music here) as they say.
Funny - they all seem to use one of two phrases too.... Either "TIME FOR ME" or "MY TURN NOW"
I have gotten to know many these women. I speak from experience. Been there, done that.
Sorry, this thread is about what sends someone running.... And this does it for me. | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 10/16/2007 10:04:23 AM | Well it wasn't something he said to me....it was what another gentleman said to me at the resturant.
My date had been in the restroom for quite awhile when an gentleman approached the table where I was seated. He said "Honey I thought you should know, your date is in the restroom j***ing off and talking dirty on his cell phone.
Needless to say, I didn't wait for him to come back to the table.... | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 10/16/2007 10:16:29 AM | He is Married/ Seperated/living with his ex wife or girlfriend/just got out of jail or the mental hospital/hates animals/makes degrading remarks about other people or rude/Tells me I must be into religion/ AND JUST THIS WEEK A GUY TOLD ME I WAS GOING TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM ON THE FIRST DATE, SO WE COULD GET THAT OUT OF THE WAY.....sheesh !!
I just added this one: One guy told me that I would have to have a baby from him if we got together !! NOT at this time of my life and he even said we would look for a surrogate mother if needed....HAH! | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 10/16/2007 10:21:36 AM | | What sent me running was, before I'd even met a bloke (had swapped about 3 brief emails, talked twice on the phone) he told me he'd gone out to buy bunk beds for when me and my kids went to visit him! | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 10/16/2007 12:24:28 PM | | Hey cool this is a thread i started a long time ago when i had a different user name. I can't believe it's still going.Oh and just lately i went on a date and a guy picked his nose and threw his snot out the window. Hows that for gross. | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 10/16/2007 1:25:22 PM |
Well at least he waited to meet you before telling you he loved you. I had one guy keep telling me he loved me on my msn.
I had a man from England tell me LOVED ME TO BITS on msn!! He had never met me before!! Sheesh.......He said he wanted me to look for employers numbers so he could move here to be with me!! He has kids and was going to leave them behind!!! WOW My first thought was OMG what has this man done to want to be out of his country so bad!!!
DELETE BLOCK!!! Ya a lil crazy for me tyvm!!! | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 10/16/2007 10:05:52 PM | Oh wow, this is one funny subject!! I was laughing almost the whole time I was reading this!
Ohhhh I got one, I bet you guys can't top that!
How about not too long after the 1st date while talking on the phone, the guy tells you that he gets turned on when a girl farts on him? Like, come again!?
I can't remember where exactly on his person, but I believe it was the face. Not too sure, though. But still.....what the heck???!?  
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 10/17/2007 12:52:05 AM | | YES, a woman I had a first date with told me what a scum her ex was and how she had an affair, she couldn't wait to spill someone else's seed on the marital bed, what a turn off. | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 10/20/2007 12:10:36 PM | Takes prescribed medications for mental illness...lots of 'em.....several times a day.
Doesn't have children, doesn't want children, and blames children for the failure of his marriage.
Has been married twice and both wives left him and want no contact whatsoever with him.
In the next breath he says he's being stalked by one of them, his "psycho ex".
Claims that no one understands him and his feelings aren't validated, like when he thought his stepchildren should be "disciplined" and his wife didn't want him to hit them or scream insults at them.
Says he's too "wounded" to get involved in a relationship yet pushes for one, all the while claiming he doesn't think he's capable of loving again.
Won't drink his beer right away because it's not the "proper temperature", and attempts to "educate" the wait staff. Then he makes a big deal out of wrapping it in his shirt for 10 minutes to warm it up before pouring it.
I learned/experienced all of this on the first (and last) date! | |
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 10/21/2007 9:58:28 AM | True story:
Someone who:
- says she's 10 years younger than she really is,
- has a court documented record of adultery,
- another for child abuse,
- has an ex husband (first of 2) who stalked and tried to kill her,
- was sexually abused by her 1st ex,
- is about $50,000 in credit card debt,
- won't answer her phone because it's probably a bill collector,
- stalks her 2nd ex-husband (must have learned from her 1st! ,)
AND,
- wants someone to help her lactate by sucking her breasts and drinking the discharge? Ewwwww!
RUN AWAY! RUN AWAY!
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| what info would send you running on a first date.
Posted: 10/21/2007 4:13:41 PM | hmmmm.....
Had a man cry and tell me he loved me on the first date. Totally freaked me out. I never did figure out how a night of Harry Potter and a pound bag of M&M's led him into love. But oh well.
Yeah..there was no second date. | |
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